Independence

UDGAM SCHOOL FOR CHILDREN
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Independence – The Best Gift That
You Can Give Your Child
All parents love their children and pamper them
to some extent. The point to keep in mind,
especially in today’s scenario, is that ‘are we
spoiling them with all our love and attention?’
No tests are required to determine this. Just
answer a few questions truthfully:

• Do you feed your 3+ child?
• Do you carry the school bag to the bus stop or
car for your 5+ child?
• Do you polish your 5+ child’s shoes?
• Do you give a bath to your 5+ child?
• Do you pick up your 5+ old child’s clothes
from the floor?

• Do you tidy up your 8+ child’s table and
room?
• Does your 6+ child still sleep on your bed?
• Do you clean the table after your 8+ child has
eaten?
• Do you help your child with his/her school
projects?
• Do you go to your child’s school to give
articles he/she has forgotten to take along?

• If you have answered ‘Yes’ to any of the
questions, then you need to rethink your
duties as a parent. You may feel that by doing
one or more of the above, you have been the
perfect parent. A perfect parent is not
somebody the child can lean on. It is instead
somebody who makes leaning unnecessary.

You are the guide, not the servant
Nowadays more and more children are turning
out to be very dependent on their parents.
This reflects in their later lives too. As a parent
your responsibility towards your children is to
make them independent. This should start as
early as possible. Some parents like to be in a
denial mode about the fact that their child is
growing up. But by doing so you are harming
your child’s right to grow and develop.

• Be a guide and encourage children from time
to time. You will be amazed at how much they
can achieve! Children are very adaptable but
the moment they realize that you are going to
do everything for them, they let go. They start
becoming lazy and indolent. This is a reason
why we have so many overweight kids today.

Make your child confident and
responsible
• If your kid is too dependent on you then he or
she will lack in self confidence. This will affect
each and everything in their lives, right from
their studies to sports and co-curricular
achievements. Kids who are dependent are
uncertain about taking decisions. When the
kids leave the secure umbrella that you have
created, they feel lost. They are unable to sort
out even the minor problems in life.

Often students who start out in college
discontinue and return home as they are
unable to cope with hostel life. From a very
early age, give your child responsibilities. Let
them run small errands and look after their
own needs according to their age.

Teach them good habits that stay for a
lifetime. You do not need to nag them every
time. Be firm in your approach and never give
in. do not help your child with projects and
other activities that he or she is supposed to
do. A piece of advice here and there should
suffice in encouraging him/her to work on it in
the best way they can.

Foster learning by inspiring
Dependence in studies is also a common
problem. Of course parents are the first
teachers of the child. But remember the
teacher inspires and guides and does not help
to cram. Let the child study on his/her own as
early as possible, with some guidance from
you.

• If your child does exceptionally well in studies
because you have helped him/her to mug up
the lessons, then it is of no use. Instill the love
for learning and do not stop learning by being
too manipulative.

Let your child take decisions. If you decide
everything in their lives, then you are harming
their mental development. Do not force your
child to do something as this fosters a hatred
for the task. Encourage instead. Make them
aware of their surroundings instead of holding
on to them as much as you can.

Learn when to let go. Do not keep holding
your child’s hand well past the infant stage.
Sometimes treat your child like an equal and
you will be surprised at his/her level of
intelligence.

Once in a while let your child face trouble and
learn a valuable lesson in life. This will
embolden him/her for the future. It will teach
him/her how to adjust in the society. By doing
this you are not being a cruel parent, you are
being a parent who cares. So, if you really care
for your child, let go of the leash.

Be there always but don’t be
overprotective. After all it is his/her
life, not yours.
www.udgamschool.com info@udgamschool.com
Thaltej, Ahmedabad-380 054 Phone:07926850339
Gujarat , India 99251 53153

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