Know Thyself – Socrates
Norms for TRUST  T rust yourself .  R esonate with the conversation.  U nderstand different perspectives. S et your mind o...
Looking Back to Look Ahead  Where are we going?
Let’s Think The capacity to know oneself and to know others is an inalienable part of the human condition, as is the capac...
<ul><li>3 Concepts </li></ul><ul><li>1)  Attunement </li></ul><ul><li>2) Empathic Accuracy </li></ul><ul><li>Looping </li>...
<ul><li>Attunement: what is it? </li></ul><ul><li>- Paying attention </li></ul><ul><li>to another’s feelings. </li></ul><u...
 
 
 
<ul><li>Empathic Accuracy: what is it? </li></ul><ul><li>- The degree of accuracy when </li></ul><ul><li>noticing, reflect...
<ul><li>Looping: what is it? </li></ul><ul><li>- The creation and maintenance of a </li></ul><ul><li>loop of emotional fee...
 
Trust Makes All the Difference! Trusted Coaching, © 2009 Relationship-focused Creativity-focused Logic-focused Task-focused
Communication Styles Communication Styles Adapted  from Marilyn Tabor’s Coaching for Excellence Trust Makes All the Differ...
Communication Styles Adapted  from Marilyn Tabor’s Coaching for Excellence Trust Makes All the Difference! Trusted Coachin...
<ul><li>Traits –  </li></ul><ul><li>Eye contact </li></ul><ul><li>Smiling  </li></ul><ul><li>Nodding  </li></ul><ul><li>Ot...
Visit  www.trustedcoaching.com   Email  [email_address] Call 909-921-4338
<ul><li>Sometimes all we need is to be listened to. </li></ul>
<ul><li>Sometimes all we need is to be listened to. </li></ul>
<ul><li>I learned from my partner. She’s been through tough things and that made me appreciative. </li></ul>
<ul><li>If I’m quiet and listen, I can learn.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>I’m a talker.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Prayer first.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>I had to yield and give up control. </li></ul>
<ul><li>It’s important to repeat back what people say to check if you have it correct.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Sometimes we take our life for granted.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Sharing information we know can help others.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Go to the source. </li></ul>
<ul><li>Listening is a skill that must be practiced. </li></ul>
<ul><li>You have to be physically, emotionally, and mentally involved in the discussion.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>It’s important to focus on the positive.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>It feels good to talk about yourself.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>We share so many similarities.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Sharing and listening gets easier once you start the conversation.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Two minutes goes fast when you talk from your heart.  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Hope </li></ul>
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3 principles of emotional intelligence

