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Diário de um pua

  1. 1. Diary of a PUA
  2. 2. Evolution Of A PUA: Part 1 – The Ugly Shy Introvert As you might know, I was not a natural with women. I wasn’t even a natural with friends. I had bad social skills, was generally shy and introverted, and basically avoided social situations like the plague. Because i’ve gone from having nothing to being successful with women and good socially in a short space of time, I thought it might be valuable to document the steps I took and my influences along the way. Back in 2003, I got out a notebook and wrote down my problems and what steps i’d take to address them. Back then, I hadn’t heard of game, so it was just focused on my perceived weaknesses: Here’s what it said: • Shit fashion • Shy • Bad social skills • Ugly • Not funny • Quite voice • Can’t hold eye contact • Bad body language • Can’t dance • Unconfident • Petrified of public speaking • Low Self-esteem • CV lacks qualifications • Live in a boring small city Ouch. Okay, the good news is that they are all taken care of. So what did I do? 1. I signed up to a TEFL course in Seville so that i’d be in a foreign country and be forced to speak in front of a group of people (the students), interact with a bunch of strangers (the other trainees), and also get a useful qualification and get to visit a cool city. I committed the money and time and it paid off. I was shaking and nervous in the first class. 6 hours of teaching time later and I was almost smooth! 2. I started slowly building a wardrobe of nice clothes and throwing out all the ill-fitting sporty rubbish that i’d worn for the past 5 years. I found the best brands for me, learnt about fit, materials, quality etc. Over 2 years I filled my wardrobe with great clothes (mostly at discount prices) that i’d be able to wear for years. I avoided obvious labels like Burberry and got classic stuff like Zegna and Ralph Lauren Purple Label. I now have a wardrobe that will last me a long long time and rarely buy clothes. Having done these two I already felt more confident. But there was still a lot to learn.
  3. 3. 3. For my general self-esteem, happiness, and mental state, I read a lot of very useful books. I read everything out there on, by, or about Milton Erickson. I read all the old Bandler NLP books. I read buddhist stuff. I read Robert Anton Wilson, Tony Robbins, and Alan Watts. I stopped watching TV so much, stopped reading and watching the news, and spoke less to negative people. This made me happier through toning down my competitive side, reducing my need for material possesions, curing me of envy, and generally made me more content and happy. I came to understand that I was in control of my mood and happiness. Nowadays my mental state is solid and I am calm and not easy to affect emotionally. Evolution Of A PUA - Part 2 - From Ugly To Model And More So I was making progress, and that made me happy. I was able to talk to people without going red, I got admiring looks for my clothes, and I felt good inside. I still had a lot to work on though. 4. Next came my physical looks. I was called ugly at school and college. So what steps did I take to fix my looks? I’ve already mentioned the fashion. Next came: eyebrows, I had hair in the middle a monobrow, so I had them shaped. Hair: I asked the best hairdresser I could find (www. - thank you Neil!) if I could have hair like Tom Cruise in The Last Samura. He said “Yes” and 18 months later that’s pretty much what I have. (picture, Cambridge, 2001) (picture, Cambridge, 2002) (picture, Cambridge, 2006)
  4. 4. I modeled actors and now I can resemble Colin Farrell, Tom Cruise, or Orlando Bloom. Women will say I look like these poeple when i’m doing it. I worked hard on body language to look more cool. From being called ugly by average girls, I now get asked every week “Are you a model?”. 5. One thing that held back my confidence was my lack of qualifications. I was born in London but lived in Cambridge, place that prizes academic achievement. I signed up for lots of courses and bulked up my CV with some impressive stuff like being a Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA). Not at all related to PU but it gave me confidence. 6. By studying NLP, psychology, and hypnosis, I became more artful in my use of language and used the techniques of influence to make people like me. I was good on job interviews and started to make connections and have some success socially. By this point, I was still useless with women, we are in mid-2005 now. I’d only slept with one girl! I started approaching sometimes in bars, very rarely got numbers, and never progressed things to a physical level. Then in September 2005, I met Tyler Durden in Starbucks, Leicester Sq, London, and it all changed… Evolution Of A PUA: Part 3 – Game Time So I was sitting in Starbucks, Leicester Sq, London one day in September 2005. I lived in Cambridge at the time but used to come down to London every 10 days or so to hang out with my cousin. We happened to be sitting next to what I would later find out to be an RSD bootcamp. Tyler was there, and about 7 students. I was listening in trying to figure out what the hell was going on. My best guess was speed-dating. I asked Tyler (who was kind of overseeing things) and he broke it all down to me. Told me to buy The Game, etc. At the time, it was interesting, but I couldn’t imagine any of these guys being good with women. Fast forward a couple of weeks, i’ve read the game and now have the idea that there are these super- hero PUA dudes that can have any woman they want. With this as my new end-goal, I decide to gobble up, packman-style, all the information I can find on the subject. Right after reading the game and a few other things I take a trip to Singapore. On the trip I get my first one night stand. She basically PU’d me 60%, but at least I didn’t make the mistakes of old. She was hot-ish, I was attracted to her. I was very proud of myself. I came back to England and carried on with the theory. I used to watch DVD programs on the PC whilst watching the stock market and making the occasional trade (my job at the time). I kept a notebook of all the cool ideas. I’d listen to audio products before sleeping, when cooking and eating, cleaning, travelling, playing playstation, etc. Between November 2005 and March 2006, I must have gone through a thousand hours or more of products.
  5. 5. Some of my favourite ones at the time were David Deangelo’s audio series - Interviews with Dating Gurus, his DVDs including Double Your Dating, the Mystery Method ebook (but not so much the DVDs), Swinggcat’s Real World Seduction audio, and RSD/Tyler’s Surviving the Game of Dating. During this time, I didn’t do much in terms of PU. I came to London to visit my cousin and did the occasional approach. The problem was that all this theory was difficult to structure, I basically had a collection of cool lines and fun things to say. I had no idea how to link them all together. I remember a turning point for me. I was in Starbucks, mixed 3-set, I sprung into action using a situational opener - “Can I look at your tube map, I need to get to errrrr… Kentish Town!”They helped me out, I transition into what they are doing in London etc. I ask boring questions, but then something happened, they said they were learning English. I talked about how I trained to be an English teacher, how I did it in Seville, and how people come to learn English and then they live with people from their own country. I was talking for 30 seconds, they were listening with interest, and laughing a bit, I felt a buzz. I’d never had 3 people watching me and listening to me talk with interest before. I went red and was sweating but it was a great result.Small talk continued, then they said some tiny objection like “we are meeting our friend soon”, so I made an excuse to leave (I was looking for one I guess!). Sat back down, they seemed to linger around suggesting “please n-close us, please!” but I let them go with a goodbye. This counted as my first real approach. Before that, i’d talked to a girl on the train and n-closed but it was not really a cold approach because she came and sat next to me. I’d n-closed a couple of girls in bars over the previous two years (literally less than 5!). It made me grow in confidence.Around this time I had the dream of being the best PUA in London and training people, and even having a Project London. I talked about this with my cousin. I made the plan to move to London in March 2006. On 24th March 2006, I moved into my place in Leicester Sq, London. My goals: to become great with women, to meet cool people and develop a social circle, to have a blast!Cambridge allowed me to find myself, study hard, improve, now it was time to put it into action. Evolution Of A PUA: Part 4 – Make Or Break I wanted to move to London for years. I was never happy living in Cambridge. Ithought it was too small, I thought the people were unfriendly and boring, and I didn’t have the kind of social life that I wanted. Why did I wait so long? I found out the real answer, and thismight be the same thing that holds you back in many areas of your life, it was a HUGE realisation: I was afraid that if I moved to London and it was a failure, i’d be back in Cambridge AND I would no longer have thedream of something better to hold onto.
  6. 6. So at it’s core, it was fear of failure. Look at any bigsteps that you have avoided taking and maybe it is the same reason. But I finally did do it.. I basically didn’t know anyone when I moved down. My flatmates were cool, and we got on, but they had no social cirlce so I didn’t get to meet people that way. What happened was thatI found some London PUAs (from The London Seduction Society/LSS) and hooked up with them. I went out on some group “sarges” and met them and gave them the kind of respect i’d give Mystery himself. We went to some bars, but I quickly foundout that most of these guys could talk a good talk, look alpha, have an alpha-handshake and a cool walk, but they didn’t seem to be able to open, hold, and close a set. I hadto ratchet down my expectations a little bit. Over the next few weeks, I met some more of theseguys. Most of them I didn’t really want to hang out with, but I did meet two - Eugene andConor, who were “cool guys” and I tried to go out with these guys to clubs as much as possible. I was going out 4 nights a week. At this point, i’d been to a club less than 30 times, and was completely uncomfortable in the environment. So these nights would normally entail us opening 20 or so sets, not many would hold. I was overcoming my AA, and a couple of times I did get into sets that hooked and was ableto have a nice conversation using my pre-existing skills in one-on-one conversations that comefrom having the introvert qualities of being a good listener and being empathetic. I had a regular night out in Covent Garden with my wing Conor where I started to get some good results. We’d run some good wing game with each of us isolating a chick and i’d try to connect and get a number close. When you are winging, it is pretty easy not to get blown out, because when those moments where the conversation dips happen, the girl looks at her friend, she is in set and happy so she re-engages. Holding on your own requires a lot more skill. I was able to get a few number closes. They didn’t convert and I had no idea to kino-escalate to a k-close in the club.I have to say that by now I was pretty confident. The girls I was approaching were often hot and they did compliment me on my looks. It was new and it was good. The next big realisation happened about 3 weeks into my London adventure. I was in a Sohu club with Conor and the person I took over my room from and Conor approached a Swedish 2-set. I didn’t go and wing straight away because I was having a go at an Australian chick. It didn’t go too far, so I decided to go and wing him. It was an 18 year old Swedish chick. Pretty cute. I was there for AN HOUR talking to her, then I told her to move up and sat down next to her, carried on talking. I was getting no touching from her, and didn’t know what the hell to do. My one night stand in Singapore only happened because she touched my leg first and I just matched her kino-escalation and then lead with the kiss.Anyhow, I said to myself “fuck it” and put my arm around her and went for the kiss.
