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Psychology love(1)(1)

  1. 1. The Chinese University of Hong Kong – Tung Wah Group of Hospitals Community College GE83003 Psychology and Personal Growth<br />The topic: Love<br />Date: 11th October 2011<br />We all know that us, teenagers, <br /> when we like someone, <br /> we immediately think is love. <br /> And who better to talk about it, than a teenager!<br />
  2. 2. Introduction<br />As a teenager…<br />Being in serious relationship<br />Serial dating<br />Engage in sexual activity<br />
  3. 3. Survey (sample)<br />
  4. 4. 1) How old are you?<br />
  5. 5. 2) Are you male or female?<br />
  6. 6. 3) When did you go on your first real date?<br />
  7. 7. 4) How many boyfriends or girlfriends have you had since age 16?<br />
  8. 8. 5) Do you believe they can stay together through high school and college and get married?<br />
  9. 9. 6) Is it possible that people can fall in love with others without sex?<br />
  10. 10. 7) Is that possible for you to concentrate on one partner?<br />Possible<br />Impossible<br />
  11. 11. 8) Is it feasible for you to have one night stand ?<br />Yes<br />B. No<br />
  12. 12. The summary to this research<br />The results show that…<br />Their first love usually appear in adolescence stage<br />They don’t believe the eternity of love<br />Majority of people think Love cannot without sex<br />They think one lover is not enough<br />They generally accept one night stand<br />They have 3 to 4 partners in common<br />
  13. 13. News Clip (1)<br />
  14. 14. News Clip(2)<br />
  15. 15. Philosophy<br />
  16. 16. Platonic Love<br />The nature of human is better than beasts<br />non-sexual affectionate relationship<br />pure, spiritual affection<br />The equality of men and women<br />The lover think the opposite side is perfect<br />“ The better half”<br />
  17. 17. News Clip (1)<br />
  18. 18. News Clip (2)<br />
  19. 19. Love view of Socrates <br /><ul><li>The pursuit of beauty
  20. 20. The desire to have what one lacks and wants</li></li></ul><li>The Story of Wheat field<br />By Socrates<br /><ul><li>Ask Plato walk through the Wheat field
  21. 21. Condition : Cannot go back until finish the path
  22. 22. Plato got nothing from the field.
  23. 23. Socrates : This is the Love.</li></li></ul><li>Love View of Socrates and Plato<br />Eros - Erotic Sensual Love<br />full-feeling, juicy, sensual erotic bodily attraction<br />attracted to, are pulled by, want, desire, lust for, long for.<br />gives pleasure, fun, joy, excitement.<br />
  24. 24. ladder of love<br />
  25. 25. Famous Quote<br />Love is a serious mental disease. <br />By Plato (BC 427-BC 347) Greek philosopher. <br />Wicked men obey from fear; good men, from love. <br />By Aristotle (384 BC-322 BC) Greek philosopher. <br />When we are in love we seem to ourselves quite different from what we were before.<br />By Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) French mathematician, physicist and philosopher. <br />
  26. 26. There is no remedy for love than to love more. <br />By Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) American naturalist, poet and philosopher. <br />Immature love says: ''I love you because I need you.'' Mature love says: ''I need you because I love you.'' <br />By Erich Fromm (1900-1980) Psychoanalyst and social philosopher. <br />
  27. 27. How teenagers and young adults think of love and deal with love?<br />Cultural studies<br />
  28. 28. Love as instant noodles?<br />
  29. 29. The survey by “Chinese Manufacturers' Association, the Youth Committee ”<br />Total respondents: 509<br />戀愛期<br />43%<br />追求期<br />44%<br />分手復原期<br />37%<br />paying less than one month!<br />
  30. 30. The survey by “Chinese Manufacturers' Association, the Youth Committee ”<br />Total respondents: 509<br />80%<br />dating for three or more times!<br />
  31. 31. (A) Affected by the foreign culture(celebrities)<br />Young pop artists <br />Destructive and unrealistic<br />Not mature enough<br />An example: “Teenage Dream” by Katy Perry<br />“Let’s go all the way tonight. No regrets, just love.”<br />just emphasis on feeling rather than thinking!<br />
