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“Love Sense” (written by Dr. Sue Johnson): the revolutionary new science of romantic relationships offers the reader a ground breaking guide to the new science of love and loving that has emerged in …

“Love Sense” (written by Dr. Sue Johnson): the revolutionary new science of romantic relationships offers the reader a ground breaking guide to the new science of love and loving that has emerged in the last 15 years. The science allows us not just to “fall” in love but to make sense of and shape our most precious relationships.

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  • 1. Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships DR. SUE JOHNSON WWW.DRSUEJOHNSON.COM
  • 2. Love is … AN ANCIENT WIRED-IN SURVIVAL CODE – DESIGNED TO KEEP KEY LOVED ONES CLOSE. WE ARE HOMO VINCULUM – THE ONE WHO BONDS.
  • 3. Intimates are our Ultimate Resource: GO TO: SAFE HAVEN PROTECTION & SUPPORT GO OUT FROM: SECURE BASE EXPLORATION & EFFICACY
  • 4. 3 Bonding Strategies: REACH PUSH / DEMAND TURN AWAY / TURN OFF
  • 5. Recurring Distress/Conflict CONFLICT IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS IS 90% PROTEST AT EMOTIONAL DISCONNECTION.
  • 6. Laws of Love: 1. OUR DEEPEST SURVIVAL INSTINCT / TO EMOTIONALLY CONNECT WITH SPECIAL ONES. - OTHERS ARE OUR PRIMARY BASELINE RESOURCE 2. REACHING IS OUR BEST AND PRIMARY STRATEGY. FUNCTIONAL. 3. ‘TRUE’ LOVE IS OPEN, RESPONSIVE. ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? BEING EMOTIONALLY ENGAGED, ATTUNED, SYNCHRONIZED 4. SEPARATION – ISOLATION TRAUMATIZES. 5. THREE MAIN MOVES IN THE DANCE OF LOVE: REACH/PULL/DISMISS
  • 7. Sex is a bonding behaviour BONDING STRATEGIES SHAPE SEX: SOLACE / SEALED OFF / SYNCHRONY SEX BEST RECIPE FOR GREAT SEX IS: SAFE CONNECTION NOT CONSTANT NOVELTY
  • 8. Changing Responsiveness to Threat with EFT www.drsuejohnson.com
  • 9. www.drsuejohnson.com
  • 10. LOVE IS NO STRANGE RANDOM RUSH OF SENTIMENT IT MAKES SENSE NOW WE CAN REALLY MAKE IT AND MAKE IT LAST