This Thing Called Love
He who is not impatient is not in love. – Pietro Aretino, "La Talanta" (1492-1556)
And if we wish to know the order of all the passions in the way of generation, love
and hatred are ﬁrst; desire and aversion; hope and despair third; fear and daring
fourth; anger, ﬁfth; sixth and last, joy and sadness, which follow from all the
passions . . . yet so that love precedes hatred, desire precedes aversion, hope
precedes despair, fear precedes daring, and joy precedes sadness. – Thomas
Aquinas, "Summa Theologica" (1225-1274)
For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of pictures; and talk but
a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love. - - Francis Bacon, "Of Friendship"
Nuptial love maketh mankind; friendly love perfecteth it; but wanton love
corrupteth and embaseth it. - - Francis Bacon, "Of Judicature" (1561-1626)
Love has been assigned to woman as her supreme vocation, and when she directs
it toward a man, she is seeking God in him; but if human love is denied her by
circumstance, if she is disappointed or overparticular she may choose to adore
divinity in the person of God Himself. - - Simon De Beauvoir, "The Second Sex"
Love seeketh not Itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care,
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hell’s despair. - - -William Blake, Songs of Experience,
"The Clod & the Pebble" (1794)
When the coin is tossed either Love or Lust will fall uppermost. But if the metal is
right, under the one will always be the other. –Gerald Brenan, "Thoughts in a
Dry Season" (1899)
Lover indeed (I may not deny) ﬁrst united provinces, built cities, and by a
perpetual generation makes and preserves mankind; but if it rage it has no more
love, but burning lust, a disease, frenzy, madness, hell . . .
It subverts kingdoms, overthrows cities, towns, families; mars, corrupts and
makes a massacre of men; thunder and lightning, wars, ﬁres, plagues, have not
done the mischief as this burning lust, this brutish passion. –Robert Burton, "The
Anatomy of Melancholy" (1621)
In her ﬁrst passion woman loves her lover,
In all the others all she loves is love. ---Lord Byron, "Don Juan" (1821)
Love is ever the beginning of Knowledge as ﬁre is of light. – Thomas Carlyle,
I hate and love. You may ask why I do so. I do not know, but I feel it and am in
torment. – Cais Valerius Catullus, "Carmina" (87-54 B.C.)
Love in young men: for the most part is not love but sexual desire, and it
accomplishment is the end. - - Miguel De Cervantes Saavedra, attributed
"Do not forget, Sancho," replied Don Quixote, "that there are two kinds of
beauty, one being of the soul and the other of the body. That of the soul is
revealed through intelligence, modesty, right conduct, generosity, and good
breeding, all of which qualities may exist in an ugly man; and when one’s gaze is
ﬁxed upon beauty of this sort and not upon that of the body, love is usually born
suddenly and violently." - - - Miguel De Cervantes Saavedra, "Don Quixote"
Everything ought to be beautiful in a human being:
"Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development,
invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears. "
--- Edgar Allan Poe
Autumn is over the long leaves that love us,
And over the mice in the barley sheaves;
Yellow the leaves of the rowan above us,
And yellow the wet wild-strawberry leaves.
The hour of the waning of love has beset us,
And weary and worn are our sad souls now;
Let us part, ere the season of passion forget us,
With a kiss and a tear on thy drooping brow.
.....The Falling of the Leaves by William Butler Yeats
It is not enough to conquer; one must know how to seduce.....Voltaire
We ﬂy to beauty as an asylum from the terrors of ﬁnite nature. - -
Emerson, Journals, 1836.
Beauty is a primeval phenomenon, which itself never makes its
but the reﬂection of which is visible in a thousand different utterances
of the creative mind, and is as various as nature herself. - -
Goethe, quoted in Johann Peter Eckermann's
Conversations with Goethe, April 18, 1827.
"For I conclude that the enemy is not lipstick, but guilt itself;
that we deserve lipstick, if we want it, and free speech;
we deserve to be sexual and serious--or whatever we please;
we are entitled to wear cowboy boots to our own revolution."
-Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
"People see you as an object, not a person,
and they project a set of expectations onto you.
People who don't have it think beauty is a blessing,
but actually it sets you apart." -Candace Bergen
"The Rubicans which women must cross,
the sex barriers which they must breach,
are ultimately those that exist in their own minds."
"Obesity in a woman violates conventional sexuality
not only through association with self-absorption
and auto-eroticism but also because largeness [is equated with]
-Marcia Millman, Such a Pretty Face
"Let me listen to me and not to them." -Gertrude Stein
"Its hard to ﬁght an enemy who has outposts in your head." -Sally
" It is not easy to become beautiful. It requires hard work, patience,
and attention to detail. It also takes a certain ﬁrmness of purpose.
is in the eye of the beholder, and it may be necessary from time to
give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye." -Miss Piggy
"Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win." -Bernadette
"Love is like an hourglass, with the heart ﬁlling up as the
brain empties." - Jules Renard.
"If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?" -
"Is sex dirty? Only when it's being done right." - Woody
Allen, Everything you Always Wanted to Know about Sex,
but were Afraid to Ask, 1972.
"Continental people have sex-lives; the English have
hot-water bottles." - George Mikes, How to be an Alien,
"Sex appeal is 50 per cent what you've got, and 50 per cent
what people think you've got." - Sophia Loren.