  7. 7. Lo-and-behold it worked, she was into it. Now I know I probably could have done it after 30 seconds, but the point was that it shifted something in my mind - you don’t need to ask if it is okay to kiss. Conor left early because his chick didn’t pan out. When they left, looking back, it would have been an easy f-close with my girl (other one was happy to leave her in my care!) and even a pretty simple 3-some. But I didn’t because I was probably buzzing from the k-close and didn’t imagine it was possible.I was now happy in London, I had friends and I felt like I was in control of things a little more. I had a lot of confidence and was on a high because I now was able to attract and seduce women. Evolution Of A PUA: Part 5 – Loser To PUA To Natural I learnt the basic structure of a pickup from 6 months of theory and a few weeks in field. Admittedly I spent way too long geeking out on the material. I learnt way more from going out and doing stuff. I spent the next month going out and refining my approach. We used a lot of canned material - should I die my hair blonde, best friends test, palmistry etc. It worked to hook the sets. My first fclose came one night in a Covent Garden club. My friend identified an HB, I sat next to her, just chatted, in terms of lines used, maybe some C&F and I did bust out one of my own speed seduction patterns when I had her isolated (I haven’t used this stuff since ust because it hasn’t been necessary). I tried some light kino - touching her leg and arm and she reciprocated. I went for the kiss after about 5 minutes. She was tall, blonde, thin,blue eyes. Now she’d be average, but at the time, she was very hot. I lead her around the club -”lets go get a drink, lets dance, let’s sit down”. We got quite hot and heavy and then I just got up and said “let’s go”, she started walking with me but asked “where” and I said “somewhere else” and walked her out of the club to my house. Got the wine out and smoothly escalated with no resistance. I’ll leave out the details! Met her for a date another day and the attraction had vanished, I didn’t like that she smoked, I didn’t like her accent, I didn’t like her shoes or the way she walked. I felt like Jerry Seinfeld for dumping the girl for silly reasons but I didn’t call her again. Over the next month I got plenty of k-closes and a couple more f-closes. I did about 4 salsa classes. I didn’t PU any girls in the class because they were generally not up to standard but Idid devise my “salsa escalation” where I go and ask the girl if she can salsa and then salsa my way into a k-close. I got a Serbian chick in 1-minute with this and she was a virgin, 7 hours of LMR before she slept with me and then she was my GF for about a month.6 foot tall, toned & tanned body, blonde, blue eyes. During that time I think I only k-closed one other girl and that was when I trained with Brent (from various Double Your Dating video series’ and as
  8. 8. seen on Cliff’s List). He came over in May and I decided that either i’d learn loads or i’d realise that I could do it too. I paid $1000 + expenses for an evening from 7pm to 2am. He was good looking, confident and cool. The training wasn’t very good because:He didn’t demo anything cool.He couldn’t hold the rest of a 3 set when I engaged one of the girls (they dragged her away).He only said I should talk louder and escalate faster. That was his only advice. Very nice guy though and maybe my level was already just damn high. Anyhow, I pulled a nice HB that night. This was the first time I was disappointed with the skills of a well-known guru. There were many more to come in the next few months! My attitude now when I meet famous PUAs is “Hey, if they are great i’ll learn something and if they aren’t, it makes me more confident”. Win Win! Over the next few months I improved my game, gained more confidence, had more hot girls, and met various influential charatcers, most importantly - Steve Jabba AKA Vertex and Anthony P. We went out a lot and gamed together. In June I had started and had been doing 1-on-1s. I was a skilled teacher, could clearly communicate things, and was able to analyse the person’s strengths and weaknesses very quicly and give them practical advice. Through teaching, I learned by stuff way more tightly and was forced to game. I learnt how to control my state instead of only being able to game when I felt like it. In July I went on holiday for 2 months with Steve and we went out 40 out of 44 nights in 11 countries. During this holiday my kino, non-verbal pickup, dance-floor game, etc all got a huge boost. Steve is a legend and few people have seen his skills when he is at the top of his game. I saw him do things a couple fo times on holiday that gave me the shivers! Next level game. Fast forward to today. I am going to parties with celebrities to learn how to game in those environments, i’m working with the guys here to further refine the system, i’m travelling to different countries to test my game internationally. How do I pick up chicks now? I have an unbreakable routine stack that can get me laid every day of the week, one that uses an unbreakable opener, NLP, calculated responses, built in emotional spikes, push-pull, DHVs, my SS patterns. BUT I DON’T USE IT! I want to be able to game naturally. I don’t wantto know what i’m going to say next. I like to test my intelligence and exercise my mentalmuscles. I want to make a better self instead of making a character that I can step into and act out. My indirect game usually involves a situational opener, cocky funny, rapport and deep rapport, kino-escalation, close. Pretty simple right?My Direct game is: force IOI, kino opener, afc fluff with sexual undertones, quick close. Of course, I might use routines again at some point in the future.
  9. 9. Right now, I just want to round-out my game some more and learn from guys that have something unique to offer. Now I have confidence and an energy that projects from that confidence. I used routines when I first started and many high-level guys still use them. It’s a personal choice. For a newbie, routines are the fastest way to get improvement and that’s why we teach both on our courses: routines, canned openers. A structure for any pickup.The skills that you need to be a natural.My ex-students all game differently, they are not robotic, and some have gone the natural route and some the routine route. All of them seem to improve markedly for months afterwards. Success?Email me for my HB pics! I meet a girl of high quality once every 3 weeks. Can k-close any time I go out. Can f-close multiple times a week. The only things that hold me back are:Busy with the business.Not enough hot girls in London clubs!Sex drive is not so high that I need 7 girls a week.I get more out of a loving relationship than lots of casual sex. (Picture, London, 2007) Gambler’s Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 1 In the past, before mass communication and globalisation, a person’s frame of reference was his peer group and the people he came into personal contact with. Today, our peer group is still our primary frame of reference, but now there are also people we know of and know about, like celebrities. We come to know about these people and they can exert just as strong an influence on us as our peer group does. First the world is brought into our lives through the internet and TV: amounting to 1385 messages a day. Because our peer group is subjected to the same onslaught, we would are ‘infected’ through them, even if we could avoid it all. Global travel means people from different cultures live in one place. In the 1900s example, the man in the village who had a full-time manual labour job, had a healthy family, and was married to a woman who he thought could be a good carer for him and their family had everything he thought life had to offer. He didn’t expect that he could ever be the factory owner, because that man was educated and had inherited wealth, unlike himself. He didn’t expect that he could be married to a beautiful or upper class woman, because he was working class and not so financially secure. He didn’t expect that he could live in a mansion, because there was no frame of reference of a normal working class person who had achieved that. In modern times, 90% of people are educated up to a point where they consider themselves literate. Class lines have been blurred and wealth and class no longer correlate to the same extent.
  10. 10. Because our basic needs of health, food, clothing, and shelter are almost guaranteed, we take them for granted and they are not enough to make us happy because our frame of reference does not include contact with people who don’t have these basic needs taken care of. Wealth and success are no longer confined to inherited wealth, genius, or super hard work. Every person knows of a story of someone getting rich very quickly and easily by a method that seems in reach of the average person. We are presented with an infinite amount of choice, which is some ways is good, and in others, isn’t. When people were born, took on the trade of their parents, and stayed in that profession until they died, and considered themselves to have had a good life if their children were married and healthy, the lack of choice meant constant contentment. People today would find it difficult to be content with a life like that, because they are aware of all the choices that now are possible. Choices make people unsure, they are unhappy with their job because they know that there are other jobs that might be better for them. If you live in the city, you know that you could live in the countryside and vice versa. Media. Advertising. Politics – people focussing on wealth and other distractions suits politicians. Cheap media set the agenda. Getting rich with no talent is a new phenomenon. Media mainly shows positive side of shallow materialism instead of chastising it and promoting intelligence and wisdom. There has been a degeneration of language and values. Easy money is only available to the top percentile but the whole population aspires to it. There has been a role reversal in the gender stakes with the feminisation of men and masculinisation of women. Relationships are over complicated with games and what you should/not do dictating events.Casual sex is promoted and means people in settled relationships cheat more and are not as easily satisfied with what they have. When you buy something is a big motivating factor the expected response you will get from other people? Do you imagine what they will say when they see your new suit, electronics, jewellery? Was the need to buy this item driven internally or was it by external influence? Gambler’s Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 2 Your peers are your peers because they legitimise your lifestyle, the same is true for drug addicts or criminals. Whatever you do and think, you can always find similar people to legitimise it. It is common to say “but person X is even worse”. This mindset does not serve you, because it is a way of avoiding progressive change. Most people are not surrounded by positive influences. We generally do not have the grounding of a close extended family. This means that the people we use for support do not always genuinely wish us well. Maybe if we do something they are scared to do, like make a big change, they will discourage us because it would make them feel bad if you could do it. Sure, they will support you, but probably only until you start doing better than them, and only while you continue to legitimise their life style. Try going from a party animal, recreational drug user, with no hobbies; to a serious, hard working, interesting person and still keep the same friends.
