Issue 3, October 2010
IN THIS MONTHS
YOUR BODY IMAGE: Cellulite
Decorating: Make your guests
feel welcome in your home.
STYLE TIPS: The Slimming
Power of vertical lines
Relationships: The 5
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Rebecca, Steph and Dee are excited
to have joined the Pink Book Club.
This fantastic organisation is all
about ―you time‖ for women, and
sharing experiences, knowledge,
skills, support with lots of fun and
laughter—which suits us down to
the ground. We hope to help branch
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We would also love you all to get
modern (if you aren‘t already) and
find us on FaceBook. What did we
ever do without it? It is such a
fantastic way to build a community.
Make your guests feel welcome in
Next time you have
friends or family come
to stay even if it is just
overnight go all out to
make them feel
welcome and special.
These small touches will make your guests feel so welcome in your home.
There is nothing nicer These days you can buy miniature toilet-
than a guest walking ries at the supermarket or even get into
into your home and the habit of collecting them when you
into the room they will stay in nice hotels and build a collection
be sleeping in to find a up so that you can use them when friends
nice surprise. or family come to stay.
I always like to go one step further and
even put a few choccies on the bed to
really top things off!
“This is such a simple but
effective way to make your
home a sanctuary not only
for you but anyone who
Always leave fresh towels out
on the bed along with some
beautiful and simple toiletries.
―Loved it! Found it so interesting. It took things I thought I
new about to the next level. Thank you. I can‘t wait to go
and put some of it into practice.‖ - Natalie.
This is one of the many fantastic testimonials we received
from our recent workshop in Perth. Don‘t forget we have
more workshop opportunities coming up:
Go to http://www.yourlifestyled.com.au/events/ for more
details or phone 1800 123 484 .
Your Life Styled will be coming back even bigger and
better in the New Year. We have some exciting things
planned so stay tuned.
Dee in action at our September 11 event.
can‘t we just accept it?
I don‘t remember ever NOT hav-
ing cellulite. As a teenager of
thirteen I remember looking in
the mirror at my dimpled thighs
and feeling ABSOLUTELY
HIDEOUS! I assumed that be-
cause I had cellulite I must also
be huge (Its only in the last few
years I have been able to look
back and see that I definitely
wasn‘t huge). But I was in com-
parison to the models that I was
seeing in all the magazines. And
they didn‘t have cellulite. Not a
speck! At least not that we never
saw - I don‘t know if they had
photo shop or air brushing back
This picture was found on the web hi-lighting the dimples on the
back of a cat-walk model‘s thighs. I am not trying to be scandal-
ous, poke fun, judge or bitch. I just think women of all ages need
to aware MOST OF US HAVE CELLULITE! It‘s a girl thing. It
certainly makes me feel less of an ogre to know that highly paid
and adored supermodels have cellulite too. It might be a bad cam-
era angle—but I am sure us normal gals stare at ourselves and
judge in the worst light at the worst angle and see stuff that
others rarely do.
can‘t we just accept it?
I honestly believe the self—loathing I felt for my body at thirteen was
a major catalyst for me developing an eating disorder that led me to
waste years of life, precious time I will never get back, opportunities I
missed because I was waiting till I was“ skinny enough” and to con-
template taking my own life. Luckily for me I was able to recover. I still
have the odd battle with body issues, and I definitely still have cellulite.
Most importantly I have learnt that most of us will have aspects of our
bodies that we will never love, but we can still love ourselves. We can
learn how to minimise the bits of us we don‘t like so much and emphasise
those that we love. And we must stop comparing ourselves and our bits
with other women, we all come in our individual packages, all made up of
good and not so good bits, and cannot be compared. It is my passion now
through Your Life Styled and Goddess Impressions to spread a wave of
healthy body image through women today, if I can save even one person
from the depths of despair I felt when I hated my body then it will be
Poor Mischa Barton copped a lot
of flack in the media not long ago
for these photographs showing
her with cellulite on the backs of
her legs and bum. I can‘t help but
wonder if this constant sledging
contributes to her yo-yo dieting!