"Sex between a man and a woman can be wonderful,
provided you can get between the right man and the right
woman." - Woody Allen.
"When you're away, I'm restless, lonely, Wretched, bored,
dejected; only here's the rub, my darling dear, I feel the
same when you're near." - Samuel Hoffenstein.
"Bigamy is having one spouse two many. Monogamy is
just the same." -Anonymous.
"When two divorced people marry, four people get into
bed." - Jewish proverb.
"Mummy, mummy, what's an orgasm? I dunno. Ask your
Barbara Walters: "You've been married 42 years. What
makes your marriage work?" Robert Mitchum: "Lack of
imagination, I suppose."
"Marriage is the alliance of two people, one of whom
never remembers birthdays and the other who never
forgets." - Ogden Nash.
"Men are creatures with two legs and eight hands." - Jayne
"Bachelors have consciences, married men have wives." -
H. L. Mencken.
"Male sexual response is far brisker and more automatic: it
is triggered easily by thing, like putting a quarter in a
vending machine." - Alex Comfort.
"When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge
than to let him keep her." – Sacha Guitry.
"Bachelors know more about women than married men do.
If they didn't, they'd be married too." - H. L. Mencken.
"God made man, and then said "I can do better than that"
and made woman." – Adela Rogers St. John.
"It's the good girls who keep the diaries; the bad girls never
have the time." – Tallulah Bankhead.
"When a woman behaves like a man, why can't she behave
like a nice man?" - Dame Edith Evans.
"There are a number of mechanical devices which increase
sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these
is the Mercedes-Benz 380SL convertible." - P. J. O'Rouke.
"If you are ever in doubt as to whether to kiss a pretty girl,
always give her the beneﬁt of the doubt." - Thomas
"I'll come up and make love to you at ﬁve o'clock. If I'm
late, start without me." – Tallulah Bankhead.
"I'm always looking for meaningful one-night stands." -
'Oh, love is real enough, you will ﬁnd it someday, but it
has one archenemy-and that is life.' ~Jean Anouilh
'Tis time this heart should be unmoved, Since others it hath
ceased to move. Yet though I cannot be beloved, still let
me love!' ~Lord Byron
'Within you, I lose myself;
Without you, I ﬁnd myself;
Searching to be lost again.'
'And all that did attend and follow were silent with love, as
~Percy Bysshe Shelley
'So deep in luve am I: And I will luve thee still, my dear,
'till a' the seas gang dry..'
'I arise from dreams of thee in the ﬁrst sweet sleep of night,
when the winds are breathing low and the stars are shining
bright..let thy love in kisses rain on my lips and eyelids
pale..' ~Percy Bysshe Shelley
'And so thy thoughts, when thou art gone, love itself shall
~Percy Bysshe Shelley
'She walks in beauty, like the night, of cloudless climes and
starry skies; and all that's best of dark and bright meet in
her aspect and her eyes..' ~Lord Byron
'Love is much like a wild rose, beautiful and calm, but
willing to draw blood in its defense.' ~Mark Overby
'When the autumn wind scatters peonies, a few petals fall
in pairs.' ~Buson
'Waking alone at the hour when we are trembling with
tenderness, Lips that would kiss form prayers to broken
stone.' ~T.S. Eliot
'There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the
bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.'
'The planet of Love is on high..' ~Alfred, Lord Tennyson
'Love remains a secret even when spoken, for only a lover
truly knows he is loved.'
'For you see, each day I love you more..' ~Rosemonde
'At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet.' ~Plato
'At last I know what love is really like.' ~Virgil
'Love is best.' ~Robert Browning
'Whoso loves, believes the impossible.' ~Elizabeth Barrett
'A kiss, when all is said, 'tis a secret told to the mouth
instead of the ear.'
~Cyrano de Bergerac
' Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody
wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it; those
who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all,
never..never forget it.' ~Curtis Judalet
'For 'twas not into my ear you whispered but into my heart;
'twas not my lips you kissed but my soul..' ~Judy Garland
'It is the passion that is in a kiss that gives to it its
sweetness; it is the affection in a kiss that sanctiﬁes it.'
~Christian Nestell Bovee
'For in the end, we will conserve only what we love.'
'The wise want love and those who love want wisdom.'
~Percy Bysshe Shelley
'Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love makes the
~Franklin P. Jones
'I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I
am with you.'
'Soul meets soul on lovers' lips..' ~Percy Bysshe Shelley
'Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.'
'Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the
same.' ~Emily Bronte
'To love one who also loves you..is exceeding the limit of
human joy, it is stealing ﬁre from heaven.' ~Madame de
'The way to love anything is to realize..it might be lost.'
'Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at
all.' ~Alfred, Lord Tennyson
'But true love is a durable ﬁre, In the mind ever burning,
Never sick, never old, never dead, From itself never
turning.' ~Sir Walter Raleigh
'Accept the things to which fate binds you and love the
people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with
all your heart.' ~Marcus Aurelius
'Love is the offspring of spiritual afﬁnity, and unless that
afﬁnity is created in a moment, it will not be created for
years or even generations.' ~Khalil Gibran
'The story of love is not important~what is important is
that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse
we are permitted of eternity.' ~Helen Hayes
'One word frees us of all the weight and pain in the world.
That word is love.'
