Extraordinary
                          Experiences
                         Is it Real, or is it Hallucination?
         ...
Extraordinary
                          Experiences




Monday, March 16, 2009
Extraordinary
                          Experiences
                   • Overview




Monday, March 16, 2009
Extraordinary
                            Experiences
                   • Overview
                   • What are Extraord...
Extraordinary
                            Experiences
                   • Overview
                   • What are Extraord...
Extraordinary
                            Experiences
                   • Overview
                   • What are Extraord...
Overview




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Overview

                   • Introductions




Monday, March 16, 2009
Overview

                   • Introductions
                   • Bereavement vs. Grief vs. Mourning



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Overview

                   • Introductions
                   • Bereavement vs. Grief vs. Mourning
                   • ...
Loss




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Loss

                   • Bereavement




Monday, March 16, 2009
Loss

                   • Bereavement
                   • Grief



Monday, March 16, 2009
Loss

                   • Bereavement
                   • Grief
                   • Mourning


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Why Consider EEs




Monday, March 16, 2009
Why Consider EEs

                   • Promote Mourning Process




Monday, March 16, 2009
Why Consider EEs

                   • Promote Mourning Process
                   • Common




Monday, March 16, 2009
Why Consider EEs

                   • Promote Mourning Process
                   • Common
                   • Real to O...
Why Consider EEs

                   • Promote Mourning Process
                   • Common
                   • Real to O...
Why Consider EEs

                   • Promote Mourning Process
                   • Common
                   • Real to O...
Description of EEs




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Description of EEs

                   • Categorizations




Monday, March 16, 2009
Description of EEs

                   • Categorizations
                   • Responses



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Description of EEs

                   • Categorizations
                   • Responses
                   • Authenticity
...
Description of EEs

                   • Categorizations
                   • Responses
                   • Authenticity
...
Definition of EEs




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Definition of EEs

                   • Spontaneous




Monday, March 16, 2009
Definition of EEs

                   • Spontaneous
                   • Previous uncommon occurrence



Monday, March 16, ...
Definition of EEs

                   • Spontaneous
                   • Previous uncommon occurrence
                   • ...
Categories of EES




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Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence




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Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence

                   •     Auditory




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Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence

                   •     Auditory

                   •     V...
Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence

                   •     Auditory

                   •     V...
Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence

                   •     Auditory

                   •     V...
Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence

                   •     Auditory

                   •     V...
Categories of EES
                   •     Feeling Presence

                   •     Auditory

                   •     V...
Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
...
Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
...
Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
...
Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
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Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
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Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
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Categories of EES
                   •                        •
                         Feeling Presence       4th party
...
Common Responses




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Common Responses
                   • Permission




Monday, March 16, 2009
Common Responses
                   • Permission
                   • Relief




Monday, March 16, 2009
Common Responses
                   • Permission
                   • Relief
                   • Strengthened Faith




M...
Common Responses
                   • Permission
                   • Relief
                   • Strengthened Faith
     ...
Common Responses
                   • Permission
                   • Relief
                   • Strengthened Faith
     ...
Common Responses
                   • Permission           • Freedom
                   • Relief
                   • Stre...
Common Responses
                   • Permission           • Freedom
                   • Relief               • I’m Not A...
Common Responses
                   • Permission           • Freedom
                   • Relief               • I’m Not A...
Common Responses
                   • Permission           • Freedom
                   • Relief               • I’m Not A...
Common Responses
                   • Permission           • Freedom
                   • Relief               • I’m Not A...
Test of Authenticity




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Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?




Monday, March 16, 2009
Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?

                   •     Pattern?




Monday, March...
Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?

                   •     Pattern?

                ...
Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?

                   •     Pattern?

                ...
Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?

                   •     Pattern?

                ...
Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?

                   •     Pattern?

                ...
Test of Authenticity
                   •     Suggestive of deceased?

                   •     Pattern?

                ...
Universal Message




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Universal Message

                 I’m okay and you can be okay, too.