  11. 11. When we do not have the peer group that is positive about what we want to do, and can show us better ways to live through example, we need to make changes. It is possible to surround yourself with models for success through books, audio courses, and media. Knowing the stories of Edison, Da Vinci, Tesla, etc will be inspirational. This inspiration is what will allow you to break out past your perceived limits. Once you know what is possible, you will want more for yourself. Generally people stagnate and don’t progress as their peer groups will too. Try to surround yourself with models for success. After you spend an hour with someone, ask “do I feel more positive for spending that hour with that person”, in 75% of cases, the answer will be no. Gambler’s Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 3 I have an even keel philosophy, I believe that the ebbs and flows of mood are not a necessity. You can be happy one day, and then the next day, with nothing new happening, you can be unhappy. Most people believe that it is like a sine wave, and that they are held hostage to their emotions. “Oh I am having a bad day”. There are two steps that will allow you to conquer 90% of these negative emotions that are thought of as ebbs and flows. The first is to become aware of the base cause, and the second is to be able to disassociate from the emotion and understand and control it. To ‘become’, you can perform the following simple task that you will find very powerful. Take a sheet of paper and write down all the things you are unhappy with about yourself (not your possessions, your self) in pencil: I am ugly. I am fat. I am single. I am lonely. I am poor. Notice how you feel when you write these statements, you are now at a low ebb, just as you might be any day when you “are having a bad day”. Now do the opposite and write all the positive things on a different sheet of paper. I am a good mother I am funny. I am intelligent. I am outgoing and friendly. I am popular, and people like to be around me. People will have more trouble with the second list in general, because our culture does not promote bragging. Try to find as many things as you can though. Every person will be able to list at least 10 positive things about themselves. Read the positive list again. Notice how you immediately feel better, as if you are at a high ebb, and feel like you would if you were “having a good day”. How you feel from day to day is simply a matter of this changing focus. On a negative day, your focus is on the things in the negative list, on a positive day, your focus is on the things on the positive list.
  12. 12. Your next goal is to restrict the things that you are unhappy about to things that you cannot change. On my personal list, the things that I cannot change all relate to physical appearance. Every person has issues with their physical appearance, no matter how attractive you might think they are. With physical appearance, it is possible to make incremental improvements. Fix your fashion sense, whiten your teeth, get a tan, get in better shape, lose weight, have a great haircut. All these will make incremental improvements that will make you happier. You will NEVER be 100% satisfied with your appearance so you need to accept yourself. Gambler’s Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 4 Let’s start a new list that reframes any negative things in a positive way – instead of saying “I’m stupid and don’t know anything” say “I want to learn interesting things and be more educated”. Also include other things that didn’t make you unhappy but that you would like to do. Write down your goals in this way. I did this for the first time 3 years ago and have done it every 18 months since then. The list included things like: I want to be funnier. I want to learn psychology. I want to be more outgoing and comfortable in social settings. I want to understand relationships better. I want to have a better voice. I want to learn about and improve my body language. I want to improve my posture. Rules: do not use negative contructions, i.e. do not say – I am not stupid, say I am clever. The next step is to make a plan of how you can achieve each of these aims. For me, the answers were: read book - comedy writing secrets, watch and listen to a lot of comedy; read NLP & psychology books, sign up for courses; Do TEFL course in Seville for 5 weeks, teaching and working with strangers forcing social interaction and public speaking each day – additional achievement – improved English grammar skills; start with book – Emotional Intelligence, and study the area; read book – Set your voice free, and sign up to voice workshop; study high status and cool role models on film & television and try to see what they do and copy it in the mirror! Read books and watch videos on body language; Take a lesson in Alexander technique. Normally when people talk about what they want, they start with I want to have, not I want to do. It’s moot to say “that’s just the way I am” Gambler’s Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 5 Most people use distractions from themselves- TV, drinking, socialising, internet, talking on phone. If everyone was in a darkened room with no sound and thought about themselves and their life, how many would be happy?
  13. 13. Most people say I want to have, not I want to do. Collecting material goods so you have them in the “bank”, at least I have my stamps. Externalised showings of confidence include clothes, cars, lifestyle. These are very weak compared to internal displays of confidence that can be steadfast in any situation without the need for flashy clothes and a Ferrari. Take two people in the same situation except one that is happy will have a different focus to one that is not. Once you understand what is going on inside, you can disassociate and take control. It is the fist step. We are not slaves to our emotions: we are in control of them. We do not need to be “feeling down today” and “feeling great” the next with no changes. Negative messages – advertising, bad people- can always be found and those who are successful are always at risk of being undermined by jealous rivals. Complete arrogance inside leads to much better results. To balance all the negativity, surround yourself with positive role models that become like friends, affirmations, subliminal stuff, music, film. Strive to seek out the positive. Anthony P: Being in the moment – why it is so difficult Being in the moment is in many respects the opposite process to the normal functioning of the brain, which appears to be the chunking together of moments into familiar scenes and patterns to be matched with familiar responses and solutions. This saves the brain a lot of work, so its natural mechanism is to pull me out of the moment and back into my head. Being in my head – or thinking – relies on the reasonable assumption that nothing particularly fatal is likely to happen over a period of several moments and that the brain can use that time to put its feet up and generate a response to a chunk of moments rather than create each moment from first principles. Being in the moment, in each and every moment, is therefore something like an act of will where the will persuades the brain that each moment is actually fatal; this requires me to be intensely interested in what is going on outside my head, and to live each moment as if it were my last. Top players often report on how they see game situations open up as if they were in the matrix; sports players talk about how time stands still and suddenly they see the playing area as a space without time. These players are able to see being in the moment as an act of will, attention as something we really do pay (for), and being interested in the world outside our head as a simple discipline which can be developed and strengthened. Many of the techniques of pick-up purport to teach a man how to be interesting – telling stories and jokes, performing magic tricks, having exciting hobbies, but the argument which follows here is that we are never more interesting than when we are interested in the other person. Steve: What are girls all about? Consider girls. What are girls all about? Hot girls are human beings. Same as me and you. They eat food and they shit it out. They urinate. They get bad breath. They have insecurites, same as me and you. Maybe worse…We live in a society that BREEDS them. Hev you ever opened a really hot girl
  14. 14. and been AMAZED at how she reacts to you? Friendly, open, even a little insecure? maybe a LOT insecure?? When you’re dealing with girls, no matter what you’re level, what kind of girl you are used to, bear all of the above in mind. Remember it. When they shit test you, or when they go quiet, or when they look at you in a particlar way, remember that they are living inside their own head. If they are quiet, DONT think does she like me, is she offended, why is she quiet, why is she smiling? Is she laughing at me? Sit still, quiet your revving mind. Don’t think about what she is thinking….Often you will be wrong. I promise you. And worse : if you imagine these things you will MAKE HER THINK THEM. She will sense it, girls are AMAZINGLY perceptive about this kind of stuff. So Don’t worry about what she is thinking, don’t allow yourself to indulge in negative and debilitating thought loops. Don’t imagine or consider that she is thinking badly of you..Really really try to just live in the moment. Take in the environment, notice what is going on around you. Smile at her. If she is nervous or skittish, think to yourself, I AM A MAN goddamit, I WILL NOT let myself think badly of myself. She is a girl, and she is faced with her own pressures. Really try not to put her on a pedastal.. I tell you with full truth that even the hottest girls have all sorts of funny shit flying around in their head. So many people are putting on an act. Don’t do this. Be yourself, your best self. Ask the question of yourself - do I like this girl? Why do I like her? Look at her face when she is talking, look at her body. Do you want her? Then just try and imagine, convincingly that YOU CAN HAVE HER. You can. You can have her, girls want to be taken. They long for a man that will take her and ravish her. Keep that one simple truth in mind and all other stuff becomes irrelevant…Just be strong in yourself, like a rock and nothing else matters… Forget everything else. Reflex’s fast escalation bar-game Guys Here is one basic method I use to go very quickly from meeting an HB in a high-energy bar to going straight to kino, rapport and quite often a k-close at super-fast speed. I don’t always use routines for bar game – opinion openers, ‘wanted or needed’, ‘how soon is too soon’ etc. Don’t get me wrong, they are powerful, I’ve seen them work and they are good for students because they give you a set speech to make, thereby removing the anxiety of ‘not knowing what to say’. But if you’re feeling confident try this 4-step approach. 1. Force the IOI. An HB walks past you at the bar: force an IOI. A cheeky grin, a point, Beckster’s classic hide-behind-the-hand manoeuvre, anything. 2. Get kino. If she smiles or in any way gives an IOI from step 1 then simply raise your class to clink, or put your hand up for the high five. Do with a BIG SMILE! If she clinks your glass or returns the high five then IT’S ON. Move quickly to no 3.
