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Abuse is never a one time event The goal of the abuser is to CONTROLPrompting Interpretation Emotions Reaction PossibleEvent Abuser Abuser Abuser Abuser Actions AbuserMy girlfriend They must have Anger I am so mad I Confronts girlfriend, cusseswas talking to been talking about gotta put an end her out; puts hermy best friend me to this down in front of her friends; drags her by the hand and pushes her to a second place, possible assaultThe milk in the Someone did this; I Anger It is all his fault. I Cusses himfridge is empty bet HE did am gonna give out; puts him him such a… down
Abuse is never a one time event And the Victim?Prompting Interpretation Emotions Reaction PossibleEvent Victim Victim Victim Victim Action VictimMy boyfriend I’m gonna get Fear Oh no. Holy Crap he’ssaw me in trouble Crap. dragging metalking to his again, cussingbest friend me out, AHHHHHHHH HHHHH!The milk in I’m gonna hear Fear Oh sh*t. NO! Notthe fridge is it again again! Hey it’sempty not my fault but what does he care??
Abuse is never a one time event UNTIL… Abuser sees the victim is not coming back out of that hole. Abuser starts to feel bad and tries to reconcile “I’m sorry” “I’ll do better next time” Gives presents, does something nice Or Worse: ABUSER BLAMES VICTIM
Abuse is never a one time event THE RESULT? PAIN. Victim: “I feel like a failure” Abuser “Now THAT will teach them not to mess with me” Victim: “I need to hide” Abuser “GO AHEAD. Crawl into that little hole”
Abuse is never a one time event Abuse can be a vicious cycle. Phase 1: Tension Building - Prompting Event, emotion Phase 2: Incident - Phase 4: Calm – or Reaction, action to semblance of Prompting Event Phase 3: Reconciliation – apologies, excuses
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