Rebuilding Trust After an Affair - 2 Things You Will Want to Ask For to Rebuild the Trust
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Rebuilding trust after your spouse has had an affair is no small undertaking. If you have been victimized by an affair that your spouse had, you were lied to in some fashion, whether directly or by ...

Rebuilding trust after your spouse has had an affair is no small undertaking. If you have been victimized by an affair that your spouse had, you were lied to in some fashion, whether directly or by your spouse simply withholding information and being deceptive. Either way, once you learned of the affair, the trust that existed between the two of you clearly was broken.

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  • Rebuilding Trust After an Affair - 2 Things You Will Want to Ask For to Rebuildthe TrustRebuilding trust after your spouse has had an affair is no small undertaking. If you have beenvictimized by an affair that your spouse had, you were lied to in some fashion, whether directlyor by your spouse simply withholding information and being deceptive. Either way, once youlearned of the affair, the trust that existed between the two of you clearly was broken.If you are reading this article, there is a good chance that you have done a search to find outhow to rebuild trust between you and your spouse after an affair, which means you havedecided or are at least strongly considering saving your marriage. At this point, often there is avery legitimate question posed: “How do I know when my spouse is lying to me or not?”Unfortunately, the answer is not necessarily 100% clear. There are people who’s professionstrain them to detect when someone is lying, and they know there are no foolproof methods todetermine when someone is lying or not.In light of that, perhaps there is a better question you may want to be asking yourself and thatis this: “How will I know when it is time to begin trusting again?”The answer to this question, quite frankly, can only be asked by you. Trust is lost in an instant,generally at the time you discover you have been betrayed. And to regain trust or rebuild ittakes time. How long depends on you, and no-one, not even a professional, can determine howlong that will take for you. It is a totally based on each individual.First and foremost, your offending spouse must be 100% willing to regain your trust. The firststep to this, of course, is to break off the affair and totally cut off communication from theirparamour. In the beginning stages, you will find that there are some things that are basic thatyou clearly trust your spouse on. For example, he or she may say, “I am running down to themailbox,” and you have no doubt as to their being genuine. However, they might say, “I amrunning late from work,” and you find yourself becoming suspicious, even though it is indeedthe case.When rebuilding trust after an affair, there are two things you may want to ask for:1. Reassurance in Word
  • Request that your spouse to do what they say they are going to do, even if it may seem to be abit trivial. If they say they are going to the store and will return home right after, then theyshould prove their word by doing exactly that - not stopping off anywhere else on the way.Now, many cheaters may at first balk at this, thinking they are somehow being put under amicroscope or are under some sort of house arrest. But quite frankly, that’s one of therepercussions of cheating, and at this point it is up to them to comply and rebuild the trust thatthey damaged.2. Reassurance in DeedThe other type of reassurance you will want to request when rebuilding trust after an affair hasto do with transparency. Ask your spouse for details pertaining to their lives and activities andexpect them to be open and honest about whom they are associating with.Many times these days, the computer is involved when it comes to affairs, particularly with theadvent of social media. Ask your spouse to share their password with you so that you maycheck in from time to time until you feel comfortable that you can once again trust them.These are just a couple of steps to rebuilding trust after affair. To restore yourself, fully rebuildthe trust, and save your marriage from divorce I strongly recommend for you to download this7-Part course from Dr. Frank Gunzburg. Click here now for instant access:http://www.marriage-sherpa.info.Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing onhelping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyonewho is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.