  15. 15. 3. Introduction. This is the crucial part. Offer a HANDSHAKE with a BIG SWEEPING GESTURE, and say “Hi, I’m !!” I sometimes don’t go for small talk, asking opinions etc, I just introduce myself. You see, if you’ve got an IOI and a glass clink that means she is ‘open’ and so introducing yourself will not feel ‘odd’ to her. The critical thing with step 3 is CONFIDENDCE. You must speak loudly, confidently and act as if you will not tolerate refusal! Offering a handshake with a big arm movement is almost impossible to ignore. Try it with people you meet in other environments – the office, or wherever. It puts enormous pressure on the person to offer their hand in return because ignoring it will leave the person feeling as if they’ve been terribly rude! It’s a very British thing that’s ingrained into all of us. Salesmen in shopping centres or the street use this technique to get members of the public to interact with them, and I see them do it all the time. But confidence is the key. If you meekly offer a limp handshake while stammering your name, it is easy for her to shrug you off and walk on. If you stand tall (no side approaches this time, be direct and dominant) and loudly and confidently offer your name and hand she will return the shake and tell you her name back. It works. No matter what else, she will be impressed by your confidence. 4. Humour. After she’s taken your hand and said her name say “Nice to meet you . I was worried, for a minute I thought you were the bouncer”. This should get a laugh, it relieves some of the tension and will relax her (and you). You could use your own bit of humour, just make one up. It doesn’t have to be absolutely hilarious, but needs to relax the situation. “Thanks for offering, but I’ll get my own drink”, or whatever you want. So that’s it. IOI-kino-introduction-humour. Those 4 steps. Where you go from there is up to you, but I’ve closed very quickly from this. The point is you’re compressing many of the elements of a pick-up into less than 10 seconds. You’ve broken the ice, got her name, had some kino and shown you’re confident and humourous. Obviously with most girls you’ll need to go into rapport at some stage but a lot of the work has already been done. The good thing is you can tell from her reaction to step 1 (the forced IOI) whether she is open. If she is, then it’s on. Have fun with this one! Reflex’s situational openers : Queues For queues, in any environment. It could be for a bar, cloakroom, cash machine, cafe or checkout at Tescos. If there is an HB in the queue in front of you as you join here are a few options: 1. “Is this the queue for the good looking people??! D’you mind if I join it?!!!” I use this one all the time and it NEVER fails to get a smirk, smile, laugh or verbal response from a woman, no matter how grumpy, sour-faced or closed they might look. It’s hard not to smile when someone says it. It’s also very good for when there’s a group of girls, it makes them feel good (isn’t that what everyone wants?) It’s also paying them a subtle compliment. But the key here is HOW you say it. It’s hard to describe in writing but
  16. 16. you should say it playfully, with a slight smirk, and a glint in your eye. You can combine it with a subtle finger-point and head-tilt, as if you’re sharing a conspiracy theory with someone. If you’re feeling bold you can continue the joke by asking them if they could please keep all those people over there away from our queue, it’s just for us you know! 2. For a very very long queue you’ve just joined, one that will take ages –ask the girl if they’re providing deck chairs for us while we wait?! 3. For long queues: “I don’t know what’s going on here, but it looks like it must be interesting so I thought I’d join”. 4. Simply say “Who’s playing?” Say with faux seriousness. A girl with a sense of humour will get the joke! Reflex: Gaming on the tube - part 1 2 million people a day use the tube. That’s a lot of HBs, whichever way you look at it. I’ve started gaming on the tube in earnest in the last few months and have started getting numbers and dates. I’ve put together some guidelines that I’ve found useful; I say ‘guidelines’ rather than ‘rules’ because you need to be flexible when you do pick- up! 1st guideline: ignore what everyone says about the underground – that everyone’s miserable, that you must never talk or make eye contact with anyone, etc. Bollocks! If no other guy does that, well, great, that means less competition for you! Contrast that with a nightclub when every chump is hitting on the girls. Plus HBs won’t be expecting an approach on their journey home! 2nd guideline: ignore other passengers. Sometimes when I’m gaming I get a little audience listening in over the tops of their newspapers. Blank them out and keep going. If you show your nervousness you will communicate that to the girl. Conversely if you show you’re comfortable with the situation then the girl will share your confidence. Remember, people get on and off tubes all the time and your eavesdroppers will always get bored lose interest – after all, they have their lives to get on with, and other things to do. 3rd guideline: don’t linger and let a girl see you checking her out before you approach. Always try and make it look SPONTANEOUS. Especially on platforms. Through trial and error I’ve found that’s the key. That’s the value of the ‘3-second’ rule. As soon as she sees you, you MUST talk. 4th guideline: if you want to game on the platform, check on the electronic board to see when the next tube is due. If it’s less than 2 or 3 minutes you might want to wait until you both get on the tube itself. The reason, I’ve found, is this. If you chat for 30 seconds and then a train comes roaring in to the station and there’s lots of hustle and bustle as everyone gets on and off, then in the confusion the girl’s ‘state’ will be broken, you lose what little rapport you’ve established and it’s hard to restart again on the train. Also, after such a brief conversation she may not be comfortable with you sitting next to/opposite her. If by contrast the next train is due in 5 minutes or more, then ok – that should be enough time to
  17. 17. establish some rapport on the platform, maybe share a joke etc. Then when the train comes and there’s a break in the conversation she’ll feel comfortable continuing your chat and comfortable sitting near you. You can more easily pick up where you left off. Get it? Ok, that’s the guidelines done. Now what do you actually say?! Sorry to keep you in suspense but…tune in next week for part 2 of my post for the answers! Reflex’s Tube Game - part 2 Game is game. It doesn’t really matter where you do it, on the tube or anywhere else. In part 1 I discussed timing and attitude. The guidelines are the same: you really do have to do virtually all of the talking for the first 30 seconds or so; make your approach look spontaneous (don’t linger); speak with confidence; hold eye contact; plow through if she is unresponsive; feed off any verbal hooks you get. So let’s get into what to say. Here are some examples: “Is this the train for Hammersmith?”Yes/no/etc “Are you sure?!! I hope so. Cos when I was a kid and people used to ask me that I’d deliberately tell them the wrong thing to screw them up. I was basically a little shit. You’re not like that are you?!” ‘Do you know how long the train takes to reach x?’ Better than ‘have you been waiting long’ which has pick-up written all over it… I find this works well at initiating chat. You may get a one-word answer – yes or no – so the important thing is to plow with talk about trains: how awful they are, how you have to get to such- and-such etc Other platform openers: “Don’t jump, it’s not worth it!” (If she’s close to the platform edge) “Oh my God, did you see that mouse?! I saw it just now…” (You don’t have to actually see one, obviously. But this ALWAYS gets a response, girls find it impossible to ignore, so it’s very solid.) “Did you hear that busker?! He’s pretty good. I used to be one myself.” Really?! “No. But thanks for believing me.” This usually gets a laugh. “I think we’re standing in the best/worst place to get a seat”. This is good because when the train comes the two of you can put your prediction to the test and therefore have something natural to talk about, even if she hasn’t said much about it on the platform. If there is a seat next to her, and she’s noticed you’re walking towards it :“Oh, were you saving this seat for me?!”If you get a laugh, start talking. By the way, this works for seats anywhere. If she has an ipod: “Hey, cool ipod, I bet you pirate your music, right? Me too, what do you pirate?” This has to be spontaneous. Don’t worry, they ALWAYS take their earphones out if they can’t hear you! Eye-Coding: This is a good one for packed tubes (or trains or buses). If something happens, like someone won’t move down, or is annoying other passengers by talking too loudly on their phone
  18. 18. or causing a problem by having too many bags – then you can sort of look at her, and raise your eyes to heaven as if to say : “For God’s sake! Some people!” If you get a reciprocal eye-code back from her, as if she’s saying “Yeah, I know!” then you’re good to go. Start talking. If she has funky clothes, bag, or apparel: “You look like you like shopping!” Plow with chat about shopping: “I bet you’re one of these girls who pushes people out of the way in sales!” Making assumptions is one of the keys to getting over awkward silences and keeping the conversation going. I have gamed girls successfully by looking for situational stuff to open with - I’ve asked girls if they want to swap papers (or even books!) that they’re reading; told them not to use that vending machine because it will take their money; asked if they have something with just celebrity photos in it for me to read because I’m sick of reading books with words…the key with all these is delivery with cheekiness and a grin. And don’t forget forcing IOIs like we show you on the bootcamps! If you’re eagle-eyed you will see girls checking you out! Finally : don’t be embarrassed to ask for a number or a date - if you are nervous you can wait until you are just about to get off anyway, or wait till you both get off. And ignore the other passengers who may eavesdrop on you. They will get off soon anyway! Introduction to Dirty Cardenas Hi I am Dirty Cardenas and I am an evil PUA, I will bum your mother. I am a natural and have pretty much always been good with girls. I came into the community a year ago with the intention of meeting some absolute heroes and going out and having threesomes with super models every week. Unfortunately I found that the community in London is comprised mostly of key board jockeys who spend the majority of the time bickering on internet forums and theorising as to the best way to get a woman as opposed to going out and actually f*cking some women. By the grace of God I some how managed to meet Vertex (Steve Jabba) and Beckster. Later on Vertex introduced me to Gambler and so here I am. I am one of the bootcamp instructors and specialise in Inner Game, Dominance, Sexual Confidence and Female Ejaculation. I hope the stories I share help you achieve whatever it is you hope to achieve as a PUA. Cardenas: Owning the frame Last Sunday I went on a date with a girl that I’d actually dropped a while back. She is pretty hot and a model. But about 2 months ago she annoyed me so I dumped her. Last week guess what - she sent me a text out of the blue saying hi, it’s been a long time, how are you? I could tell what she was angling for so I thought I’d meet her.
