“Idealists dare to have big dreams and then act as if they are possible... Idealism does not mean that you are an idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just WISH that things were better. Idealists do something to MAKE things better.“ From the Family Virtues Guide
WHO ARE THE PRESENTERS? Terry Rahn & Valerie Hess Master Facilitators of The Virtues Project
What is The Virtues Project? A global grassroots initiative that is transforming the cultures in homes, schools, organizations and communities, through awakening virtues, the gifts of character.
Is it ever too late? NO!! It is never to late to begin applying these strategies and achieving amazing results! Nor is it every too early…
Is this an add on curriculum? NO! This is not one more thing to add to your day. You infuse the strategies into what you are already doing.
Will my kids or co-workers think this is dorky? Maybe Humor is one way that adults and kids become comfortable with the language. Hang in there!
What are the goals for this workshop? TO AWAKEN YOUR VIRTUES TO INSPIRE YOU TO SEE VIRTUES IN OTHERS TO HAVE YOU PERSONALLY EXPERIENCE THE FIVE STRATEGIES OF THE VIRTUES PROJECT
What are our expectations? Follow the directions for each exercise Finish activities within allotted time frame Follow the boundaries that we establish
The A.R.T. Of Boundaries Assertiveness Do what is right for you Respect Be deeply present without advising interrupting rescuing criticizing teasing Trust Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.
INTERACTIVE INTRODUCTION 1. Pick one partner. 2. Choose who will be partner 1. 3. Partner 1 ask partner 2 all the questions, listening for their virtues. 4. Partner 1 acknowledge partner 2 for virtues you saw and heard. VIRTUE + EXAMPLE = VIRTUES ACKNOWLEDGMENT
Did you remember to write the virtues you saw on each other’s gem tags?
TEACHABLE MOMENTS ARE… The opportunities to shine light on virtues being practiced (acknowledge) The opportunities to bring attention to virtues needed in a given situation (guide) The opportunities to call one another back to our virtues when we fail to practice (correct)
In Teachable Moments Stop Shaming Start Naming Virtues
Clear Boundaries are needed to stay on course.
Clear boundaries are needed when we have a problem.
Clear Boundaries are needed to create a safe and peaceful learning environment.
Our boundaries are what we need to examine first, when we have a problem.
Do our boundaries address the problem? If the answer is “no”
SET A CLEAR BOUNDARY What virtues are needed? How do they need to be practiced? Be specific.
Boundaries are found in … Vision statements Mission statements Staff policies Discipline policies Progress Reports Performance Evals Program rules Family rules
Guidelines for Establishing Clear Boundaries 1. Be Moderate 2. Be Specific 3. Be Positive - Virtues Based 4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences 5. Make Consequences Educative 6. Be Consistent 7. Communicate Rules Clearly 8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood 9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable 10. Make Expectations Clear
Boundaries Courtesy Follow directions and treat each other as you would want to be treated. Respect Listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing. Trust Hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop. Assertiveness Participate in a way which is right for you. Share what you are comfortable sharing.
WRITING A BOUNDARY Write a personal boundary for work and for home Remember, first identify the virtue that is needed Next, write down a specific example of how to practice it
BOUNDARY QUESTIONS ACTIVITY In groups of three, take turns asking, one person at a time, all of the questions When each person has finished answering the questions, both listeners acknowledge virtues you see in the person who shared
The Virtues Pick 1. Pick a partner. Decide who will share first. 2. Share something about what’s up in your life at this time (good or bad). 3. Read your virtue card aloud and share how it is speaking to you. 4. Partner, companion in SILENCE with no cross talk. 5. When first person finishes sharing, partner give VIRTUES ACKNOWLEGEMENT and write the virtues on their gem tag.
Simple Steps for Spiritual Health Create a Routine of Reverence Take time every day for reflection. Enjoy Yourself Spend non-compulsory time alone and with people you enjoy. Make Time for Friendship For listening and companioning, for being together. Lead your life with Integrity Tell the truth. Do it now. Expose yourself to Beauty Be in nature. Spend time with the Arts.
Strategic Planning With the Five Virtues Strategies 1. Naming Virtues What are our core virtues, our strengths? What VIRTUES do we need to cultivate to move forward? 2. What is the Teachable Moment For our organization? 3. How clear are our Boundaries? What boundaries do we need to establish? 4. How shall we honor the Spiritual Dimension? What rituals, rites of passage, ceremonies are needed? 5. What are our true issues? What needs to be heard? How well do we companion one another?