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Elegantly

  1. 1. “Elegantly” Juggling Home And Work: Why Isn’t The Balancing ActExpected From Men? #CloseTheGap By Lata Jha
  2. 2. Perfect balance• I  find  it  strange  that  most  discourses  on  women  empowerment  and  eulogies  of  accomplished  females  are  centred  around  the  idea  that  as  complete individuals’ and ‘women of substance’, they’ve managed  to  balance their personal lives with their profession, by giving as  much  importance  to  their  families  as  they  gave  to  their  career.  
  3. 3. Without a break• That they were always around to attend parent teacher  meetings, organize their kids’ birthday parties and tuck them  into bed every night while meeting deadlines and achieving  difficult targets at work.• It’s a little disconcerting because the ability to balance both  aspects of their lives, especially the domestic, seems to be an  important expectation we have only from women.
  4. 4. The mindset• I do not question the inherent concept of women caring and nurturing, or the fact that they make a home.• I do however think that the balancing act is something men have an equal, if not more, responsibility to achieve.• People would gently and occasionally advise him to not miss out on his kid’s childhood, that he would regret being a money minting machine all his life.• But it would never be something the society woke up to and looked down upon.• He would shrug his shoulders simply saying that he doesn’t care, or that it’s the wife and kids he’s working so hard for.
  5. 5. • But God forbid if there was a woman with kids who dared to dream and lead life on the same lines.• She would be nothing less than the vamp, not worthy of being a mother at all.• Her own family would ridicule her every single day, or I wouldn’t be surprised if she had no family left at all soon.
  6. 6. We play with different rules?• We have different rules, standards, yardsticks and expectations from men and women. And I say this from experience.• Having fathers who were single-mindedly devoted to their jobs, I’ve seen girls being told by relatives that while they were free to pursue their dreams, they couldn’t‘afford’ to be like their dads.• It just wasn’t done for a girl. They would, at some point, have to put the family before everything else in their lives.• That their fathers had managed to sail through life, but as women, they couldn’t.
  7. 7. Equal parts• I do not doubt people’s good intentions. Nor do I want to dole out moral scriptures on parenting.• I just feel it’s important for both partners in a marriage, and in society, as a whole, to balance their personal and professional lives.• With the kind of environments we’re living in and the pace at which kids grow up and become detached, they need both their parents to have a happy, secure and normal childhood.• The man can’t just wear the pants when he wants to and shirk responsibility when it’s convenient.
  8. 8. Close the gap• We need to close the gap that exists between people’s expectations from men and women, the norms that they have set for both, and the double standards that they often practise.• As beings who make the home and the world, we deserve that.
  9. 9. • Read more on Youth Ki Awaaz http://bit.ly/WIoKvR
  10. 10. • Read more on Youth Ki Awaaz http://bit.ly/WIoKvR

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