  1. 1. Know Thyself – Socrates
  2. 2. Norms for TRUST T rust yourself . R esonate with the conversation. U nderstand different perspectives. S et your mind on the possibilities . T ransform yourself.
  3. 3. Looking Back to Look Ahead Where are we going?
  4. 4. Let’s Think The capacity to know oneself and to know others is an inalienable part of the human condition, as is the capacity to know objects or sounds, and it deserves to be investigated no less than these other &quot;less charged&quot; forms. Howard Gardner (1983, p. 243) Frames of Mind
  5. 5. <ul><li>3 Concepts </li></ul><ul><li>1) Attunement </li></ul><ul><li>2) Empathic Accuracy </li></ul><ul><li>Looping </li></ul><ul><li>- From Daniel Goleman’s Social Intelligence   </li></ul><ul><li>  </li></ul>
  6. 6. <ul><li>Attunement: what is it? </li></ul><ul><li>- Paying attention </li></ul><ul><li>to another’s feelings. </li></ul><ul><li>Tuning in to feelings and noticing emotions. </li></ul><ul><li>From Daniel Goleman’s </li></ul><ul><li>Social Intelligence </li></ul>
  7. 10. <ul><li>Empathic Accuracy: what is it? </li></ul><ul><li>- The degree of accuracy when </li></ul><ul><li>noticing, reflecting restating other’s emotions. </li></ul><ul><li>From Daniel Goleman’s </li></ul><ul><li>Social Intelligence </li></ul>
  8. 11. <ul><li>Looping: what is it? </li></ul><ul><li>- The creation and maintenance of a </li></ul><ul><li>loop of emotional feedback </li></ul><ul><li>through verbal and nonverbal signals </li></ul>
  9. 13. Trust Makes All the Difference! Trusted Coaching, © 2009 Relationship-focused Creativity-focused Logic-focused Task-focused
  10. 14. Communication Styles Communication Styles Adapted from Marilyn Tabor’s Coaching for Excellence Trust Makes All the Difference! Trusted Coaching, © 2009 Communication Styles Adapted from Marilyn Tabor’s Coaching for Excellence <ul><li>Task-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Listens for closure </li></ul><ul><li>Tells, directs, gives answers </li></ul><ul><li>Impatient </li></ul><ul><li>Desires control </li></ul><ul><li>Relationship-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Listens for social interaction </li></ul><ul><li>Gives advice, drifts off-focus </li></ul><ul><li>Overly sensitive </li></ul><ul><li>Desires personal connectedness </li></ul><ul><li>Logic-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Listens for intellectual rigor </li></ul><ul><li>Lectures, gives solutions </li></ul><ul><li>Judgmental </li></ul><ul><li>Desires debate, detached from feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Creativity-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Listens for creative variety </li></ul><ul><li>Talks in multiple directions </li></ul><ul><li>Non-traditional </li></ul><ul><li>Desires open-endedness </li></ul>
  11. 15. Communication Styles Adapted from Marilyn Tabor’s Coaching for Excellence Trust Makes All the Difference! Trusted Coaching, © 2009 Communication Styles Adapted from Marilyn Tabor’s Coaching for Excellence Communication Styles <ul><li>Task-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Prefers directness & brevity </li></ul><ul><li>speaks clearly and to the point </li></ul><ul><li>Interested in results and efficiency </li></ul><ul><li>Natural at facts and details </li></ul><ul><li>Relationship-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Prefers a friendly, verbal style </li></ul><ul><li>Seeks face-to-face interaction </li></ul><ul><li>Interested in people and relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Natural at discussing feelings </li></ul><ul><li>Logic-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Prefers logic and reasoning </li></ul><ul><li>Asks, deep, probing questions </li></ul><ul><li>Interested in knowledge and theory </li></ul><ul><li>Natural at planning </li></ul><ul><li>Creativity-Focused </li></ul><ul><li>Prefers imaginative possibilities </li></ul><ul><li>Shows tolerance for ambiguity </li></ul><ul><li>Interested in brainstorming </li></ul><ul><li>Natural at problem-solving </li></ul>
  12. 16. <ul><li>Traits – </li></ul><ul><li>Eye contact </li></ul><ul><li>Smiling </li></ul><ul><li>Nodding </li></ul><ul><li>Other positive nonverbals </li></ul>
  13. 17. Visit www.trustedcoaching.com Email [email_address] Call 909-921-4338
  14. 18. <ul><li>Sometimes all we need is to be listened to. </li></ul>
  15. 19. <ul><li>Sometimes all we need is to be listened to. </li></ul>
  16. 20. <ul><li>I learned from my partner. She’s been through tough things and that made me appreciative. </li></ul>
  17. 21. <ul><li>If I’m quiet and listen, I can learn. </li></ul>
  18. 22. <ul><li>I’m a talker. </li></ul>
  19. 23. <ul><li>Prayer first. </li></ul>
  20. 24. <ul><li>I had to yield and give up control. </li></ul>
  21. 25. <ul><li>It’s important to repeat back what people say to check if you have it correct. </li></ul>
  22. 26. <ul><li>Sometimes we take our life for granted. </li></ul>
  23. 27. <ul><li>Sharing information we know can help others. </li></ul>
  24. 28. <ul><li>Go to the source. </li></ul>
  25. 29. <ul><li>Listening is a skill that must be practiced. </li></ul>
  26. 30. <ul><li>You have to be physically, emotionally, and mentally involved in the discussion. </li></ul>
  27. 31. <ul><li>It’s important to focus on the positive. </li></ul>
  28. 32. <ul><li>It feels good to talk about yourself. </li></ul>
  29. 33. <ul><li>We share so many similarities. </li></ul>
  30. 34. <ul><li>Sharing and listening gets easier once you start the conversation. </li></ul>
  31. 35. <ul><li>Two minutes goes fast when you talk from your heart. </li></ul>
  32. 36. <ul><li>Hope </li></ul>

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