Sex and family education International Educational Foundation
Number of marriages and divorces per year in the United Kingdom Marriages Divorces Source: Office for National Statistics; General Register Office for Scotland; Northern Ireland Statistics and Research Agency Thousands
Births outside marriage in UK Population Trends , Office of National Statistics
Births outside marriage in Europe
Population Trends , Office of National Statistics, Autumn, 2002
DIGEST 4 - Information on the Criminal Justice System, Home Office, 2000
Is the re a link between family breakdown and crime ?
Half the prison population under 25 is made up of people who have been in care
One third of all homeless adults were in care
National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, USA
National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, 1996, USA
Effects on a child of the divorce of his parents
Decline in self-esteem and self-control
Decline in achievement and behaviour at school
Emotional and psychological problems
Personality disorders and problems
Difficulties in forming relationships with others
What has caused the breakdown of the family?
18 th century R omanticism
Feeling good was more important than being good
Traditional social morality seen as cold and inauthentic
Secularisation of society
Anti-clerical intellectuals rejected the church’s moral teaching along with its religious teaching
Freedom from the church was equated with sexual freedom
We entirely repudiated a personal liability on us to obey general rules. We claimed the right to judge every individual case on its merits, and the wisdom, experience, and self-control to do so successfully. We repudiated entirely customary morals, conventions and traditional wisdom. J.M. Keynes
Kinsey Report (1953)
10% of men are homosexual (False)
That 85% of males have had sexual intercourse before marriage (False)
Nearly 70% of men have had sex with prostitutes (False)
Between 30-45% of husbands have extra-marital affairs (False)
Abraham Maslow showed that Kinsey’s research was biased:
25% of the men in his study were present or former criminals who had been imprisoned. Up to 5% of the sample were male prostitutes
But ended up as a self-fulfilling prophecy
General factors since the 1960s
Selfish individualism: the Me generation
Misinterpretation of Sigmund Freud
Widely available reliable contraceptives
Sex for pleasure and not procreation
Legalisation of abortion
Relaxation of divorce laws
Abandonment of fatherhood
Sex education in schools
The betrayal of the intellectuals
General factors since the 1960s
The sex education movement
The study of methods to improve the human race by controlling reproduction.
Promoted birth control, compulsory sterilisation, voluntary and compulsory euthanasia
Society of Race-Hygiene, Germany, 1905
Eugenics Society, Britain, 1907
After the Holocaust
"The Society's activities in crypto-eugenics should be pursued vigorously, and specifically the Society should increase its monetary support of the Family Planning Association and the International Planned Parenthood Federation“
Eugenics Society policy 1960
Family Planning Association
Lobbied for abortion on demand and established chain of abortion clinics
Promote easy availability of contraception
Supported development of the ‘pill’
Promotes sex education in schools
FPA education policy
“ An objective of sex education should be the provision of . . . an incentive to work towards a society in which archaic sex laws are non existent."
Freda Parker the founder of the FPA Education Unit
"The basic principles on which the curricula were to be developed was . . . a desire to dismantle the repressive educational approach to sexual morality inherited from the Victorians.“
"The progressive movement . . . guide to sex education curriculum planning incorporated elements of the new sexual politics (including the needs of sexual minority groups [such as homosexuals, lesbians etc.])."
Philip Meredith, Assistant Director of Programme Development at the IPPF in Sex Education: Political Issues in Britain and Europe , London, 1989
Content of FPA programs
"The code of sexual ethics delivered through the teaching courses has included the following principles: acceptance of masturbation as harmless, (responsible) pre-marital sexual activity through avoidance of pregnancy by using contraceptives, and (implicit) support for homosexual rights.”
What is in such books?
"In this sense, boys and girls who start having intercourse when they're adolescents, expecting to marry later on, will find that its a big help in finding out whether they really are congenial or not; to make everyday-life comparisons again, it's like taking a car out on a test run before you buy it."
Wardell Pomeroy, Boys and Sex , N.Y. 1981
“ There are many girls who regret after marriage that they didn't have pre-marital intercourse, because they've come to realize what a long, slow learning process it is after marriage. . ."
Wardell Pomeroy, Girls and Sex , N.Y. 1981
"Swinging or mate swapping . . . happens between couples who are friends and gradually become involved sexually .”
Gary Kelly, Learning About Sex: The Contemporary Guide for Young Adults , New York, 1986
"If you feel your parents are overprotective, their message may not be helpful. If they seem to fear your sexuality, or if they don't want you to be sexual at all until some distant time, you may feel you have to tune out their voice entirely."
Bell, Dr. Ruth, Changing Bodies, Changing Lives , New York, 1980.
“ Any of the farm animals may become a sexual object—ponies, calves, sheep, pigs. . . . If this kind of sexual behavior should ever happen to you, you would be best to keep it from other people."
Wardell Pomeroy, Boys and Sex , New York, 1981.
How has sex education evolved?
“ Sex education is not designed to meet the needs and accommodate the cognitive limitations of adolescents.”
Wanda Franz, "Sex and the American Teenager", The World & I , September, 1989
“ Among students in schools that are distributing condoms there has been no decrease in pregnancies and little or no increase in condom use."
Family Planning Perspectives , Sept/Oct 1996
A study of 147 teenagers with unplanned pregnancies shows that 80% claimed to have been using contraception at conception.
British Medical Journal, 23.9.95
STD’s and AIDS
Safe sex using condoms is the message
J. Thomas Fitch, MD, "How effective are Condoms in Preventing Pregnancy and STDs in Adolescents?",
Medical Institute for Sexual Health, July, 1997
Sex education programmes
Human sexual anatomy
Mechanics of sexual reproduction
How conception occurs
But . . .
Sexuality is not taught within the framework of marriage
It based on a m oral relativism and assumes that all lifestyles are equally valid
Does sex education work?
"None of the [14 contraceptive-based] sexuality courses had a measurable impact on whether or not participants had experienced sexual intercourse. . .or the number of times."
D.Kirby, Sexuality Education: An Evaluation of Programs and their Effects," Network Publications, 1984
An increase in sexual activity outside marriage
“ There is a 50% increase in likelihood of starting sexual activity among 14-year olds after birth control instruction.“
Deborah Anne Dawson, "Effects of Sex Education on Adolescent Behaviour," Family Planning Perspectives , July/August 1986.
Increase in promiscuity
“ There is a greater probability of sexual activity associated with contraceptive education to girls aged 15-17."
Douglas Kirby, Public Health Reports, May/June 1994
Increase in teenage pregnancy
Increase in illegitimacy
Increase in abortion
Increase in sexually transmitted diseases
The problem is how can the moral values and traditions of civil society be recovered once they have been lost?
What is abstinence based education?
Men and women are complementary
Self-discipline and control encouraged
Becoming a loving, caring responsible person
Chastity for self-respect and integrity
Vision of marriage as normal
Marriage is the place for sexual love
Family is the basis of stable society
Consequences of sex outside marriage
Abstinence based education Does it work?
"Only 4% of Atlanta, Georgia, students began sex who had taken an abstinence course versus 20% of similar students who had not."
M.Howard & J.McCabe, "Helping Teenagers Postpone Sexual Involvement," Family Planning Perspectives , Jan/Feb 1990
“ Only 10% of Washington, D.C., students aged 12-18 in an abstinence program engaged in sex versus 72% of similar students in schools without the program.”
C.Wetzstein, Washington Times , 22.1.1996
Teach chastity and prevent
Anxiety about the above happening
Heartbreak, guilt and regret due to sexual relationships
Damage to self-esteem and social skill development
What is to be done?
Find out what the school’s sex education policy is