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Living life Changing lives: Child Sexual Abuse


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Living life Changing lives: Child Sexual Abuse

  1. 1. Living Life Changing Lives Sexual Abuse Behind Closed Doors Ministries Deborah Marriott © 2011 Sexual Abuse
  2. 2. What is Sexual Abuse <ul><li>A type of Trauma - very unique </li></ul><ul><li>CSA occurs when an adult, or someone who has power over a child, uses his or her authority and power, or takes advantage of the child's trust and respect, to involve the child in sexual activity&quot; </li></ul><ul><li>A victim is seen as the one with less power than the perpetrator, whether that be due to age, size, status, or some other situational/relational difference </li></ul><ul><li>Occurs at any age – by someone older, younger or the same age. </li></ul>
  3. 3. What, How and When <ul><li>The continuums of sexual abuse look at method, means and frequency. There could be any combination of different degrees of these for which the abuse occurs: </li></ul><ul><li>Method (What) </li></ul><ul><li>Non-contact/Non-penetrative ……..….. Contact/Penetrative </li></ul><ul><li>Means (How) </li></ul><ul><li>Insidious ………………………………...…………....... Forced </li></ul><ul><li>Frequency (When) </li></ul><ul><li>Intermittent ………...…..………………. Recurrent/Ritualistic </li></ul>
  4. 4. Method (Non-contact) <ul><li>Voyeurism </li></ul><ul><li>Exposed to pornography </li></ul><ul><li>Sexually intrusive questions or comments </li></ul><ul><li>Obscene calls or obscene remarks on computer or in notes </li></ul><ul><li>Indecent exposure </li></ul><ul><li>Perpetrator masturbates self </li></ul><ul><li>Perpetrator has the victim watch others masturbate </li></ul>
  5. 5. Method (Contact) <ul><li>Being touched or fondled in sexual areas by another person (whether clothed or naked) </li></ul><ul><li>Touching another person’s sexual areas (including masturbating/penetrating another person) </li></ul><ul><li>Kissed or held in a sexual manner </li></ul><ul><li>Performing or receiving oral sex </li></ul><ul><li>Vaginal or anal penetration with object or finger (digit) </li></ul><ul><li>Vaginal or anal intercourse </li></ul>
  6. 6. Means (Insidious) <ul><li>The means, or the manner in which the abuse occurred, can be insidious which is the commonly known as “ grooming ”. </li></ul><ul><li>Grooming itself usually has three steps: </li></ul><ul><li>Gaining the victim’s trust and confidence to begin the process </li></ul><ul><li>Slowly introduce the child to sexual types of touch, language, knowledge and media, so that the child is gradually desensitized to these practices. </li></ul><ul><li>Manipulate the child to keep the secret, often tricking or pressuring a child into keeping the sexual abuse a secret by using subtle tactics. </li></ul>
  7. 7. Means (Forced) <ul><li>Situations where the abuse is forced may or may not have involved previous grooming </li></ul><ul><li>Forces sexual abuse includes </li></ul><ul><li>continuing the method of abuse after the child has refused consent </li></ul><ul><li>Restraining the child </li></ul><ul><li>Physically threatening or submitting the child </li></ul><ul><li>Of those who suffer violent attacks, approx 50% are <12yo </li></ul>
  8. 8. Frequency (When) <ul><li>The frequency of the abuse can be one-off or intermittent </li></ul><ul><li>The more infrequent the abuse, the more difficult it can be to prove. </li></ul><ul><li>Damaging no matter how often it occurs </li></ul><ul><li>More damaging if others do not validate affect </li></ul><ul><li>Or the frequency may be recurrent or ritualistic </li></ul><ul><li>For example, it may be that every Tuesday night when the parents go shopping and leave the children at home with babysitter, that the brother finds opportunity to abuse his sister. </li></ul><ul><li>Or it may be that every night, after the mother has gone to sleep, that the husband goes into his daughter’s room and abuses her. </li></ul>
  9. 9. Victim Statistics <ul><li>Before the age of 12 years old = 1/4 girls & 1/7 boys </li></ul><ul><ul><li>approx 5 students are victims in each class of 30 at primary school </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Before the age of 18 years old = 1/3 girls & 1/6 boys </li></ul><ul><ul><li>approx 7 students are victims in each class of 30 at high school </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Children with disabilities are seven (7) times at-risk </li></ul><ul><li>Of all child victims </li></ul><ul><ul><li>30% will never disclose their abuse to anyone </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>70% will eventually disclose at some time </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>75% end up disclosing accidentally </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>20% who disclose will end up recanting </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>Of those who report abuse, average age of being abused was 9yo </li></ul><ul><li>Approx 34% of sexual abuse occurs before 8yo </li></ul><ul><li>ALL children can be at risk - regardless of age, class, family, gender, race or religion </li></ul>
  10. 10. Perpetrator Statistics <ul><li>Offender’s gender </li></ul><ul><ul><li>5%-15% female </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>85%-95% male </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Offender’s age </li></ul><ul><ul><li>40% were older or bigger children whom the victim knew </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>50% of the offenders were adolescents </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Offender’s relationship to victim </li></ul><ul><ul><li>30%-40% of offenders are family members of the victim (sibling, parent, uncle, grandfather, cousin, etc) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>50% are friends/acquaintances of the child or family (teacher, neighbour, coaches, babysitter, etc) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Only 10% are abused by a stranger </li></ul></ul>
  11. 11. Most Common Myths <ul><li>Children who are being abused will always or immediately tell their parents </li></ul><ul><li>It is immediately apparent if a child is being abused </li></ul><ul><li>Sexual abuse is always forced and violent </li></ul><ul><li>Children do not mind the abuse so much or they would not let it go on for so long </li></ul><ul><li>Children lie about being sexually abused and even imagine what it's like </li></ul><ul><li>The 'stranger' is the danger </li></ul><ul><li>It is outside intervention that causes the trauma for children who have been sexually abused </li></ul><ul><li>Children will naturally grow out of the effects of sexual abuse or incest </li></ul><ul><li>If the child experiences arousal or orgasm during the abuse, then he/she has been a willing participant and enjoyed it </li></ul><ul><li>Girls are more traumatized by sexual abuse than boys </li></ul><ul><li>If a child is sexually active with his/her peers, then it is &quot;experimenting&quot; and not sexual abuse </li></ul>
  12. 12. Risk Factors & Warning Signs <ul><ul><li>The handout is a list of warning signs or indicators, NOT PROOF, that a child may have suffered previous or current sexual abuse. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>These indicators are in relation to the possible physical, emotional and psychological changes that a child may exhibit. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>However, I reiterate that these warning signs are not proof that sexual abuse has taken place, and SHOULD NOT BE USED AS A DIAGNOSIS ; they are merely indicators for people working with young people to use to expand their awareness of sexual abuse. </li></ul></ul>
  13. 13. Aftermath Affect of B.E.I.N.G. <ul><li>These are just some of the attributes a victim may display after being abused. </li></ul><ul><li>This is not ALL the attributes that may be displayed </li></ul><ul><li>A victim may display none, one or lots of these attributes </li></ul><ul><li>(B.E.I.N.G. stands for Body, Emotions, Intellect, eNvironment, and God) </li></ul>
  14. 14. My story Feel free to interrupt and ask me any questions
  15. 15. How to help? <ul><li>If you have a friend who has been through sexual abuse, the best advice I can give you to help supporting them is: </li></ul><ul><li>A = Assume nothing </li></ul><ul><li>B = Be patient </li></ul><ul><li>U = Understand their perspective </li></ul><ul><li>S = See past the surface </li></ul><ul><li>E = Encourage them </li></ul>
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