TOPIC 4: CHILDREN    IN RELATIONSHIPS  Examining how our understanding ofchildren influences the ways we interact         ...
Bill Cosby on “The Grown-Ups.”
Bill Cosby on “The Grown-Ups.”
Expanding Perspectives on   ADULT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
(A RECAP FROM LAST TIME)
What do EXPERTS say?  What do ADULTS do?What do CHILDREN need?
What do CHILDREN need?  What do ADULTS do? What do EXPERTS say?
What are some of the dominantcultural repertoires within our    culture of parenting?
BIASES IN ADULT / CHILD      INTERACTIONS  Become a dominant set of cultural            repertoires    Exist in schools, h...
(What biases or culturalpressures do you recognize in the following film trailers?)
TRAILERS FOR...      Friends with KidsThe Odd Life of Timothy GreenWe Need to Talk about Kevin
CURRENT BIASES(in mainstream American culture):       Talking with children Developing educational interests Taking an act...
Moving Toward...BETTER UNDERSTANDING Adult-Child Interactions
4 STYLES 3 PHILOSOPHIESAuthoritarian   TraditionalistAuthoritative   Maximizing                 Options Permissive        ...
PARENTING                    Warm             CoolSTYLES:       Strong                 Authoritative   Authoritarian    Bo...
AUTHORITARIAN    Interactions Have Clear          Boundaries   Relationship Lacks WarmthAdult Controls Child through Fear ...
PERMISSIVE  Interactions Lack Boundaries  Relationship Involves WarmthAdult does not typically attempt to           contro...
AUTHORITATIVE  Interactions Have Clear        BoundariesRelationship Involves WarmthAdult Controls Child through   Status ...
UNINVOLVEDInteractions Lack BoundariesRelationship Lacks WarmthAdult typically neglects child
We can also examine...PHILOSOPHIES /ORIENTATIONS   OF PARENTING
PARENTING PHILOSOPHIESTraditionalist – Emphasizes Recreating  Family History and Culture in Adults Maximizing Options — Em...
Some ways how...SOCIO-ECONOMIC CLASS CAN INFLUENCE AND DISTINGUISHPARENTING PHILOSOPHIES      (From Annette Lareau’s   “Un...
CLASS BACKGROUNDS & PARENTING Middle/Upper-Middle Class Parents           Maximize Options            Foster Discussion   ...
CLASS BACKGROUNDS & PARENTING   Working/Lower Class Parents           Support Traditions            Use Directives        ...
What does parentingACTUALLY involve, though?
PARENTING:     “An Ethic of Care”A parent’s work involves balancing growth while socializing children                     ...
Based on this “Ethic of Care,” can we find...        NEW APPROACHESTO RELATING WITH CHILDREN?
DEMOCRATIC / INFLUENTIAL           Present-Oriented Interactions Based on Mutual Respect            and Negotiation     Re...
IN-CLASS ACTIVITY: ANALYZING ADULT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
ANALYSIS QUESTIONS:1) What does [a person] know about children in      general, and in a specific situation? 2) What do th...
(Examples with scenes fromLITTLE MISS SUNSHINE)      “Having Dinner”  “Breakfast On the Road”
Grounding What We Do InCHILDREN’S NEEDS
Infants Need:       1) Environmental variety            2) Predictability        3) Caretaking by adults4) Opportunities t...
Preschoolers Need (in addition): 5) Opportunities to master body and          object problems  6) Receive actions, gesture...
What Should New Models of  Parenting Look Like?  What Should They Include?       Protection/Safety        Support/Growth  ...
Safety & <-> Children’sStandards    Autonomy
Guiding <-> Children’sChildren    Creativity
Social        <-> AccountabilityAccountability        to Children
Preparing <-> Predicting the Children       Future?
WHY DOES ALL OF THIS MATTER?
One Example...
Children’s Creativity
(SEE ALSO:Ken Robinson on “Approaching an Unknown Future.“)
GRIT & RESILIENCE (See: Paul Tough’s work)
TRUST(e.g. The Marshmallow Study)
A Relevant Question...IS “OBEDIENCE”  THE GOAL?
“Disobedience is not an issueif obedience is not the goal.”        – Doran Quinian
Further Examples:RE-IMAGININGPLAYGROUNDS
Further Examples:RE-IMAGINING EDUCATION
“We like to say that the child is competent but  it is not enough just to declare this. If wereally want the child to be c...
Time, space, roles and rules
THINK ABOUT IT...    What Would Your OwnParenting Book, or Recipe foran Ideal Childhood, Look Like?
ALTERNATELY...What Would Your Ideal School, or  Mode of Education (Formal orInformal), Look Like for a Child?
HOMEWORK:  * Your Own Parenting Book/Recipe for Childhood                * Relationship Map* Finish Reading Sternheimer – ...
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
Slides from Class on Thursday, 11/1 (Topic 4)
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  1. 1. TOPIC 4: CHILDREN IN RELATIONSHIPS Examining how our understanding ofchildren influences the ways we interact and relate to them
  2. 2. Bill Cosby on “The Grown-Ups.”
  3. 3. Bill Cosby on “The Grown-Ups.”
  4. 4. Expanding Perspectives on ADULT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
  5. 5. (A RECAP FROM LAST TIME)
  6. 6. What do EXPERTS say? What do ADULTS do?What do CHILDREN need?
  7. 7. What do CHILDREN need? What do ADULTS do? What do EXPERTS say?
  8. 8. What are some of the dominantcultural repertoires within our culture of parenting?
