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The Hymenization of Virginity: Examination of Sociolinguistics, Historical Roots and
Consequences by Jessie Zaylί a

Introduction: The Power of Words We Say

                                  My first time, hard to explain
                            Rush of blood, oh, and a little bit of pain
                        On a cloudy day, it's more common than you think
                                      He's my first mistake

Going back to literary criticism, how can one measure the strength media gives the public?
Songs are powerful gizmos to convey what is intended by lyrics via simply turning on the radio
or perhaps, all and sundry have an iPod or iPad to make use of. Messages are sorted in an
assortment of categories. Whatever categories they are, they collapse under the same
rationale: entertain. Added to the word, education has been a subject of songs. Taken from
Vanessa Carlton‟s White Houses, without looking at its lyrics keenly, one at 6 can be misled into
thinking of getting such song as, usually Filipinized, the song of my life. Misleading, such type of
entertainment could add up education making it possible for anybody to bring into being the
word edutainment.

As far as edutainment goes, to what extent learning is considered really learning? Without
further this-and-that, can one regard sex education as learning? Controversial, sex education
has been in the hot seat. If it were an earth child, it would be sitting coupled with all the buckets
of sweat since almost everybody in the Philippines is still, if not shy, unable to overtly talk about
sex. That case being presented, the more introverted people become as far as such topic goes,
the more people explore the unhelpful side of what is considered sacred, that is, sex.
Bashfulness, maybe it is the best word, even envelops the face of anybody confronted with the
idea of what virginity is. The Are-you-(still)-a-virgin-? inquiry has been in the circulation, yet, the
perception of the answer-er goes into two forms: the Proud and the Shy. Respectively, proud
refers to, “I have been touched/I have had an experience”, and shy refers to, “I have not been
touched yet/I have not had an experience”.

“Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer.” Who would utter such
question? Who would answer it? These days, whatever biological identity one belongs to, an
utter-er or answer-er can be taken as a position. This query has changed many of today‟s
youngsters‟ ideas about that „thing‟. „Thing‟ is not even accepted today. Not only about
Philippine setting, anywhere all over the world, has one grown from concealing to totally
showing everything. The word „sex‟ has become an extraordinarily common word so much that
one concealing virginity status is laughed at and/or put to shame. To describe as an irony,
losing virginity has created hullabaloo not only in one society but it has also reverberated
in/at/on all corners. This is because no matter how short the phrase is, it has earned several
interpretations.

In a rough estimate of 97% of all the dictionaries searched, negative meanings have been
supplied to the word „lose‟. What has such word conferred to the perception of the people?
Truly, the use of words to describe everything seen by the naked eyes, heard by the acoustic
piece and spoken by the vocal source of utterance comes with power every sound creates.
From many sorts of readings from the Bible to politically correct language to contemporary
writings about sex, women, virginity, culture and the like, this paper came into existence coupled
with considerations about the past, present and future paragon of language.

Women-inity [wImInInIti]
Women are deemed to be more impinged on in terms of virginity. Not a need to mention, it is
claimed that men do not suffer from the nerve-racking virginity test as much as women do which
is [basically] based on the article. Taken from the article, it could be unmistakably seen that the
writer has written arguments bottomed at tyrannized women taking steps to knowing what
virginity really is. As important as one considers, virginity plays a big purpose in the entirety of a
woman, her life and death, and her naivety. Thus, virginity parasites on the word woman and as
a woman, it is a need to guard her virginity. But why are men not sought after that much when
such terminology comes into play? The continuum of tense which includes past, present and
future of puritanical standards of language has to be asked about this.