  32. 32. (B) Affected by the negative evaluation<br />Most of the survey only interviewed hundreds of objects, then it is not accuracy<br />They feel…<br />Marginalization<br />Discrimination<br />Labeling<br />Other people do not understand their real needs<br />So, they are caused to be…<br />self-fulfilling prophecy of psychology <br />
  33. 33. (C) Feel lost in the society<br />Can not find their value and meaning<br />They really need is…<br />Soulful connectedness<br />Trusted<br />The joy of love and be loved<br />By the Psychologist, Larry Crabb<br />
  34. 34. (D) Associated with instant shopping mode <br />Values:<br />Materialism: instant pleasure, emphasis on feeling rather than thinking and desires are endless<br />Getting worried as they cannot pursue the luxurious life<br />The possible reasons:<br />coming from wealthy families<br />singleton<br />feel abnormal pressure in daily life <br />Small conclusion: values ​​of young people to be successful restructuring, we must start on an individual's lifestyle and consumption patterns.<br />
  35. 35. Other factors<br />Autonomous individualism<br />Narcissistic hedonism<br />Positioning<br />Religion<br />
  36. 36. Psychology<br />
  37. 37. Freud<br />When islove form?<br />Love preference is formed in very early life (The mouth and anal stage) in the relationship between the child and its parents.<br />Family will shape the personality, that designs the pattern of the erotic career.<br />
  38. 38. How is love form?<br />At the mouth and anal stage (Birth to 3 years),the mother's caresses and services in caring awaken the child's sex responses.<br /> <br />In the boy, this called “Oedipus complex”.<br /> <br />For the girl, also, the mother is the first love object, but by the “castration complex” and “penis-envy”, girls shifted the erotic impulse to the father.<br />
  39. 39. Influence of the child<br />The child's sexual feeling is to be shifted from its parents to others, there must be some connection between the new love and the old one.<br />Resemblance between loved parent and unrelated person.(e.g. metal traits, name, occupation..)<br />The resemblance may not be fully realized.<br />The Child is more capable to love somebody if he feels satisfactory during the mouth and anal period.<br />
  40. 40. John Lee<br />The Primary styles<br /> <br />Eros (intense physical and emotional attraction and commitment)<br /> <br />Ludus(game playing style)<br /> <br />Storge(emotional intimacy)<br />
  41. 41. The Secondary styles<br />Mania (Eros combined to Ludus)<br /> <br />Pragma (Ludus combined to Storage)<br /> <br />Agape (Eros combined to Storage)<br />
  42. 42. Triangular Theory of Love<br />A theory of lovedeveloped by psychologist Robert Sternberg. <br />Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.<br />Passion – Which encompasses drives connected to both limerenceand sexual attraction.<br />Commitment– Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.<br />
  43. 43. Triangular Theory of Love<br />
  44. 44. Science of Love<br />
  45. 45. The Science of Love<br />Three Stages of Falling in Love<br />Stage 1: Lust<br />Stage 2: Attraction<br />Stage 3: Attachment<br />
  46. 46. Stage 1: Lust<br />Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything".<br />
  47. 47. Stage 2: Attraction<br />In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' play an important role: <br />Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine. <br />Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing. <br />Serotonin - One of love's most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane. <br />
  48. 48. Stage 3: Attachment<br />Oxytocin - It helps cement the strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. <br />Vasopressin - Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage. It is an important controller of the kidney and its role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole <br />
  49. 49. Conclusion<br />Is it suitable for the society now?<br />Love has many aspect.<br />No right , no wrong.<br />Do the teenagers do the right things towards love nowadays?<br />Think by yourself, and lead you having a personal growth.<br />
  50. 50. References<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />