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  • 1. Founded Families Ministry
  • 2. Contents 1. Background and History of FFM 2. Challenges facing the Family 3. Vision, Mission and Objectives of FFM 4. Way forward
  • 3. Background and History
  • 4. Background and History Beginning… Founded Families Counseling Services was officially registered as a Sole Proprietorship in 2003. The spirit behind this foundation was birthed in my heart in 1984, after a strong rebuke from the Lord as to how the church had failed in her responsibilities to nurture , teach, and mentor young people aspiring for marriage life. l say it was a rebuke, as l had laughed at a story of a newly married couple that had come to Mombasa for their honeymoon, but left Mombasa divided and separated. As l enquired more on this story, l was informed that the wife said that she did not get married to a human being, but to a lion. So the story seemed laughable to me, but the Holy Spirit used it to rebuke and correct me, as he gave me more direction in that line. Let me confess that l had laughed like Sarah in the Book of Genesis 18:10-15. ' Then the your Lord said, "l will surely return to you about this time next year, and Sarah your wife will have a son.“ Now Sarah was listening at the entrance to the tent, which was behind him. Abraham and Sarah were already old and well advanced in years, and Sarah was past the age of childbearing. So Sarah laughed to herself as she thought, "AFTER I AM WORN OUT AND MY MASTER IS OLD, WILL L NOW HAVE THIS PLEASURE ?“ Then the Lord said to Abraham, "Why did Sarah laugh and say, 'Will l really have a child, now that l am old?' Is anything too hard for the Lord? l will return to you at the appointed time next year and Sarah will have a son.“ Sarah was afraid, so she lied and said, " l did not laugh.“ But he said, "Yes, you did laugh." Motivation Laughter?
  • 5. The need… When the Lord told me that l did laugh at the newly married couple, l did not defend myself, as l knew that God had seen my proud heart . l was proud because l had walked with quite a few couples and prepared them for marriage. Therefore, as long as this couple was not one of my couples, l was okay. But the Holy Spirit went further to show me the extent the church of Christ had failed in this responsibility, as stated in the Book of Titus 2:1-6. This is where the direction of nurturing, teaching and mentoring young people on premarital counseling took a different turn in my life. My focus was that l was founding their lives on a more SOLID FOUNDATION FOR THEIR FUTURE MARRIAGES. l continued doing these counseling to the BODY OF CHRIST, rather than only to our congregations. Let me also point out at this point that my late mother, lsabell Njeri Kamau , had mentored us a s young teenagers through Girl Guide Camps and meetings. She would teach us on how to relate with men, and also how not to hide in dark corners. Even as a family, she had encouraged us to bring all our friends home, and not to fear. This gave us freedom in our family to bring all our friends home, both male and female, without fear of retribution. Based on this family principle, l brought my friend home, who was later to become my husband. The story of how l knew he was to become my husband is another interesting subject. Mother’s Legacy… Background and History
  • 6. Developing mentees to become mentors When l sensed that this work needs to go another level higher, l began to mentor and encourage the mentees to also mentor others and teach and ground them on the right foundations. l started taking the couples over longer teaching and nurturing sessions of one to two years. Apostle Suubi and Apostle Desire are beneficiaries of this. This also lead to monthly sessions with younger people, where l would get my mentees to walk with others. Apostle Suubi and Dr Wambare assisted me alot in this work. The Founded Families Counseling School was also started where l took them through One Year Classes of intensive Teachings as they were preparing for marriage. Unlike the previous couples, the class had about five couples at the same time. Impact in South Africa When we launched the Founded Families for the first time, we had a great launch as many old and young couples attended. Mr and Mrs John Nganga were some of our presenters. People felt the need of this ministry, and we continued for quite some time. Later on after the Launch, my husband was Re-located to Cape Town in South Africa, where we stayed for five Years. While in South Africa, l met Kenyan families that were lacking nurturing and mentoring. l really saw the need, and we started meeting with the young wives on a weekly basis. Later, the husbands also wanted to be mentored and nurtured, and we started monthly meetings for the families. God granted us wonderful times of healing and nurturing where restoration took place. The couples chose to continue with the marriage sessions and even to do marriage courses. God did great things in South Africa. Background and History
  • 7. Support in ministry Since our return to Kenya in 2008, God sent me to work with the young people in the Universities. l was really concerned at the amount of problems young people were facing as a result of family problems. Since that time to date, l have walked with many young people, and l thank God for Apostle Desire , Pastor Omondi, and Dr Wambare, who have always been available to help and walk with these young people, whenever l have called upon them. What can l say, but to thank God for the growth of this work. The need is so great,, but the workers are few. The Bible says in Matthew 9:36- 38, ' When he (Jesus) saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, " The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field." Background and History
