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Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring
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Emotionally Inelligent Mentoring

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Emotionally Intelligent Mentoring: Using EI Concepts to Enhance Your Mentoring Program by Don Peterson, Strategic Partners, Inc.

Emotionally Intelligent Mentoring: Using EI Concepts to Enhance Your Mentoring Program by Don Peterson, Strategic Partners, Inc.

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  • 1. Emotionally Intelligent Mentoring Using EI Concepts to Enhance Your Mentoring Program Presented by: Don Peterson Strategic Partners, Inc.
  • 2. What We’ll Cover Today Review of Emotional Intelligence  What it is  Why it matters EQ Skills EQ Skills for Mentoring For Mentors For Mentees
  • 3. What are Emotions?Emotions are the pre-dispositions to action. --Julio Olalla Actions I Can Take Emotions Actions I Can’t Take
  • 4. What are Emotions? Produced by thoughts Experience physically
  • 5. Neuroscience 101 – The Brain Thalamus Neocortex (traffic controller)(we think rationally over here) Amygdala(we feel emotions and remember here) Spinal Chord (some sensation enters brain here)
  • 6. The Pre-Historic BrainFLIGHT!! FIGHT!! OR
  • 7. The Amygdala Hijack Strong emotional reaction Sudden onset Later feeling of regret
  • 8. “Take a Breath”  Notice your instant reaction (What are you feeling? How is your body reacting? What are you telling yourself?)  Breathe!  Intentionally go to your “thinking” brain  Express your emotions in a constructive manner
  • 9. “Take a Breath” Activities  Count to three  “Whoa! What’s happening to me?”  Name the emotion and where it came from  Name three things you like about the person with whom you are talking/fighting
  • 10. What is EQ? The ability to sense, understand and use emotions to more effectively manage ourselves and influence positive outcomes in our relationships with others
  • 11. EQ, IQ and Personality IQ EQ Personality
  • 12. Why EQ Matters High EQ Skills:  80% of high performers  More important to job performance than any other skill  More influence on job performance than IQ and experience combined  20% more productive  60% of workplace success
  • 13. We are being judgedby a new yardstick;not just how smart we are, or by ourtraining and expertise, but also howwell we handle ourselves and eachother. -- Dan Goleman Working with Emotional Intelligence
  • 14. EQ-i Skills   Intra-Personal  Adaptability  Emotional Self-  Problem Solving Awareness  Flexibility  Assertiveness  Reality Testing  Self-Regard  Stress Management  Self-Actualization  Stress Tolerance  Independence  Impulse Control  Inter-Personal  General Mood  Interpersonal  Optimism Relationship  Happiness  Empathy  Social Responsibility
  • 15. We are what we repeatedly do.Excellence is not an act, but a habit. --Aristotle
  • 16. Using EQ Assessments inMentoring Programs  Before Mentoring begins  Assess Mentors EQ  Assess Mentees EQ  Before matching takes place  Review strengths and weaknesses of Mentors/Mentees  Review combinations of skills before matching  Use Mentee EQ assessment as part of development plan
  • 17. Useful EQ-i Skills For Mentors  Intra-Personal  Adaptability  Emotional Self-  Problem Solving Awareness  Flexibility  Assertiveness  Reality Testing  Self-Regard  Stress Management  Self-Actualization  Stress Tolerance  Independence  Impulse Control  Inter-Personal  General Mood  Interpersonal  Optimism Relationship  Happiness  Empathy  Social Responsibility
  • 18. Useful EQ-i Skills For Mentees  Intra-Personal  Adaptability  Emotional Self-  Problem Solving Awareness  Flexibility  Assertiveness  Reality Testing  Self-Regard  Stress Management  Self-Actualization  Stress Tolerance  Independence  Impulse Control  Inter-Personal  General Mood  Interpersonal  Optimism Relationship  Happiness  Empathy  Social Responsibility
  • 19. Before Matching What are the mentor’s strengths and weaknesses? What are the Mentee’s strengths and weaknesses? What EQ skills is the Mentee looking to develop? What EQ skills does the Mentor demonstrate?
  • 20. Before Matching Consider combinations of EQ skills , e.g.,  Mentee is high in Assertiveness and low in Empathy  Mentee could be aggressive  Is Mentor prepared to deal with a Mentee who might be aggressive?
  • 21. Mentoring Development Plan  Pick ONE or TWO EQ skills to work on  Agree to new practices and actions to develop skills
  • 22. Self Regard  Definition: The ability to respect and accept ourselves warts and all  Importance: One of the most powerful predictors of competent behavior
  • 23. Self Regard  To build: An on-going process of self-exploration that focuses on grounding negative self- assessments  Benefits: An expanding knowledge of identity that is richer, more flexible, more confident and more secure
  • 24. The ABCDEs of EQ A B C D E Debate,Activating Conse- Dispute, Event Beliefs quences Discard Effects2. What 3. What self- 1. What are 4. What is 5. How hastriggered the talk is going the un- the evidence doing #4upsetting on? pleasant to dispute shifted yoursituation? feelings and the self-talk? feelings and behaviors? behaviors? What new actions are available to you?
  • 25. Emotional SelfAwareness Definition: The ability to understand what we are feeling and why Importance: It provides the springboard for the positive development of the other EQ skills
  • 26. Emotional SelfAwareness To build: Ask ourselves questions about our current emotional state and our triggers Benefits: Eliminates or mitigates the emotions that are getting in our way, causing our own suffering and the suffering of others
  • 27. It Just Bubbles Up1. Describe a recent situation in which you were triggered by another person and acted “badly”2. Name the emotions you experienced3. Describe the thoughts you had about yourself, the other person and the situation
  • 28. It Just Bubbles Up4. Describe how you responded to those thoughts and emotions (withdrew, became verbally abusive, pretended agreement, etc.)5. Describe the physical sensations as you experienced the thoughts and emotions6. What do you want to do differently when faced with a similar situation in the future.
  • 29. InterpersonalRelationships Definition: The ability to develop mutually satisfying relationships by surrendering some self-interest for the good of the relationship Importance: As naturally social beings, critical to success and survival
  • 30. InterpersonalRelationships To build: Improve your listening, find areas of common interest, read non- verbal clues Benefits: Stress reduction, increased productivity and creativity, greater enjoyment of life
  • 31. Happiness  Definition: The ability to feel satisfied with one’s life, to enjoy oneself and others, and to have fun  Importance: Affects the development and exercise of all your skills
  • 32. Happiness  To build: Pay attention to when you need to be right and to your “wanting;” choose happiness instead  Benefits: The relaxation of our self-importance; more pleasure and less pain
  • 33. No creature can fly with just one wing. Gifted leadership occurs where heartand head – feeling and thought – meet. These are the two wings that allow a leader to soar. -- From “Primal Leadership”

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