Monday, March 16, 2009
Using EEs in Therapy




Monday, March 16, 2009
Using EEs in Therapy
                         Not for every therapist




Monday, March 16, 2009
Using EEs in Therapy
                         Not for every therapist
                         -   Open-minded




Monday,...
Using EEs in Therapy
                         Not for every therapist
                         -   Open-minded
           ...
Using EEs in Therapy
                         Not for every therapist
                         -   Open-minded
           ...
Using EEs in Therapy
                         Not for every therapist
                         -   Open-minded
           ...
Therapist’s Function




Monday, March 16, 2009
Therapist’s Function
                   • Timing of an inquiry




Monday, March 16, 2009
Therapist’s Function
                   • Timing of an inquiry
                   • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigm...
Therapist’s Function
                   • Timing of an inquiry
                   • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigm...
Therapist’s Function
                   • Timing of an inquiry
                   • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigm...
Therapist’s Function
                   • Timing of an inquiry
                   • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigm...
Therapist’s Function
                   • Timing of an inquiry
                   • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigm...
Key Questions




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Key Questions
                   •     What’s different?




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Key Questions
                   •     What’s different?

                   •     Who is it from?




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Key Questions
                   •     What’s different?

                   •     Who is it from?

                   •  ...
Key Questions
                   •     What’s different?

                   •     Who is it from?

                   •  ...
Key Questions
                   •     What’s different?

                   •     Who is it from?

                   •  ...
Key Questions
                   •     What’s different?

                   •     Who is it from?

                   •  ...
Key Questions
                   •                            •
                         What’s different?          Expres...
Key Questions
                   •                            •
                         What’s different?          Expres...
Key Questions
                   •                            •
                         What’s different?          Expres...
Key Questions
                   •                            •
                         What’s different?          Expres...
Key Questions
                   •                            •
                         What’s different?          Expres...
Key Questions
                   •                            •
                         What’s different?          Expres...
Affirming/Responding




Monday, March 16, 2009
Affirming/Responding
               • Write




Monday, March 16, 2009
Affirming/Responding
               • Write
               • Sing




Monday, March 16, 2009
Affirming/Responding
               • Write
               • Sing
               • Chant



Monday, March 16, 2009
Affirming/Responding
               • Write
               • Sing
               • Chant
               • Post


Monday, Ma...
Affirming/Responding
               • Write
               • Sing
               • Chant
               • Post
            ...
Affirming/Responding
               • Write             • Ritualize
               • Sing
               • Chant
          ...
Affirming/Responding
               • Write             • Ritualize
               • Sing              • Symbolize
        ...
Affirming/Responding
               • Write             • Ritualize
               • Sing              • Symbolize
        ...
Affirming/Responding
               • Write             • Ritualize
               • Sing              • Symbolize
        ...
Affirming/Responding
               • Write             • Ritualize
               • Sing              • Symbolize
        ...
Dangers




Monday, March 16, 2009
Dangers
                   • Loss of self-reliance




Monday, March 16, 2009
Dangers
                   • Loss of self-reliance
                   • Failure to seek deeper communion




Monday, March...
Dangers
                   • Loss of self-reliance
                   • Failure to seek deeper communion
                 ...
Dangers
                   • Loss of self-reliance
                   • Failure to seek deeper communion
                 ...
Dangers
                   • Loss of self-reliance
                   • Failure to seek deeper communion
                 ...
Dangers
                   • Loss of self-reliance
                   • Failure to seek deeper communion
                 ...
My Heart Will Go On




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Louis LaGrand calls those strange things that happen after the death of a love one "Extraordinary Experiences."