Past: The Was and Were

Women were or perhaps, have been, looked at inferior to men. No matter how much people of
today‟s generation talk about the equality between men and women, almost everything has just
been uttered without much action given to it. Most are even guided by books based on their
religion and others base it on the tradition that has been passed from one age bracket to
another. Too controversial as it is described, religion is like cancer in its fourth stage. The only
difference is that it does not have any death. When placed on the platter for discussion, there is
always a beginning but never will it have any ending. Used by the Bible, the word „helper‟ is a
big proof why until now there are women treated lower than men. Taken literally, one would not
think of women be in an equal term with men. In some cases, helpers are treated in equal
terms. In a saddening reality, rarely, one can be found treating a helper in terms of equality.
Such word has pushed people to thinking that women are in a lower case in any sort of
situation. Perhaps, this has driven people to thinking that men are on the pedestal and never will
a woman be. Beyond doubt, although a word has a lot of meanings, it emits powerful sounds
that are taken by people in different lines of attack. Take the case of the Bible.

       In the second creation story, (Genesis 2:7) God formed only a man: "...the LORD
       God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the
       breath of life; and man became a living soul. Realizing that he needed a helper
       (Genesis 2:18), God marched all of the animals past Adam (Genesis 2:19-20)
       looking for a suitable animal. Finding none suitable, God created Eve out of one
       of Adam's ribs. The term "helper" has historically been interpreted as implying an
       inferior role for Eve, although some modern interpreters believe that the word can
       mean a companion of equal status. (http://www.religioustolerance.org/ofe_bibl.htm)

On the other hand, in the Middle East, women are not allowed to do things pertaining to their
own lives. Women are considered accessories and to be more exact, properties of men.
Following this, it is but factual that virginity should not be given to just anybody; which is
basically true in all aspects; that virginity has to be taken care of; that once lost before marriage
and found out, death approaches. It is no wonder why it is easy for male family members to take
the lives of women when they believe these women defile the name of the whole family in terms
of virginity. This escorts honor killing which is sugar-coated through other words such as
accident and misfortune in addition to the word honor. Not to mention, questioning one‟s culture
is so miniscule that in the first place, it can and should not be questioned. The mistake people
have been committing is their dogmas have been attached too much to the ideologies of the
supposed-to-be-changed past. While it is true that the past shapes the present, it is not enough
to tag along the past and carry it to what is incumbent.




Present: The Politically Correct Language [?]
On his article titled Watch Your Language, Andrew Vachhs made an effort to present the
veracity of what language can define.

       When we use terms such as "lose one's virginity" in referring to adult sex acts
       with children instead of calling it "rape," or when we say that teachers "have
       affairs" with their pupils instead of saying that the teachers “sexually exploit”
       them, the only beneficiaries are the predators who target children.
       (http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/parade_060505.html)


It is undeniably true that language plays such a big role in educating the people of what is right
and wrong or differently logical politically-correct-language-ly speaking. Honor killing cases are
dropped once learned that they were done in the name of honor. Others call it the crime of
passion, rage-induced killing or honorable murder. For the sake of reputation, women are killed
not because they did something wrong, but eradicated because they have to save the tainted
honor of the males. Some females are even buried with unmarked graves since their very
existence puts a load of shame to their family. Needless to mention, it is beyond death that they
bear the shame. To whatever extent or degree, no matter how people call it, it is still killing and
killing is a crime. Politically correct language?

To look and sound uncouth is a no-no both in spoken language and written language. Politically
correct language has existed to cover the matter-of-fact put-into-effect of egalitarianism of
individuals. Technical as how it looks like, egalitarianism refers to the equality of men and
women. Many accept as true that this language can reclaim anybody from uttering offensive and
blatantly derogatory statements since in the first place they are or were made to efface the
disparaging words that might mushroom from our mouths. While many believe that politically
correct language has to be followed, they are blinded since freedom of expression is at ante. In
some cases, the politically correct term is even a more derogatory echo than the one wanted to
be uttered. Take the case of the word „wife‟ which is „an unpaid sex slave‟ in its politically correct
language counterpart. It was in 1960s when feminists started to demand some pronouns (he,
him) be replaced by the plural they, them, which is why these days many use the plural from
instead of the singular form. In France, February this year, the discriminatory title mademoiselle
or miss was given adieu since it is sexism. Thus, a speaker has the right to call a phenomenon
the way he wants to call it provided his statement is egalitarianized or if it is necessary, in its
politically correct language form whichever is more fitting.

