Todays society depicts childhood as a safe, carefree time. Adolescents these days are under pressure to achieve in the classroom, on the sports field, to please parents, teachers and coaches. They are caught up with the increasing peer pressure in this fast paced modern society and are overwhelmed by the different choices to make.
Teenage boys and girls needs are far more complex thesedays. When confronted with a traumatic event, boys and girls react differently. Where do they run to?Naturally, they go to their comfort zones, the Home. Are the parents equipped with the psychological skills to cope, to counsel? Although family members do provide moral support, professional counselors have always applied different counseling methods in dealing with teenage boys and girls in trauma situations.
Take this common situation: Bullying, a parentsperennial nightmare, has expanded beyond school yards and neighborhoods. Boys who were being harassed by bullies used to escape by hiding or avoiding the face to face situation that would make their life difficult.
However, with the increasing use of cellphones, laptops, electronic tablets provides easy access to social networking sites for teenage boys and girls. This ease of access to social networks has resulted in theincrease of Cyber Bullying. Cyber bullying doesnt require the bullies to physically see or meet with their victims - the harassment is done electronically (text messages, email, and voice mail) and from afar.
Oftentimes, Cyber Bullying is as simple as an unhappy teenager posting derogatory comments on a social networking site or a group of boys campaigning to floodthe victims email account with spam but, iIn most casesthe parents are the last to know what is going on. In these types of situations, Teenagers have a natural tendency to distance themselves from their parents and depend on friends to provide emotional support.
Boys struggle to become independent adults in this complex modern society; their peer support network is more vital to them than ever. When these so called "friends" turn on them, they may be left isolated. On the otherhand, girls tend to rely on what their mother would to say. Mothers prefer to listen first, similarly to a professional counseler would. However, sometimes teen girls tend to strike back after experiencing the the pain and anger of Cyber Bullying. Thus, these young ladies become "cyber bullies" themselves, compounding theproblem. In most cases, boys seem to just shrug it off with "words wont harm us anyway", although they may suppress the effects of the Cyber Bullying causing more deep seated issues.
However they react, the feelings of anger and isolation experienced by our teens can lead to physical violencetoward others. When the confidence and self esteem are sufficiently damaged, depression can easily follow. The early detection through counseling with aprofessional, working side by side with parents and family members, is a good step to take to help these children deal with the difficulties they are experiencing.