Do you get a mind blank or hear the crickets of silence when you meet someone new? The A to Z of conversation starters for shy girls could be just what you need. All you need to do is put them into
Do you get a mind blank or hear the crickets of silence when you meet someone new? The A to Z of conversation starters for shy girls could be just what you need. All you need to do is put them into practice.
The shy girl’s
of conversation starters
We all have that statement piece of
jewellery that everyone comments on.
Wear it with confidence and when
someone approaches you to tell you
how cool it is, start a conversation
about where you bought it, how
amazing online shopping is or even the
colours that are in this season.
If you’re not into fashion, wear a
button showing your interest in a
TV show, movie or cause you are
You’re amazing. You don’t have to
be anyone other than yourself for
people to want to hang out with
you. You will attract like-minded
uni friends with similar interests.
Everyone loves a compliment and when
you find someone with a mutual love
for shoes and cute summer dresses,
you will find a good friend for life. If
you see someone in a flattering pair of
jeans, tell them! You might even hear
about a sale you didn’t know about.
Do I know you?
If you’ve seen someone around, an
excellent opener is to ask them about
previous, albeit brief, interactions. ‘I
think we’re in CMS1000 together, what
do you think of it so far?’ or ‘I think we
used to catch the same bus, what are
Whether you bring your lunch or
buy it, eat it on-campus. Ask to sit
with the people you met in class,
or approach a new group of friends
who are having a good time. There’s
always someone to sit and start a
conversation with over sandwiches
and cake. Everyone loves cake.
If you fall over or drop your
books, do it in style! Either Prince
Charming will scoop you up and
help you back on your feet, or
you’ll have a pretty amazing first
meeting story for your new BFF.
Step out of your comfort zone
and say ‘Hi’ to someone you would
never have approached before.
Everyone will be just as nervous as
you and our nerves can sometimes
make us feel not at our best.
Nothing breaks the ice faster than
saying something funny. Okay,
telling a joke is easier said than
done and they can be tricky, but it’s
an excellent way to show your fun,
witty personality. Whatever you do
in life, always give 100%, unless
you’re donating blood…
Don’t be in such a hurry that you miss
out on talking to that cool chick with
the pixie haircut and Doc Martens.
Walk over and say hi. If you hit it off
and you have to get to the next class,
invite her back for lunch and spend
time getting to know her. Relationships
take work and uni friendships are no
different, take the time to invest in
Join us on
We encourage all students to get
involved in the conversation online
and we’ve started many a ‘gal-mance’
over shared geographic locations and a
love of cat memes. You can join us on
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest,
LinkedIn, Spotify, Youtube and Google+
for exclusive competitions and study
tips. Don’t have social media? Jump
onto USQ’s Social Hub instead!
Keep up with
Chef/Home & Away
Trashy TV is an excellent talking point.
We all love to hate the characters on
these shows and friendships are forged
over our disgust for who didn’t get a
rose, who cooked something delicious
or who said something out of line. If it’s
trending, try to watch one episode so you
know what’s going on and can join into
some of those trash-tastic conversations.
Look left and look right. Beside you
are two people with the same passion
about teaching, nursing or engineering
that you have. Go a little bit early to
your classes and spend some time
chatting to your classmates. When it
comes time to pack up and head to the
next class, keep the conversation going
and you may just find yourself on the
receiving end of a lunch date.
More than one new ‘gal-mance’ has
been forged over a mutual love of
Mean Girls, The Notebook, The Great
Gatsby or even Anchorman. ‘Do you
even go to this school?’ ‘LOUD NOISES’
or ‘No one puts Baby in the corner’
are perfectly appropriate comments
to make and when you both stop
laughing and exclaim ‘I love that
movie!’ you’ve found a friend for the
next few years of your studies.
As soon as you finish school or
are old enough to realise how
uncool the Spice Girls are, you can
reminisce with your new study
friends about life before you started
studying. Be careful not to include
too much about how you used to
drive an ‘81 Corolla and not so
secretly loved the Backstreet Boys
at full volume with the windows
down. There’s a fine line between
nostalgia and being a dork.
Don’t be embarrassed to open up
about your experiences and what made
you decide to study. You can guarantee
that your love of family, fashion or
even scrapbooking will be shared by
others. Your lecturer will give you the
opportunity to share insight into your
personality and icebreakers to get you
comfortable joining in, so make the
most of it!
Prepare with a
On the way to uni, think about a
few one liners you can use to get the
conversation going. ‘Have you got
your textbooks yet?’ ‘I can’t believe
uni’s already started!’ ‘How quickly
did the break go?!’
When all else fails, approach
someone and ask them a
question. Most people are always
great about giving you the time or
pointing you in the right direction.
Refrain from asking too many
questions, people may wonder if
you’re in the secret service.
Who doesn’t like food or sharing their
culinary insights of the go-to food
places on-campus?! Share your foodie
knowledge, nothing is better than
a BFF with a shared love of sushi or
Sit by yourself
Don’t be scared to sit by yourself. If
you’re not comfortable walking up
to people, chances are there will be a
social butterfly (extrovert) not too far
away who will ask you to join their
table or just come and sit with you.
If you are going to try this tactic, make
sure you sit ‘in public’ rather than
hiding in the toilets on your breaks!
Friday afternoon drinks and
cheese at your new friend’s house?
Count me in! Put yourself out there
and do something you’ve never
done before. You never know who
On a tight budget, but still want
to meet people? Make the most of
your student card by asking some
of your new friends to a movie on
cheap Tuesday or share a pizza on
cheap Monday. Your student card is
your gateway to bargains and some
The person in front of you has popped
in their cash and they’ve got the holy
grail of drinks, an ice cold, refreshing
coke. Now is the perfect time to share
that you also can’t function without
the invigorating effervescence of
black gold (this post was not proudly
supported by Coca-Cola).
Where can I
Coffee lovers unite! The coffee line
is an incredible place to meet people
and you have one huge thing in
common – you can’t function
without that first cup of hot,
smooth coffee… <insert drool>
Be the ultimate Girl Guide and help a
sister out when it rains by sharing your
umbrella. I can almost guarantee you
will get a coffee date as she thanks
you for saving her wool trenchcoat
from the downpour.
We’ve all got a mad skill that will get
others talking. Whether it’s touching
your nose with your tongue, yodelling
or that you can speak five languages,
share the things that make you unique.
Z Block is
Nothing gets a friendship going
faster than sharing a walk to your
next class. Ask the person next to
you if they’re headed to Z Block and
share a walk with them.
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starters, now you
just need to put
them into practice!