20090501 Some Thoughts On Improving Interpersonal Relations

Some Thoughts On I m p r o v i n g Inter Personal Relations

I m p r o v i n g Inter Personal Relations Some Thoughts On Presented by: Prof. V. Viswanadham

TRUST BEGETS TRUST Factors that build trust : 1. Character ~ implies Reliability and Integrity 2. Competence 3. Consistency 4. Being Fair, Open and Unprejudiced

DEVELOPING

A PLEASING PERSONALITY

Character, Competence and Commitment,

will lead to success.

Success acquires the Power of Attraction.

Attraction makes you acquire

a magnetic personality –

helps in developing Charisma

DEVELOPING A PLEASING PERSONALITY 2. Being Fair and Just is Righteousness. Develops warmth in your behaviour ~ transparent on your face, as it powerfully begins to flow from your heart.

DEVELOPING A PLEASING PERSONALITY 3. Consistency, acquired through constant practice becomes natural and further improves charisma

LOSE ~ WIN WIN ~ LOSE WIN ~ WIN LOSE ~ LOSE

SELF SELFISHNESS PRIDE JEALOUSY EGO

An OPEN MIND is FLEXIBLE.

It may ACCEPT or REJECT Ideas

based on careful consideration and merit.

An EMPTY MIND is like a DUMPING GROUND.

It accepts, without evaluation, both GOOD and BAD Ideas.

A CLOSED MIND allows, neither the Good nor the Bad.

MIND

Accept RESPONSIBILITY When you willingly and smilingly accept RESPONSIBILITY You are actually giving yourself an elevation to your stature and status PROVE YOUR INDISPENSABILITY

Develop Good COMMUNICATION SKILLS Excessive talking does not mean communication. Talk less, say more. Develop Effective Communication Skills

COMPARISON ~ COMPETITION EFFORT ~ RESULT ~ EVALUATION ANALYSIS ~ CRITICISM ~ CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM FEEDBACK ~ GIVING FEEDBACK & RECEIVING FEEDBACK

We are very good in criticizing others. Are we willing to use at least a small part of our critical ability to improve ourselves ?

ALL OF US Desire to be FRIENDLY, WANTED, LIKED, APPRECIATED. Appreciation acts as a wonderful MOTIVATING FORCE

A STRAIGHT LINE

WHAT IS A SMILE ? A smile is a curved line that can straighten many problems.

A SINCERE AND HONEST SMILE CAN SOLVE / IMPORVE MANY THINGS. What are YOU Without your SMILE ?

Good Listening Skills ~ improve Conversational Skills ~ leading to improvement in communication skills ~ particularly their effectiveness. What are YOU Without your LISTENING SKILLS ?

DO YOU DISCUSS OR ARGUE ? An argument throws heat; a discussion throws light. Argument is coming from a closed mind trying to prove who is right rather than what is right. Arguing is like fighting a losing battle, even if you win , the cost may be more than the victory

What are YOU Without your desire to improve your LISTENING SKILLS ?

With a good sense of humour you become more likable and attractive. Smile and Humour, are the best known tranquillizers A winning Smile and a good sense of Humour

DO YOU GET A N G R Y ? CONTROLLING YOUR ANGER IS IMPORTANT DEALING WITH OTHERS’ ANGER IS MORE IMPORTANT DEALING WITH OTHERS’ ANGER, WHEN YOU ARE YOURSELF ANGRY IS MUCH MORE IMPORTANT

Sympathy is “ I understand how you feel” Empathy is “ I feel how you feel” BE SYMPATHETIC. BE EMPHATHETIC.

WITH GRATEFUL THANKS to many authors, writers, teachers & good friends whose combined contribution inspired me in compiling this presentation

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