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    1. 1. Extraordinary Experiences Is it Real, or is it Hallucination? Using Mystery to Aid Mourners J. Worth Kilcrease, LPC, FT Monday, March 16, 2009
    2. 2. Extraordinary Experiences Monday, March 16, 2009
    3. 3. Extraordinary Experiences • Overview Monday, March 16, 2009
    4. 4. Extraordinary Experiences • Overview • What are Extraordinary Experiences (EEs) Monday, March 16, 2009
    5. 5. Extraordinary Experiences • Overview • What are Extraordinary Experiences (EEs) • Using EEs in Therapy Monday, March 16, 2009
    6. 6. Extraordinary Experiences • Overview • What are Extraordinary Experiences (EEs) • Using EEs in Therapy • Warnings Monday, March 16, 2009
    7. 7. Overview Monday, March 16, 2009
    8. 8. Overview • Introductions Monday, March 16, 2009
    9. 9. Overview • Introductions • Bereavement vs. Grief vs. Mourning Monday, March 16, 2009
    10. 10. Overview • Introductions • Bereavement vs. Grief vs. Mourning • Why consider EEs? Monday, March 16, 2009
    11. 11. Loss Monday, March 16, 2009
    12. 12. Loss • Bereavement Monday, March 16, 2009
    13. 13. Loss • Bereavement • Grief Monday, March 16, 2009
    14. 14. Loss • Bereavement • Grief • Mourning Monday, March 16, 2009
    15. 15. Why Consider EEs Monday, March 16, 2009
    16. 16. Why Consider EEs • Promote Mourning Process Monday, March 16, 2009
    17. 17. Why Consider EEs • Promote Mourning Process • Common Monday, March 16, 2009
    18. 18. Why Consider EEs • Promote Mourning Process • Common • Real to Observer Monday, March 16, 2009
    19. 19. Why Consider EEs • Promote Mourning Process • Common • Real to Observer • Need to Share Monday, March 16, 2009
    20. 20. Why Consider EEs • Promote Mourning Process • Common • Real to Observer • Need to Share • Personal Growth and Affects Identity Monday, March 16, 2009
    21. 21. Description of EEs Monday, March 16, 2009
    22. 22. Description of EEs • Categorizations Monday, March 16, 2009
    23. 23. Description of EEs • Categorizations • Responses Monday, March 16, 2009
    24. 24. Description of EEs • Categorizations • Responses • Authenticity Monday, March 16, 2009
    25. 25. Description of EEs • Categorizations • Responses • Authenticity • Universal Message Monday, March 16, 2009
    26. 26. Definition of EEs Monday, March 16, 2009
    27. 27. Definition of EEs • Spontaneous Monday, March 16, 2009
    28. 28. Definition of EEs • Spontaneous • Previous uncommon occurrence Monday, March 16, 2009
    29. 29. Definition of EEs • Spontaneous • Previous uncommon occurrence • Originates from outside Monday, March 16, 2009
    30. 30. Categories of EES Monday, March 16, 2009
    31. 31. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence Monday, March 16, 2009
    32. 32. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence • Auditory Monday, March 16, 2009
    33. 33. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence • Auditory • Visual Monday, March 16, 2009
    34. 34. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence • Auditory • Visual • Olfactory Monday, March 16, 2009
    35. 35. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence • Auditory • Visual • Olfactory • Dreams Monday, March 16, 2009
    36. 36. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence • Auditory • Visual • Olfactory • Dreams • Symbolic Monday, March 16, 2009
    37. 37. Categories of EES • Feeling Presence • Auditory • Visual • Olfactory • Dreams • Symbolic • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    38. 38. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • Auditory • Visual • Olfactory • Dreams • Symbolic • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    39. 39. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • • Auditory Out-of-body • Visual • Olfactory • Dreams • Symbolic • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    40. 40. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • • Auditory Out-of-body • • Visual Animals & Birds • Olfactory • Dreams • Symbolic • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    41. 41. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • • Auditory Out-of-body • • Visual Animals & Birds • • Olfactory Psi Kappa • Dreams • Symbolic • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    42. 42. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • • Auditory Out-of-body • • Visual Animals & Birds • • Olfactory Psi Kappa • • Dreams Synchronicity • Symbolic • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    43. 43. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • • Auditory Out-of-body • • Visual Animals & Birds • • Olfactory Psi Kappa • • Dreams Synchronicity • • Symbolic Crisis apparition/Premonition • 3rd Party Monday, March 16, 2009
