A story of five women
My life has been intertwined with five women, I have become a sort of a mentor and pacifier, I
try my best to advice without bias, but their life has not been the best, and their worries and
agonies had overwhelmed me. Sometimes at night I stare at the ceiling just thinking about
them and wondering if their life is intact and that they are still alive.
Asmaa moved to this country 35 years ago, had her kids, and suffered tremendously from her
husband and his family. She had previously suffered from her family too, especially from her
strict brother who beat her until she cannot walk; she saw her sister get divorced, and the
husband marries her other sister, and she saw unhappy sisters in laws and unhappy mother
who also suffered from the father’s family. Basically if you look at Asmaa all you will see is
unhappiness. She said once that she has never experienced life as it should be.
She had back pains since she was 20 years old, And had been treated on a daily basis with
many operations on her back, neck, legs and so on. She was in hospitals more than at home;
however what she is obsessed about is the idea of having a Jennie inside her, and also the many
evil eyes that inflicted upon her as well as those that do black magic to terrorize her life. She is
continuously feeling that she has to see psychics and she has to go to taro card readers, and she
has to have her luck read by experts, she feels that maybe with a strike of luck all her troubles
would be bygones. She also has people in her house to perform religious rituals on her because
she thinks that the Jennie inside her and all the black magic came about due to the many girls
her husband had been involved with.
You see, since they got married, the husband had been a womanizer, he feels that he can love
all the women, and in turn women play games on him, get all his money, try to get him to marry
them, and once he decides on the marriage something stops him. He remembers the love
letters he used to write to his wife, and the love he shared with her prior to their marriage; he
thinks that those feelings were enough to stop him from committing mistakes. However the
girls that he played around with, will not just stay away, they will try to do black magic to hurt
the wife! Of course this is according to her, she feels that they do this, there is no proof she
says, but the pains in her body increase every time he gets involved with a woman and leaves
What made matters worse is that the husband had become sexually inactive, so to him that
was disaster, as he still feels fine, but cannot have intercourse, which lead him to increase his
love relationships, take a lot of supplements to make him at least physically attractive to girls
but not to the wife. He also increased his trips to other countries were he will find prostitutes as
that will improve his manhood.
The final stroke happened when the husband forgot about his love and his letters, and actually
married the girl he had played around with. No one wants to hear what happened to Asmaa
when she found out, the devastation and the lack of sleep were so strong to the extent that she
had to sleep in another room as she couldn’t stand seeing him. She wouldn’t talk to him for two
years, until he actually divorced the girl (who spent all him money); rumor has it that the girl
had left him after she used him for the things that she wanted to do. But he will not say that
instead he tried to convince Asmaa that he left her as he couldn’t bear the fact that she doesn’t
want to see him or talk to him.
During those two years she got used to travelling with her friends and family and going to
places and picnics. She had a ball and gave her husband a hard time but still her body aches
Few days ago she had a person perform religious rituals on her, and she feels that she is
recovering a bit.
Did this solve her issues? I don’t know.
Rawya is PhD holder, majoring in philosophy, which is a difficult subject for women, but she
strived to complete her education and passed with distinctions in all of them. She was offered a
job at the university which she had to decline; why? Well her husband didn’t want her to work.
A very strong woman, very systematic, very enthusiastic and very tolerant. She devotes her
time to her loved ones, and doesn’t tolerate nonsense. Life had been good despite not being
able to fulfill herself. She writes and thinks and she is a real philosopher.
She married at the age of 19, without completing her bachelor degree, travelled with the
husband so he can further his studies, but managed to learn a foreign language in the process.
When the husband finished his studies, they returned home; while she was busy with bearing
her kids she registered in a university and completed her bachelor degree, then she did her
master’s degree. The husband went from strength to strength but still didn’t allow her to work,
she stayed home and managed to look after the kids and the husband and read whatever falls
in her hand. She became very aware of the political situation in her country and started to warn
her husband to leave the area they were in and move to another area, he refused, so she
started her PhD and went on to become the best graduate at that university. They offered her
a lecturing job, so she decided for the first time that she will take the job. After a humiliating
resistance from her husband she started her job, and realized that she is a born teacher. Her
new methodology of teaching made every student want to take her class, which made her the
envy of other lecturers and also started a feud between her and the head of the university; they
were all shocked on how she could become that successful in a short time. She was an equal to
the men and the students preferred her class even though it was a boring in nature to
Arab spring began, her intuition told her that she should move on. So she took with her every
document that she could lay her hands on, and moved to another country to stay with her son.
When the situation worsened her husband also moved. The house and its content was
confiscated by the people that were fighting the government, being of a different religion, the
fighters thought that it was an easy target so her house was the first to be seized. It had her
computer, books and all her writing, to date she regrets not taking them with her.
