Wrong Way – Getting AngryBully insults a student (no cursing), trying to upset themTarget becomes frustrated, slowly becoming angrier and more upsetBully thinks it’s funny that the Target is getting so upset, and bullies them even more! Make sure you don’t laugh!
Right Way – Staying Calm Bully insults a student (no cursing), trying to upset them Target lets the Bully know in lots of ways that it’s okay for them to call you names and that they can do it all day if they want to Target treats the Bully as if he/she were doing you a favor by letting you know what’s wrong with you Target responds with humor to an insult (if you think I’m ugly, you should see my sister!) When Bully stops insulting the student, Targets asks “are you finished? Are you sure? If you want to do it some more, I really don’t mind.”
How to Handle Rumors
Wrong Way – Getting UpsetStudent comes up to you, telling you about a rumor they heard about youTarget becomes more and more upset and argues with him, insisting it’s not true Wants to find out who started the rumorStudent who told you about the rumor thinks it’s funny how you’re becoming upset, and doesn’t give you a lot of information
Right Way – Staying CalmStudent comes up to you, telling you about a rumor they heard about youTarget asks “do you believe it?” If he says “no,” say “good” If he says “yes,” or “I don’t know,” say “you can believe whatever you want.”If he asks “but is it true?” Repeat: “you can believe whatever you want.”
How to Coercion to Choose Between Friends
Wrong Way – Begging, PleadingStudent A tells Student B “if you are really my friend, you won’t be friends with Kelly”Student B responds with “oh, please don’t make me choose.” “it’s not fair! You can’t ask me not to be friends with Kelly!” “okay, I won’t be her friend.”
Right WayStudent A tells Student B “if you are really my friend, you won’t be friends with Kelly”Student B responds with “I’ll always consider you my friend, but if you can’t be my friend because of Kelly, I will understand.”