Virginity has been a hot issue among women. In connection to the article, the word „lose‟
partnered with the word „virginity‟ implies virginity is something of value that we ought to have
kept. Like what was mentioned, virginity defines life and death. Still, it is not right to use
politically correct language based on one‟s tradition just to swathe killing accident or misfortune.
These days, many do not care whether they are virgin or not before marriage. Although needed
in some components, it is awkward and not normally done to ask a woman whether she is virgin
or not before thinking of marrying her. Question: Does „lose one‟s virginity‟ have a politically
correct language counterpart?

Future: The Result of the Present

Taking the principle of rippling effect, the present is so delicate that a small chink, crack, crevice
or fissure, no matter how small it is, can lead to a shard, wreckage, rubble or ruin. It only follows
that whatever is done, mentioned, seen or heard at this instant is reverberated in the not-very-
certain future. Moreover, everything done now is magnified tomorrow. In language, much has
been changed as far as grammar and vocabulary go to name only two. Indeed, everything is
subject to changes in a number of forms. Not to mention, since language holds duality in
meaning, words or phrases uttered or read by one can be interpreted [by anybody] in many
possible ways. With that case at hand, the future is just a recipient of how the present is
understood.

Through Noli Me Tangere, Jose Rizal breathed life into the character of Maria Clara who is
believed to embody the women-inity of Filipinos. Many have considered Maria Clara the perfect
stature of what a woman is, that is, the Filipino women archetype. A woman has to be demure,
meek and refined, and be sheathed in article of clothing so much that skin is not seen free in
addition to the di-makabasag-pinggan stance. Undoubtedly, many Filipino women take care of
virginity that much. Noli Me Tangere has hooked every reader into the idea that women are
confined within the terms set. As a result, Filipinos always count good-natured women in the
image of Maria Clara. Not to be misunderstood, this paper does not want in any manner to
qualify women who are not Maria Clara-d bad natured. It is simply to tell that these days women
are way different from the times of yore. A worn-out question in beauty pageants: What is the
essence of a woman?

Listeners have become analytic so much that everything heard has to pass through a
meticulous evaluation process. Not a single word or phrase can go on without being weighed
up. The word virginity being uttered will beyond doubt disturb even seen and unseen particles in
air. There is no big deal whether one is still virgin or not for the reason that anybody can tell
anything about what they are without being questioned. It is easy to say, “I am a virgin” and that
is all there is. The real issue is whether there exists an easy way to determine whether one is
virgin or not. On the other shade of the prison, is it even important to know who is virgin and
who is not? These are inane concerns. But no matter how inane they are, they will continuously
perturb any suspicious mind lurking at the rear of every conveyed thought.

The following is a list of five bloodcurdling and spine-tingling predictions about what virginity is.

   1. More awkward and revealing, every woman and man will wear color-coded tags that will
      validate their virginity. The green tags are for “I have always been ready”; yellow for “I
      am confused”; and red for “Virgin. But you do not even think about it!” It only means that
      before getting into a relationship with anybody, one has already reflected on the
      consequences whether to pursue or not to pursue. (Credits to: Reader‟s Digest)
   2. Awkward in and out, there will exist a device that can determine whether a woman is
      virgin or not. With this invention, no one would dare ask. This would just take a click and
      voila!
   3. The word virginity will be sexism. Therefore, a politically correct language has to be used
      as a counterpart. I suggest guilt-free civil status-ed. It will be foul to utter such word
      [especially in public]. In addition, written documents will have to use guilt-free civil status-
      ed instead.
   4. Never will a woman or a man speak of the word virginity. Doing such would put them into
      grave humiliation or danger. The word will be so sacrosanct that it can be shared only in
      intimate proximity.
   5. As far as virginity goes, women will have to be valued much more than what value really
      is.