'Why love if losing hurts so much?' ~C.S. Lewis
'One of the oldest human needs is having someone to
wonder where you are when you don't come home at
night.' ~Margaret Mead
'You are the secret song of birds, The thing that words can
The ﬁre within the ﬂame, the throb within the pulse~The
spirit that exults~
Joy that no grief can tame..' ~Louis Untermeyer
'My only love sprung from my only hate.'
~Shakespeare's Romeo & Juliet
'True love doesn't hurt others..' ~Unknown
'Love demands inﬁnitely less than friendship.' ~George
'When we can't have what we love, we must love what we
~Roger de Bussy-Rabutin
'Never get married in the morning, 'cause you never know
who you'll meet that night.' ~Paul Hornung
'Platonic friendship: the interval between the introduction
and the ﬁrst kiss.'
~Sophie Irene Loeb
'I'm a practicing heterosexual, but bisexuality immediately
doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.'
'How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to
the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach, when
feeling out of sight..' ~Elizabeth Barrett Browning
"Chastity is it's own punishment." -- A poster in Greenwich
Village, psychedelic store in 1967
"Relationships are hard. It's like a full-time job, and we
should treat it like one. If your boyfriend or girlfriend
wants to leave you, they should give you two weeks'
notice. There should be severance pay and before they
leave you, they should have to ﬁnd you a temp." Bob
The best way to hold a man is in your arms. -Mae West
"Love arrives on tiptoe but bangs the door when it leaves."
when i say you sucked my brain out the english translation
is i am in love with you - Ani Difranco
"You're right, disappointment doesn't kill. Rejection kills.
Disappointment only maims." Abby Barnes in reference to
dating,_The Truth about Cats and Dogs
"I don't handle alcohol very well. One drink and I have to
go to my bed. Two drinks and I have to go to your bed."
--Singer Chrissie Hynde
"People ask me, 'What's the most dangerous thing you've
ever done?' I say, 'Dating.'" --Sandra Bullock
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.o risk being called
To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd is to
risk being called naive.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair, and to try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life
is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing, does
nothing, has nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid
suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel
and change and grow and love and live.
Chained only by his certitudes, he is a slave, he's forfeited
his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.
-- Leo Buscaglia
" Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody
wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those
who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and amoung all,
never...never forget it. " -- Curtis Judalet
Marriage is a permanent contract based upon temporary
feelings, Casual sex is a temporary contract based upon
permanent feelings. -Unknown
The magic of ﬁrst love is our ignorance that it can ever
end.-- Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881) English prime
First love is only a little foolishness and a lot of curiosity.
--George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Anglo-Irish
playwright, critic Broadbent, John Bull's Other Island
You say to me-wards your affection's strong; Pray love me
little, so you love me long. --Robert Herrick 1591-1674
Love Me Little, Love Me Long
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is
better than not to be able to love at all. --William
Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863) English author
That's the nature of women not to love when we love them,
and to love when we love them not. --Don Quixote de la
" Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. " --
" A romance novel is where you have the best sex of your
life and live happily ever after. " -- John Short
Dancing: The vertical expression of a horizontal
desire legalized by music
" Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly
broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you
must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it
carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all
entanglements. Lock it up save in the casket or cofﬁn of
your selﬁshness. But in that casket--safe, dark, motionless,
airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become
unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be
vulnerable. " --C. S. Lewis.
" Sex without love is a empty and meaningless experience,
but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best. " - Woody
" When it comes to sex I plead insanity, I'm just crazy
about it! " . . . Anonymous
LOVE: That blissful intermission between meeting
someone and realizing how much you hate them.
" From now on I'm going to wear all of the colors of the
rainbow, and fall in love with someone who fancies me for
a change. " - Fiona, _Four Weddings and a Funeral_
" Tis better to have loved and lost a short person than never
to have loved a tall. " --Mary
" The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing of.
" - Pascal
" Love is a perky elf dancing a merry little jig and then
suddenly he turns on you with a minature machine gun. " -
from a cartoon by Matt Groening
" Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then
suddenly it ﬂips over, pinning you underneath. At night,
the ice weasels come. " - Matt Groening
" Love just makes you so damn optimistic. " - soap opera
" It's a special feeling I get when a friend falls in love.. I
feel so.. so.. " " Bitter. " " That's it exactly. " - Doctor,
" Never judge someone by who he's in love with; judge
him by his friends. People fall in love with the most
appalling people. Take a cool, appraising glance at his pals.
" -- Cynthia Heimel
This will be no help at all, but I was immediately reminded of a
country western song title-- Now That You're Gone, I Miss You
Almost As Much As If You Were Still Here, which was rapidly
followed by How Can I Miss You If You Won't Go Away?
" The heart is the most resilient muscle. It is also the
stupidest." Nike's "Six Acts of Love: A Passion Play"
"For twas not into my ear you whispered but into my heart.