  • 8. Conclusion As l conclude, my heart is impressed to share the purpose of FATHERHOOD as seen in Genesis18:16-19. " When the men got up to leave, they looked down toward Sodom, and Abraham walked along with them to see them on their way. Then the Lord said, "Shall l hide from Abraham what l am about to do? Abraham will surely become a great and powerful nation, and all nations on earth will be blessed through him. For l have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.." l have observed throughout these seasons that there is a shortage and lack of "'TRUE FATHERS AND MOTHERS " for this mentoring and nurturing work amongst the upcoming couples, young marriages, medium marriages and even older couples. What can l say of the younger generation? l see Jesus weep for them! They have been neglected and are left on their own .Media and internet, books , magazines and the TV are their mentors. Where is the CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST? Needless to mention the teenagers and the younger children , where nobody even looks at their suffering! We have an awesome responsibly if we are going to rescue this two generations for God. We have to really come together in unity and strong prayer support for this work, so that God can intervene. intercession for the workers and the work itself is needed, so we can nurture and teach and mentor at all levels. Founded Families is giving us an opportunity to come and partner together and network together, so that we can all come and use our gifting to transform marriages and families, so that they can begin to REFLECT THE FOUNDER OF MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES! ARE YOU READY TO BRING ON THE TABLE WHAT GOD HAS DEPOSITED IN YOUR LIFE, SO AS TO SERVE AND SHERPHERD THE BODY OF CHRIST? THIS IS THE TIME AND THE SEASON TO DO IT. FOUNDED FAMILIES MINISTRY IS A PLACE YOU CAN WORK OUT YOUR GIFTS AND TALENTS. GOD BLESS YOU. Background and History
  • 9. Challenges Facing the Family Today
  • 10. Top 10 issues facing the family today Materialism • 205,841 cars in 2011 compared to 131,821 in 2008 (KRA) – 40% increase • Petroleum consumption 000 tonnes (3,133.2 (2008) to 3,857.9 (2011) – 18% increase (KNBS) • 7.3 billion minutes of mobile use in quarter 1 of 2013 (CCK) Balance of Work and Family • “I don’t have much time for him. I work from Monday to Saturday, spend half of Sunday in church and rest in the afternoon” • 85% work, 7% church, 7% rest, >1% others Negative Media Influences • Internet users is at 9.6 million which is 49.2% increase compared to last year (CCK) • 84 TV stations with temporary authorization to provide TV signal on digital platform Lack of Communication - An average of18% of every hour is spent on mobile phone. - What about TV time? Time to talk? Time to read the word? LifeWay Resources
  • 11. Top 10 issues facing the family today Financial Pressures • Ksh. 1,545 billion being transacted in 2012 on mobile phone (CBK) • Mortgages grew from 16,029 in 2011 to 19,177 in 2012 (15% increase) – CBK • Avg mortgage size increased from 5.6M to 6.4M • Credit cards in circulation: 69,478 (2005) to 131,397 (2012) = number doubled in less than 10 years Lack of Discipline • Youth were at the center of the 2007/2008 post‐election violence (PEV), both as direct perpetrators and as victims • Between 63k and 73k crimes reported (2008 - 2012) ranging from theft, murder, rape, economic crimes, abduction (Kenya Police) • Of these, an avg of 25k (abt 40%) are related to morality. Absent Father Figure • Today, 1/3 of American children – a total of 15 M – are being raised without a father. Nearly 5M more children live without a mother (Washington Times) • The rates of premarital single motherhood rise fastest between the ages of 15 and 20. The likelihood of becoming a single mother by age 45 is at 59.5% in Kenya (Single Motherhood in Sub-Saharan Africa) Busyness - “I don’t have much time for him. I work from Monday to Saturday, spend half of Sunday in church and rest in the afternoon” - 85% work, 7% church, 7% rest, >1% others LifeWay Resources
  • 12. Top 10 issues facing the family today Divorce • 50% of new marriages in the modern world end within the first year • In Great Britain 1/3 of marriages ends in divorce • In Kenya, married couples are divorcing faster in than new couples are getting married • It is estimated that on average a marriage lasts 37 weeks Anti-Christian Culture • GALCK is getting funding from donors for advocacy and empowerment (plans to invest in real estate etc) • Partnerships with NORAD, American Jewish World Services, GIZ, KNHCR. • “Religious doctrines have immensely contributed to not only non- recognition but also in the creation of a pretext that encourages the use of violence and discrimination against same sex loving persons” (GALCK) LifeWay Resources
  • 13. Marriage crisis in Kenya The Nation & Ipsos Synovate Research Are they happy? • Only 40% of Kenyans consider their union a happy one (2010, Saturday Nation) • This means that more than half of the couples have been living in an unfulfilling relationships • 53% of Kenyans consider their union a happy one (2013, Ipsos) What brought them / keeps them together? • 40% said they married out of love (2010, Saturday Nation) • Drivers of marriage include - Character 54%, Financial Stability 31%, Mannerisms 30%, Love 22%, Religion 19% (2013, Ipsos) • Would you choose the same spouse? (76% yes, 20% of the Nos were women) What causes conflict? • 50% of people interviewed said money was the main cause of conflict. • Where quarrelling led to separation and divorce, 64% of the persons interviewed blamed money matters for the break up of the marriage. • Materialism and financial endowment is central to marital stability more than fidelity. About singles, courtship and weddings…. -Men say the ideal age to marry is between 25 – 34 (2013, Ipsos). - Women say its between 18 - 29 (2013, Ipsos). - This is an average age gap of 6-7 years - Wedding planners say it would cost about 400k for 250 guest wedding (The East African, 2011) - In the US, the average courtship time has slumped from 18 months in 05/06 to 15 months in 2012
  • 14. Challenges facing the youth in Kenya Ministry of Youth Affairs Unemployment / Underemployment • Only about 25% of youth are absorbed, leaving 75% to bear the burden of unemployment. It is estimated that the youth population is at 9.1M (of age between 15 – 31years) • Close to 7M youths are not employed Health • Malaria, malnutrition, HIV/AIDS and STIs, drug and substance abuse as well as poor access to health services. FGM, teenage pregnancies, abortion. • Statistics indicate that the youth make up 33% of persons infected with HIV. The future leaders we talk about are unhealthy. Crime and deviant behavior • Due to idleness, especially after formal education, the youth become restless. Some end up in crime or with deviant behavior. • The lack of discipline and absence of father figure becomes manifest Increasing school and college drop outs -Due to the high cost of education and increase in overall poverty levels, poor returns on investment in education and lack of a re-admission policy for teenage mothers. - 37% of girls and 44% of boys aged 15-19 have already had sexual intercourse (KNBS) - These end up in our homes as house helps, shamba boys or drivers and they become key shapers of our children’s future.