  19. 19. On the date I didn’t make any ‘move’ on her early on. I just kept my distance and talked politely. I didn’t say “Oh it’s so nice to see you again” or any such thing. After all, I’d dumped her because she had shown a jealous streak and had annoyed me. She said I was different and that I was hard to work out. We eventually went on to a nightclub and I finally k-closed her etc. But I didn’t try and get her back to mine, I told her I was going and left early. She’s not used to being dumped, I think, and after dropping her I made sure I didn’t contact her for a few months at all, so she had to get in touch with me if she wanted to. I had moved on and she had faded from my mind. Now she’s bought into my frame and I have more control. I’m still considering what sort of relationship, if any, I want from her. Another story: This weekend I’m going away for a few days with another girl. She used to be my girlfriend way back last year, but I ended it for similar reasons to the girl above. Until I’d dumped her she had been in complete control of me - she’d left me dangling as if I were on a piece of string, constantly changing her mind about me, blowing hot and cold, telling me when I could see her and deciding when I could visit her. She was not averse to flirting with other men either (she is tall, blonde and very attractive). It left me in the supplicating role in the relationship and demoralised me completely, as I had totally fallen for her. Then I discovered ‘Game’, the PU community, and entered the world that you too have now entered. I knew I’d allowed her to set the frame and dominate me. So when she continued to mess me around I gave her an ultimatum to start treating me properly - and when she didn’t change I dumped her. She went pretty hysterical when I gave her the news but I refused to buckle or relent. Quite a few months of no contact went by and I moved on - then she got back in touch, asking to see me again, saying she’d missed me etc. I’d moved on from being besotted and no longer felt that way, but was ok with seeing her again. Now it’s me that is in control. I decide when to see her, where, and for how long. Same principle: always own the frame. There are lessons in all of this: 1. Don’t go chasing like a desperado. Know when to draw the line. Make her wait if necessary. Always have things you can fall back on - career, interests, hobbies, mates, whatever. 2. If you know for sure that a girl is simply using you and playing you: tell her point blank that you won’t stand for it. If she continues, BREAK IT OFF. This is vital. Never be talked out of it. Otherwise you will end up like so many suckers out there, trapped in a relationship you feel is controlled by a woman who knows you will always come crawling back . And that, my friend, is a very very bad place to be. All your self-respect will dribble away pitifully. The more attractive the girl, the You must know some men who have fallen into that, as do I. I’m not suggesting you just dump a girl at the slightest thing that annoys you or that you don’t try to work things out; just don’t let yourself be taken for a ride (no, not THAT sort of ride!) Remember, if the girl wants and values you SHE will re-initiate things. If she doesn’t then she’s not worth your precious time. Find someone else. Don’t worry, you will. That way you will keep your self-respect. And if she does come back, YOU and not her, are in control.
  20. 20. Beckster: Game Science Formula These are new techniques which a small team of us have been developing and using over the past 2 years. Went out with Lord o Lust or LOL for short, just for a few drinks to chat to him about DeepGame, LOL told me some great stories which we will develop into spiked stories. We decide to go to a salsa place, I open a 2 set HB7.5Slovak and HB7Polish, can speak a few sentence in both languages make them laugh, I anchor it in case I want to talk to them again, but not really my type. Beckon over a well suited girl HB8suit with my finger, she walks over and imitates me with a finger motion. I ask her if she is a secret agent, because of her suit and that she was surveying the area. Turns out she is the manager’s top hired gun, this should be fun. Run some stuff on her, neg her, etc. Some people come in so we move to the cash register so she can charge them admission. I ask her if she lets in boys that she fancies for free, she said its happened once or twice, I say to her “great I’m in free all the time then”, she smiles and nods. I run my famous fish routine on her as it’s in her palm more customers come in but she doesn’t put it down she admits them, taking cash and giving hand stamps with one hand, still holding up my fish as if it were real. I neg her about it then tell her fortune, told her I’m going to a better club in Chelsea and she’ll be lucky to see me again. Left it at that as its better not to pull her as she can be more useful letting me in for free. I told her as I let that I’ve been stealing glasses from her bar for 5 years and that if she wants them back she’ll have to drive over and collect them, she laughed and said “I know, I let you because I like your eyes” (she said this in a jokey way). I said “yeah, and I catch you checking out my ass all the time!” and walk out without a good bye. Lord o Lust says his goodbyes and I head to Chelsea, not much live but I see one bar and in the window a lone girl so I enter and as I walk in I give her a wink then up to the bar order a drink, she is still watching me. I walk over and - Me:Do you know what……. oh sorry are you with you boyfriend as I point to the pint glass near her (you all know what I doing in that one sentence right? Interest and analysing the situation. HB8Scandi: NO No that’s my flat mates. Turns out that I lived in her country for a while and I saw in this bar watching her country place on TV so I thought I would incorporate this in to a mind reading trick. So I said give me your hand blah blah blah. HB8Scandi: Wow that’s amazing Me: That’s not all, sometimes like 1 in a thousand I can have this instantaneous connection with someone and something strange will happen. HB8Scandi: Really what? Me: Well I now can speak in your language. HB8Scandi: No way! Me: Yes way.
  21. 21. Talk to her in her language for 10mins about her remote town (which I have been to) tell her about the shops and station there, she laps it up. Her male house mate comes back he is Russian and doesn’t like me being there, try’s to AMOG me, he doesn’t even break the ice, every time he try’s I speak to her in her language he get pissed of asks us to stop it. I play good cop bad cop with him and he chills out a bit. Plus he knows he’s beat as she keeps saying “he’s just jealous of you because he’s in love with me” and “you must go to the gym a lot you have big muscles” while she squeezed them. No I wrestle bears like your flat mate probably does right Ivon? He laughs. I use some new GSF stuff on her then she agrees to come home with me, but I tell her another time (as I have an early date Thursday and need some rest as I’ve been on it for a week solid. Not once did they ask why I was by myself think hard why that is… I will arrange to meet her at a later date when I’m free… Beckster: 3 Way Kissing Technique First you must build up the comfort with wit and humour- be cocky too- but in a way that makes everyone happy. Kino both HB’s a lot and build it up, give them both intimate time with you when one goes to the toilet/bar/use phone, start being a bit more serious like when seducing them, then do the other when she’s free. Then do it to each of them again, but in front of each other so it seems to the other HB that it’s the first time your turning on the charm with her mate and how easy you do it will attract her then again, do the other one too. The attraction will be high also the competition between women will also be strong, now you can say something like this: (Use this old one first) Me: “Who kisses better, men or women?” HB’s: “Women blah blah blah” Me: “So you have kissed a women before?” HB’s: (Always seem to say) “Yes, blah blah blah” Me: “There’s this test to find out which are better kissers, but you wouldn’t be interested as your friends, even though everyone at my Uni parties use to test the theory and it worked soooo well? …… Are you both open minded?” HB’s: “Yes” (Now you have just got them to say “Yes” to doing the game, but it way you have asked them, they have said yes to everything you ask in the sentence) now to confirm it before they realise, quickly say before they speak again. Me: “I knew you two would be cool and open minded, some people can be soo boring and miss out on fun and great opportunities, you both grab on for life right?”
  22. 22. HB’s: “Yes” (they normally giggle or something, remember you don’t have to say this word for word). Me: “OK, are you ready?” HB’s: “Yes” (Now I have made them say yes 3 times, the yes ladder is so powerful). Me: “Now this may seem weird to hear, but to feel how it works afterwards you will be amazed. Do you like being amazed by new and exciting things?” (REMEMBER PAUSES). HB’s: “Yes” (one more yes for luck lol, you can make them say yes them all day if you like and anchor it too). Me: “OK, all hold hands in a circle (you can be sitting or standing), now we must connect our lips together much like a kiss and the currents in our bodies will be attracted to the most strongest current (you can add this bit to if you want but don’t kill the moment “did you know each human body gives off enough electricity to power a light bulb”). Now girls shut your eyes and as we kiss on 3 (seconds) hold it there for 5 seconds try to feel who is giving off more power, if it’s the same we all our compatible.” Go through the motions and turn it into a snog. If this doesn’t work either blame them for trying to snog you or say, I wanna try that again. If you feel one was kissing you more, then you’ll be able to kiss her as soon as you alone with her, tell her you felt it more with her, did she with you, she should say yes as she was kissing you more then the other HB. Also you can get 3somes from this, I have and I haven’t even experiment much with it. Conquering Approach Anxiety (AA): 2 Perspectives Gambler: 1. Frame it differently. If you frame an approach as a do or die situation in which you are desperate for a close, this is high pressure. Frame it like this: You are being the fun sociable guy who will talk to people and have fun, and if you happen to be in an interaction with an HB (Hot Babe) that is going well, the close will be natural. 2. Take baby steps: If you are going in to close, you have a lot more to think about and you will have more AA. Instead, in the early days, just aim to open as much as possible. Don’t over think, just say hi to strangers or cheers them, or wave, or ask a simple question then leave. When you are comfortable opening, you can work on progressing things and actually start opening to close. 3. Reduce the pressure. Going up to a girl and telling her “I want you, and nothing is going to stop me getting you” would be pretty cool if it worked but is going to give you huge approach anxiety because there is too much pressure. Find simple reasons to start conversations to start with. Opinion openers are low-pressure and a much easier way to start a conversation.
  23. 23. 4. Don’t be too fussy. If you only approach SHBs (Super Hot Babes), it will take you years to get over your approach anxiety simply because there aren’t many about. Lower your standards for starting interactions until you can find 20 sets a night to open. You don’t need to close them, only open! You will still conquer your AA and then you can raise your standards again. Beckster: It’s called analysis paralysis, once you think about it longer then 3 seconds (hence the 3 second rule was invented) your inner voice takes over and you first have to have a debate with your inner voice to see if you will or will not approach. You may win or lose this battle in your head but even if you win your inner voice has spread doubt in your influenced mind, so you will be going in not the full ticket! You can battle this inner voice with your own voice and also using an anchor, I like to squeeze my fist and say in my head or out loud (for special) occasions) “MAN UP”. To me it means be the man, I’m a man, it’s a man’s right, lets get breeding. Its natural to breed, it’s the most powerful instinct so why fight it? why let that little voice that has been the bane of your life? Don’t let it mess with you anymore, because you know in your heart that every time you have stood up to your (bad) inner voice you have felt powerful and great, so why won’t you stand up to him, if you stand up to him you can stand up to anyone. The more you let that voice control you the more it will, until it’s so powerful that pretty much nothing but hypnosis can cure it!!! If you fight it every day, hour, minute, do crazy things, wave at people, stick your tongue out, wink and smile little things to start with until the voice dies out to a quiet murmur. Beckster: Kino Is King So we touch to feel someone or to make someone feel us. We use it to push our point, to exaggerate or put emphasis on our emotions. We when get (to) excited or sad. We use kino to say things without using words, to express what we can’t say without words also. So it’s not just as easy as saying touch her here, there and the other oooppss. And it’s not the same as sling your arm around everyone and shouting hey buddy. But a blue print can be used to help you along your way and you know what, you will never get better or good at it unless you practice. So some quick tips: Touch gently with the back of your hands and do not linger, pull away slowly other times quickly. Don’t look where you are touching her.
