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In response to why i raise my children without god

  1. 1. 2013 In Response To: “Why I Raise My Children Without God” Why I Raise My Children To Have Faith In God’s Will? Observation: God is a bad parent and role model. Response: How God Is Not A Bad Role Model? Observation: God is not logical. Response: How God Is Logical? Observation: God is not fair. Response: How God Is Fair? Observation: God does not protect the innocent. Response: How God Protects The Innocent? Observation: God is not present. Response: How God Is Present? Observation: God Does Not Teach Children to Be Good. Response: How Does God Teach Children To Be Good? Observation: God Teaches Narcissism. Response: How God Does Not Teach Narcissism? ―Schools and governments will make decision based on what is logical, just and fair‖ and God will judge how logical, just and fair were those who run the schools and the system of governance. Zahid Hussain Khalid Written for Wordpress, Slideshare, Facebook and Twitter 3/1/2013
  2. 2. In Response To: “Why I Raise My Children Without God” By: Zahid Hussain Khalid I Raise My Children To Have Faith In God’s Will?In response to:Why I Raise My Children Without God?When my son was around 3 years old, he used to ask mea lot of questions about heaven. Where is it? How dopeople walk without a body? How will I find you? Youknow the questions that kids ask.For over a year, I lied to him and made up stories that Ididn’t believe about heaven. Like most parents, I lovemy child so much that I didn’t want him to be scared. Iwanted him to feel safe and loved and full of hope. Butthe trade-off was that I I didn’t believe either.One day he would know this, and he would not trust myjudgment. He would know that I built an elaboratetale—not unlike the one we tell children about Santa—to explain the inconsistent and illogical legend of God.And so I thought it was only right to be honest with my children. I am a non-believer, and for years I’ve been on the fringein my community. As a blogger, though, I’ve found that there are many other parents out there like me. We are creatingthe next generation of kids, and there is a wave of young agnostics, atheists, free thinkers and humanists rising up throughthe ranks who will, hopefully, lower our nation’s religious fever.Here are a few of the reasons why I am raising my children without God. And reasons (in blue) for raising children byknowing God.Why I Raise My Children To Have Faith In God’s Will?My children are grown up. I encourage them to keenly observe, carefully analyze and make a choice after looking intoevery available option. Once they make up their mind they need to follow their head and heart not only for their own goodbut common good. This is where they have to ―TRUST in GOD but KEEP their POWDER DRY!‖ And that is what Godalso wants us to.
  3. 3. He claims that he has created the life and the universe and everything therein. Do I have a reason to believe otherwise? Iam looking for someone other than God to make a similar claim and prove that too. Why do I expect that? There isnothing in this world that has been created by someone and does not carry the name of its creator with it. Why doesanyone not come forward as a creator of life and universe? I like God as an ANONYMOUS creator of something thatremains unclaimed by any other creator than God throughout the human history.The ongoing process of evolution is nothing but a divinefour-word key to unlock the mysteries of life anduniverse: Observation, Analysis, Conclusion andAction. This is what I have learnt from my father and Ihave passed onto my children. That is the key toknowing God and being a good human being.Why Did I Do That?Observation: God is a bad parent and role model.If God is our father, then he is not a good parent. Good parents don’t allow their children to inflict harm on others. Goodpeople don’t stand by and watch horrible acts committed against innocent men, women and children. They don’t condoneviolence and abuse. ―He has given us free will,‖ you say? Our children have free will, but we still step in and guide them.Response: How God Is Not A Bad Role Model? He created us in a universe full of everything that we need and live there in any way as we please. He not only did that He categorically gave us a code of conduct too consisting of a cross-road: One Right and the other Wrong, one may call it Good and Evil also, listing the benefits and the cost of opting any one of the two respectively equipping us with brain to make wise choices without interfering in our choices to differentiate between right and wrong. Isn’t it freedom of choice? I want my children to exercise that choice! God asks questions and triggers mind. Mind is unveiling the mysteries of life and universe. One day human beings, on their way, ultimately find and see the God too. The questions children ask are asked by the God too. You can see God in your Children’s questions.Observation: God is not logical.How many times have you heard, ―Why did God allowthis to happen?‖ And this: ―It’s not for us tounderstand.‖ Translate: We don’t understand, so we willnot think about it or deal with the issue. Take forexample the senseless tragedy in Newtown. Rather thanaddress the problem of guns in America, we deferresponsibility to God. He had a reason. He wanted moreangels. Only he knows why. We write poems saying thatwe told God to leave our schools. Now he’s making uspay the price. If there is a good, all-knowing, all-powerful God who loves his children, does it makesense that he would allow murders, child abuse, wars,brutal beatings, torture and millions of heinous acts tobe committed throughout the history of mankind?Doesn’t this go against everything Christ taught us inthe New Testament?The question we should be asking is this: ―Why did we allow this to happen?‖ How can we fix this? No imaginary personis going to give us the answers or tell us why. Only we have the ability to be logical and to problem solve, and we shouldnot abdicate these responsibilities to ―God‖ just because a topic is tough or uncomfortable to address.