    44. 44. Categories of EES • • Feeling Presence 4th party • • Auditory Out-of-body • • Visual Animals & Birds • • Olfactory Psi Kappa • • Dreams Synchronicity • • Symbolic Crisis apparition/Premonition • • 3rd Party Telepathic Thoughts Monday, March 16, 2009
    45. 45. Common Responses Monday, March 16, 2009
    46. 46. Common Responses • Permission Monday, March 16, 2009
    47. 47. Common Responses • Permission • Relief Monday, March 16, 2009
    48. 48. Common Responses • Permission • Relief • Strengthened Faith Monday, March 16, 2009
    49. 49. Common Responses • Permission • Relief • Strengthened Faith • I’m Still Loved Monday, March 16, 2009
    50. 50. Common Responses • Permission • Relief • Strengthened Faith • I’m Still Loved • The Body Dies, Love Doesn’t Monday, March 16, 2009
    51. 51. Common Responses • Permission • Freedom • Relief • Strengthened Faith • I’m Still Loved • The Body Dies, Love Doesn’t Monday, March 16, 2009
    52. 52. Common Responses • Permission • Freedom • Relief • I’m Not Alone • Strengthened Faith • I’m Still Loved • The Body Dies, Love Doesn’t Monday, March 16, 2009
    53. 53. Common Responses • Permission • Freedom • Relief • I’m Not Alone • Strengthened Faith • Advice • I’m Still Loved • The Body Dies, Love Doesn’t Monday, March 16, 2009
    54. 54. Common Responses • Permission • Freedom • Relief • I’m Not Alone • Strengthened Faith • Advice • I’m Still Loved • Hope of Reunion* • The Body Dies, Love Doesn’t Monday, March 16, 2009
    55. 55. Common Responses • Permission • Freedom • Relief • I’m Not Alone • Strengthened Faith • Advice • I’m Still Loved • Hope of Reunion* • The Body Dies, • Reduce Fear of Love Doesn’t Dying* Monday, March 16, 2009
    56. 56. Test of Authenticity Monday, March 16, 2009
    57. 57. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? Monday, March 16, 2009
    58. 58. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? • Pattern? Monday, March 16, 2009
    59. 59. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? • Pattern? • Solace? Monday, March 16, 2009
    60. 60. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? • Pattern? • Solace? • Intuitive feeling? Monday, March 16, 2009
    61. 61. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? • Pattern? • Solace? • Intuitive feeling? • Encouraging? Monday, March 16, 2009
    62. 62. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? • Pattern? • Solace? • Intuitive feeling? • Encouraging? • Spiritual Awareness? Monday, March 16, 2009
    63. 63. Test of Authenticity • Suggestive of deceased? • Pattern? • Solace? • Intuitive feeling? • Encouraging? • Spiritual Awareness? • DID IT BRING PEACE? Monday, March 16, 2009
    64. 64. Universal Message Monday, March 16, 2009
    65. 65. Universal Message I’m okay and you can be okay, too. Monday, March 16, 2009
    66. 66. Using EEs in Therapy Monday, March 16, 2009
    67. 67. Using EEs in Therapy Not for every therapist Monday, March 16, 2009
    68. 68. Using EEs in Therapy Not for every therapist - Open-minded Monday, March 16, 2009
    69. 69. Using EEs in Therapy Not for every therapist - Open-minded - On-going familiarity Monday, March 16, 2009
    70. 70. Using EEs in Therapy Not for every therapist - Open-minded - On-going familiarity - Understand various beliefs Monday, March 16, 2009
    71. 71. Using EEs in Therapy Not for every therapist - Open-minded - On-going familiarity - Understand various beliefs - Comfortable with criticism from scientific-oriented colleagues Monday, March 16, 2009
    72. 72. Therapist’s Function Monday, March 16, 2009
    73. 73. Therapist’s Function • Timing of an inquiry Monday, March 16, 2009
    74. 74. Therapist’s Function • Timing of an inquiry • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma Monday, March 16, 2009
    75. 75. Therapist’s Function • Timing of an inquiry • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma • Relate to beliefs of mourner Monday, March 16, 2009
    76. 76. Therapist’s Function • Timing of an inquiry • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma • Relate to beliefs of mourner • Review message received Monday, March 16, 2009
    77. 77. Therapist’s Function • Timing of an inquiry • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma • Relate to beliefs of mourner • Review message received • Pose questions Monday, March 16, 2009