  24. 24. Use the back of your hands even better the finger nails. Push away from her as you do this, it’s none threatening and it confuses her mind if you like her or not, sort of push pull but with body language. Use your heels or toes to pivot away while you kino then pull yourself in again. Use indirect kino Use misdirection kino, “ is that David Beckham over there” as you point in at some random person and put your arm around her or on the small of her back. Touch non sexual erogenous zone behind the ear for example, please ROOT why you are doing this otherwise she will think you’re a perv. So think of a routine to allow you, also let me know how you get on. Touch her shoes not many people do that, root this with a routine to, you can really pull her leg on to your lap and inspect them, this works wonders it also conveys a lot of balls doing this and how different you are to other people. Don’t be scared to take a HB’s hand just root again why you are doing so. Leading is fine once enough kino has be installed, you will even be able to look her it the eyes and stick your arm out for her to link on to then parade her around the place. If it’s a 2set touch one but look at the other. This is a long and advanced one for another time. Along with boob-kino, yes I said boob-kino. I will leave you with a little game to practice which I call 3 touches in a minute. You must touch her 3 times on each side of her body in a minute, but you must keep swapping each side with each touch. Hard to explain I have a rough quickly knocked up u-tube video of it to help you get an idea.. Up up and Kino’s away……… Kino is King Megadirt: The Underestimated Benefits Of Going Out Bit of background info to start you off. My sudonym is Megadirt, or MD if you wish. I was the type of guy who would end up falling into lucky relationships with 7s or 8s and they would last a long time….I say long, 6 months at best. The repercussions of the break-up however lasted a LONG time, sometimes 2 years of nothing, no socialising even with people I already knew. I discovered the community when I was 16 (5 years ago) but when I was 16, as most 16 year olds do, I did everything half-assed, I fell into another relationship and just forgot about it. Earlier this summer my AFC friend got dumped just before taking his CB4 girlfriend to NewYork. So I went with him instead, and at a Playboy book signing picked up a book by my, by then, second only to Douglas Adams, favourite author Neil Strauss. It all came flooding back. I looked at my friend and his CB4 ex-gf (who came anyway) and all the acronyms and sudonyms patterns, everything I’d learned all of a sudden seemed to make more sense. For fear of being chastised I left
  25. 25. the book down and vowed to get it once I got back to familiar bookshops. So I read it tried and tested a few wings and have whittled it down to 3 very good eager to learn guys. I went to see Gambler and by the end of the day I was approaching like a motherfucker. First week back out I email close and F-closed a fortnight later, got a half assed relationship outve it. Not enough to make me leave the game. We went out once a week did one approach maybe, but would spend the rest of the week watching DVDs, reading E-books, making up scenarios. There got to a point where I realised that I could get past any womans LMR, AMOG the drunkest of guys and we were all really pleased with ourselves…..but we couldn’t approach anyone. Every week was the same, maybe open one or two sets, and then laugh it up when they went wrong, high five if they went right then my relationship ended, I watched the loverboy tribute to sarging video. It ended on a Thursday. I went out that night, and everynight until tonight. 9 Days. 9 Nights out. I figured out since last week Ive approached about 150 people. Early in the week the sets wouldnt hook that easily, or would go dry but we opened loads of them, got rid of the AA which was the point. Middle of the week wed hold sets for ages, theyd get slightly bitchy after a while but the interactions where fun. We have had to incorporate negs, C&F, false takeaways..all those little decorations for the stages and as of last night AMOGing. These two really drunk guys where diving right into the seduction stage hanging off girls and making them feel REALLY uncomfortable. I walked up, alpha handshake, “hey man hows it going I really love your tie, whered you get it, its really cool I had one just like it, where you guys out for tonight, just out drinknig on the pull? Thats really cool, youll go really far, youve a great sense of tact…” basically I just kept talking as I walked him and his friend over to the other side of the bar. I then opened the two set Id just saved, fired an opener at them, DHVd took a while, their shields where up a bit cos of the guys, but they invited us out the following day, one of the girls was really shy and submissive, the other quite dominant and playful. TBH, closing shouldve been no problem, but I just didnt, thats the next stage I have to get to, thats for next week. Another set I opened later that day had someone in it I already recognised, but she didnt recognise me, so I opened them and told her what her name was and she got a bit scared, I guessed her friends birthday to “proove” I was psychic. Then isolated her friend, teased her, c&f all was going well, pushed for the number close she “couldnt remember her number”. The interaction went quite well, but I dont think I displayed enough personality and it was quite near the end of the night but thats another step up, besides Ill see her again, if not, 7 billion people in the world ive still most of them to meet. Ive been at the game for 3 months, and I find that Ive had to extreme progress points, Gamblers workshop, and the past 9 days. The commonalities? Approach everything. High five people without drinks, clink glasses, say cheers or happy christmas, work the room. Ive internalised
  26. 26. more in the past week than I have in the apst 3 months just because of this, most of which was yesterday and the previous day. Game the world, old lady serving you in a shop wearing an odd scarf? Talk about it. Girl walks into you in the street? Bust her on it. Guy wearing your favourite bands t-shirt? Talk to him about them. Just talk to everyone, if you tease a guy working in a pizza shop, or a girl working in a bookstore, they probably aren’t going to accuse you of gaming them. Megadirt: Fear of success I’ve had many sticking points in my three and a half months of gaming. Approach anxiety because I was new to the game. Being able to talk in sets because I was so nervous. Keeping high energy because I was thinking negative thoughts. Creating attraction because I didnt understand about kino etc. Building comfort because I talked about myself a bit too much and didnt really care about them. These are all pretty generic, nothing to be ashamed of, they all make sense, easy to get past. But recently Ive hit an odd one. I hope other people get this and I’m not just mental. I cant number close. Not because she isn’t giving me enough IOI’s or is being bitchy, but because its going so well. I look at the girl who is hotter than anyone Ive ever spoken to before, she is feeling me up, rubbing against me, holding my hand from time to time and shes looking at me with those DDB eyes, this is the point when my that evil little man who lives in my head steps in and suggests “Look at her shes so hot, if you ask for her number, her friend will think you’re weird, and shes probably just putting all this on anyway” Ill give you guys a better idea by being more specific. Today me and WING went out to a bar called Stiff Kitten, it’s one of our regular establishments. We went in said hey to the bouncers and headed on down the steps and approached the bar, as I ordered my Vodka and red bull, I took a quick peripheral look around, guy sets and couples all the way. I started talking to WING, I noticed a two set a tall brunette HB7, and leading her down the steps, a half-Italian HB8.5 long legs, eyes you could lose yourself in, a hypnotic walk and most importantly a life with a me-shaped hole in it. I looked around, there was a set near them… a guy set, I briefly considered pawning them but just grew some balls and went in to the two set with no idea of what I was gonna say. ”Hey guys, where’s there thats good to go on a Saturday… that isn’t here or the Limelight?” ” Erm…..There’s the beach club…but they’ve got a really strict dress code, sometimes they wont let you in….” I cut her off here and looked offended “What are you trying to say?” in a cocky funny way, while indicating how well I was dressed. She laughed and continued “No no no, I mean if you go in wearing a mini-skirt sometimes they….” “Wow wow wow, what about my personality makes you think I’m gonna try and go in there in a mini skirt?” She laughed and lightly Kino’d me, I let her finish waht she was trying to say, thanked her Kino’d the obstacle lightly and went back to WING. He asked me if there was anywhere around for food that wasn’t takeaway crap. So I asked the set, “Hey guys, you were so much help the last time Im gonna let you consult me on my next problem, were can we get something to eat around here that isnt greasy and burger king-y.”
  27. 27. We fluffed for a bit, and then WING took care of the obstacle. We started talking she started to give me a bit of kino and she asked me what I did for work, we talked about her being half Itialian, and where abouts she was from, Sicily it turns out, and she asked how often I am in the Stiff Kitten. I wasn’t sure if the truth was a good idea but I said “About 4 times a week cos I love meeting new people, and it keeps work very seperate from my social life.” I also pointed out I wasnt an alcoholic and didnt drink everytime I was there. Her next question knocked me off guard “Have you read the game?” I replied with a cool, “yeah it’s cool” then she kept trying to make sure that I had constantly asking me questions about it, as if it was a DHV to have read it and she HAD to make sure. She then was really interested in my path from being a nervos little boy to my current situation. “I can’t imagine you being shy.” “Yeah this time 2 weeks ago my hair was long frizzy and I probably wouldnt be tlaking to you, this time 3 months ago I definately wouldn’t have been talknig to you, and this time 6 months ago I probably wouldnt even have been out at the bar.” “Have you a photo of you with your hair longer, you look really sexy now.” She was kinoing me so much at this point it was getting ridiculous, I was gonna have to close her. We fluffed for a while, it came time for both of us to go to our next destinations, my head kept saying “We should hang out sometime….. we should hang out sometime….we should hang out sometime…” She invited me to go with her to the bar she was going to, I didnt go because I was so skint I couldnt afford it, we both left about the same time, I didnt close her, I couldve real easily even when we left she looked back at us twice I couldve called her over and done it there but didn’t. I really don’t feel comfortable doing it, Im gonna have to get over that soon, Ill keep you posted as I get better. Gambler: The Importance Of Morals When Dealing With Women So you want the skill of a PUA which basically means you can have choice with women? You can have multiple long term relationships, you can have all the one-night stands you want, or you can find a good quality girl and stick with her. The problem for me is when guys don’t consider the woman’s wants whatsoever. Maybe they hate women for all the times they’ve been rejected and want to get their own back. This is messed up. Luckily most of our customers are good quality guys who love women and just want more control over their love lives. With great power comes great responsibility as Spiderman says. It is possible (and not even too difficult) to make sure you never break a girl’ heart. You just need to follow a few simple rules: -If you just want sex, you don’t need a conversation to set these rules, you just need to keep the intera -Now, by being honest and having morals, you MIGHT sleep with less women, but that love for women and the desire not to hurt them will make you more attractive and will earn you trust when you really want it.
