Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change  the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to ...
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the footpath. I fall in. I am lost…..I am  hopeless. It isn’t my fault. It...
 
<ul><li>“ I am overweight and I can’t do anything about it – it’s genetic.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ My wife has had an affair,...
This Dog is Victim to Who?
<ul><li>They live in a constant state of perceived powerlessness, refusing to grow up, take responsibility and feel …………… ...
<ul><li>I always have a choice. (I can always change my attitude.) </li></ul><ul><li>There are only 2 things I have to do;...
<ul><li>I will stop  must erbating and I will stop  should ing on myself. </li></ul><ul><li>I will not say or think: </li>...
Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change  the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to ...
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The victim v's ownership

  1. 1. Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference
  2. 2. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the footpath. I fall in. I am lost…..I am hopeless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.   I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the footpath. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But, it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.   I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the footpath. I see it is there. I still fall in….. It’s a habit….but My eyes are open, I know where I am, It is my fault, I get out immediately.   I walk down the same street, There is a deep hole in the footpath I walk around it.   I walk down a different street!  
  3. 4. <ul><li>“ I am overweight and I can’t do anything about it – it’s genetic.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ My wife has had an affair, my marriage is over, and it’s her fault.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ My business is failing because of the economy. I am powerless to turn it around.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I am depressed and I can’t find my way out of it – there is nothing I can do about it.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I don’t love my wife anymore, but I can’t change the way I feel.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I hate my job but I can’t leave my job because I have a family to feed.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ It’s not my fault.” (It was Eve!) </li></ul><ul><li>“ Why does it always happen to me?” </li></ul><ul><li>“ There is nothing I can do about this.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I have to…” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I should…” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I must…” </li></ul>The Victim Thinks...
  4. 5. This Dog is Victim to Who?
  5. 6. <ul><li>They live in a constant state of perceived powerlessness, refusing to grow up, take responsibility and feel …………… whilst they learn to cope. </li></ul><ul><li>Possible UBF’s </li></ul><ul><li>Inadequate/Stupid </li></ul><ul><li>Responsibility </li></ul><ul><li>Guilty </li></ul><ul><li>Shame </li></ul>The Victim Refuses to Feel Shame
  6. 7. <ul><li>I always have a choice. (I can always change my attitude.) </li></ul><ul><li>There are only 2 things I have to do; </li></ul><ul><li>Take up physical space on the earth. </li></ul><ul><li>Breath. </li></ul><ul><li>I have to feel… inadequate/stupid/guilty/responsible sometimes in order to grow up! </li></ul>The Victim Doesn’t Know
  7. 8. <ul><li>I will stop must erbating and I will stop should ing on myself. </li></ul><ul><li>I will not say or think: </li></ul><ul><li>“ I should…” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I have to…” </li></ul><ul><li>“ I must…” </li></ul><ul><li>“ You make me feel…” </li></ul><ul><li>Because, I want to and I choose to! </li></ul><ul><li>And! I will ask, ‘how did I contribute to this’. </li></ul>Determine from this day forth…
  8. 9. Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference

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