Twas not my lips you kissed, but my soul." Judy Garland
"It is the passion that is in a kiss that gives to it its
sweetness; it is the affection in a kiss that sanctiﬁes it." --
Christian Nestell Bovee
"A man snatches the ﬁrst kiss, pleads for the second,
demands the third, takes the fourth, accepts the ﬁfth--and
endures all the rest." -- Helen Rowland
" Soul meets soul on lovers' lips. " Shelley (Prometheus
" Absence diminishes little passions and increases great
ones, as wind extinguishes candles and fans a ﬁre. " -
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
" Absence is to love what wind is to ﬁre; it extinguishes the
small, it enkindles the great. " -Comte DeBussy Rabutin
" Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman
are two seperate passions, not merely different but
opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for
copulation (a desire that extends to an inﬁnite number of
women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited
to one woman). " --Milan Kundera in The Unbearable
Lightness of Being
" All love that has not friendship for its base, Is like a
mansion built upon the sand. " --Ella Wheeler Wilcox
" Love is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the
same direction. " -- Antoine de Saint-Exupery, 'Wind,
SAnd and Stars',
With love and patience, nothing is impossible.
Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the
delight in the recognition.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Talk not of wasted affection; affection never was wasted.
Unknown What most people need to learn in life is how to
love people and use things instead of using people and
Information is not knowledge, knowledge is not wisdom,
wisdom is not truth, truth is not beauty, beauty is not love.
Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get,
it's what you are expected to give -- which is everything
Rainer Maria Rilke
For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the
most difﬁcult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and
proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.
M. Scott Peck, M.D
Nirvana or lasting enlightenment or true spiritual growth
can be achieved only through persistent exercise of real
W. H. Auden
Among those whom I like or admire, I can ﬁnd no
common denominator, but among those whom I love, I
can: all of them make me laugh.
Can there be a love which does not make demands on its
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.
We can do no great things; only small things with great
P. L. Berger
In science as in love, too much concentration on technique
can often lead to impotence.
No matter what, no matter where, it's always home, if love
If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love
fear pain or loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss
He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed
often, and loved much.
Love is not blind, it sees more not less;
But because it sees more it chooses to see less.
He who is not impatient is not in love. – Pietro Aretino,
"La Talanta" (1492-1556)
And if we wish to know the order of all the passions in the
way of generation, love and hatred are ﬁrst; desire and
aversion; hope and despair third; fear and daring fourth;
anger, ﬁfth; sixth and last, joy and sadness, which follow
from all the passions . . . yet so that love precedes hatred,
desire precedes aversion, hope precedes despair, fear
precedes daring, and joy precedes sadness. – Thomas
Aquinas, "Summa Theologica" (1225-1274)
For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery
of pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there
is no love. - - Francis Bacon, "Of Friendship"
Nuptial love maketh mankind; friendly love perfecteth
it; but wanton love corrupteth and embaseth it. - -
Francis Bacon, "Of Judicature" (1561-1626)
Love has been assigned to woman as her supreme
vocation, and when she directs it toward a man, she is
seeking God in him; but if human love is denied her by
circumstance, if she is disappointed or overparticular
she may choose to adore divinity in the person of God
Himself. - - Simon De Beauvoir, "The Second Sex"
Love seeketh not Itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care,
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hell’s despair. - - -William
Blake, Songs of Experience, "The Clod & the Pebble"
When the coin is tossed either Love or Lust will fall
uppermost. But if the metal is right, under the one will
always be the other. –Gerald Brenan, "Thoughts in a
Dry Season" (1899)
Lover indeed (I may not deny) ﬁrst united provinces,
built cities, and by a perpetual generation makes and
preserves mankind; but if it rage it has no more love,
but burning lust, a disease, frenzy, madness, hell . . .
It subverts kingdoms, overthrows cities, towns,
families; mars, corrupts and makes a massacre of men;
thunder and lightning, wars, ﬁres, plagues, have not
done the mischief as this burning lust, this brutish
passion. –Robert Burton, "The Anatomy of
In her ﬁrst passion woman loves her lover,
In all the others all she loves is love. ---Lord Byron,
"Don Juan" (1821)
Love is ever the beginning of Knowledge as ﬁre is of
light. – Thomas Carlyle, "Goethe" (1828)
I hate and love. You may ask why I do so. I do not
know, but I feel it and am in torment. – Cais Valerius
Catullus, "Carmina" (87-54 B.C.)
Love in young men: for the most part is not love but
sexual desire, and it accomplishment is the end. - -
Miguel De Cervantes Saavedra, attributed (1547-1615)
"Do not forget, Sancho," replied Don Quixote, "that
there are two kinds of beauty, one being of the soul and
the other of the body. That of the soul is revealed
through intelligence, modesty, right conduct,
generosity, and good breeding, all of which qualities
may exist in an ugly man; and when one’s gaze is ﬁxed
upon beauty of this sort and not upon that of the body,
love is usually born suddenly and violently." - - -
Miguel De Cervantes Saavedra, "Don Quixote"
If we do not know what port we’re steering for, no wind
is favorable. . – Seneca
Around the corner there may wait a new road or a
secret gate. – J.R.R. Tolkien
We meet ourselves time and again in a thousand
disguises on the paths of life. – Carl Jung
Each of us is meant to have a character all our own, to
be what no other can exactly be, and do what no other
can exactly do. -–William Ellery Channing
What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. –
Talents are common; everyone has them. But rare is the
courage to follow our talents where they lead. –
That which we do not confront in ourselves we will
meet as fate. – Carl Jung
If I were to begin life again, I should want it just as it
was; only I would open my eyes a little more. – Jules
Before we can forgive one another, we have to
understand one another. – Emma Goldman
Creative energy, ﬂowing in waves-
The nourishing sun, the ﬂash of lighting.
Breathe it in; feel its force.
It can create, nourish, or destroy.
