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Domestic Violence Facts

  2. 2. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS…<br />when one person is controlling another through fear and intimidation, often including threats, physical violence, verbal / emotional abuse, etc. Physical attacks may range from shoving to murder<br />
  3. 3. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS…<br />when someone resorts to verbal abuse, harassment, or destruction of personal property in order to control another person<br />
  4. 4. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OCCURS…<br />when someone exhibits excessive possessiveness, isolates another person from friends and family, or deprives him or her of physical and economic resources for control<br />
  5. 5. FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE<br />Women of all races are about equally vulnerable to violence by an intimate<br /> (Bureau of Justice Statistics, Violence Against Women: Estimates from the Redesigned Survey, August 1995)<br />
  6. 6. FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE<br />Nearly one-third of American women (31 %) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives, according to a 1998 Commonwealth Fund survey <br /> (The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, May 1999) <br />
  7. 7. FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE<br />One in five (21 %) women reported she had been raped or physically or sexually assaulted in her lifetime <br /> (The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, May 1999)<br />
  8. 8. FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE<br />Three in four women (76 %) who reported they had been raped and/or physically assaulted since age 18 said that a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, or date committed the assault<br /> (U.S. Department of Justice, Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey, November 1998)<br />
  9. 9. FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE<br />Women are five to eight times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate partner <br /> (U.S. Department of Justice, Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, March 1998)<br />
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  11. 11. PHYSICAL ABUSE<br />With Weapons<br />Shoot<br />Stab<br />Burn<br />Hit<br />Strangle<br />Suffocate<br />Kick<br />Restraint<br />Without Weapons<br />Poke, hit, pinch, grab<br />Twist limbs, scratch<br />Pull hair<br />Injure or kill pets<br />Strangle<br />Damage/destroy property<br />Hold down<br />
  12. 12. SEXUAL ABUSE<br />Unwanted, forced or coerced sexual acts<br />Forced prostitution<br />Refusal to use condoms<br />Forced pregnancy<br />Mutilation<br />Drugs<br />
  13. 13. INTIMIDATION<br />Causing fear by using looks, actions, and gestures<br />Smashing or throwing things<br />Destroying property<br />Abusing pets<br />Showing weapons<br />
  14. 14. EMOTIONAL ABUSE<br />Putting partner down<br />Making partner feel bad about him/herself<br />Calling partner names<br />Making partner think s/he is crazy<br />
  15. 15. EMOTIONAL ABUSE<br />Playing mind games <br />Humiliating partner<br />Making partner feel guilty<br />
  16. 16. ISOLATION<br />Controlling what partner does, who partner sees and talks to, what partner reads, and where partner goes<br />Limiting partner’s outside involvement<br />Using jealousy to justify actions<br />
  17. 17. MINIMIZING, DENYING, BLAMING<br />Making light of the abuse<br />Not taking partner’s concerns about the abuse seriously<br />Denying the abuse occurred<br />Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior<br />Saying the partner caused the abuse<br />
  18. 18. USING THE CHILDREN<br />Making partner feel guilty about the children<br />Using children to relay messages<br />Using visitation to harass partner<br />
  19. 19. USING THE CHILDREN<br />Threatening to take the children away<br />Threatening to call DCF<br />
  20. 20. SEX ROLE STEREOTYPES<br />Treating partner like a servant<br />Making all of the decisions in the relationship<br />
  21. 21. SEX ROLE STEREOTYPES<br />Acting like “master of the castle”<br />Being the one to define the roles in the relationship<br />
  22. 22. ECONOMIC ABUSE<br />Preventing partner from getting or keeping a job<br />Making partner ask for money<br />Giving partner an allowance<br />Taking partner’s money or income<br />Not letting partner know about or have access to income<br />
  23. 23. COERCION & THREATS<br />Making and/or carrying out threats<br />Threatening to leave partner<br />Threatening to commit suicide<br />Making partner drop charges<br />Manipulation<br />
