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Working as a Couple After an AffairIf you have decided to salvage your marriage after an affair instead of pursuing adivor...
Anger, of course, tends to be a natural reaction when learning that your spouse hashad an affair. It is normal to experien...
So What Exactly is the Pitfall to Avoid?As I mentioned, you emotions immediately after an affair will be particularly raw ...
You need to understand a couple of things about anger to help you manage thisemotion and successfully work with your spous...
Avoiding the pitfall of angry outbursts is truly just one step when working togetherafter an affair. However, to fully res...
Avoiding the pitfall of angry outbursts is truly just one step when working togetherafter an affair. However, to fully res...
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Working Together After an Affair - You Need to Avoid This Pitfall

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Working together after an affair that your spouse had involved avoiding certain pitfalls. It is no easy task and takes effort on both your parts, but it can be made easier by knowing these potential roadblocks on the way to repairing your marriage after an affair.

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  1. 1. Working Together After an Affair - You Need to Avoid This Pitfall http://www.saving-relationships.comWorking together after an affair that your spouse had involved avoiding certain pitfalls.It is no easy task and takes effort on both your parts, but it can be made easier byknowing these potential roadblocks on the way to repairing your marriage after anaffair.As the victim of the affair, there is one pitfall in particular that needs to be avoided atall costs. We will take a closer look at that and others as you read further.
  2. 2. Working as a Couple After an AffairIf you have decided to salvage your marriage after an affair instead of pursuing adivorce, you will need the help and full reciprocation of your spouse to be successful.The good news is that together you CAN indeed save your marriage and recover fromthis ordeal.Discovering that your spouse had an affair creates unprecedented emotional turmoil.The initial shock of the news is one of the most devastating feelings that a person canexperience. This is often closely followed by a range of other emotions: shame, anger,embarrassment, betrayal, jealousy, anguish, and uncertainty are just a sampling.It’s one of these emotions that is most likely to stick with you and become a pitfall asyou work to repair the damage done to your trust and relationship. That emotion isanger.
  3. 3. Anger, of course, tends to be a natural reaction when learning that your spouse hashad an affair. It is normal to experience this emotion and even feel led to a degree toseek some form of revenge for the betrayal by your spouse.As you and your spouse work to restore things between you, you are going to findthat even as things are making steady progress, anger will rear its head now and then.It may even appear when you think things are going just fine. This is natural, but youwill find as time moves on your anger will diminish and become less and less frequentand lessen in intensity. It is important to understand at this point that anger will be anemotion that is present, especially early on in your recovery from the affair.
  4. 4. So What Exactly is the Pitfall to Avoid?As I mentioned, you emotions immediately after an affair will be particularly raw andacute and the temptation will be there to blow up at your spouse. You may want topunish them for the pain that they have inflicted upon you with their infidelity. Youmay have already done so previous to reading this. This reaction is normal.It is also the pitfall you need to avoid when working with your spouse after an affair.These outbursts of anger, although they may make you feel better, will put up aroadblock when trying to recover from the affair. It is often the case that the personwho had the outburst tends to feel bad about it later on and the last thing you needright now is to feel any worse than you already do.
  5. 5. You need to understand a couple of things about anger to help you manage thisemotion and successfully work with your spouse after an affair. First, understand thatanger is simply a feeling. Having an angry outburst is an action dictated by theemotion. Thus acting out on that emotion is ultimately a choice.Anger is not the easiest emotion to control but it can be done. When you feel itwelling up between you and your spouse, the best thing you can do is take time out.Leave the room, go take a walk, something that gets you away from your spouse forwhatever period of time it takes for you to calm down. Explain to your spouse thatyou are willing to continue the conversation, but at the moment you need somespace.
  6. 6. Avoiding the pitfall of angry outbursts is truly just one step when working togetherafter an affair. However, to fully restore your marriage and recover from the affair, Istrongly recommend for you to download this FREE course from Dr. Frank Gunzburg.Click here now for instant access. Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.
  7. 7. Avoiding the pitfall of angry outbursts is truly just one step when working togetherafter an affair. However, to fully restore your marriage and recover from the affair, Istrongly recommend for you to download this FREE course from Dr. Frank Gunzburg.Click here now for instant access. Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.
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