How do you channel creative energy in your life?
Is it blocked or ﬂowing?
How does it manifest in positive ways?
How does it manifest in negative ways?
What would life be like if you conﬁdently
Unleashed the creativity within you? – Dan Millman
Some people say they haven’t yet found themselves. But
the self is not something one ﬁnds; it is something one
creates. – Thomas Szasz
The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure,
but to be able to tolerate insecurity. – Erich Fromm
Before we can make friends with anyone else, we must
ﬁrst make friends with ourselves. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Imagine two hands, one open and offering, the other
clenched in a ﬁst of resistance. Which hand do you put
Do you hold out both hands in equal measure?
Do you allow yourself to receive as much as you give?
Do you overhelp, then resent it?
Where does your responsibility end and that of others
Have you found a balance in your life? – Dan Millman
All great discoveries are made by those whose feelings
run ahead of their thinking.
– C. H. Parkhurst
Imagine a rosebud with its petals closed over a glowing
heart, ﬁlled with passionate feelings, but not showing
itself in its full beauty, not until the blossom opens. It
remains closed by doubt. How does self-doubt affect
your life? Do you express your feelings openly, or do
you hide, like the heart in the rosebud? – Dan Millman
If you have built castles in the air, your work need not
be lost. Now put
Imagine a house under construction, the foundation
poured and set, the structure and framework rising,
one step at a time. How is this house like your life?
What does it reveal to you about reaching your goal?
Have you strengthened your foundation? Do you build
your life step-by-step? – Dan Millman
Adventure is not outside; it is within. – David Grayson
The time has come for us to stop tuning separate
instruments and, together, to create a symphony. –
What we can’t express runs our life. – Anonymous
Life is a dance if you take the steps: one step, then
another. – Anonymous
As far as your self-control goes, as far goes your
freedom. – Maria Ebner Von Eschenbach
It doesn’t matter what we do until we accept ourselves.
Once we accept ourselves, it doesn’t matter what we do.
– Charly Heavenrich
As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to
live. – Goethe
To do more for the world than the world does for you –
that is success. – Henry Ford
Eventually, everyone sits down to a banquet of
consequences. – Robert Louis Stevenson
The world is not to be put in order; the world is order,
incarnate. It is for us to harmonize with this order. –
You must give folks a key and they can open their own
locks. – Robert R. McCammon
Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk
behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my
friend. - Albert Camus.
To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love.
But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to
not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love.
To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be happy one must love or love to suffer
or suffer from too much happiness. - Woody Allen
Among those whom I like or admire, I can ﬁnd no common
but among those whom I love, I can: all of them make me laugh. -
W. H. Auden
Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited
love. - Charlie Brown
You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love;
the running across ﬁelds into your lover's arms
can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.
- Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"
Absence is to love what wind is to ﬁre; it extinguishes the small, it
enkindles the great.
– Comte DeBussy-Rabutin
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.- Albert
No, this trick won't work...
How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry
and physics so important a biological phenomenon as ﬁrst love?
- Albert Einstein
There are very few people who are not ashamed of having been in
when they no longer love each other.
-Francois, Duc de La Rouchefoucald
Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the
innermost core of his personality - Victor Frankel
Love is an irresistable desire to be irresistably desired. -Robert
A man in love is incomplete until he is married. Then he's
- Zsa Zsa Gabor
Love is not blind -- it sees more, not less.
But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.
- Rabbi Julins Gordon
Love is a hole in the heart. - Ben Hecht
Love is like pi -- natural, irrational, and important. - Lisa
People think love is an emotion. Love is good sense. - Ken Kesey
Love is only the dirty trick played on us to achieve continuation of
W. Somerset Maugham, "A Writer's Notebook" 1949
In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything,
and two minus one equals nothing.
Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
- - H. L. Mencken
Love is like racing across the frozen tundra on a snowmobile
which ﬂips over, trapping you underneath. At night, the
Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others,
and the delight in the recognition.
- Alexander Smith
Love in its essence is spiritual ﬁre. -Swedenborg
Infatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford, as
smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as
Woody Allen, and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. Love is when you
realize that he's as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy
Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger
and nothing like Robert Redford - but you'll take him anyway. -
Love is a canvas furnished by Nature and embroidered
Men always want to be a womans ﬁrst love –
women like to be a mans last romance. -Oscar Wilde
Many a young lady does not realize just how strong her
love for a young man is until he fails to pass the
approval test with her parents.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out
Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal
Beauty is excrescence, superabundance, random ebulience, and
sheer delightful waste to be enjoyed in its own right. -Donald
Culross Peattie, "An Almanac for Moderns"
Remember that the most beautiful things in the world are the
most useless; peacocks and lilies, for example. -John Ruskin,
"The Stones of Venice, I"
"Love sees with the heart and not the mind; therefore,
winged cupid is
painted blind." --William Shakespeare
It is impossible to love and to be wise. -Francis Bacon
One hour of right-down love
Is worth an age of dully living on. --Aphra Behn
Love ceases to be a pleasure, when it ceases to be a
secret. --Aphra Behn
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out
fear. --The Bible
Set me as a seal upon thy heart, as a seal upon thine
arm: for love is
strong as death. --The Bible
Love seeketh not Itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care,
But for another gives it ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hell's despair.
To fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible
god. --Jorge Luis Borges
O what a heaven is love! O what a hell! --Thomas
I am two fools, I know,
For loving, and for saying so
in Whining poetry.
All mankind love a lover. --Ralph Waldo Emerson
For you see, each day I ove you more,
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
A lover without indescretion is no lover at all. -Thomas
Love and a cough cannot be hid. -George Herbert
At the beginning and at the end of love, the two lovers
to find themselves alone. -La Bruyere
If we judge of love by its usual effects, it resembles
hatred more than
friendship. -La Rochefoucauld
It is with true love as it is with ghosts;
everyone talks about it, but few have seen it.
It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death.
Who ever loved that loved not at first sight?
Love is a kind of warfare. -OVID
At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet. --Plato
Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at
each other but
in looking outward together in the same direction.
-Antoine de Saint-Exupery
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
The course of true love never did run smooth.
All's fair in love and war. -Francis Edward Smedley
One word frees us of all the weight and pain in life.
That word is love. -Sophocles
Love is the child of illusion and the parent of
disillusion. -Miguel de Unamuno
I recently read that love is entirely a matter of
chemistry. That must
be why my wife treats me like toxic waste. - David
I've sometimes thought of marrying, and then I've
thought again. –
Noel Coward, 1956
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge
than to let him
keep her. - Sacha Guitry
Eighty percent of married men cheat in America. The
rest cheat in
Europe -Jackie Mason
Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside
desperate to get
in, and those inside desperate to get out. - Montaigne
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of
a coin; they just
can't face each other, but still they stay together. --
Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring,
wedding ring, and
Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence.
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over
marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one;
the trouble starts when
they try to decide which one.
Before marriage, a man yearns for the woman he
loves. After marriage,
the 'Y' becomes silent.
If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict
attention to every
word you say, talk in your sleep.
Beauty is its own excuse for being.
You are but the loveliest thing of beauty God ever has
shown to me,
Your voice, your hair, your eyes, the soft and gentle
ways you are.
Beauty is a form of Genius--is higher indeed, than
genius as it needs no explanation.
What's female beauty, but an air divine.
Thro' which the mind's all gentle graces shine?
They, like the sun, irradiates all between;
The body charms becausse the soul is seen.
Beautiful in form and feature,
Lovely as the day,
Can there be so fair a creature,
Formed of common ways?
"I mean, I like being attractive and popular, it's, like,
me okay? So if Dr. Shar makes everybody else
attractive and popular, then I'll have to be even more
attractive just to keep up, and then if they, like, go back
to her to catch up to me, then I'll have to go back and
pretty soon it'll be, like, one of those vicious things!
Where will it end, Daria? Where will it end?" -Quinn
Morgendorfer in Daria
"Character contributes to beauty...A mode of conduct,
a standard of courage, discipline, fortitude and
integrity can do a great deal to make a woman
"There's a beauty on the inside of you / And it shows on
the outside too."
-Michael W. Smith
"Tis beauty that doth oft make women proud; / 'Tis
virtue that doth make them most admired; / 'Tis
modesty, that makes them seem divine." -Shakespeare
"The best and most beautiful things in the world
cannot be seen or even touched, but must be felt with
the heart." -Helen Keller
"Sometimes it seems like we're all living in some kind
of prison and the crime is how much we hate
ourselves....when you really look closely people are so
strange and so complicated that they're actually
beautiful." -"Angela Chase" My So-Callledd Life
"Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it."
The breath of divine knowledge is the
of divine love, and the ﬂame of divine love is
perfection of divine knowledge.
and Man of
Divine is love, and scorneth worldly pelf,
And can be bought with nothing but with self.
There are three kinds of love, - unselﬁsh,
mutual, and selﬁsh. The unselﬁsh love is of
the highest kind. The lover only minds the
welfare of the beloved and does not care for
his own sufferings. In mutual love the lover
not only wants the happiness of his beloved
but has an eye towards his own happiness
also. It is middling. The selﬁsh love is the
lowest. It only looks towards its own
happiness, no matter whether the beloved
suffers weal or woe.
Paradise is always where love dwells.
Love does not consist in gazing at each other
but in looking together in the same direction.
Love rules the court, the camp, the grove,
And men below, and saints above:
For love is heaven, and heaven is love.
True love hates and will not bear delay.
If you wished to be loved, love.
Were beauty under twenty locks kept fast,
Yet love breaks through and picks them all at
Doubt thou the stars are ﬁre!
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt I love.
They are but beggars that can count their
But my true love is grown to such excess,
I cannot sum up half my sum of wealth.
Where love is great, the littlest doubts are
When little fears grow great, great love grows
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee
The more I have, for both are inﬁnite.
For thy sweet love remembered such wealth
That then I scorn to change my state with
Love is but another name for that inscrutable
presence by which the soul is connected with
Love expects no reward.
Love knows no fear.
Love Divine gives - does not demand.
Love thinks no evil; imputes no motive.
To Love is to share and serve.
Love is the emblem of eternity: it confounds
all notion of time: effaces all memory of a
beginning, all fear of an end.
Love is the history of a woman's life; it is an
episode in man's.
Love is like what is called the Milky Way in
heaven, a brilliant mass formed by thousands
of little stars, of which each perhaps is
Courtship consists in a number of quiet
attentions, not so pointed as to alarm, nor so
vague as not to be understood.