Presently she is looking for a job, but her language being not English she is unable to find one,
so the saga continues, being her work mentor am trying to look for a job for her to solve her
She says that its the first period in her life that she was idle completely and her husband is idle
too, so she has just found out that she is not in love with him at all, and that he had been so
neglecting of her. She is so unhappy as she has no home, no hands to hug her, no one to hug,
no one to talk to and no job. The revelation is so frightening, as she is not young and life is
unsettling; finding out that the husband’s mind is far from her mind, his soul is not touching
hers, his unhappiness is clouding her unhappiness, and his idleness is creating this
magnanimous divide between them.
To be in a situation where life is in a complete mess is not easy, hopefully it will ease out and
the cloud will move to show a shining sun.
Ledia is 50 years old and never married, however in her youth she fell in love many times but
every time it didn’t conclude with marriage. In one situation the love of her life actually
approached her family so they get engaged, but it didn’t fall through at the end. Devastated as
she was, she went away to complete her masters and then her PHD. When she returned she
continued to dream of a better country and a life with a person, but that person was never
found. So she worked in many countries, still she loved her own country and longed to see it
run in democracy. Politics runs in her blood, which is something she acquired when she went to
study for her bachelor degree.
One can find out easily that she is an utterly confused person, wondering between her life
without a man, to a country without a democracy, plus trying to survive the ordeal of the loss of
her mother to cancer. When one sets with her, one has to be completely attentive to her and
what she says, as if one’s eyes wonders to the blackberry, Ipad and any other gadget then its
murder as she could go into this deep depression state and only God can get her out of it.
When she discusses politics she is talking from her guts, even though she is not a politician but
she has this strong feelings that she is one. She hates lies and suppression.
So when the fire of Arab Spring took her country like a storm, she was one of those that joined
the demonstration, and carried the flag of freedom of speech. Hence prison was eminent, she
was arrested, interrogated and tried for two full days, she said that she was terrified, she didn’t
want to leave the place dead, organs missing, raped, nails missing, hair missing, eyes poked or
slapped. She left intact but she was being cursed at, humiliated, sworn at, bad words said at,
and they left her door open so she can hear the mistreatment of other inmates. She couldn’t
sleep, couldn’t eat, her brain was going to explode in thinking that they may do something to
her. There was utter silence from the prison guards, which was nerve wrecking to her and her
cell colleague. When the day came to release her she already started to have the phobic attacks
and already on the road to depression.
When I saw her a week after her release, i noticed that she was not the person I knew! Total
breakdown in any communication as all she was thinking of is that she may go to prison again.
Her friends tried to help her by teaching her how to draw and paint; that is when she found out
that she has a talent, so she drew one, followed by another and now she has over 45 brilliant
paintings. We all keep on telling her that at least there was something good that came out of
her prison experience! But could we delete what’s in her mind? Can we find her a husband?
Can we plant for her a country with DEMOCRACY? I don’t think so.
Me: Hi Fatema, did you ask her hat was wrong? And did you actually talk to her
about that? or you just feel things and neglect to say them?
I checked your daughter's profile, she is amazing like you. Don’t worry about
her, just be there when she needs you and be a friend rather than a mum, she is
almost 40, so she really needs supporters rather than mums.
Talk to her, and then write to me.
Her: My daughter had been having a bad marriage. Her husband was too
controlling, greedy with money and extremely arrogant. Even towards us. He
admitted that we have been good to him, though he has not been too nice with us.
Her father-in-law was quite a prominent figure in his country. But again, he too
was very arrogant. Went through cancer and my daughter played a big role looking
after him. He too was a very greedy person and made a lot of money under the
table (which my daughter became aware of and did not like it). Towards the end
of the life he did not treat his wife and sons very well. Became very demanding.
When he died my daughter asked for a divorce immediately after the 3 days were
over. She told me once that she was so angry with her father-in-law that went he
left to go back to Yemen she could not even look at him. Her in-laws are angry
that she did not wait till her mother-in-law was out of Idat and she demanded for
a divorce during the mourning period. Everyone was shocked (so were we).
She was loved by her mother-in-law more than her own children. Even Zahra loved
her more than me. What went wrong I am totally confused and hurt as she does not
even talk to me nicely. Please help Suad.
Also my daughter took good care of her in-laws for 25 years. Bent backwards to do
things for them. She was a caretaker for her husband's brother who is same age
as my eldest granddaughter. She brought him to Canada and looked after his
schooling and all other needs just like her other children. Now her husband and
her mother-in-law does not want to see her. She is completely drained.
You can open Zahra Al-harazi on the web. Last year she got the Women of the Year
Award in Canada in Entrepreneur category and now stands amongst the 100 most
powerful women in Canada.
With all the above. When I saw her yesterday, I was shocked.
and thin with dark circles around her eyes.