  4. 4. Response: How God Is Logical? We send our children to school for learning the art of living through acquiring necessary knowledge and skills for doing that. We call it education. Education is a step by step process of acquiring knowledge. A person acquires knowledge for its application to make his life worth living. He either passes in doing that or fails. we humans are students of a larger school called universe. We are free to explore, learn and apply. For that we cooperate, coordinate and act individually and collectively making wise and unwise choices, friends and foes in this process of acquiring knowledge and then applying it in practical life. We have developed our own codes of social conduct to follow. We reward those who do well and punish those who do not follow the rules. We have our choices of social conduct and good or evil consequences of the same too.When we demand freedom of choice in whatever we do then how can we blame God for its consequences? God has givenus a choice to be and to do what we want to! Isn’t it very Logical Choice? The Choice you are in favor of!Observation: God is not fair.If God is fair, then why does he answer the silly prayersof some while allowing other, serious requests, to gounanswered? I have known people who pray that theycan find money to buy new furniture. (Answered.) Ihave known people who pray to God to help them win asoccer match. (Answered.) Why are the prayers ofparents with dying children not answered?If God is fair, then why are some babies born with heartdefects, autism, missing limbs or conjoined to anotherbaby? Clearly, all men are not created equally. Why is agood man beaten senseless on the street while an evilman finds great wealth taking advantage of others? Thisis not fair. A game maker who allows luck to rulemankind’s existence has not created a fair game.Response: How God Is Fair? Prayers are answered when the intentions and the actions are aligned at a right moment in an appropriate way. Parents’ prayers with dying children are not answered indicating that there is something lacking in human knowledge that needs to be probed and acquired. This again is a part of nature’s well designed automated system of evolution of different disciplines of social and natural sciences. This is neither GAME nor LUCK.Observation: God does not protect the innocent.He does not keep our children safe. As a society, we stand up and speak for those who cannot. We protect our little ones asmuch as possible. When a child is kidnapped, we work together to find the child. We do not tolerate abuse and neglect.Why can’t God, with all his powers of omnipotence, protect the innocent?