And my heart springs up anew,
Bright and conﬁdent and true,
And the old loves comes to meet me
in the dawning and the dew.
Love in its essence is spiritual ﬁre.
To love deeply in one direction makes
us more loving in all others.
So weak thou art that fools thy power despise;
And yet so strong, thou triumph'st o'er the
Laurel is green for a season,
and love is sweet for a day;
But love grows bitter with treason,
and laurel outlives not May.
I love thee, I love but thee,
With a love that shall not die
Till the sun grows cold,
And the stars are old.
And the leaves of the Judgement Book
The greatest pleasure of life is love.
Who are wise in love, love most, say least.
'Tis better to have loved and lost than never
to have loved at all.
And on her lover's arm she leant,
And round her waist she felt it fold,
And far across the hills they went
In that new world which is the old.
Lovers' quarrels are the renewal of love.
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love
foolishly is better than not to be able to love
Fear not to swear; the winds carry the
perjuries of lovers without effect over land
and sea, thanks to Jupiter. The father of the
gods himself has denied effect to what foolish
lovers in their eagerness have sworn.
s (c. B.C.
The little space within the heart is as great as
this vast universe. The heavens and the earth
are there,and the sun, and the moon, and the
stars; ﬁre and lightning and winds are there;
and all that now is and all that is not: for the
whole universe is in Him and He dwells
within our heart.
Love is eternal - the aspect may change, but
not the essence. There is the same difference
in a person before and after he is in love as
there is in an unlighted lamp and one that is
burning. The lamp was there and was a good
lamp, but now it is shedding light too, and
that is its real function. And love makes one
calmer about many things, and that way, one
is more ﬁt for one's work.
For all true love is grounded on esteem.
Love is a canvas furnished by Nature
and embroidered by imagination.
Men always want to be a woman's ﬁrst love -
Women like to be a man's last romance.
When a man has once loved a woman he will
anything for her except continue to love her.
When one is in love one begins by deceiving
one ends by deceiving others. That is what
Yet each man kills the thing he loves,
By each let this be heard,
Some do it with a bitter look,
Some with a ﬂattering word.
The coward does it with a kiss,
The brave man with a sword!
) Irish Poet
Wine come in at the mouth
And love comes in at the eye;
That's all we shall know for truth
Before we grow old and die.
Greater love hath no man than this,
that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Follow a shadow, it still ﬂies you,
Seem to ﬂy, it will pursue:
So court a mistress, she denies you:
Let her alone, she will court you.
Say are not women truly, then,
Styled but the shadows of men?
Life is the ﬂower of which love is the honey.
Katib (ﬂ. c.
Pleasant fragrances of the breezes of love
blow from the lovers even thought they might
conceal it. The effects of these breezes bear
witness to them even if they disguise it and
are apparent even if they hide it.
As the rays come from the sun, and yet are
not the sun, even so our love and pity, though
they are not God, but merely a poor, weak
image and reﬂection of him, yet from him
alone they come.
The heart of a man to the heart of a maid -
Light of my tents, be ﬂeet -
Morning awaits at the end of the world,
And the world is all at our feet.
Sing, for faith and hope are high-
None so true as you and I-
Sing the Lover's Litany:
"Love like ours can never die!"
Jean de La
Love begins with love.
Jean de La
O tyrant love, when held by you, We may to
prudence bid adieu.
It is with true love as it is with ghosts;
everyone talks of it, but few have seen it.
As love increases, prudence diminishes.
The more we love the nearer we are to hate.
When the heart is still agitated by the remains
of a passion, we are more ready to receive a
new one than when we are entirely cured.
The pleasure of love is in loving.
We are happier in the passion we feel than in
that which we excite.
The reason why lovers are never weary of one
another is this - they are always talking of
If we judge of love by most of its results,
it resembles hatred more than friendship.
Love is a pearl of purest hue,
But stormy waves are round it;
And dearly may a woman rue,
The hour that she found it.
If one has love in battle one is victorious.
If one has it in defense one is invincible.
Whom Heaven wants to save him he protects
Ah, how skillful grows the hand
That obeyeth Love's command!
It is the heart and not the brain
That to the highest doth attain,
And he who followeth Love's behest
Far excelleth all the rest.
There is nothing in this world so sweet as
and next to love, the sweetest thing is hate.
It is difﬁcult to know at what moment love
it is less difﬁcult to know that it has begun.
Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.
Do not be afraid of showing your affection.
Be warm and tender, thoughtful and
affectionate. Men are more helped by
sympathy, than by service; love is more than
money, and a kind word will give more
pleasure than a present.
Love is an image of God, and not a lifeless
image, but the living essence of the divine
nature which beams full of all goodness.
A heat full of coldness, a sweet full of
bitterness, a pain full of pleasantness, which
maketh thoughts have eyes, and hearts, and
ears; bred by desire, nursed by delight,
weaned by jealousy, killed by dissembling,
buried by ingratitude; and this is love.
In love, as in war, a fortress that parleys is
The great tragedy of life is not that men
but that they cease to love.
And if I loved you Wednesday,
Well, what is that to you?
I do not love you Thursday -
So much is true.
The one thing we can never get enough of is
And the one thing we never give enough is
He who for love hath undergone.
The worst that can befall,
Is happier thousandfold than one
Who never loved at all.
Mutual love, the crown of all our bliss.
