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Training Techniques Training - Day 3 Coaching Skills
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IMPROVED STRATEGIC MANAGEMENT
CAPACITY PROJECT
Training Techniques Training – Session 3
Jocelyne Rasé
Coaching skills
November 2013
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Day Three
Why Coaching?
– Telling people what to do does not work
Principles of Coaching
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The 5 steps
The purpose
The change of mindset necessary
The outcome
Practice
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Coaching is about Change
Before
After
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Telling people what to do …
Does it work?
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How many times do I have to….?
Efforts
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Results
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How long will it take
before you realise
that it does not work?
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Compliance is NOT the same as engagement
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What is below the surface?
Superficial
agreement
.
Resistance
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1 2 3 4 5 Coaching 6 7 8 9 10
Motivation - Performance
Stretch zone
Strategic Management
Comfort Zone
Reform has been
in place
since 2003
10 9 8 7 6 Being directive 5
Time
4
3
2
1
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From being directive to coaching
I am a Directive
I am Coaching
Beliefs I operate from – ‘I know best’
Beliefs – ‘You know what is best for you’
I find solutions. I make decisions
You can generate great solutions
I am responsible for the actions of people
You are responsible for the results you create
Skills required
Skills required
Organise, solve problems,
Focused listening, open questions, reflection,
make decisions, giving orders
Feedback, open observation, dialogue
What I am actually doing
What I am actually doing
Give instructions
Understand, challenge interpretations,
Tell the person what to do
Encourage others to think differently
Coaching requires a change in mind-set
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Coaching Skills: a 5 step process
1. Building rapport
5. Constructive Feedback
4. Effective Questioning
2. Structure the conversation
3. Focused listening
Helping the person think differently
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In order to influence people to change, you need to build trust
Emotions - Feelings
Opinions - Beliefs
Facts - Information
Ritual - Cliché
Time
Risk
Trust
Rapport
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Levels of Listening
Little effort/focus
Cosmetic Listening
„I‟m engaged in the conversation,
listening, talking, thinking, talking,
thinking, again and again, etc.
Conversational
Listening
Active/Attentive
Listening
‘I‟m more focussed on you than
me, I‟m getting a sense of who you
are.‟
‘If it looks like I‟m listening, I‟m not
really, I‟m kind of someplace else…‟
Deep Listening
Focused intention
„I‟m very focussed on what you’re
saying, paying attention, recording
facts‟
14. Quality Questions
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Don’t ask WHY
Great questions have the following characteristics:
– They are simple
– They have a purpose
– They are open, i.e. no hidden agenda or motive
– They influence thought or learning
Open
How..?
Closed
Did you..? Yes or No?
Tell me more…
Have you..?
What does it mean..?
Is this the issue..?
Can you explain…?
Is that what stops you?
What would…..?
Get the person to talk more
Get the person to talk less
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Challenge
the
person’s
way of
thinking
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Coach
the PERSON,
NOT
the ISSUE!!!
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The coaching approach
The coachee directs him/herself
I am directive - I tell what to do
Dependence
1
Directives
Guidance
2
Advice
Sharing
3
Opinions
4
Support
5
Suggestions
Delegation
Encouragement
6
Impressions
7
Options
8
Trust
Independence
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Alternatives
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Possibilities
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From being directive to trust…
BEING DIRECTIVE
Questions
Outcome
Directives
Do that!
DEPENDENCE
Advice
May I recommend that you…?
Guidance
Opinions
May I share my opinion? ...I think that… Sharing
Suggestions
Have you thought about…?
Support
Impressions
My I share my impression ... It is that
you seem …
Delegation
Options
What are your options?
Encouragement
Alternatives
What else could you think about?
Openness
Possibilities
You could do X, Y, Z
Trust
COACHING
I know you will make the right decision
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What is the issue?
The girl on her way to Ibiza…
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What is below the surface?
Topic
.