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  25. 25. Non-Threatening Behavior<br />Talking and acting so partner feels safe and comfortable expressing themselves.<br />
  26. 26. Respect<br />Listening to partner non-judgmentally<br />Being emotionally affirming and understanding.<br />Valuing partner’s opinions<br />
  27. 27. Trust and Support<br />Supporting partner’s goals in life.<br />Respecting partner’s rights to their own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions.<br />
  28. 28. Honesty and Accountability<br />Accepting responsibility for self<br />Acknowledging past use of violence<br />Admitting being wrong<br />Communicating openly and truthfully<br />
  29. 29. Responsible Parenting<br />Sharing parental responsibilities<br />Being a positive, nonviolence role model for the children<br />
  30. 30. Shared Responsibility<br />Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work<br />Making family decisions together<br />
  31. 31. Economic Partnership<br />Making money decisions together<br />Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements<br />
  32. 32. Negotiation and Fairness<br />Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict<br />Accepting changes<br />Being willing to compromise<br />
  33. 33. WHY STAY?<br />Belief that the abuser will change or reform <br />Isolated from family, friends, or support system and s/he has no way to check the reality of what the abuser is telling her/him<br />
  34. 34. WHY STAY?<br />Difficulty finding work that pays enough to be self-sufficient and/or difficulty with childcare<br />Abuser has threatened to take the children<br />Fear that the abuser will kill her/him, the children, her/himself, family members, if s/he leaves<br />
  35. 35. WHY STAY?<br />Shame - s/he doesn’t want anyone to know<br />There may be more good times than bad times<br />Believes s/he is the cause of the violence and therefore can make the abuse stop if s/he says or does the right things<br />
  36. 36. WHY STAY?<br />Doubts that s/he can make on his/her own<br />Slow and/or ineffective legal response, which can’t or won’t protect him/her <br />Believes that divorce or leaving the relationship is wrong—often reinforced by clergy, family, friends, and society<br />
  37. 37. WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE PERSONALITY<br />Jealousy<br />Controlling behavior<br />Quick involvement<br />Unrealistic expectations<br />
  38. 38. WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE PERSONALITY<br />Isolation<br />Blames others for problems<br />Blames others for feelings<br />Cruelty to animals<br />
  39. 39. WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE PERSONALITY<br />“Playful” use of force in sex<br />Verbal abuse<br />Rigid sex roles<br />Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde<br />
  40. 40. WARNING SIGNS OF AN ABUSIVE PERSONALITY<br />Battering history<br />Threats of violence<br />Breaking or strikingobjects<br />Using force together/his way<br />
  41. 41. EFFECTS ON CHILDREN<br />Domestic violence affects every member of the family, including the children <br />Family violence creates a home environment where children live in constant fear<br />
  42. 42. EFFECTS ON CHILDREN<br />Children who witness family violence are affected in ways similar to children <br /> who are physically abused<br />Children are at greater risk for <br /> abuse and neglect if they live in <br /> a violent home<br />
  43. 43. EFFECTS ON CHILDREN<br />Statistics show that over 3 million children witness violence in their home each year <br />"Families under stress produce children under stress. If a spouse is being abused and there are children in the home, the children are affected by the abuse." (Ackerman and Pickering, 1989)<br />
  44. 44. EFFECTS ON CHILDREN<br />Children react to their environment in different ways<br />Reactions vary depending on the child's gender and age<br />
  45. 45. EFFECTS ON CHILDREN<br />Recent research indicates that children who witness domestic violence show more anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, anger and temperament problems than children who do not witness violence in the home<br />
  46. 46. SAFETY PLANNING<br />Safety planning helps develop the tools in advance to confront a potentially dangerous situation <br />
  47. 47. SAFETY PLANNING<br />Safety Plans are for domestic abuse survivors of any age who may be abused by or is afraid of her/his spouse/partner, boy/girlfriend, adult child, or other family member<br />
  48. 48. SAFETY PLANNING<br />Includes:<br />Safety during an explosive incident<br />Safety when preparing to leave<br />Safety in public and at the workplace<br />What to take with you if you need to leave<br />