I don‘t know why some women
get it and some don‘t—but judg-
ing by Mischa (and a lot of oth-
ers) it is certainly not because she
is overweight. It is my hunch that
it is a genetic thing, and therefore
being persecuted for having it is
like being persecuted for having
a particular colour skin.
To airbrush or not to airbrush?
I found this image of an “untouched” plus
size model on the internet. The photographs
that had been published apparently had the
models legs looking smooth as steel.
I would love to know what others
think—are dimples so unsightly we
have to hide them - or could we
just get used to them if we saw it
Help other women by
sharing your stories, please
email your opinions and
experiences about body
image issues to:
Dee Noney is an Image Consultant
who‘s passion is to not only help
you create the image you want to
present on the outside, but also opti-
mise how you feel about yourself
inside—from all aspects— includ-
ing your body image. For more
information go to
Coaching Kids Series -
Labels and Positive Communication
The early years in a child’s life are critical to their development.
Up until somewhere between the ages of 7 – 9, a child‘s brain is like a huge sponge
and soaks up absolutely everything it sees and hears. This is also a time of creating
values, which are often copied by close role models around them.
Although we adore our children, and do absolutely anything to protect them, we of-
ten neglect to protect them from negative environments, situations and WORDS.
Children absorb all of this literally and often carry these emotions and tags through
to adulthood, which then can create a whole new set of problems within itself (i.e.
depression, anxiety, lack of self-worth etc.).
An example of this is constantly telling your child they have learning problems.
This is what they now believe and that is how it will be for them, even if they are
very capable, they now carry that label. Or maybe telling them they shouldn‘t eat
too much as they will get fat. This could cause eating disorders in future.
Now I am not saying to pussy foot around your children – they still need to learn
life lessons. But what I do encourage if they are exposed to unhealthy situations to
try and give them some closure so they do not carry that baggage with them for life.
Try to keep your communications with your children as positive as possible, and try
not to expose them any situations that
you believe may cloud their values.
Personal Performance Coach
The Slimming Power
of vertical lines
Many ladies know that horizontal stripes will make then
look wider (in most cases) . But did you also guess that
verticals will make you look slimmer? Well they do. A
long vertical line causes the eye to move up and down giv-
ing the appearance of increased length. As a bonus -when
you appear taller you can appear slimmer. Vertical lines
also divide width, breaking it up making it appear less
wide. The important thing to remember is, it is not just
Vertical lines can also be created by:
The pleats/folds in a way a garment hangs
Layering garments over the top of each other
Scarves, ties, necklaces
Creases pressed in pants
Monochromatic dressing (creates a column of one col-
our which is like a solid vertical line)
Colour blocking (wearing one colour all the way up
the inside - like the picture with the red jacket)
You can also do the same wearing the same colour up
the outside and a contrast on the inside (for example a
suit with a black skirt and jacket with a white blouse).
And of course patterns in the garment (see front page)
Life changes and your expectations, outlook
and needs change as you grow and mature.
To satisfy those evolving needs,
relationships and life forces need to be
continually Re-negotiated, Re-aligned and
Deep inside I know I need renewed direction, balance
My Personal, Family & Business Life is unclear, heavy
and full of fear of the unknown.
I’m Frustrated, Tired and Bored”.
“YES, I AM LOST.”
How do I re-ignite that Enthusiasm?
Sarvaga Light will change the way you think about your current reality.
Using simple but effective techniques Sarvaga Light will guide you to a place of
"Re igniting Enthusiasm for Life"
Member of Institute Johan with the team at our recent Your Life Styled
of Complimentary Therapists Workshop. As well as being our fantastic MC, he
keeps us grounded if we get stressed and lifts us
when we need it.