Listen to the words, question them, ask for different words…
Listen to the emotion, ask for clarification
Issue
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Time Out
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Coaching Skills: a 5 step process
1. Building rapport
5. Constructive Feedback
4. Effective Questioning
2. Structure the conversation
3. Focused listening
Beliefs we operate from
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• Break into groups of 3
Coachee:
Prepare a topic for coaching :
Talk about an important change you
are considering but you have not
done anything yet about it.
– Person A = Coach
– Person B = Coachee
– Person C = Observer
A
“I am thinking about a significant
change….”
B
Coach:
Help the person think differently
Observer:
Write notes, make suggestions, give
feedback. Ask the coach:
What did you do well?
C
What could you have done better?
What will do you differently next time?
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• How do you feel about the change? What else do you feel?
- Are you stepping IN or OUT of a situation?
• What are you leaving behind?
– How will you keep in touch?
• What are you stepping into?
(+) When the coachee has a positive fantasy
- Lets picture your fantasy - Have you checked with anyone?
(-) When the coachee imagines a negative situation
- What evidence do you have that it will be so bad? Let’s imagine the worst scenario
• Have you experienced this kind of change in the past?
- How did you cope?
- What worked? How can you apply this to NOW?
- What didn’t work? What can you learn from this past experience/failure?
• Who/ What can help you?
- How can you make better use of the resources available to you ?
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Enabling factors
Who or What
can help you
make a decision?
Who else?
What else?
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And
Or
Either
Coaching
is about reconciling 2 options
which seemed exclusive of one another
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What are the blocking factors?
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Open the realm of possibilities
Dual Thinking
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• Break into groups of 3
Coachee:
Prepare a potential topic for coaching:
a dilemma you have, a situation where
you feel stuck
– Person A = Coach
– Person B = Coachee
– Person C = Observer
A
“I know I should … but.... ”
Coach:
B
Help the person think differently –
switching from dual thinking(either/or)
to win-win (AND)
Observer:
Write notes, make suggestions, give
feedback. Ask the coach:
What did you do well?
What could you have done better?
C
What will do you differently next time?
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When you are in the box…. You need coaching…
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Inaction
Anger
Pessimism
Negativity
Powerlessness
Isolation
It won‟t work
I should
Boredom
Dual Thinking
Helplessness
either/or black or white
Fear
I can‟t..
Resistance
Resentment
Apprehension
I really, really
want to…
Depression
Envy
Jealousy
Disbelief
Confusion
Judgment
Criticism
Lack of vision
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When a team is in the box…. They need coaching…
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• What puts you in the box, exactly? How does it feel?
How long are you willing to stay?
• What is stopping you from….(stepping out of your box)?
• What are the benefits of keeping things the way they are? i.e. staying in your box?
(secondary gains)
• What are the consequences of not doing anything? (negative outcomes)
• Which old tape are you listening to?
–
–
–
–
What evidence do you have that it is true?
Who are you loyal to, when you are listening to that tape?
Have you talked to anybody about this dilemma? Who? Did that help you make a decision?
Have you talked to someone who believes the opposite? (searching for another opinion)
• What is the worst scenario?
• What woud you do if you were not afraid?, if you were sure to succeed?
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Coachee:
• Break into groups of 3
Prepare a potential topic for
coaching: a dilemma you have, a
situation where you feel stuck
– Person A = Coach
– Person B = Coachee
– Person C = Observer
A
“I don‟t know if I should or not do X or
Y”
Coach:
Help the person think differently
B
At the end, review your experience on
coaching
Observer:
Write notes, make suggestions, give
feedback
What did you do well?
What could you have done better?
C
What will do you differently next time?
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WIN and WIN
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Discussion with your coach – in pairs
• What puts you in the box?
• What keeps you in the box?
• How do you cope? What exactly do you do? Does it work?
• What price are you paying for doing the same thing over &
over?
• How long are you going to stay in the box?