  9. 9. BIASES IN ADULT / CHILD INTERACTIONS Become a dominant set of cultural repertoires Exist in schools, health care,counseling, media, culture in general... (Lareau, 2003)
  10. 10. (What biases or culturalpressures do you recognize in the following film trailers?)
  11. 11. TRAILERS FOR... Friends with KidsThe Odd Life of Timothy GreenWe Need to Talk about Kevin
  12. 12. CURRENT BIASES(in mainstream American culture): Talking with children Developing educational interests Taking an active role in schooling ReasoningProblem-solving through negotiation
  13. 13. Moving Toward...BETTER UNDERSTANDING Adult-Child Interactions
  14. 14. 4 STYLES 3 PHILOSOPHIESAuthoritarian TraditionalistAuthoritative Maximizing Options Permissive Present- Uninvolved Oriented
  15. 15. PARENTING Warm CoolSTYLES: Strong Authoritative Authoritarian Boundaries Loose Permissive Uninvolved Boundaries
  16. 16. AUTHORITARIAN Interactions Have Clear Boundaries Relationship Lacks WarmthAdult Controls Child through Fear (e.g., punishment)
  17. 17. PERMISSIVE Interactions Lack Boundaries Relationship Involves WarmthAdult does not typically attempt to control child
  18. 18. AUTHORITATIVE Interactions Have Clear BoundariesRelationship Involves WarmthAdult Controls Child through Status (e.g., authority)
  19. 19. UNINVOLVEDInteractions Lack BoundariesRelationship Lacks WarmthAdult typically neglects child
  20. 20. We can also examine...PHILOSOPHIES /ORIENTATIONS OF PARENTING
  21. 21. PARENTING PHILOSOPHIESTraditionalist – Emphasizes Recreating Family History and Culture in Adults Maximizing Options — Emphasizes Utilizing Resources to Improve Child’s Chances as an AdultPresent-Oriented — Emphasizes Meeting Children’s Immediate Needs
  22. 22. Some ways how...SOCIO-ECONOMIC CLASS CAN INFLUENCE AND DISTINGUISHPARENTING PHILOSOPHIES (From Annette Lareau’s “Unequal Childhoods”, 2003)
  23. 23. CLASS BACKGROUNDS & PARENTING Middle/Upper-Middle Class Parents Maximize Options Foster Discussion Promote Relative Equality Control Children’s Time
  24. 24. CLASS BACKGROUNDS & PARENTING Working/Lower Class Parents Support Traditions Use Directives Foster Clear Boundaries Control Children’s Actions
  25. 25. What does parentingACTUALLY involve, though?
  26. 26. PARENTING: “An Ethic of Care”A parent’s work involves balancing growth while socializing children (Sara Ruddick)
  27. 27. Based on this “Ethic of Care,” can we find... NEW APPROACHESTO RELATING WITH CHILDREN?
  28. 28. DEMOCRATIC / INFLUENTIAL Present-Oriented Interactions Based on Mutual Respect and Negotiation Relationships Involve Warmth Adult Influences Child through Empathy and Communication
  29. 29. IN-CLASS ACTIVITY: ANALYZING ADULT-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
  30. 30. ANALYSIS QUESTIONS:1) What does [a person] know about children in general, and in a specific situation? 2) What do they believe about children, etc.?3) How does this knowledge belief system affect their actions/interactions with children?
  31. 31. (Examples with scenes fromLITTLE MISS SUNSHINE) “Having Dinner” “Breakfast On the Road”
  32. 32. Grounding What We Do InCHILDREN’S NEEDS
  33. 33. Infants Need: 1) Environmental variety 2) Predictability 3) Caretaking by adults4) Opportunities to practice motor skills (Jerome Kagan, 1984)
  34. 34. Preschoolers Need (in addition): 5) Opportunities to master body and object problems 6) Receive actions, gestures, and communications that affirm worth (Jerome Kagan, 1984)
  35. 35. What Should New Models of Parenting Look Like? What Should They Include? Protection/Safety Support/Growth Socialization/Compliance Communication/Empowerment
  36. 36. Safety & <-> Children’sStandards Autonomy
  37. 37. Guiding <-> Children’sChildren Creativity
  38. 38. Social <-> AccountabilityAccountability to Children
  39. 39. Preparing <-> Predicting the Children Future?
  40. 40. WHY DOES ALL OF THIS MATTER?
  41. 41. One Example...
  42. 42. Children’s Creativity
  43. 43. (SEE ALSO:Ken Robinson on “Approaching an Unknown Future.“)
  44. 44. GRIT & RESILIENCE (See: Paul Tough’s work)
  45. 45. TRUST(e.g. The Marshmallow Study)
  46. 46. A Relevant Question...IS “OBEDIENCE” THE GOAL?
  47. 47. “Disobedience is not an issueif obedience is not the goal.” – Doran Quinian
  48. 48. Further Examples:RE-IMAGININGPLAYGROUNDS
  49. 49. Further Examples:RE-IMAGINING EDUCATION
  50. 50. “We like to say that the child is competent but it is not enough just to declare this. If wereally want the child to be competent, we have to change time, space, roles and rules to permit this competent child to exist.” — Carlina Rinaldi
  51. 51. Time, space, roles and rules
  52. 52. THINK ABOUT IT... What Would Your OwnParenting Book, or Recipe foran Ideal Childhood, Look Like?
  53. 53. ALTERNATELY...What Would Your Ideal School, or Mode of Education (Formal orInformal), Look Like for a Child?
  54. 54. HOMEWORK: * Your Own Parenting Book/Recipe for Childhood * Relationship Map* Finish Reading Sternheimer – Readings from Part 4 (pp. 181-197, 237-246, 266-280)

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