The document provides advice to help overcome common problems and build confidence when talking to women. It encourages focusing on exhibiting self-confidence through straightforward behavior, rather than worrying about the response. It also advises having a clear mission and focus in life to help remain grounded. The key is to take action by approaching women without overthinking or anticipating the outcome, as confidence comes from experience rather than thinking.

1. WHAT I AM
PLAYING FOR

2. I get nervous after the opener at times and just ask simple
questions like what’s your name. What should I do?
there's something I'd love for you to try man...
and that is to approach with quot;ILYquot; in whatever situation
something like quot;excuse me miss... you are so absolutely beautiful. I
had to come meet you!“ and then just SHUTTHEFVCKUP!!! and smile.
I mean it... wait for her to say the next word wait for 10 seconds if
you can. feel that intensity building that you just created trust me it
will probably be way more agonizing than any quot;Mode Onequot; line you
can come up with I know you have the balls to do it bro
and you can be completely speechless at the sight of her after your
approach
hell you may knock her speechless as well. that's even better! it's like
you can't even talk because she's so fvcking beautiful see if either of
you start stuttering... or even laughing
http://www.createforum.com/thetruedirectbo/viewtopic.php?t=121&mforum=thetruedirectbo

3. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

4. I often don’t approach girls I’d like to. What should I do?
One of the keys for me was to fully accept that staying
focused on my desires was absolutely critical, not
optional. Regardless of whether I think the universe is
objective or subjective, I know that my dominant thoughts
are the key determinants of my results in life. My thoughts
control my decisions, and my decisions over time control my
results. When I really understood that, I assumed a new
level of responsibility for every thought that went through
my mind. I decided to take conscious control of my
thoughts no matter what. I saw that I could no longer afford
to have my mind haphazardly dwelling on things I didn’t
want.
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/how-intentions-manifest/

5. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

6. I feel nervous about people around her. What do I do?
One of the keys for me was to fully accept that staying
focused on my desires was absolutely critical, not
optional. Regardless of whether I think the universe is
objective or subjective, I know that my dominant thoughts
are the key determinants of my results in life. My thoughts
control my decisions, and my decisions over time control my
results. When I really understood that, I assumed a new
level of responsibility for every thought that went through
my mind. I decided to take conscious control of my
thoughts no matter what. I saw that I could no longer afford
to have my mind haphazardly dwelling on things I didn’t
want.
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/how-intentions-manifest/

7. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

8. I am insecure about my lisp. What should I do?
How? Easy. Stop being fucking afraid of them. Trust me.
Once you go to bed with a couple of them you begin to
realize that they don't bite. They are as insecure and
scared as we are. If you knew that you'd want nothing
other than bringing their beauty out. Look. I know that
not all girls are cool. But I'm not interested in those. I
like cool girls and want nothing more than to enjoy
them and give them the opportunity to enjoy me.

9. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

10. Sometimes my heart starts beating as I near the girl I’d
like to talk to. What should I do?
Start working on eliminating the overcompensating
behaviors and start telling women what you think of them
without the safety net of looking tough or cool. As far as
learning to see the beauty in all women it doesn't take
anything at all. Just start doing it now. When you notice that
you're seeing a woman as something you have to
conquer, stop yourself. Recognize what you're doing and do
something else. You don't have to be Don Juan deMarco.
Just be you. Tap into the you that gets crushes on women
and learn how to not feel powerless about it. Oh! And stop
thinking that you have to impress women. That's very
important towards eliminating your weak behaviors. When
you can be completely naked infront of a woman then you'll
know you're going in the right direction.
-- Comecuca

11. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

12. I don’t think highly of myself at times. What should I do?
If you think of your self as less than her, what is she going
to think?
In the end she said no, which can always happen, had you
approached her more comfortably, things might have
been different or they might not have been, but knowing
there's a chance she'll just say no and nothing more will
happen, why not move on and find out?
http://www.direct-method.com/showthread.php?t=3353&page=6

13. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

14. I run out of things to say. What should I do?
the words dont play a role, its the eyes.
if you want tht you must feel that youre above her. if you
dont feel it in you than you cant dominate either.

15. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

16. I am easily shaken by distracting thoughts when I see a
cutie. What should I do?
quot;Simply STOP giving Mental & Emotional Energy to all the
things that Steal your Present Focus.quot;

17. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

18. I don’t always make strong eye contact. What should I do?
Now we were just talking about the importance of direct
eye-contact in Razorjack's thread. She said the whole time
he talked to her, he looked her directly in her eyes. She says,
quot;I'm not doing that in a public place. Sorry.quot; He says, quot;Either
do it ... or say, '(his first name) ... it was a pleasure meeting
you, but I need to leave now.quot; She debated for like 3 or 4
minutes she said. Just when she was on the verge of leaving,
she takes a chance and says, quot;Okay. I'll do it.quot; And she DOES
IT. Grabs his dick (through his pants) while they're at the bar
seated on stools.

19. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

20. Sometimes I walk behind the chic for minutes and at the end I
don’t approach her. What should I do?
It's quite simple actually. I don't give myself time to think. I
learned that skill in my three years of theater class when doing
improv work. Nine times out of ten, I have no clue what I'm going
to say or do. I just throw myself in there. And once you're in there,
there's no time to think, only time to ACT.
http://www.direct-method.com/archive/index.php/t-4026.html

21. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

22. Often I don’t talk to a girl I’d like to. What should I do?
Have a mission in life. Know why you're here. If you don't yet
know, your mission, starting now, is to ask yourself quot;What do I
want out of this life?quot;, and to write it down, edit, and keep writing
until you absolutely know. Keeping that focus of what you want
will allow few things to shake you, and is helpful to becoming
imperturbable, which I've found is equivalent to grounding. This is
absolutely fundamental and important not only for success and
happiness with women, but with life. Know without a doubt what
you want, and then settle for nothing less.

23. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

24. I go into some approaches feeling low negative energy. What
should I do?
It's one thing if you come on here and say, quot;I said 'XYZ' to ten
women in the last six weeks, and all I received was highly
insulting, extremely negative responses from women....quot;
Then, you might have a halfway valid reason for second guessing
your specific words or comments. But when you're anticipating
quot;negativequot; responses and reactions, that's a bad sign. Like I said ...
that means your ego is playing too big of a role in your desired
approach.
http://www.direct-method.com/showthread.php?t=1968&page=3

25. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

26. Sometimes I follow a chic for minutes and end up not
approaching her or even if I do, I am timid. What should I do?
3Under is on the mark here. I've talked to a lot of women about
their perceptions about what makes a man seem quot;creepy,quot; and
the number one response I get is, quot;When it's obvious a man wants
to express an interest in you (romantic or sexual), but he's not
being forthright about it. He's 'beating around the bush' in a
major way. That's when I think a guy is 'creepy' ...“
http://www.direct-method.com/showthread.php?t=1968&page=3

27. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

28. Sometimes I follow a chic for minutes and end up not
approaching her or even if I do, I am timid. What should I do?
If you have problems getting out of a Mode Three rut, the biggest
thing you need to do is begin concentrating on exhibiting behavior
that is more SELF-CONFIDENT and STRAIGHTFORWARD. Don’t
concern yourself with women’s behavior TOWARDS YOU;
Only concern yourself with your behavior TOWARDS WOMEN.
Don’t even think about, or anticipate, whether or not you’re going
to receive a “positive” or “negative” response from women.
Concentrate only on expressing your true
needs, desires, interests, and intentions. Let the response take
care of itself.
http://www.direct-method.com/showthread.php?t=1968&page=3

29. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

30. When I get in the set, I am not always in the moment. I feel
nervous and try to end the set. What should I do?
Me, I love to see the excitement on the girls face when they speak
about some hot guy they just met. They get that expression where
they hold their breath, and their hand over their mouth as to
almost hide away their exitement because it is almost too much. A
girl told me about how it brightened her day, and whole week
when some guy walked up to her in broad daylight and told her he
liked her. She went home with him too, because they had a really
cool vibe. I'm like quot;Haha, that's fun, some like-minded guy. They
exist outside the direct boards too?quot; Would love to meet him I
said Very Happy I had to kiss her, it is so beautiful this whole thing.
http://www.createforum.com/thetruedirectbo/viewtopic.php?t=213&mforum=thetruedirectbo

31. I can easily have her if I really want her.
If I don’t talk to her, I will regret it 10 years from now.

32. You think you have too many problems to get chics?
Think about how this guy gets chics.