  5. 5. Response: How God Protects The Innocent? God has blessed human being with wisdom and means to evolve a system of governance that is based on equal access to different platforms of social and economic justice. If the code of social conduct is violated by human being and access to justice is denied then human beings are to be blamed for that not God.Observation: God is not present.He is not here. Telling our children to love a person theycannot see, smell, touch or hear does not make sense. Itmeans that we teach children to love an image, an imagethat lives only in their imaginations. What we teachthem, in effect, is to love an idea that we have created,one that is based in our fears and our hopes.Response: How God Is Present? God is everywhere and in everything. Only the eyes cannot see Him but hearts and souls do feel His presence when a person truly believes in God, has true faith in Him and looks for Him with open eyes, mind and heart. He makes His presence felt in many ways.Observation: God Does Not Teach Children to Be GoodA child should make moral choices for the right reasons.Telling him that he must behave because God iswatching means that his morality will be externallyfocused rather than internally structured. It’s like tellinga child to behave or Santa won’t bring presents. Whenwe take God out of the picture, we place responsibilityof doing the right thing onto the shoulders of ourchildren. No, they won’t go to heaven or rule their ownplanets when they die, but they can sleep better at night.They will make their family proud. They will feel betterabout who they are. They will be decent people.Response: How God Teaches Children To Be Good?There is no need to tell the children that God is watching enabling them to make moral choices for the right reasons. Thesociety they live in requires them to do that even if they don’t believe in God. God has given the choice to the people to beeither responsible or irresponsible as every society has a unanimous code of responsible social conduct giving the samechoice to its members as God has given. Being good is being a good human being and that is what God wants. God haskept His rights between himself and an individual but when a human being violates another human being’s right He hasdeclared that the violation of an individual’s right will not go unpunished unless the person whose rights have beenviolated forgives the person guilty of violating his rights. The purpose is to inculcate a sense of respect for each other inhuman beings. Can there be a better teaching than this one.Observation: God Teaches Narcissism―God has a plan for you.‖ Telling kids there is a big guy in the sky who has a special path for them makes childrennarcissistic; it makes them think the world is at their disposal and that, no matter what happens, it doesn’t really matterbecause God is in control. That gives kids a sense of false security and creates selfishness. ―No matter what I do, God
  6. 6. loves me and forgives me. He knows my purpose. I am special.‖ The irony is that, while we tell this story to our kids,other children are abused and murdered, starved and neglected. All part of God’s plan, right? When we raise kids without God, we tell them the truth—we are no more special than the next creature. We are just a very, very small part of a big, big machine–whether that machine is nature or society–the influence we have is minuscule. The realization of our insignificance gives us a true sense of humbleness. I understand why people need God. I understand why people need heaven. It is terrifying to think that we are all alone in this universe, that one day we—along with the children we love so much—will cease to exist. The idea of God and an afterlife gives many of us structure, community and hope.I do not want religion to go away. I only want religion to be kept at home or in church where it belongs. It’s a personaleffect, like a toothbrush or a pair of shoes. It’s not something to be used or worn by strangers. I want my children to befree not to believe and to know that our schools and our government will make decisions based on what is logical, just andfair—not on what they believe an imaginary God wants.Response: How God Does Not Teach Narcissism?Nothing in the universe from an ant to an elephant andfrom a human being to an ape is insignificant. Whatmakes anyone of any significance is the way hebehaves. Having said that, God has empowered everyliving soul to live the life in any manner he pleases to.The society is supreme in world we live in and God willjudge us not by our acts but our deeds in the Day ofJudgment. A good human being in the world we live inis promised to be treated as a good human being in theworld after too. The realization of our significance andnot our insignificance gives us a true sense ofhumbleness.―Schools and governments will make decision based on what is logical, just and fair‖ and God will judge how logical, justand fair were those who run the schools and the system of governance. Zahid Hussain Khalid has worked for national and international media groups not as a journalist but a marketing practitioner, researcher and analyst. He successfully initiated and completed the assigned managerial and country tasks for such publications as Arab News, Financial Times, Jang Group, Euromoney magazine, Petroleum Economist, South China Morning Post, Asiamoney magazine, Innovation Management and Hong Kong Standard except Forbes Inc, Forbes Global, Forbes Europe, Forbes Asia. I will always remain thankful to Mr. William Adamapolous and Mr. Steve Forbes of Forbes Inc and Mr. Tony Shale CEO, Euroomoney Institutional Investor Group (Jersey) Limited for their personal encouragement and support in initiating and marketing Pakistan-specific innovative integrated media packages for investment promotion. He also worked as Associate Producer, Current Affairs, Pakistan Television Corp.His articles have appeared in the Daily Jang, Daily Mashriq, the Nawa-e-Waqt, daily The Muslim and weekly Akhbar-e-Jehan on social, economic, political, diplomaticand military subjects which are available here and here had co-produced more than hundred episodes of the most popular weekly program “Hafta-e-Rafta” and was nominated for Best Producer’s award fordocumentaries on Afghan Refugees and Year of the Aged.His work reflects a visible difference because he strongly believes in innovative approach in everything that he does. He was co-owner of International Media Salesfrom 1991 to 2012 and is owner of SUN&FZ Associates since 1994.