Surviving an Emotional Affair - Steps to Save Your Marriage                  After an Emotional Affair                    ...
The fact that you are reading this article would indicate that you fall in thatcategory. Most people that share this minds...
The fact that you are reading this article would indicate that you fall in thatcategory. Most people that share this minds...
Do Not Live in the Past - One common reaction is to try to move themarriage back to what it once was. To try and get to a ...
Start Rebuilding a New Foundation - The good news for you in surviving andemotional affair is that thousands of couples ha...
Start Rebuilding a New Foundation - The good news for you in surviving andemotional affair is that thousands of couples ha...
Start Rebuilding a New Foundation - The good news for you in surviving andemotional affair is that thousands of couples ha...
1. Take Stock and Evaluate You and your spouse must begin by taking anaccount of where the trouble areas in your marriage ...
1. Take Stock and Evaluate You and your spouse must begin by taking anaccount of where the trouble areas in your marriage ...
2. Specifically State the Areas That Need Improvement Once you and yourspouse have come to agreement on the areas that nee...
2. Specifically State the Areas That Need Improvement Once you and yourspouse have come to agreement on the areas that nee...
3. Come Up With Solutions Together Work with your spouse to come upwith ways that you can correct and improve the areas th...
3. Come Up With Solutions Together Work with your spouse to come upwith ways that you can correct and improve the areas th...
Surviving an emotional affair is not an easy undertaking and it isrecommended you seek assistance in accomplishing it. To ...
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Surviving an emotional affair is one of the most difficult things a person can go through. You have caught your spouse cheating. It has knocked the wind out of you and destroyed any semblance of trust that your marriage was built on. And yet many people, after having taken a little time to digest things, decide they want to do what it takes to save their marriage.

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  1. 1. Surviving an Emotional Affair - Steps to Save Your Marriage After an Emotional Affair http://www.saving-relationships.comSurviving an emotional affair is one of the most difficult things a person cango through. You have caught your spouse cheating. It has knocked the windout of you and destroyed any semblance of trust that your marriage was builton. And yet many people, after having taken a little time to digest things,decide they want to do what it takes to save their marriage.
  2. 2. The fact that you are reading this article would indicate that you fall in thatcategory. Most people that share this mindset figure they have investedyears into being with this person who they loved enough to marry, so whyshould they just walk away and just leave all that to somebody else. You tookyour vows seriously…for better or for worse till death do you part.
  3. 3. The fact that you are reading this article would indicate that you fall in thatcategory. Most people that share this mindset figure they have investedyears into being with this person who they loved enough to marry, so whyshould they just walk away and just leave all that to somebody else. You tookyour vows seriously…for better or for worse till death do you part.So you have made the decision, or are at least seriously thinking about savingyour marriage after an emotional affair. Now what? How do you go about it?Well, first, a word of advice on what you don’t want to do.
  4. 4. Do Not Live in the Past - One common reaction is to try to move themarriage back to what it once was. To try and get to a time when yourmarriage was in a better and much happier state. You have to understandthat by doing that, you run the risk of moving your marriage to the placewhere problems started in the first place. Many married couples look throughrose-colored glasses to what they consider to be a happier time in themarriage, not realizing that often times couples will carry baggage and pastnegativity along with them right up to the present time. So don’t just try togo back.
  5. 5. Start Rebuilding a New Foundation - The good news for you in surviving andemotional affair is that thousands of couples have done it before you! In fact,there are countless stories of couples who feel like their marriage is strongerthan it ever was before the affair.
  6. 6. Start Rebuilding a New Foundation - The good news for you in surviving andemotional affair is that thousands of couples have done it before you! In fact,there are countless stories of couples who feel like their marriage is strongerthan it ever was before the affair.From where you are sitting today, it may seem like a very long journey torebuild the trust and rebuild the foundation of your marriage that hascrumbled recently. It takes effort and that effort must come from bothparties, but we will talk about the steps you can take to get you started onthe path.
  7. 7. Start Rebuilding a New Foundation - The good news for you in surviving andemotional affair is that thousands of couples have done it before you! In fact,there are countless stories of couples who feel like their marriage is strongerthan it ever was before the affair.From where you are sitting today, it may seem like a very long journey torebuild the trust and rebuild the foundation of your marriage that hascrumbled recently. It takes effort and that effort must come from bothparties, but we will talk about the steps you can take to get you started onthe path.First and foremost, it is critical that your focus be on the future andimproving things from today forward. Dwelling in the past and/or harboringill will only serves to derail or significantly slow down the process. With this inmind, here are the steps you will want to employ…
  8. 8. 1. Take Stock and Evaluate You and your spouse must begin by taking anaccount of where the trouble areas in your marriage lie. Are there unmetneeds being experienced by one or the other of you? Do either of you feelneglected? Are you being affectionate enough towards each other? Are thehousehold chores being divvied up sufficiently? Do one or the other of youfeel like you need to be going out on dates more or spending more timetogether?
  9. 9. 1. Take Stock and Evaluate You and your spouse must begin by taking anaccount of where the trouble areas in your marriage lie. Are there unmetneeds being experienced by one or the other of you? Do either of you feelneglected? Are you being affectionate enough towards each other? Are thehousehold chores being divvied up sufficiently? Do one or the other of youfeel like you need to be going out on dates more or spending more timetogether?The biggest thing to identify here is that you are indeed both committed torepairing your marriage and both understand the effort and energy andpatience it will take to do so. If this is not established, it can lead to a gooddeal of fighting, bickering, and frustration.
  10. 10. 2. Specifically State the Areas That Need Improvement Once you and yourspouse have come to agreement on the areas that need work and attentionwhen surviving an emotional affair, it is always a good idea to write themdown. Use this as a sheet of goals, if you will.
  11. 11. 2. Specifically State the Areas That Need Improvement Once you and yourspouse have come to agreement on the areas that need work and attentionwhen surviving an emotional affair, it is always a good idea to write themdown. Use this as a sheet of goals, if you will.You would be surprised that after years of combat with each other over thesevery same issues how common the tendency is to tune the other out. Bywriting your goals down instead of verbalizing, it often helps you and yourspouse to more consciously focus on the areas that most need to beimproved.
  12. 12. 3. Come Up With Solutions Together Work with your spouse to come upwith ways that you can correct and improve the areas that you both agreedare in need of attention and wrote down. You will not have near the level ofsuccess in correcting them unless you both work together on doing so.
  13. 13. 3. Come Up With Solutions Together Work with your spouse to come upwith ways that you can correct and improve the areas that you both agreedare in need of attention and wrote down. You will not have near the level ofsuccess in correcting them unless you both work together on doing so.Surviving an affair and saving your marriage requires a broad range of effortfrom both you and your spouse. Problems and issues that took years todevelop and entrench won’t resolve themselves overnight, nor will painfulaffair memories go away at the flip of a switch.Saving your marriage is a commitment to stepping outside of old habits andcomfort zones, and into unfamiliar territory. But in exchange, you may finallyhave the marriage of your dreams.
  14. 14. Surviving an emotional affair is not an easy undertaking and it isrecommended you seek assistance in accomplishing it. To restore the trustand save your marriage from divorce you need to download the 7-PartSurvive an Affair course from Dr. Frank Gunzburg. Click here now for instantaccess. Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.
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