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The 9 GOLDEN-RULES for
 [Smart] Problem-Solving
        Mediation

        Silverio Zebral Filho

        Harvard University
          April 9th 2013
The TABLE…
                                The Intrusive
                           “Too Complex” Mediator




 The Diligent
 “Hands-On”                 PROCESS
   Solver ?            SELECTION CRITERIA                    The Zen
                       TOPIC + 4-6 MAXIMS               “Everything-good”
                                                            Conciliator




       The Busy
“Often-Missed-in-Action”                The Creative “Out-of-the-box”
       Free-Rider                                  Thinker
The PROCESS…
                  “Mimicking” an Imperfect and
                    Puzzling Mediation (???)

 BATNA = “FAIL” mark. Then, no alternative…
 Multi-cultural environment = fight for words vs. negotiate meanings
 Intrusive mediator = poor neutrality management
 Distributive vs. Integrative bargaining = failed “blinded ranking”
 The challenge of virtual negotiation = asynchrony
“On-line” and “face-to-face” ad hoc caucus / non-caucus meetings
 Crisis (“Don’t give up !!!!) and Accommodation (“it’s fine…: (( )
 Relief = Broadening the final set of rules from 5 (five) to 9 (nine)
AGREEMENT
The LADDER…                                      DEAL

                                      CRITERIA

                                OPTIONS

                           INTEREST

                     FEELINGS


               POSITIONS


              TIME

    STORIES
The RESULTS…
Listening STORIES (…)



                              1
                        RULE # :


              “THROW THE BALL
          AND WATCH THEM PLAYING”
Managing TIME (…)



                    RULE #   2:
  “ NEITHER BE RUSH; NOR WASTE TIME ”
Understanding POSITIONS (…)



                    RULE #    3:
          “ EVERY COIN HAS 2 FACES.
              SHOW THEM UP ! “
Acknowledging FEELINGS (…)




                   RULE #    4:
     “ EMPHATY IS AN UMBILICAL CORD”
Digging for INTERESTS (…)




                     RULE #   5:
     “ MOVE THE LIGTHER STONES FIRST ”
Creating OPTIONS (…)



                  RULE #   6:
     “ A WIDE GOOD IS BETTER THAN
           A NARROW GREAT ”
Establishing CRITERIA (…)




                     RULE #   7:
   “ FACTS [VERY OFTEN] WAKE YOU UP ”
Reaching the DEAL (…)




                    RULE #   8:
 “ HELP THEM TO SAVE THEIR OWN FACES”
Closing the AGREEMENT (…)



                    RULE #   9:
          WHEN YOU REACH THE END,
              STOP TALKING !!
Any comments ???

      is ticking…
THANKS !!!!

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THE 9 GOLDEN-RULES: Climbing the ladder of problem-solving mediation

  • 1. The 9 GOLDEN-RULES for [Smart] Problem-Solving Mediation Silverio Zebral Filho Harvard University April 9th 2013
  • 2. The TABLE… The Intrusive “Too Complex” Mediator The Diligent “Hands-On”  PROCESS Solver ?  SELECTION CRITERIA The Zen  TOPIC + 4-6 MAXIMS “Everything-good” Conciliator The Busy “Often-Missed-in-Action” The Creative “Out-of-the-box” Free-Rider Thinker
  • 3. The PROCESS… “Mimicking” an Imperfect and Puzzling Mediation (???)  BATNA = “FAIL” mark. Then, no alternative…  Multi-cultural environment = fight for words vs. negotiate meanings  Intrusive mediator = poor neutrality management  Distributive vs. Integrative bargaining = failed “blinded ranking”  The challenge of virtual negotiation = asynchrony “On-line” and “face-to-face” ad hoc caucus / non-caucus meetings  Crisis (“Don’t give up !!!!) and Accommodation (“it’s fine…: (( )  Relief = Broadening the final set of rules from 5 (five) to 9 (nine)
  • 4. AGREEMENT The LADDER… DEAL CRITERIA OPTIONS INTEREST FEELINGS POSITIONS TIME STORIES
  • 6. Listening STORIES (…) 1 RULE # : “THROW THE BALL AND WATCH THEM PLAYING”
  • 7. Managing TIME (…) RULE # 2: “ NEITHER BE RUSH; NOR WASTE TIME ”
  • 8. Understanding POSITIONS (…) RULE # 3: “ EVERY COIN HAS 2 FACES. SHOW THEM UP ! “
  • 9. Acknowledging FEELINGS (…) RULE # 4: “ EMPHATY IS AN UMBILICAL CORD”
  • 10. Digging for INTERESTS (…) RULE # 5: “ MOVE THE LIGTHER STONES FIRST ”
  • 11. Creating OPTIONS (…) RULE # 6: “ A WIDE GOOD IS BETTER THAN A NARROW GREAT ”
  • 12. Establishing CRITERIA (…) RULE # 7: “ FACTS [VERY OFTEN] WAKE YOU UP ”
  • 13. Reaching the DEAL (…) RULE # 8: “ HELP THEM TO SAVE THEIR OWN FACES”
  • 14. Closing the AGREEMENT (…) RULE # 9: WHEN YOU REACH THE END, STOP TALKING !!
  • 15. Any comments ??? is ticking…