So dear I love him, that with him all deaths I
that without him live no life
There is nothing half so sweet in life as love's
Yes, loving is a painful thrill
And not to love more painful still;
But oh, it is the worst of pain,
To love and not be lov'd again.
Life is a sleep, love is a dream;
and you have lived if you have loved.
Love is the idler's occupation, the warrior's
and the sovereign's ruination.
Love is a thing full of anxious fears.
Love and dignity cannot share the same
If thou wishest to put an end to love, attend to
(love yields to employment); then thou wilt be
The heart has reasons which reason knows
Love is the crowning grace of humanity, the
holiest right of the soul, the golden link which
binds us to duty and truth, the redeeming
principle that chieﬂy reconciles the heart to
life, and is prophetic of eternal good.
He whom love touches not walks in darkness.
Love will make men dare to die for their
beloved - love alone; and women as well as
He who falls in love meets a worse fate than
he who leaps from a rock.
Love, free as air, at sight of human ties,
Spreads his light wings, and in a moment
Everybody in love is blind.
Love is space and time measured by the heart.
Mysterious love, uncertain treasure,
Hast thou more of pain or pleasure!
Endless torments dwell about thee:
Yet who would live, and live without thee!
? (c. B.C.
In the spring of thy youth, in the morning of
thy days, when the eyes of man gaze on thee
with delight, and nature whispereth in thine
ear the meaning of their looks; Ah! hear with
caution their seducing words, guard well thy
heart, nor listen to their soft persuasions.
Nuptial love maketh mankind;
friendly love perfecteth it; but
wanton love corrupteth and embaseth it.
I cannot love as I have loved,
And yet I know not why;
It is the one great woe of life
To feel all feeling die.
The sweetest joy, the wildest woe is love.
There are no little events with the heart. It
magniﬁes everything; it places in the same
scales the fall of an
empire of fourteen years and the dropping of
glove, and almost always the glove weighs
The motto of chivalry is also the motto of
to serve all, but love only one.
True love is eternal, inﬁnite, and always like
itself. It is equal and pure, without violent
demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs
and is always young in the heart.
The night has a thousand eyes,
And the day but one;
Yet the light of the bright world dies,
With the dying sun.
The mind has a thousand eyes,
And the heart but one;
Yet the light of a whole life dies,
When love is done.
It is ever the invisible that is the object of our
profoundest worship. With the lover it is not
the seen but the unseen that
he muses upon.
The ﬁrst sigh of love is the last of wisdom.
Love is energy of life.
What is life, when wanting love?
Night without a morning;
Love's the cloudless summer sun,
Nature gay adorning.
In her ﬁrst passion woman loves her lover;
In all others, all she loves is love.
Yes, Love indeed is light from heaven;
A spark of that immortal ﬁre
With angels shared, by Allah given
To lift from earth our low desire.
Let none think to ﬂy the danger
For soon or late love is his own avenger.
Do proper homage to thine idol's eyes;
But not too humbly, or she will despise
Thee and thy suit, though told in moving
Disguise even tenderness, if thou art wise.
Love that is not madness is not love.
A smooth and steadfast mind,
Gentle thoughts and calm desires,
Hearts with equal love combined,
Kindle never-dying ﬁres.
Love is not altogether a delirium, yet it has
many points in common therewith. I call it
rather a discerning of the inﬁnite
in the ﬁnite-of the ideal made real.
All thoughts, all passions, all delights,
Whatever stirs this mortal frame,
All are but ministers of Love,
And feed his sacred ﬂame.
Courtship is to marriage,
as a very witty prologue to a very dull play.
O what a heaven is love! O what a hell!
Love is an ocean of emotions,
entirely surrounded by expenses.
A loving heart is the truest wisdom.
Pains of love be sweeter far
Than all other pleasures are.
Love is a passion
Which kindles honor into noble acts.
Love reckons hours for months,
and days for years;
and every little absence is an age.
Pure love and suspicion cannot dwell
at the door where the latter enters,
the former makes its exit.
The reason why all men honor love is
because it looks up, and not down;
aspires and not despairs.
Love is like a hunter, who cares not for the
game when once caught, which he may have
pursued with the most intense and breathless
eagerness. Love is strongest in pursuit;
friendship in possession.
Never self-possessed, or prudent, love is all
A ruddy drop of manly blood
The surging sea outweighs;
The world uncertain comes and goes,
The lover rooted stays.
Love is the essence of God.
He is not a lover who does not love forever.
Love is the tyrant of the heart; it darkens
Reason, confounds discretion; deaf to
It runs a headlong course to desperate
If you would be loved, love and be lovable.
In love the paradox occurs that two things
and yet remain two.
Love, then, hath every bliss in store;
'Tis friendship, and 'tis something more.
Each other every wish they give;
Not to know love is not to live.
Love and desire are the spirit's wings to great
Love has power to give in a moment what toil
scarcely reach in an age.
He who cannot love must learn to ﬂatter.
Man begins by loving love and ends by
loving a woman.
Woman begins by loving a man and ends by
The way of heaven can be known and
experienced through the heart.
It is an ancient story Yet is it ever new.
No man, or woman, was ever cured of love
by discovering the falseness of his or her
lover. The living together for three long, rainy
days in the country has done more to dispel
love than all the perﬁdies in love that have
ever been committed.
They do not love that do not show their love.
The heart is wiser than the intellect.