>The ideal is that courtship ( pagmaya-maya , literally flirting or "fooling around") is improper, inevitably leading to premarital sex, and that only a total prohibition of any contact between unmarried persons of the opposite sex can prevent the normal human tendency to engage in sexual relations if given the opportunity.
a guy must talk to his parents and tell them to whom he wants to marry.
Parents of the girl will decide who will be her husband whether she like it or not.
A tausug guy can court someone but be sure that the guy must not touch the girl.
It is prohibited to have a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend unless it's a fixed marriage agreed by both parents.
Courtship is “haram” the guy must talk straight and ask the girl to marry in front of their parents.
Arranged marriage by parents.
It is okay to be together as long as the guy won't touch the girl.
It is prohibited to both of you to watch movie in the movie house or “cinehan” you must be in a group.
there’s no such thing courting a girl before, the guy must go direct to the girl’s house and have an agreement with the family of the girl.
Courting must be accompanied by proposal.
There’s a three session the guy must do:
1 st session- the guy must visit the family of the girl and tell his purpose. The guy must bring with him an “ustads”- a representative, who is familiar with the Islam Law.
2 nd session - the representative of each clan will make an agreement about the value of the dowry and will set a date for their wedding.
3 rd session - will be the wedding.
Same as the others but the relationship will be secret and just keep it within themselves.
The guy must give the demands or requests by the girl's parents.
>There is no publicly recognized courtship between unamarried young people; ideally marriages are arranged by parents.
>it is SHAMEFUL for a young man and woman to be caught together; or for a girl merely to be touched by a man. >shame or “sipug” in tausug
A young man cannot- and in practice does not- publicly confront an unmarried girl. His knowledge of her must be indirect, based upon reputation parental background, and external appearance and demeanor.
PREPARED BY: FAMINDALAN, ZENEF MANDAC ,PATRICK JAY LIT 101- C