Conclusion

Powerful as they are, meanings embedded in the words we utter have to be taken into account
at a great extent. Since meanings come in different interpretations and representations, it is a
need to value everything that our brains bring into being. One wrong utterance might lead to the
peril of anybody. Everything that has to be uttered has to be chosen circumspectly as much as
one considers life a matter of choice. We do not need to proselytize either by our speech or by
our writing. We can only do so really with our lives. --Mahatma Gandhi
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Sociolinguistics: A Reaction to Virginity and Language

  • 1. The Hymenization of Virginity: Examination of Sociolinguistics, Historical Roots and Consequences by Jessie Zaylί a Introduction: The Power of Words We Say My first time, hard to explain Rush of blood, oh, and a little bit of pain On a cloudy day, it's more common than you think He's my first mistake Going back to literary criticism, how can one measure the strength media gives the public? Songs are powerful gizmos to convey what is intended by lyrics via simply turning on the radio or perhaps, all and sundry have an iPod or iPad to make use of. Messages are sorted in an assortment of categories. Whatever categories they are, they collapse under the same rationale: entertain. Added to the word, education has been a subject of songs. Taken from Vanessa Carlton‟s White Houses, without looking at its lyrics keenly, one at 6 can be misled into thinking of getting such song as, usually Filipinized, the song of my life. Misleading, such type of entertainment could add up education making it possible for anybody to bring into being the word edutainment. As far as edutainment goes, to what extent learning is considered really learning? Without further this-and-that, can one regard sex education as learning? Controversial, sex education has been in the hot seat. If it were an earth child, it would be sitting coupled with all the buckets of sweat since almost everybody in the Philippines is still, if not shy, unable to overtly talk about sex. That case being presented, the more introverted people become as far as such topic goes, the more people explore the unhelpful side of what is considered sacred, that is, sex. Bashfulness, maybe it is the best word, even envelops the face of anybody confronted with the idea of what virginity is. The Are-you-(still)-a-virgin-? inquiry has been in the circulation, yet, the perception of the answer-er goes into two forms: the Proud and the Shy. Respectively, proud refers to, “I have been touched/I have had an experience”, and shy refers to, “I have not been touched yet/I have not had an experience”. “Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer.” Who would utter such question? Who would answer it? These days, whatever biological identity one belongs to, an utter-er or answer-er can be taken as a position. This query has changed many of today‟s youngsters‟ ideas about that „thing‟. „Thing‟ is not even accepted today. Not only about Philippine setting, anywhere all over the world, has one grown from concealing to totally showing everything. The word „sex‟ has become an extraordinarily common word so much that one concealing virginity status is laughed at and/or put to shame. To describe as an irony, losing virginity has created hullabaloo not only in one society but it has also reverberated in/at/on all corners. This is because no matter how short the phrase is, it has earned several interpretations. In a rough estimate of 97% of all the dictionaries searched, negative meanings have been supplied to the word „lose‟. What has such word conferred to the perception of the people? Truly, the use of words to describe everything seen by the naked eyes, heard by the acoustic piece and spoken by the vocal source of utterance comes with power every sound creates. From many sorts of readings from the Bible to politically correct language to contemporary writings about sex, women, virginity, culture and the like, this paper came into existence coupled with considerations about the past, present and future paragon of language. Women-inity [wImInInIti]
  • 2. Women are deemed to be more impinged on in terms of virginity. Not a need to mention, it is claimed that men do not suffer from the nerve-racking virginity test as much as women do which is [basically] based on the article. Taken from the article, it could be unmistakably seen that the writer has written arguments bottomed at tyrannized women taking steps to knowing what virginity really is. As important as one considers, virginity plays a big purpose in the entirety of a woman, her life and death, and her naivety. Thus, virginity parasites on the word woman and as a woman, it is a need to guard her virginity. But why are men not sought after that much when such terminology comes into play? The continuum of tense which includes past, present and future of puritanical standards of language has to be asked about this. Past: The Was and Were Women were or perhaps, have been, looked at inferior to men. No matter how much people of today‟s generation talk about the equality between men and women, almost everything has just been uttered without much action given to it. Most are even guided by books