Stress honesty and hypocrisy dr. shriniwas kashalikarDocument Transcript
One of the causes of STRESS is lack of adequate and
Even as the world has come closer through technology;
most of us; are suffering from the STRESS of lack of
adequate and/or satisfactory communication.
Why could this be so? Why in spite of internet, mobile
phones, video conferencing and speedy transport
facilities, we still get this sort of STRESS?
If we carefully study; then we find that we are in
situation where there is; “water; water everywhere;
but no water to drink!” In other words; it is not the
lack of coming together and meeting physically, or
connecting of people through the internet, cell phones
etc; and talking; but it is our inability to communicate
heart to heart; that is causing STRESS!
Since we are trapped and engrossed in the values of
chasing the mirage of individual pursuits, such as
power, money, fame, glamour, glitter and so on; we
have forgotten our own conscience! We are unable to
reach our own subconscious and unconscious stratums.
In fact; we have knowingly or unknowingly; deserted
our innate core and stopped communicating with our
selves! As a result; we are unable to listen to our “own”
voice and know, understand and feel our own “selves”!
We do not know our innate aspirations, our desires,
and our urges.
Whenever we are disturbed by the STRESS of being
lonely or dejected and miss communication; we try to
But since we are entangled in values of superficiality
and pettiness; our innate aspirations unknown to us;
do not get expression in communication. Our
communication remains restricted to issues irrelevant
to our soul; and hence does not satisfy us!
We give vent to our feelings only after filtering them
through the doubts about acceptability, fear of
condemnation, apprehension about fall in our own
evaluation, shyness to accept our basal aspects
publicly; and ignorance about intricate activities going
on in our body tissues and cells! In addition there are
filters of our limitations of the knowledge of language
and the inherent limitations of the language to express
the objective truth!
We are unable to express ourselves; in words and
actions due to these filters! This makes us dishonest;
though most of the people may not call us so; and we
also may not think so! We are ignorant and oblivious
about our dishonesty!
The question; “Can we express truth or interact heart
to heart?” does not arise if we are writing reports,
news, fiction, research papers etc! Because, these things
are fairly clear. These things deal with facts. They may
true or false.
But, this is not so when we are engaged in vague,
ambiguous, philosophical questions and answers;
regarding abstract ideas and exploring our innate and
objective perceptions. Hence this question arises more
often; after writing for years; on what we presume to
be “Absolute Truth” and “discover to be otherwise”!
This is because; after repeatedly trying to catch the
“Absolute Truth from deep within us” in words; we
experience that whatever is written by us; becomes
merely relative and subjective perceptions and not
In such instance, it is obvious that we are not lying or
cheating; knowingly, intentionally or deliberately. In
fact; there is a genuine feeling that we are expressing
“Absolute Truth” from our conscience. This is why we
are frequently adamant and insistent about our
opinions; beliefs, dogmas and superstitions, which we
think are “Absolute Truth”. This often makes us;
obstinate, inconsiderate and even fanatic.
If we carefully think; then it becomes clear; that most
of the times what we write is limited by “characteristic
limitations of our brain, the number of synapses, the
synaptic connections, synaptic interactions, neuro-
hormones, hormones and autonomic nervous system
and environment inside and outside. Even apparently
remote facts in space and time influence our
perceptions and our articulations.
Hence most of our writing is away from Absolute or
Objective Truth! It is away from reality. It is relatively
superficial and peripheral; even if it appears to us; to
be full of intense, deepest and egalitarian emotions and
Our limitations and our shackling idiosyncrasies,
whims, fancies and ego; can manifest (even if we are
honest) in our day to day functioning also; and make a
lot of difference (positive or negative) to the people if
we are in a decision making position; such as political,
spiritual, and economic leaders; opinion makers and
When we are trapped in the confusion, uncertainty and
dilemma of what we expect from ourselves; and what
we actually feel and do; we STRESSED! This is the
STERSS of being hypocrite. We try frantically and in
vain; to overcome such STRESS by “assuming actually
to be” “what we think; we should be” rather than
being what we are!
When we get “pulled” between; “what others should
think or believe us to be” and “what we believe we
are”; we get stressed! This is because “we are not what
we believe to be” and we can not know and determine
“what people think; should think or believe us to be”
We try to manage such stress by hiding things which
we think people would not approve; and show, exhibit
and advertise things which we think people would
appreciate! This hypocrisy results from fear of
defamation, shame, insults, dejection, punishment etc!
Often we condemn others for being hypocrites. But
most of us are hypocrites. This is because we do not
understand ourselves and we do not understand
whether others understand us not! Actually it is
impossible to “know” “ourselves” and also
“otherselves”! The “self” of every one of us is beyond
intellectual definition and concrete and constant
identity. It is not even possible to understand our own
and others’ perceptions, feelings, instincts and needs;
because they are not too subtle and rapidly changing!
The phenomenon of assuming to be somebody and
phenomenon of posing to be somebody further add to
our STRESS; rather than freeing us from STRESS!
The fact that hypocrisy; thus actually makes us
miserable; becomes clear, through the process of
absorbing or recollecting our essence (self); trapped in
our subjective thinking, feeling and needs; through the
practice of NAMASMARAN.
We do not have to confess our dishonesty and
hypocrisy to any one else; but merely realize ourselves;
that our self created obstacles determined by our
values; come in the way of our honest heart to heart
communication; and cause the STRESS!
These obstacles are independent of technology; and can
not be overcome by technology. The technology is like
the wiring and the bulbs; and the obstacles in
communication; are like defects in the “powerhouse”!
Mere corrections of wiring and bulbs; can not be
Let us understand that this is exactly why; frequent
chat, gossip, flattery, accolades, fame, popularity,
celebrations, festivities and other awards and rewards;
though elevate the mood; do not reach the soul. They
can not help in conquering the STRESS of lack of
adequate and satisfactory communication!
Let us interact with our innate core; and the innate
core of the others; and conquer the STRESS of the lack
of adequate, satisfactory, heart to heart and honest
communication; through NAMASMARAN; which is
the oxygen; that enlivens, integrates and blossoms us
It is true that we like to come together. It is also true
that coming together, staying together and working
together are all part of life. Coming together and
celebrating has a lot of morale boosting capacity.
Hence there are festivals and get-togethers, which play
a vital role in society.
Coming together also involves a variety of joint
projects and missions.
These days the networking has become a buzz word. It
has become synonymous with success. It is true that
networking has a lot of potential and the means of
telecommunication play a very great supportive role
for it. But such technological or physical networking
per se; as seen above; without an accurate purport,
becomes a hollow matter. It can give you everything
but the satisfaction of being honest and communicating
the truth from heart to heart!
True networking becomes possible when we connect to
ourselves; and the otherselves; through
NAMASMARAN. However it is necessary to verify this
statement through one’s own experience.