People are experts on their own life, thoughts, feelings
People are capable of making their own decisions
Highly values the experience of the person and the importance of their subjective reality
Recognizes everyone as unique
Rescuing Abandoning Sometimes we may feel responsible, but we can’t solve other people’s problems –only they can. We don’t want to tell people what to do but create a situation where someone feels more capable to make their own decisions
Can begin a conversation: How are you? Where would you like to begin? Would you like to talk about it? Can help elaborate on a point: How did you feel when… How do you feel about… Can help to focus: What happened today? When you say your family doesn’t understand, what do you mean by that? Can provide specific facts: What happened after that?
This is when you name what you think a person may be feeling or experiencing.
*You add something new
Peer: Describes an argument between himself and his father over the father’s refusal to lend him money.
TRIP! Volunteer: “you feel hurt that your dad wouldn’t lend you the money”
I got wasted last night and instead of taking care of me, my friends bailed. What the ef! They are supposed to care what happens to me I wanted to try e. My friends say it’s harmless, but I read an article that said it could kill me?! I’m not sure I want to try it anymore... I think my partner cheated on me, but I am not exactly sure. I kind of want to confront them, but I am not sure if that’s going to help or make things worse
acknowledges the worth of the caller and their right to their feelings. It reassures people that it is ok to have the feelings they have and recognizes the callers realities and experiences as being genuine
Ex. That must be difficult. You have every right to be upset
Ex. You take pride in your appearance and it hurts when someone doesn’t acknowledge that