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Communication Stress
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Communication Stress

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A lot of people experience stress while communicating. …

A lot of people experience stress while communicating.
What is this Communication Stress? Why and from where does this stress comes from and How do you manage Communication Stress.

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  • 1. Communication Stress Designed and Presented by http://leaders-workshop.blogspot.com/
  • 2. But First,
    • What is Communication?
  • 3. What is Communication Stress?
  • 4. How is your Communication in the following situations?
    • Do you buy things you don’t really want because it is hard for you to say “NO” ?
    • Do you use sarcasm if it helps me make a point?
    • If others interrupt me when I am talking, I suffer in silence.
    • Do you have difficulty starting a conversation with a stranger?
    • Do you find it difficult to criticize a friend?
    • Do you find it difficult to compliment a friend?
    • Do you feel self-conscious when somebody compliments you?
    • Do you find it difficult to ask the Q breaker to join the Q?
    • Do you get “I should have said that…” kind of thoughts after meetings?
    • Do you have trouble asking favours of a friend?
    • Do you have difficulty saying “NO” to a friend even when he is making an unreasonable request?
    • Do you have trouble expressing your tender feelings?
    • Do you feel uncomfortable when you are being given a negative feedback at work?
    • Do you rationalize or defend yourself when somebody criticizes you?
    • Do you put on a show to get attention?
    • Do you usually begin your conversation apologetically by saying things like, “I don’t want to bother you..” or “Am I taking up your time..”?
    • Do you mind giving opinions when asked?
  • 5. Check your Style?
    • You hope that you will get what you want.
    • You sit on your feelings and rely on others to guess what you want.
    • You give up your rights.
    • You feel helpless, anxious, disappointed with yourself, trying to please others.
    • You feel manipulated and pushed around.
    • You do not express your needs.
    • e.g. ‘Ok, “You” have the chocolate cake’.
  • 6. Check your Style?
    • You try to get what you want.
    • You often give rise to bad feelings in others and get it in any way that works.
    • You think that only you have rights.
    • You feel angry, frustrated, self-righteous, dominating, forcing others to loose.
    • Imposing your will or needs on others.
    • e.g. ‘Give “me” that chocolate cake’.
  • 7. Check your Style?
    • You ASK for what you want
    • You COMMUNICATE openly, directly, honestly, appropriately without feeling guilty or emotional.
    • You stand for your rights without violating the rights of others.
    • You give space to the other person.
    • Expressing your needs openly without imposing on the other
    • e.g. ‘I like chocolate cake, do you? Should we divide it up?’
  • 8. The Communication Styles are
    • Passive or Submissive Communication
    • Aggressive Communication
    • Assertive Communication
  • 9. Assertiveness is “ NOT” …
    • A guaranteed way to WIN every argument
    • A guaranteed way to get what you want
    • A way to get others to feel like you feel or think what you think
  • 10. What is Assertiveness?
    • “Your ability to act in harmony with your Self-Esteem without hurting others.”
    • It is a behaviour which helps us to communicate clearly and confidently
    • our NEEDS, WANTS and FEELINGS
    • to other people without abusing in any way their human rights.
  • 11. Why Assertiveness is not easy?
    • No assertiveness training
    • No opportunity to voice my opinion
    • Gender difference
    • Irrational Belief
    • Timid Souls
  • 12. Why do we experience Communication Stress?
    • Many of us come from homes that taught us (among other things):
      • “Don’t speak unless you’re spoken to.”
      • “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
      • “He who has the power wins – and you don’t have the power.”
      • Values
      • Culture
  • 13. The other common reasons are..
    • Fear of upsetting others
    • Fear of rejection / ridicule
    • Feeling responsible for the other person
    • Circle of musts (ought to, must, have to)
    • Low Self Image
  • 14. Good News!
    • You learned to be Passive or Aggressive and Now you can Learn to be Assertive.
    • You can choose how you’d like to respond in every situation.
    Getting Ready To be Assertive
  • 15. Right or wrong?
    • Many people confuse being assertive with winning more arguments but assertiveness is only a process to let others respectfully know how you think and feel
    Getting Ready To be Assertive
  • 16. The Truth about Feelings..!
    • Feelings are neither Right nor Wrong
      • “Don’t feel bad”
      • “He is Angry”
      • “She is feeling Sad”
      • “He is feeling compassionate”
    Getting Ready To be Assertive
  • 17. What does it take to be assertive?
    • There are several things you can learn to do to make your communication more assertive, open, and direct.
  • 18. Using “I” Statements #1
    • Use “I” statements :
      • Being assertive means taking responsibility for your own feelings
      • “I feel sad”, “I feel angry”, “I feel happy”
    • Do not say, “You make me feel…”
      • This gives others control over your feelings and blames others for what’s going on inside you
  • 19. Using “I” Statements #2
    • You are responsible for your own feelings
      • No one can “make” you feel
      • You have learned to feel certain ways about certain situations
    • You can choose how you would like to feel
    • Practicing Proactiveness
  • 20. Using “I” Statements #3
    • Beyond using “I” statements for feelings, also use them for thoughts and opinions
      • “ I think…”
      • “ In my opinion...”
      • “ I would like…”
      • “ I want…”
      • “ I need…”
  • 21. Using “I” Statements #4
    • Starting a statement with “You” often means you are blaming someone else
      • Blame often leads to arguing about who’s feeling or thought are right
      • Your feelings are neither right nor wrong
      • Other’s feeling are neither right nor wrong
    • Using “I” statements removes right and wrong from the conversation.
  • 22. Using Specific Behaviors #1
    • Focus on specific behavior, not generalities
      • Specific = “I felt angry because when you called me a twit because I do not like being insulted.”
      • General = “You make me mad because you are a rotten person.”
      • Specific = “I am very angry because I missed my deadline, because you did not submit the report on time.”
      • General = “You are never organised” or “You are never punctual”
  • 23. Using Specific Behaviors #2
    • Describe what you would like to be different
      • “I felt angry when you called me a twit because I felt insulted. I would like for you not to call me names.”
      • “I feel unimportant to you when you start every conversation we have with, ‘How are your grades?’ I would like to talk about other things about my life with you.”
  • 24. Using Specific Behaviors #3
    • Focusing on specifics helps everyone understand what needs to be worked on.
      • If you label someone, the label doesn’t tell the other person what exactly needs to change
      • If you describe specific behavior, the other person can know what you are reacting to and what could be changed.
  • 25. Using Specific Behaviors #4
    • So, to recap:
      • 1. Start with an I statement –
        • “I feel…”, “I think…”, “I want/need…”
      • 2. Talk about specific behavior
      • 3. Ask politely for specific behavior changes you might want
      • 4. Allow the other person to respond based on their own needs, feelings, and thought.
  • 26. COMMUNICATION PYRAMID Active Listening Assertiveness Skills Collaborative Conflict Management Aggressive don’t Listen Passive they Listen & don’t do anything about it. “ LISTENING ” is the 1 st step in Assertiveness
  • 27. TO BE ASSERTIVE …..
    • Know What You Want to Say
    • Say it
    • Be Specific
    • Say it as Soon as Possible
    • Avoid giggling or Whining
    • Be Relaxed & Confident
    Getting Ready To be Assertive
  • 28. Assertiveness: A Skill to Master
    • Problems are dealt with before feelings ride too high
    • mutual esteem and respect go up
    • misunderstandings decrease
    • the air is cleared and its good for the blood pressure too.
  • 29. For Training Workshop on “ Effective Communication Skills” Contact: Shabbar Suterwala Email: [email_address] Or Call: +91-989 222 5864 Designed & Created by

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