based on their religion and others base it on the tradition that has been passed from one age bracket to another. Too controversial as it is described, religion is like cancer in its fourth stage. The only difference is that it does not have any death. When placed on the platter for discussion, there is always a beginning but never will it have any ending. Used by the Bible, the word „helper‟ is a big proof why until now there are women treated lower than men. Taken literally, one would not think of women be in an equal term with men. In some cases, helpers are treated in equal terms. In a saddening reality, rarely, one can be found treating a helper in terms of equality. Such word has pushed people to thinking that women are in a lower case in any sort of situation. Perhaps, this has driven people to thinking that men are on the pedestal and never will a woman be. Beyond doubt, although a word has a lot of meanings, it emits powerful sounds that are taken by people in different lines of attack. Take the case of the Bible. In the second creation story, (Genesis 2:7) God formed only a man: "...the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. Realizing that he needed a helper (Genesis 2:18), God marched all of the animals past Adam (Genesis 2:19-20) looking for a suitable animal. Finding none suitable, God created Eve out of one of Adam's ribs. The term "helper" has historically been interpreted as implying an inferior role for Eve, although some modern interpreters believe that the word can mean a companion of equal status. (http://www.religioustolerance.org/ofe_bibl.htm) On the other hand, in the Middle East, women are not allowed to do things pertaining to their own lives. Women are considered accessories and to be more exact, properties of men. Following this, it is but factual that virginity should not be given to just anybody; which is basically true in all aspects; that virginity has to be taken care of; that once lost before marriage and found out, death approaches. It is no wonder why it is easy for male family members to take the lives of women when they believe these women defile the name of the whole family in terms of virginity. This escorts honor killing which is sugar-coated through other words such as accident and misfortune in addition to the word honor. Not to mention, questioning one‟s culture is so miniscule that in the first place, it can and should not be questioned. The mistake people have been committing is their dogmas have been attached too much to the ideologies of the supposed-to-be-changed past. While it is true that the past shapes the present, it is not enough to tag along the past and carry it to what is incumbent. Present: The Politically Correct Language [?]
  • 3. On his article titled Watch Your Language, Andrew Vachhs made an effort to present the veracity of what language can define. When we use terms such as "lose one's virginity" in referring to adult sex acts with children instead of calling it "rape," or when we say that teachers "have affairs" with their pupils instead of saying that the teachers “sexually exploit” them, the only beneficiaries are the predators who target children. (http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/parade_060505.html) It is undeniably true that language plays such a big role in educating the people of what is right and wrong or differently logical politically-correct-language-ly speaking. Honor killing cases are dropped once learned that they were done in the name of honor. Others call it the crime of passion, rage-induced killing or honorable murder. For the sake of reputation, women are killed not because they did something wrong, but eradicated because they have to save the tainted honor of the males. Some females are even buried with unmarked graves since their very existence puts a load of shame to their family. Needless to mention, it is beyond death that they bear the shame. To whatever extent or degree, no matter how people call it, it is still killing and killing is a crime. Politically correct language? To look and sound uncouth is a no-no both in spoken language and written language. Politically correct language has existed to cover the matter-of-fact put-into-effect of egalitarianism of individuals. Technical as how it looks like, egalitarianism refers to the equality of men and women. Many accept as true that this language can reclaim anybody from uttering offensive and blatantly derogatory statements since in the first place they are or were made to efface the disparaging words that might mushroom from our mouths. While many believe that politically correct language has to be followed, they are blinded since freedom of expression is at ante. In some cases, the politically correct term is even a more derogatory echo than the one wanted to be uttered. Take the case of the word „wife‟ which is „an unpaid sex slave‟ in its politically correct language counterpart. It was in 1960s when feminists started to demand some pronouns (he, him) be replaced by the plural they, them, which is why these days many use the plural from instead of the singular form. In France, February this year, the discriminatory title mademoiselle or miss was given adieu since it is sexism. Thus, a speaker has the right to call a phenomenon the way he wants to call