―Love doesn‘t erase the past, but it has the
ability to make the future different‖
What happens to love after the ‗honeymoon‘? In Gary Chapman’s book, The 5
Love Languages, he speaks about how speaking the language of our partner is im-
perative to a successful relationship. He states that couples who understand each
other‘s love language hold a priceless advantage in the quest for love that lasts a life-
time – they know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel truly and
So what are the 5 Love Languages? I speak about this, and other topics exten-
sively in my programs and it is a very simple and effective concept to learn. I want
to share with you briefly here what these love languages are, and how understanding
them can effectively increase the chances of a positive outcome for your relation-
The first love language is Words of Affirmation. Verbal compliments or spoken ap-
preciation are powerful communicators of love to some. What would happen in a re-
lationship if there was only words of criticism and negativity? Your partner wouldn‘t
feel very loved if they constantly heard those words. What if you spoke words of af-
firmation regularly? What if you used encouraging words and empowering lan-
guage? What would that evoke in your partner? They would begin to feel good about
themselves, they would feel empowered and they would feel loved and appreciated,
and their ‗love tank‘ will be filled.
The second love language is Quality
Time. Quality Time is giving someone
your undivided attention. It doesn‘t mean
sitting on the couch watching a TV show
together. It means sitting down, TV off,
facing your partner and giving each other
your undivided attention. Taking the time
to really listen to what your partner is
saying, and communicating with them,
will enhance and fulfill them and will in
turn nourish your relationship. When
you sit down with your partner and give
each other your undivided attention, you
are effectively giving & receiving love.
It can be a powerful communicator of
The third love language is Receiving Gifts. Gifts are visual symbols of love. Most
wedding ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. These are symbols of
never ending love and unity. This symbol has emotional value. Visual symbols of
love are more important to some people than to others. If receiving gifts is your pri-
mary love language you will cherish receiving special gifts and you will attach the
emotion of love to the gift. To the person whose primary love language is receiving
gifts, generally, the cost of the gift will not matter. It‘s the meaning you associate to
the giving of the gift that is important to you.
The fourth love language is Acts of Service. This is meant by doing things for others
that you know they would like you to do. Acts such as cooking a meal, vacuuming
the floor, cleaning the car or paying the bills are all acts of service. They require
thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If these acts of service are done with a
positive spirit they are expressions of love.
The last love language is Physical Touch. Physical Touch is a powerful vehicle for
communicating love. For some people, physical touch is their primary love lan-
guage. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, they feel secure in the love of their
partner. This also applies to babies – they require physical touch to thrive, and to feel
loved and taken care of. Touching your partner as you walk through the room takes
only a moment, but to the person who holds Physical Touch as their primary love
language, it means the world. Touching each other when you leave the house, or ar-
rive home may involve only a brief kiss or hug, but it will speak volumes to your
The question now arises – Do you know what your primary ‗Love Language‘ is?
How do you discover your love language, and that of your partner? It is essential if
you are to keep their emotional ‗love tank‘ full.
For further information on this topic, we have extensive pro-
grams that cover in concise detail the above, and a lot more re-
garding communication & relationships. Contact me on 1800
123 484 if you would like some clarity on the above informa-
How‘s your love life?
Why Did You Fall in Love? Whether it was love at first sight or the slow
simmer of friendship into true love, the early days of your relationship may hold
the key to your present-day intimacy. Spending some time remembering why you
first fell in love can be a good way to restore some perspective (and spark) to your
Start by revisiting some of your early memories - you may have even saved some
letters, cards or photos from those first holidays and special occasions together. Re-
reading them can get you back into the state of mind that you were in when every-
thing was new and exciting. Old photos work, too, for conjuring up memories and
surprising yourself with moments and little nuances you had long forgotten.
You can keep your discoveries to yourself as a source of private appreciation, or you
can share them with your partner. Sometimes it's fun to reminisce together and re-
weave the bonds of affection that connected you in the first place. Remember the
time we did this...? Or the moment you both knew it was right...?
Focusing on those positive memories may be the key to shifting things from
neutral back into oh so hot and steamy!
Fai Kur is not only a qualified Sexual Health
Therapist, she can also host a sex toy party
that is fantastic fun. Get to know her at an up-
coming Your Life Styled event when she is
one of our special guest speakers or contact
her at email@example.com or 0412147917