Expecting More From our Teenagers


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History has clearly shown Christians that our teenagers today are quite immature. But, it is the Bible - especially the life of Christ at the age of twelve - that gives parents a biblical perspective and pattern that inherently should cause us to expect more from our teens. [NOTE: and expect-ing more from parents]

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  • Expecting More From our Teenagers

    1. 1. Expecting More From Our Teenagers Raising the bar of expectations for our teenage children. Lk. 2:41-52
    2. 2. Introduction <ul><li>What do most teenagers (including Christian teens) do during their adolescent years? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Some involved with organizations and/or play sports; play around (videos, tv, listen to music, internet); some might work a few hours a week at a job. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>How many live responsibly on their own by twelve: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Ladies: cook, sew, care for young children </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Men: laboring, protector/provider, etc. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Teens in our modern (self-serving) society are quite immature compared to history and biblical examples. </li></ul></ul>
    3. 3. Introduction <ul><li>We shall use our Savior – when He was only twelve – as our perfect example for what we can expect from our teenagers. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>We’ll look at the example of parenting that played a huge role in the maturation of Jesus. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>We’ll look at the life of Jesus – because He was his own person, for responsible for his own decisions by age twelve. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>We’ll finish with some specific things parents should be able to expect from their teenagers. </li></ul></ul>
    4. 4. The Parents of Jesus <ul><li>Went to the Feat of the Passover…every year. Lk. 2:41 </li></ul><ul><ul><li>They themselves were faithful in keeping the Lord’s will and trusting God would keep their home and land safe while they went to the temple. Cp. Exo. 34:23-24 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>They set an example to their son – from the beginning – of being faithful and trusting in the Lord. </li></ul></ul>
    5. 5. John Trumble <ul><li>Helped Noah Webster Write Dictionary </li></ul><ul><li>Read through the Bible… </li></ul><ul><li>at age FOUR </li></ul>SIDE NOTE
    6. 6. The Parents of Jesus <ul><li>Trusted Jesus to be on his own: responsibly. Vs. 42-44 </li></ul><ul><ul><li>By the time Jesus was twelve there was no question they did not need to see if Jesus was with his family caravan heading back home. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To be able to trust your child means he has been taught and learned to be trusted. </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Continued in their parental authority role over Jesus. </li></ul>
    7. 7. By The Time Jesus Was Twelve <ul><li>Physically/mentally mature. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Jesus was able to physically/mentally able to care for himself for at least 3-5 days when he was twelve. Vs. 44-46 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>The implications are tremendous: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Having money (or working) to eat and have a place to sleep. </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Having the wherewithal to travel throughout the city. </li></ul></ul></ul>
    8. 8. Jewish Tradition <ul><li>Boys – ages 6-10 went to Bet Sefer (House of the Book) Memorized Torah (Gen. – Deut.) </li></ul><ul><li>Boys Considered “Adult” at age thirteen Bar Mitzvah </li></ul><ul><li>Boys – ages 10-14 Bet Talmud (House of Learning) Memorized Entire Old Testament! </li></ul>SIDE NOTE
    9. 9. By The Time Jesus Was Twelve <ul><li>Spiritually mature. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>At the temple: listening, asking questions, answering questions amazed the teachers. Vs. 46-47 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>He spoke to his parents with God’s will in mind. V. 49 </li></ul></ul>
    10. 10. By The Time Jesus Was Twelve <ul><li>The spiritual implications are tremendous: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>He studied/memorized/meditated on the scriptures. Cp. Josh. 1:8 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>This would allow him to have discerning conversations with the teachers of the Law. </li></ul></ul>
    11. 11. By The Time Jesus Was Twelve <ul><li>Spiritually mature. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>At the temple: listening, asking questions, answering questions amazed the teachers. Vs. 46-47 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>He spoke to his parents with God’s will in mind. V. 49 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>The spiritual implications are tremendous: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>He kept increasing in wisdom and stature. V. 52 </li></ul></ul>
    12. 12. By The Time Jesus Was Twelve <ul><li>Jesus honored His parents. V. 51 </li></ul><ul><ul><li>The scriptures tells us that Jesus never sinned: thus, he was not being disrespectful to His parents but explaining the necessity of his life’s work. Heb. 4:15 </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>He continued – since the event at the temple – to be in subjection to them (as God’s word revealed). </li></ul></ul>
    13. 13. Uncommon Maturity <ul><li>Edward ‘The Black Prince’ of England commanded the British army at age 16 </li></ul><ul><li>John Quincy Adams: court appointed diplomat to Catherine the Great in Russia at age 14. </li></ul>SIDE NOTE
    14. 14. Uncommon Maturity <ul><li>Stonewall Jackson Finished school/became a school teacher at 16 </li></ul><ul><li>“ A man of words and not of deeds </li></ul><ul><li>Is like a garden full of weeds” </li></ul><ul><li>Ran for office at age 17 – County Constable collecting debts </li></ul>SIDE NOTE
    15. 15. Parents Today Need to Expect More From Their Teenagers <ul><li>Parents should expect that their teenager will obey immediately. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>If your child does not then that he has chosen when/if they will obey: it is on his terms, not those over him. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If your child obeys but not kindly (respectfully): then he has not displayed honor to his parent. </li></ul></ul>
    16. 16. Parents Today Need to Expect More From Their Teenagers <ul><li>Parents should expect their teens would do the following on their own (no longer needed to be reminded): </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Wake up, do their work (school, home, chores). </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Show respect to all people: siblings, parents, others (friends, adults). </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Know how to be self-reliant. </li></ul></ul>
    17. 17. Parents Today Need to Expect More From Their Teenagers <ul><li>Ultimately, parents should expect more from themselves. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Being godly Christian examples of those who live with purpose, destiny and responsibility. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>That we can genuinely teach our children live with purpose, destiny, and responsibility. </li></ul></ul>
    18. 18. Conclusion <ul><li>Do you expect what the parents expected from Jesus? </li></ul><ul><li>Teens: are you patterning your life after the twelve year old Jesus? </li></ul>