it provided his statement is egalitarianized or if it is necessary, in its politically correct language form whichever is more fitting. Virginity has been a hot issue among women. In connection to the article, the word „lose‟ partnered with the word „virginity‟ implies virginity is something of value that we ought to have kept. Like what was mentioned, virginity defines life and death. Still, it is not right to use politically correct language based on one‟s tradition just to swathe killing accident or misfortune. These days, many do not care whether they are virgin or not before marriage. Although needed in some components, it is awkward and not normally done to ask a woman whether she is virgin or not before thinking of marrying her. Question: Does „lose one‟s virginity‟ have a politically correct language counterpart? Future: The Result of the Present Taking the principle of rippling effect, the present is so delicate that a small chink, crack, crevice or fissure, no matter how small it is, can lead to a shard, wreckage, rubble or ruin. It only follows that whatever is done, mentioned, seen or heard at this instant is reverberated in the not-very- certain future. Moreover, everything done now is magnified tomorrow. In language, much has been changed as far as grammar and vocabulary go to name only two. Indeed, everything is subject to changes in a number of forms. Not to mention, since language holds duality in meaning, words or phrases uttered or read by one can be interpreted [by anybody] in many
  • 4. possible ways. With that case at hand, the future is just a recipient of how the present is understood. Through Noli Me Tangere, Jose Rizal breathed life into the character of Maria Clara who is believed to embody the women-inity of Filipinos. Many have considered Maria Clara the perfect stature of what a woman is, that is, the Filipino women archetype. A woman has to be demure, meek and refined, and be sheathed in article of clothing so much that skin is not seen free in addition to the di-makabasag-pinggan stance. Undoubtedly, many Filipino women take care of virginity that much. Noli Me Tangere has hooked every reader into the idea that women are confined within the terms set. As a result, Filipinos always count good-natured women in the image of Maria Clara. Not to be misunderstood, this paper does not want in any manner to qualify women who are not Maria Clara-d bad natured. It is simply to tell that these days women are way different from the times of yore. A worn-out question in beauty pageants: What is the essence of a woman? Listeners have become analytic so much that everything heard has to pass through a meticulous evaluation process. Not a single word or phrase can go on without being weighed up. The word virginity being uttered will beyond doubt disturb even seen and unseen particles in air. There is no big deal whether one is still virgin or not for the reason that anybody can tell anything about what they are without being questioned. It is easy to say, “I am a virgin” and that is all there is. The real issue is whether there exists an easy way to determine whether one is virgin or not. On the other shade of the prison, is it even important to know who is virgin and who is not? These are inane concerns. But no matter how inane they are, they will continuously perturb any suspicious mind lurking at the rear of every conveyed thought. The following is a list of five bloodcurdling and spine-tingling predictions about what virginity is. 1. More awkward and revealing, every woman and man will wear color-coded tags that will validate their virginity. The green tags are for “I have always been ready”; yellow for “I am confused”; and red for “Virgin. But you do not even think about it!” It only means that before getting into a relationship with anybody, one has already reflected on the consequences whether to pursue or not to pursue. (Credits to: Reader‟s Digest) 2. Awkward in and out, there will exist a device that can determine whether a woman is virgin or not. With this invention, no one would dare ask. This would just take a click and voila! 3. The word virginity will be sexism. Therefore, a politically correct language has to be used as a counterpart. I suggest guilt-free civil status-ed. It will be foul to utter such word [especially in public]. In addition, written documents will have to use guilt-free civil status- ed instead. 4. Never will a woman or a man speak of the word virginity. Doing such would put them into grave humiliation or danger. The word will be so sacrosanct that it can be shared only in intimate proximity. 5. As far as virginity goes, women will have to be valued much more than what value really is. Conclusion Powerful as they are, meanings embedded in the words we utter have to be taken into account at a great extent. Since meanings come in different interpretations and representations, it is a need to value everything that our brains bring into being. One wrong utterance might lead to the peril of anybody. Everything that has to be uttered has to be chosen circumspectly as much as one considers life a matter of choice. We do not need to proselytize either by our speech or by our writing. We can only do so really with our lives. --Mahatma Gandhi
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