    78. 78. Therapist’s Function • Timing of an inquiry • Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma • Relate to beliefs of mourner • Review message received • Pose questions • Explore choices for usage Monday, March 16, 2009
    79. 79. Key Questions Monday, March 16, 2009
    80. 80. Key Questions • What’s different? Monday, March 16, 2009
    81. 81. Key Questions • What’s different? • Who is it from? Monday, March 16, 2009
    82. 82. Key Questions • What’s different? • Who is it from? • What is the message? Monday, March 16, 2009
    83. 83. Key Questions • What’s different? • Who is it from? • What is the message? • How can you use it? Monday, March 16, 2009
    84. 84. Key Questions • What’s different? • Who is it from? • What is the message? • How can you use it? • Want to respond? Monday, March 16, 2009
    85. 85. Key Questions • What’s different? • Who is it from? • What is the message? • How can you use it? • Want to respond? • What do you need? Monday, March 16, 2009
    86. 86. Key Questions • • What’s different? Expression of love/ caring? • Who is it from? • What is the message? • How can you use it? • Want to respond? • What do you need? Monday, March 16, 2009
    87. 87. Key Questions • • What’s different? Expression of love/ caring? • Who is it from? • Your expression of love? • What is the message? • How can you use it? • Want to respond? • What do you need? Monday, March 16, 2009
    88. 88. Key Questions • • What’s different? Expression of love/ caring? • Who is it from? • Your expression of love? • What is the message? • How to honor? • How can you use it? • Want to respond? • What do you need? Monday, March 16, 2009
    89. 89. Key Questions • • What’s different? Expression of love/ caring? • Who is it from? • Your expression of love? • What is the message? • How to honor? • How can you use it? • New goal/dream? • Want to respond? • What do you need? Monday, March 16, 2009
    90. 90. Key Questions • • What’s different? Expression of love/ caring? • Who is it from? • Your expression of love? • What is the message? • How to honor? • How can you use it? • New goal/dream? • Want to respond? • What can you do now? • What do you need? Monday, March 16, 2009
    91. 91. Key Questions • • What’s different? Expression of love/ caring? • Who is it from? • Your expression of love? • What is the message? • How to honor? • How can you use it? • New goal/dream? • Want to respond? • What can you do now? • What do you need? • What have you learned? Monday, March 16, 2009
    92. 92. Affirming/Responding Monday, March 16, 2009
    93. 93. Affirming/Responding • Write Monday, March 16, 2009
    94. 94. Affirming/Responding • Write • Sing Monday, March 16, 2009
    95. 95. Affirming/Responding • Write • Sing • Chant Monday, March 16, 2009
    96. 96. Affirming/Responding • Write • Sing • Chant • Post Monday, March 16, 2009
    97. 97. Affirming/Responding • Write • Sing • Chant • Post • Speak Monday, March 16, 2009
    98. 98. Affirming/Responding • Write • Ritualize • Sing • Chant • Post • Speak Monday, March 16, 2009
    99. 99. Affirming/Responding • Write • Ritualize • Sing • Symbolize • Chant • Post • Speak Monday, March 16, 2009
    100. 100. Affirming/Responding • Write • Ritualize • Sing • Symbolize • Chant • Contemplation • Post • Speak Monday, March 16, 2009
    101. 101. Affirming/Responding • Write • Ritualize • Sing • Symbolize • Chant • Contemplation • Post • Mindful Action • Speak Monday, March 16, 2009
    102. 102. Affirming/Responding • Write • Ritualize • Sing • Symbolize • Chant • Contemplation • Post • Mindful Action • Speak • LOVE Monday, March 16, 2009
    103. 103. Dangers Monday, March 16, 2009
    104. 104. Dangers • Loss of self-reliance Monday, March 16, 2009
    105. 105. Dangers • Loss of self-reliance • Failure to seek deeper communion Monday, March 16, 2009
    106. 106. Dangers • Loss of self-reliance • Failure to seek deeper communion • Relying on questionable guidance Monday, March 16, 2009
    107. 107. Dangers • Loss of self-reliance • Failure to seek deeper communion • Relying on questionable guidance • False sense of security Monday, March 16, 2009
    108. 108. Dangers • Loss of self-reliance • Failure to seek deeper communion • Relying on questionable guidance • False sense of security • Failing to perform grief work Monday, March 16, 2009
    109. 109. Dangers • Loss of self-reliance • Failure to seek deeper communion • Relying on questionable guidance • False sense of security • Failing to perform grief work • Universal need for continuing bond Monday, March 16, 2009
    110. 110. My Heart Will Go On Monday, March 16, 2009

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