• What will happen if you stay in your box?
• What are the secondary benefits to staying in the box?
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Discussion with your coach – in pairs
• What would it take to step out of the box?
• Lets imagine the best scenario, how would you handle it?
• What does it look like?
• What would you do if you were not afraid?
• What or Who can help you?
• What are you going to do differently, concretely from now on?
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It’s up to you…
IN THE BOX
I have to «get along with» … or else…
•
•
•
•
There will be conflict,
I will be reprimanded,
There will be negative consequences,
I will be fired, I will have a bad reputation, etc = NEGATIVE
OUT OF THE BOX
I choose to «get along with… » because…
• We will collaborate better to finish the project on time
• I might learn something from him
• The atmosphere will more positive, etc = POSITIVE
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Don’t take the monkey
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Emotional Maturity – 360° feedback
Self
Denial
Awareness
‘Intra’
personal
emotions &
behaviours
Acting
out
Self
or
Management
Addiction
Source: Daniel Goleman
Lack of
empathy
of others
Abuse
Awareness
‘Inter’
personal
emotions &
behaviours
Fight or
Relationship
Management
Flight
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Coaching to develop emotional maturity
Self - Awareness
How do you feel?
What do you mean?
What exactly makes you upset?
Use different words
What else do you feel?
Explain
Source: Daniel Goleman
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Coaching to develop emotional maturity
Self - Management
What do you usually do when you are upset?
What have you done so far?
What worked, what did not work?
What can you learn from that?
Who/what could help you?
What else could you do?
What other option do you have?
Source: Daniel Goleman
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Coaching to develop emotional maturity
Awareness of others
How do you think the other person feels?
What is the impact of your behaviour on other people?
How would you feel if you were in the same situation?
Have you discussed this with the other person?
Why not?
Source: Daniel Goleman
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How do they feel?
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Coaching to develop emotional maturity
Relationship Management
What evidence do you have that the person will respond negatively
to your request?
How can you approach the person differently?
What is stopping you?
What are you afraid of?
What is the worst that could happen?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
What would you do if you could not fail?
Source: Daniel Goleman
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Coaching myself to develop my emotional maturity…
Self - Awareness
Awareness of others
How do I feel?
How do I think the other person feels?
What do I mean?
What exactly makes me upset?
What is the impact of my behaviour on other
people?
What other words can I use to express how I feel?
How would I feel if I were in the same situation?
What else do I feel?
Have I discussed this with the other person?
Can I explain?
Why not?
Self - Management
What do I usually do when I am upset?
What have I done so far?
What worked, what did not work?
What can I learn from my past experience?
Who/what could help me?
What else could I do?
What other option do I have?
Source: Daniel Goleman
Relationship Management
How do I cope with people‟s emotions?
What evidence do I have that the person
will respond negatively If I speak to him/her?
What can I do?
How can I approach the person differently?
What is stopping me? What am I afraid of?
What is the worst that could happen to me if…?
What would I do if I were sure to succeed?
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Coaching others to develop their emotional maturity…
Self - Awareness
Awareness of others
How do you feel?
How do you think the other person feels?
What do you mean?
What exactly makes you upset?
What is the impact of your behaviour on other
people?
What other words can you use to express how
you feel?
How would you feel if you were in the same
situation?
What else do you feel?
Have you discussed this with the other person?
Can you explain?
Why not? What stopped you?
Self - Management
What do you usually do when you are upset?
What have you done so far?
What worked, what did not work?
What can you learn from your past experiences?
Who/what could help you ?
What else could you do?
What other option do you have?
Source: Daniel Goleman
Relationship Management
How do you cope with people‟s emotions?
What evidence do you have that the person
will respond negatively If you speak to him/her?
What can you do?
How can you approach the person differently?
What is stopping you? What are you afraid of?
What is the worst that could happen to you if…?
What would you do if you were sure to succeed?
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Change management
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