  • 15. Digital explosion….. Internet Research
  • 16. FFM Vision, Mission and Objectives
  • 17. Vision and Mission Our Vision Our vision is taken from Titus 2:2-5; . 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. To see MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES STRONGLY FOUNDED AND GROUNDED IN GOD Our Mission TO SHINE THE LIGHT OF FAMILY AS GOD INTENDED THROUGH KNOWLEDGE AND MENTORSHIP.
  • 18. Objectives To encourage mature men and women in the local church, body of Christ at large and the community to their marriage roles and commitments. To teach the unmarried, young couples and young families on the principles of marriage, family and morality; including sexual purity and abstinence. To help, teach, counsel older single / widowed couples who want to enter into marriage To bring healing and restoration to hurting marriages and family in crisis. To help, teach, counsel older single / widowed couples who want to enter into marriage To teach young siblings, teenagers and young adults on the aspirations of marriages and families. To take a leading role to ensure that the marriage and family institution is protected and preserved along biblical foundations and so ensure that a godly heritage is transmitted to the next generation as per God’s command to Abraham
  • 19. Our response to challenges Anti Christian Culture + Lack of biblical foundations of family and commitment to live them Note:- Continual education on this subject is important in order to shield families from the vagaries of this culture Divorce + Education limited at pre-marital classes / counseling Note:- Growth in numbers of married couples without continual effective mentorship and grounding creates a possibility of many couples not being involved in Godly learning and exposure to counter culture. Other challenges e.g negative media etc + Family events e.g dinners, retreats, seminars etc for such topical issues to be addressed in detail. Note Deeper engagement on subject areas is required on a regular basis to diffuse the pressure to conform to the patterns of the world, reconnect between what we learn in church and what we experience every day out there in the marketplace
  • 20. Priorities shaping FFM programs DRIVERS ENABLERS IMPERATIVES FFM IMPLICATIONS THEWAYAHEAD2013-2063 Ministry Leadership Community Integrity Accountability Excellence Sanctity of Life Partnerships Networking FOUNDEDFAMILY Parents Children Marriages Relationships Strengthen existing marriages Strengthen relationships that lead to marriage Strengthen the children (all ages), youth singles' perception of relationships Strengthen parenting Teaching and learning resources Pre-marital counseling and mentorship programs Engage with institutions of higher learning, media Partnering with existing institutions Reconnecting the men, women and children to the foundations of family as God intended
  • 21. Way Forward
  • 22. Programs to deliver the plan Steam 1 – Strengthen Marriages 1. Teaching and nurturing sessions for both young and old marriages 2. Develop curriculum for marriages 3. Establish mentor groups where older marriages mentor younger ones 4. Advocacy on media to paint the right picture of marriages Stream 2 – Strengthen Courtship 1. Teaching and nurturing sessions for courting couples 2. Media campaigns on purity during courtship 3. Develop curriculum for courting couples 4. Media events on how to seek and find the right way and walk the right way through courtship into marriage. Stream 3 – Strengthen Youths and Singlehood 1. Teaching and nurturing sessions on reproductive health 2. Teaching and nurturing sessions on serving God in singlehood 3. Advocacy in learning institutions on teaching content especially where family is concerned 4. Youths and singlehood curriculum, media events Stream 4 – Strengthen Parenting 1. Teaching and nurturing sessions on parenthood from parenting an unborn child to parenting a parent 2. Teaching and nurturing sessions for pre-teens and the younger children 3. Development of learning curriculum for parenting both for parents and children.
  • 23. Next Step…..  Discuss and agree on priority areas  Detail work to be done in those areas  Allocate resources  Execute  Review and Feedback