She looks drained
With lots of Salaams and dua Fatema
Me: Dear Fatema, hope you are fine. I am not sure about the circumstances of your daughter, her
husband and her mother in law. But I focused and didn’t see evil, I only saw hatred due to a loss of a
father? Can you tell me more about the dad? Where is he? What happened to him? And does he see
Her: I know I am a stranger, but after hearing about you from Nadia, I am taking this courage to ask you
Is there any "shair" between my daughter and myself, or, "shair" within my immediate family.
After her marriage her husband and her mother-in-law took over my daughter completely. She was
more devoted to her mother-in-law than me.
If not the above what is the reason that my daughter does not love me the way a daughter loves her
mother. Have I missed out on anything. She is my only child. I love her unconditionally. I am trying to
find answers to the situation.
Pls reply if you can. With dua salaams.
I am sorry if I am taking up your time and efforts - but I need to clear my conscious regarding my dreams
which I have been having for a long time. I think most of them come in the half way through my sleep or
I dream of my house in India - always frightened with a thief. This house for really not auspicious for my
I dream of my house in Yemen. Again frightened with thief - This house is always connected to my
friend and neighbour to whom I sold the house. She is mostly around the house in the compound and
something or the other event is taking place with some people or more. Again the events are not
happy. We had a misunderstanding regarding the sell of the house - again due to hassad of family and
I lost a good friend and my passage back to Yemen.
I sent her an apology letter on my part but she did not respond. When I was selling the house I was in
Can you put some light on these dreams. I have had these dreams regarding the 2 houses for a very
long time (over years). I dreamt again ugly events around the Yemen house again and have put money
for Sadaqa this time.
Are all these dreams? Okay let me put the light you asked for:
the house in india: This is a good sign, it shows that you will be having guests, so I will not worry about
this dream. Please stop thinking that your dream is not good, it can be a fantastic dream and you are
changing its outlook
So are missing Yemen? No I don’t mean that, Its just normal to dream of a childhood place. If you read
any dream book it will tell you that your dream will be mostly in the house you were born in or you lived
in when you were a child (actually my dreams are mostly in my childhood house too). now if you lost a
good friend, that is a sign that you are focusing on yourself and not connecting with your friends and
family. Also you will travel to your country and you will receive good things, or maybe you will gain a
good position there. The money that you got for the sale was not taxed (like zakat) so maybe that is
what is bugging you. So a sadaga is not enough in this case. You may need a couple of rekaa prayor or
something of that sort.
Also it seems to me that you are worried about something, and that is why you are surrounding yourself
with “bad dreams” and negativity, please change your outlook in life, travel and see things, write and
enjoy life as its too short
HI Fatema and Nadia. Dreams have to be interpreted by a professional, one should not think badly or in
a good way by a dream. The time of the dream is important (night or day or dawn or dusk) also the
state of health, like having the period for example, before morning prayers, after lunch prayers, and so
on, also as soon as you dream you must give a sadiqa even if it’s a dollar, very important, as only sadiqa
will prevent fate. So if it so happens that you dreams something an in your opinion it was bad, then the
sadiqa will stop the bad thing, and if in your opinion it was good, then the sadiqa will make it happen.
These are the rules of any dream. My way is, all dreams are good, and some of them have no meanings.
Your troubles Fatema are not due to the dreams, they are due to the fact that you are an artist, and a
psychic, you knew what is wrong, but you couldn’t put your fingers on what is wrong, hence your dream.
You can email me any time about your dreams, and also include me in your prayers. You have a talent,
and I wish you the best in that talent, it is calling you, so go to it, and do it.
Her: Dear Suad,
I thank you so much for putting my mind at rest. I have not been able to sleep and my head feels like
a hot bomb. Maybe after your answer to my dream I will be able to feel better.
Thank you Nadia for introducing me to your friend. God Bless Her. I will try to remember to add her
in my prayers.
Your friend is really good. Could you tell her about my daughter's divorce briefly? Tell her that I had
seen a black cloud coming on top of Zahra's house (the house she did not buy eventually); it got
washed away in a storm and fell into dark waters. I only saw a tip of white chair floating near the
shore. Everything else was deep in the water. 2 weeks after that was her divorce. And the nightmare
that followed. Was there an evil involved? I saw my 2 friends that actually live close to that house in
my dreams watching this house being destroyed, but their houses are safe.
Zahra seems to be fine. But, her eldest daughter is giving her a hard time. (She is being manipulated
by her ex--husband). That is my depression now.
The black cloud was the warning, but because she didn’t know she did nothing. Water is normally good
even if it floods the place, and the one chair means that the daughter was always feeling alone even
though she was married. The neighbors knew about this due maybe to seeing some activities, but didn’t
want to tell so they don’t ruin the family. Anyway, tell her not to be depressed, the girl is going to reach
high places the chair is a sign
Also tell her to give the daughters to the husband, she is better off with out them.
Tell your friend to draw the two dreams as they will be sold for a lot of money.