  28. 28. -Keep the interaction light, not mislead her, and not connect with her on a deep level. You know what she wants in a boyfriend, don’t be it! -When you are dating, be honest. If you tell her you are seeing other women or don’t want something too serious, she won’t be investing emotion in something that isn’t real. -You are a PUA, you can find another girl easily, she might be heat-broken for months if you split up with her. Better to let the girl dump you. Just be needy and clingy and unattractive, you don’t need to start being a bastard. This isn’t about status, it’s about not being nasty when you don’t need to. Gambler: Seduction Tips – The Pick-Up Rules Don’t listen to the rules! You can’t buy drinks for girls. Don’t ask their name. Don’t give a compliment. Don’t pay attention to the one you fancy! Ignore all that rubbish. These rules should not be taken as law. If you are a millionaire, she is broke, and you are both thirsty from talking for 30 minutes, it’s fine to buy her a drink! Just avoid girls that ONLY want a drink, and don’t think of it as winning her over if you buy her a drink. Ask her name, its fine, getting a name is powerful, do it early. If you wait for her, chances are she will forget to ask, it’s an IOI if she asks, but most of the time they are caught up in the conversation and will forget! Give compliments. But do it right! Do it when you really feel it. Don’t be generic with the compliment, and don’t say it weakly. Deliver it deadpan. Compliments about character or something that she has done with herself that she wasn’t born with are always better. You only need to play hard to get if she is, if she is open to talking to you initially, don’t be distant, engage with her before she thinks you are interested in her ugly friend and decides to leave the two of you together! Take any rule with a pinch of salt. Find out what works for you. I break other guys’ rules every time I go out and still get tons of quality girls. Gambler’s PUA Method People think I’m a natural, but I’m not, I didn’t kiss a girl until 21! People call me good looking, thanks, but I was called ugly until my early twenties too. I have worked on every aspect of my character, and I’ve done everything possible to engineer my looks. I didn’t know anything about this stuff until late 2005. At that time, I’d only slept with 2 girls! When I got into Game, one of the first things I decided was that I didn’t want to limit myself in any way. I wanted to be able to do day game, night game, dance floor, basically anytime I saw a girl that I wanted to speak to, I wanted to be able to approach her. Naturally I’m not high energy, I was a shy, introvert, who wasn’t very sociable. I’ve learnt how to turn on my extrovert skills, but usually I’d prefer to not be too high energy. I can do it
  29. 29. however, I can hold a 6 set on my own for 20 minutes, and do crazy flashy things. I guess these are skills that naturals don’t have, so it is a mark of a PUA. Students like it, I have a rule on 1-on- 1s that I’ll open any set they tell me to, so I had to develop this skill. I’ve got a super high energy game, and it’s there when I need it. After doing 500+ hours of training, I have state control, I can switch it on and off anytime. More likely, if I see a big set with a girl I want in it, I’ll go directly to her, when Steve/Vertex says he’s never done a mixed set and things like this, he has, he just did it in this way. I game in different ways when I’m training, so I’ll talk about how I game when I’m doing things for myself. I’ve got two types of styles: 1. Very direct and fast escalation. 2. Slow burning girlfriend close. In the first style, I’ll attract the girl’s attention from a distance, force an IOI (verbally or non- verbally), go in in a sexual state and escalate quickly. This is how I got a 20 minute street to bed with a genuine HB9 (on the Vertex & Gambler scale, I only SAW three 9s in 2006), and it’s how I got 2 k-closes at Movida on Wednesday without even talking to the girls first. I use a lot of non- verbal stuff, I can even have a little conversation non-verbally to warm the girls up. This style of mine took a while to develop, you need complete confidence and authority otherwise it just won’t work. The example is beckoning a girl to come over to you, if you do it with doubt, she won’t come. If there is no doubt in your mind that the girl will come over to you, then it will work. This style is good for fast escalation in clubs, ONSs, etc. The girl doesn’t know you, so if you just want something casual, do this. If you want something more, you need to connect with her, and that’s where I employ my second method. In the second style, I’ll be semi-indirect to start. By semi-indirect I mean I’m not putting on a show for the girl or using time-constraints etc, but I am just coming across like a sociable person that wants to chat to them. I aim to hook by being more funny and interesting than what they were doing and then get into rapport. I do this crazy deep connection stuff. I focus on digging out real emotions. Emotions are attached to memories, passions, future dreams, etc. I elicit and connect on this. This is where the girls say “I trust you”, “I feel like I’ve known you for 3 months”, and it melts them pretty well. So I’ve got this connection, at some point I switch to a sexual character and this brings in the sexual tension. She knows I know that I can kiss her, and the tension builds. It’s up to me when I do it. I’ve had girls I’ve brought back to my house, haven’t kissed them at all so far, and they still are naked in bed within 10 minutes. When they know you can kiss them but wait, the tension builds, and it’s not that awkward type because they know you are doing it on purpose rather than just being scared. So I use this to get my girlfriend close. The GF- close is basically when they would move in with me, commit to a relationship, whatever, just after a few hours. Another facet of this style is my
  30. 30. complete honesty, I will tell them my job, if I have any other girls, if I don’t like something about them, etc. What this does is it makes my emotion for them and the compliments I give much more powerful because they are genuine. I love women. I’m honest with them. I don’t try and control them. I don’t exploit them. Here’s my take on social proof game: I use it. Sometimes. 2 times recently I’ve done “The Takeover” where we will just take over a section of the club and create a bubble around us, any girl in that bubble will be a warm approach. I’ll work the room, be ultra high energy, dance around like a nutter, do all that stuff. Last bootcamp, on the Sunday night, there were more than 10 close-able girls, and when I left, some ran after me to make me take their number. I got solid closes from only a couple of minutes. What I don’t do is talk to people who I don’t want to, when I don’t feel like it. Just like I can’t bring myself to use a routine or canned lines in a PU, I can’t be fake with people who I’m just trying to get something from. It works fine for me, I’ve spent no time schmoozing but still get film premieres, VIP parties, etc. In my opinion, social circle game is much easier so it’s worth trying to get HBs in your social circle. The owner of a model agency needs no game. Can you say that game is getting the girls whether it comes from a cold approach, or whether it comes from you making friends with her boss? Sure you can, I just morally object to working people like that. My morals also extend to demos for students, and how I treat my girls. I’ve never broken a girl’s heart! I manage relationships very very well. I don’t n-close a girl I wouldn’t call just to demo it. I don’t play with them or take things too far. I don’t use an unwitting pivot and then leave her to go off with an HB. This isn’t Zan level stuff of spending an hour with a fat girl just to make her feel better. I just will do what is in my power to not hurt girls. If I got blown out, I’d never do anything rude in response. On bootcamps, we teach the elements of social proof game, since they apply to making people like you, making a good impression, etc. Gambler: Strip Club Game Not many guys that come to bootcamps have considered stripper game. A lot of people view strippers as little better than prostitutes. The thing is that in London, a stripper can earn £1000 a night in a top venue. Guys are not allowed to touch, the girls are well looked after, and the crowd is much better than you would find in an average club. This means that a hot girl can make a lot more from stripping than she could for most other things. She can work for a few months and save up enough money to put towards a house or something else. So, the upshot is that the strip club is not full of skanky bitches, it’s filled with generally good quality girls. They could be students, they could have a dream of being a singer or model, or yes, they could be a skanky bitch. The point is, the girls
  31. 31. will be no worse than the average that you find in a night club in character, and will be a LOT better in looks. Not all the girls are hot in a strip club, there are some fat ones, there are some with ugly faces. But the average standard is much higher, and chances are that out of 70 girls, 2 or 3 will be HB8s (on our strict scale). The other misconception is that you are going to need to buy loads of dances. You don’t. We spend very little money at the strip club (1 drink). We get in for free with vouchers, buy our drink, and sit there for a few hours and game the girls. Favourite strip clubs in London for gaming the girls are Stringfellows in Wardour St and Upper St Martin’s Lane (next to my house!), Spearmint Rhino, and Secrets in Chancery Lane or Euston. Gambler: Looking back and forward: Personal If I look back at what I’ve achieved in terms of increasing my skill with women, building the business, and working on my character, I’m very satisfied. If I had just learned game and never thought about training, I would have quit learning about 9 months ago. At that point, I could go out a few times a week and get numbers to line up dates for the rest of the week. I kept on trying to improve because I wanted to be the best that I could so that I would offer the best service to customers. I wasn’t improving for myself, I went beyond that. So now I date fashion models and strippers, the kind of girls that are considered the hardest to pick up. I don’t really know what to work on next, but I do know that if I can take another PU holiday in a place with hot women, I’ll come back with a whole bunch of new refinements to my game and teaching method. I think the next step could be further research on state control. I want to be able to generate the state at will that women find irresistible. It is easy to get into this state if you’ve got a bunch of k-closes around a club, but I’d like to be able to generate it any time. Something I need to do is bring back some balance. I work almost exclusively on PUA stuff, I have meant to do lots of classes and courses but just haven’t had the time. I’ve started going to the gym for the first time in my life which is good for my energy levels and fitness but haven’t done the other things I’ve meant to. I want to do Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for martial arts & fitness. I want to do some yoga/pilates classes because I am very inflexible. I want to learn Portuguese (for when I go to Brazil), and Russian. I have loads of books I want to read. On an even more personal note, I’ve met lots of good friends and girls through moving to London and dedicating my time to PUA. These are people that will always be part of my life now, and it’s amazing to see what big events small decisions have lead to. People that have read my story might imagine that I’m not at all an introvert anymore, but I still am. I still prefer small groups, 1on1 conversations, and need time to myself. I just have the extravert skills when necessary.
