Managing The Unmanageable Starting and Stopping Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Parents often feel they are in trouble too.STOP THINGS THAT HURT YOU Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Stop Living Through Your Kids• Having dreams for your children does not mean they want them• You cannot be embarrassed by your kids. Embarrassment is totally subjective.• Just because you may have done the same thing as your child doesn’t mean you have to approve it. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Stop Listening To Others• Do not accept insulting or judgmental opinions of your parenting.• Defend your child without defending his/her actions.• Family and friends are the most likely to remember where you went wrong. Do not engage. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Stop Isolating Yourself• No matter how tempting do not cut yourself off from the rest of the world.• You are one of many parents dealing with these issues. “Why me?!” is not useful.• Anger and blaming become more common when you “circle the wagons”. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Take back your life.START THINGS THAT HELP YOU Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Act like a grownup• Appearance matters. Don’t dress like coming to court is an every day event. (Work clothes are always welcome!)• Defend your child without defending his/her actions.• Stop complaining. Period. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Start expressing your opinions• I will NOT accept any judgment of my parenting.• No. We did not all do this when we were his/her age.• Thanks for your advice but we are working with professionals. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
Reach Out To Others•• There is nothing better than talking with people who know just how you feel.• Parents new to the system are overwhelmed and need the voices of experienced ones.• Perhaps you don’t need help but someone might need yours. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
RememberStop living through your kids. Start acting like a grownup.Stop listening to other people’s opinions. Start expressing your own.Stop isolating yourself. Start reaching out to others who understand how you feel. Ashley and Me All Rights Reserved
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