Underlying feelings of fear, anxiety, vulnerability, stress, tiredness etc Trigger of a person or a thing frustrating your need or desire Outburst of rage loss of control and self-respect Possible repeated triggers Learning to feel anger and control its expression Gaining of self-respect
Write/draw your feelings, tear them up & throw away.
Tear up old newspapers
Shout in a safe place.
Pretend to talk to the person who makes you angry
Remember, it is healthy to let anger out in a safe way.
Think before you react Is anger really justified Releasing Anger Safely Hit a pillow or cushion Throw safe items into a container Go for a walk Throw stones into water Jump on old egg boxes Write/draw your feelings, tear them up and throw away Tear up old newspapers. Shout in a safe place Pretend to talk to the person who makes you angry
Rational Emotive Therapy (RET) To Control Anger A – Situation You are working on an important document, your roommate trips on your computer cord and shuts the machine down. B – Beliefs Your first reaction is, “Dammit, why did he/she do that? C – Feelings And Actions You yell at person who unplugged your computer and blame them for all the work you lost.
D – Dispute You start to question your demandingness: “Accidents happen. God knows I’m clumsy enough myself. It’s not like him/her to do it on purpose. E – Realistic Goals You decide that in the future you’d like to have less risk of having your work interrupted and lost by unexpected intrusions without making anyone unhappy. F – Constructive Options You opt for options like moving the computer cord to make it harder to accidentally unplug and saving your work more often. G – Put option into practice You move the computer cord and you set up your programs to auto-save every three minutes.
Find the true target of your anger – but don’t always accuse them of it. Don’t allow your anger to come out sideways.
Find a safe way of expressing your anger. This might include speaking to an empty chair, beating a cushion, going for a long walk, playing a highly competitive game of squash.
Take responsibility for your own life and happiness.
If you can practice the above, you will find your anger is much cleaner and less contaminated by other emotions such as vindictiveness, violence, resentment and fear. You will also find that the anger of other people is much easier to deal with as these
ANCIENT WISDOM ON ANGER When a man thinks of objects attachment for them arises, From attachment, desire is born and thwarted desire arises anger , From anger comes delusion, From delusion loss of memory occurs, From loss of memory occurs the destruction of discrimination of choice And from destruction of discrimination one perishes
Verses from Bhagavad Gita Chapter II.62, 63 trace the cause and effects of anger in 8 steps as follows: Brooding over the sense objects > Attachment > Desire > Anger (Unfulfilled desire) > Delusion > Loss of memory > Power of discrimination > One Perishes
Practice Indian Philosophy (Vedanta) To be Effective Personally & Professionally
Healthy philosophy of life with a balanced and matured mind (Service orientation and concern for the people should be in the centre)
Clear idea about his/her goal and role at individual, organizational and social level.
Quality of a good physician who is always empathic, objective and takes an appropriate action.
“ Cast off anger from your heart like an arrow from the bow, so that you may again be friends and live together in harmony” Atharva Veda
“ We believe success is not determined by how we are doing compared with others, but how we are doing compared with what we are capable of doing. Self-aware individual competes with oneself. They better their own records and keep moving constantly for personal and professional growth”