  32. 32. Gambler: Eye Contact, Rapport & Conversational Flow I was on a 1on1 the other day and had some deeper realisations on eye contact. We were in set together, I was winging and observing my student whilst he was in set. I noticed that I was able to get my girl comfortable and in rapport very quickly but his conversation seemed to be a bit stop-start. A lot of guys also tell me that they run out of things to say, etc. I used to have this problem, but maybe I wasn’t completely conscious of all the elements I have now that make this not happen anymore. He was breaking eye contact to think of what to say next. When you break eye contact, the other person’s attention can wander. They will look around the room, things will catch their eye, the eye wanders and then the mind wanders. It will break them out of the moment. It’s very difficult to do this if someone is holding eye contact with you, you might look away but you will feel drawn back in. I knew this already, but what I realised was the timing of the eye contact break. If you break it when there is a break in the conversation (end of subject, thinking of what to say next), then it increases the strength of the break and creates the stop-start kind of conversation. If you break eye contact when they are in flow or you are in flow, they still have the words there to hold their attention so it is more acceptable and doesn’t create that break. I advocate constant eye contact, but I notice that I break it when I’m winging, talking to guys, or generally talking to people that I don’t want to be attracted to me. But I break it when there is not a conversational break, this means that I only lose the attraction but not the flow. Another factor was that he nodded and moved his head a lot when the girl was speaking. Subconsciously, this told her that she should finish what she is saying quickly. We all know what it is like when someone is nodding and saying “aha, yeah, aha”, it’s annoying and it communicates that they have something to say. He wasn’t verbally doing this, but he was nodding and moving his head quickly which both makes it look like he wasn’t listening well and made her think he wanted to jump in with something to say. If you can keep eye contact and match their vocal tone and be relaxed in your body language, you can create an environment where they forget about the whole room and everything going on for a few minutes, it’s almost hypnotic. I think this is what I do, and this is why my conversation flows. We are focused completely on each other, I’m not in my head wondering what to say, and they aren’t looking around getting distracted. It is powerful. Of course, eye contact is also essential for the seduction phase… Gambler: 93% Of Gaming Is Non-Verbal This is a recent realisation of mine. It goes against conventional thought, and it goes against all the guys that constantly ask “what should I open with”.
  33. 33. In a night club, you can k-close without saying a word. Sexual tension is generated almost completely through non-verbal communication. Of course, day-game has a much larger verbal element, and it is kind of stupid that most of the pickup material is verbally heavy but focused on clubs. “Who lies more” doesn’t work in the street or supermarket. Clubs are noisy, the girls have lower attention spans, and in big cities there are often a large number of foreign girls. Assuming the basic rule that number closes are for the day-time and physical closes are for the night game (because one is a sexually charged environment with alcohol and the other isn’t) most of how night game is taught should focus on non-verbal communication. There is a shortage of day-game material. My non-verbal game includes forcing IOIs, sexual tension generation, sexual state projection, and conveying attractive qualities (sexual confidence, relaxed, indifferent, non- needy). Gambler: Fast Closes And Text Game, Gaming The Lazy Way When I first started gaming, I opened 20 sets or so a night, partly to get lots of practice and partly because the sets weren’t lasting that long. Then I got good, and only opened girls that I wanted. For the past 6 months, i’ve been going for solid closes with very targeted girls. I’d go to the club and usually only open one girl, and they’d be the ones that I stay with for the rest of the night. Because of the amount of time we are together, it’s pretty much guaranteed that they’d want to see me again. I called this “the girlfriend close”. Recently I’ve been gaming with a different style, this is similar to what Beckster has been doing for years. I’ll go to a club and get 5 or more numbers of the hottest girls. I might only be in set with them for a short time. Normally all we have is attraction. I’ll get the number and then I’ll send them the same series of text messages which is designed to get them back to my house. From Wednesday I’ve got 3 dates arranged, and from Thursday another 2. The girls are hot, some models, all meet my criteria of looking good without make-up, bening thin, and having other attractive qualities outside their looks. For my first time trying this style it went well, but I think with some refinements I could line up dates for the whole week from just one night out. Of course, one constraint on this is the quality of the girls, and luckily now I’ve found the best places in London for hot girls so I can guarantee that I’m going to be attracted to quite a few of them vs none of them in the usual Leicester Square venues. Natural Game vs Routine-based, Gambler’s take I have never directly commented on this arguement - is it better to develop a script and go out and use it to pull women, or is it better to try and be natural? On our bootcamps, we take the view that it is easier to get started and build confidence if you
  34. 34. have some material to fall back on, and that is why we teach some. Personally I used canned material and routines to begin with and it took a few months to completely leave them behind. Assuming someone is a PUA or MPUA, why would they still use routines? Here are my problems with routine based game: 1. The woman is being attracted to a fake you, do you want someone to be attrracted, like, or love you for who you are or not? 2. Men that have choice and skills with women do not need to lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, or trick a woman into bed. Fake DHV stories, openers, kiss- close techniques, etc are all fakery that substitute putting yourself on the line. 3. Do we really want a girl that would fall for all this shit? I know it works on a lot of girls, but it puts me off a girl when she falls for it! 4. There is a chance I could end up in a relationship with a girl I use a routine stack on, could I live with myself knowing that I might not have got her if I didn’t use it? Can I look at her every day knowing she fell for “who lies more?” Do I want a girl that any routine robot might have been able to get? 5. This is the biggest of all. When you use a routine stack time and time again. you can’t calibrate to how much you like the girl. Whether you just want to sleep with her or whether you really really like her, you use the same shit. So what happens? Girls that you don’t like too much feel a connection with you because you ran all this emotional stuff on them and you are going to break a lot of hearts. Does someone who is great with women need to do this? Shouldn’t he be better and more moral than the average guy. Normally it is desperation that causes a guy to lie and use tricks (and even spike girls drinks), so why do these so-called PUAs still do it? 6. Are you developing yourself and making yourself into a more attractive man if you are working so much on your outer game, and specifically the script you use? Doesn’t that make you a weirdo? Of course, this stuff all has it’s place and i’m glad I had some openers and stuff when I first started but the goal of us all should be to leave it all behind as soon as possible. Steve: Sexual Escalation - Gaming For Sex After Short Interactions I wanted to write this post after thinking about the 10 step guide to natural game. I’ve seen posts / spoken to guys about their view on game and have noticed that there tends to be a ubiquitous view that the “process” should be followed, dogmatically, religiously, at all times. Either MM, SS or whatever. Pulled a HB 8.5 and are attracting well? Better lather some rapport on there sonny jim, otherwise you in fo a whole heap o flaking. In a group situation? Better go in a take care of the CB’s first, and fo sho don’t game the target direct,
  35. 35. cos she’ll blow you out and kick you to the kerb, girlfriend. Bollocks. I’m speaking from my own personal experience on this matter, so what I wanted to talk about was the notion of having to have all this rapport / comfort in order to ensure the HB will meet you again after the first encounter. In my view, it’s not necessary, at least not to the degree that a lot of guys seem to think. Attraction and fascination will do just fine. NOTE : Obviously it’s preferable to have some kind of connection, however I am posting this because I think it’s helpful in situations where : (i) There isn’t enough fucking time for rapport i.e train station, tube, etc etc.(ii) You’re in an environment where there are lots of HB’s and you don’t want to spend hours with her talking shite. (iii) You get the point. Here is an example which illustrates the point, with follow up: I met HB 8.5 tall redhead at Cheltenham train station last Friday, I thought I would game her for a laugh as I haven’t been doing too much recently. Me : Hey how long does x take to get to London, it doesn’t say on the boardHB 8.5 tall redhead : Er about 2 hours I thinkMe : Wow you’re really expressive with your hand gestures, what are you a gangster or something? You Italian? (Fake gangster accent a la Robert De Niro, with exaggerated hand gestures) Ehhh, forget abaaaat it, so where you goin eh? Hot damn..HB 8.5 tall redhead (laughing): I’m going to Swindon Me : Whatchou goin there for, wassa matta withchu? Come with me to London.. (Puts hand under chin and gestures toward her, gangster style HB 8.5 tall redhead (laughing more) : Hey I’d love to but I’m tired from work, blah blah Me : Ah yeah, work eh. Hah I bet you’re tired, climing up that pole, stripper girl. Thus the convo was started So we get on the train and talk more, I tell her I have been to see my accountant and she tells me she is a trainee account. At this point we’re sitting opposite each other, so I move across next to her and show her my expenses on my laptop (I also show her pics of HB Spanish model who I’ve been shagging, I don’t know why but this came up) So I have about 1 hour to game her, plenty. keep busting on her about various things and then go kino. Hardcore. Started off brushing a bit of hair off her face and told her I love readheads, she says I’m cheesy but is loving it. We’re chatting like this for a while and then some guy sits opposite so I open up my laptop and start typing messages for her on the screen. It revolves around star signs and sexuality, I tell her that she is a naughty girl and a typical red head, she accuses me of being a player, doing this all the time etc…I eventually say to her that I think we should go to the toilets and fuck, she