EL AL BBG
Lay All Your Love On Me
Mama Mia! Night 2.1.14
Letter from the Mazkirah: What is Love?
“...awkwardly, and often
with a great deal of mess...”
- Lemony Snicket
Someone asked me a question recently.
They asked me, what is love? Me being the
sarcastic asshole that I am responded with:
“baby don’t hurt me don’t hurt me no more.”
This was in reference to a moderately bad
song from the 90s. So they asked me the
same question again and I told them love is
when someone else's happiness is more
important than your own.
Now if i’m being completely honest I
think I saw this explanation on tumblr and I’m
not sure if I fully agree with it. After some
thorough research I’ve found that there are
hundreds of definitions for love. One of my
favorites being a quote from Lemony Snicket
Love to El Al
from Coby Simler
that says: “Love can change a person the way
a parent can change a baby- awkwardly, and
often with a great deal of mess.”
To me it is fascinating how many different
definitions and ideas there are about love. For
example the concept that loving someone is
different than being in love. And that the way
you love your friends is different from how
you love your parents which is again different
than you love your boyfriend or girlfriend.
This month you get to see numerous
perspective and ideas about love and what
we love. From Coby Simler’s article about his
love for El Al to Sophie Mann’s Words From
the Wise Column to Charlotte Fron’s
wordserach. We’ve really covered all the
Get ready for an enjoyable and possibly
educational experience about the incredibly
abstract concept of love.
Submitted with undying love for,
Shoulder touching, knowing the answer, our
beautiful sister chapters SF1, Chai and JEM,
the loveable Alephs of our brother chapter
SiWi #2524, and of course my heart and
home EL AL BBG #1863
Words From the Wise
Songs about love
Forever and Always
My Lost Love
My dearest sisters of El Al BBG,
What deﬁnes our two chapters as brother and sister chapters? How is El Al any different to SiWi from JSZ, Neshikot or
Atz' Chaim? Maybe it is more events with each other, or the fact that we go to the same schools. Maybe. But I don't
think it is either of those.
Because no matter how many events I have with JSZ, Neshikot or Atz' Chaim, I will never feel the same bond that I feel
for El Al.
El Al is what completes my bbyo experience, it is what makes me who I am, and that is something that I cherish
everyday. You are the girls that have made me a better person. And I can never pay you back.
So I could be writing you a poem or some sort of love letter, but to be honest, I don't think that words could describe my
love for you. As many of you know, I am a pretty happy guy to begin with, but every single time I see one of you at a
business meeting or stop to say hi at school I feel more than just happy. I feel loved. I feel loved and accepted by every
one of you.That is something that I haven't experienced before anywhere. So I want to try and love you back as much
as you have loved me. That means that every time you are feeling sad, just remember that I am here and always willing
to help. If you are mad, sad, depressed, annoyed, come to me and I will drop almost anything to make you feel better.
It is my commitment to you that makes us brother and sister chapters. And I am proud to say that I am in love with El Al.
Words From the Wise:
I went to me ﬁrst event in June of
2010 and fell in love instantly. I
joined after my second event after a
relay race with baguettes. I was
chapter sh'licha, s'ganit, and n'siah
and helped restart Sabra BBG. There
are no words to sum up what El Al
means to me; they helped me see
myself as beautiful and gave me the
most spectacular family. I would not
be who I am today without El Al.
I have learned so much
in BBYO, and I am not going to
give you the typical "you don't
need a position to make
something of yourself" speech
because you've heard that
before. I want to tell you
something a little different.
The theme of this
newsletter is "love." I have never
seen a more appropriate theme
for our chapter's newsletter. The
thing that attracted me to El Al
was love. Before I joined El Al, I
had terrible body image issues.
At my second event, I was in the
middle of one of the worst
periods of my life, but something
changed at the event. Halfway
through, I went to the bathroom
and looked in the mirror. For the
ﬁrst time in much, much too long,
I didn't hate what I saw, and that
was when I knew I needed to
immerse myself wholly in this
Looking for Love
chapter. The love that the
chapter exuded, that I could feel
even as a new prospective, was
something I could not pass up.
That's what I want to
teach you. Passed leadership
roles or being popular in the
region, the love of El Al is far
more important and will bring
you more happiness than any
title or number of friends on
Facebook will. You will carry that
love with you forever, when
whether or not you were morah
doesn't matter anymore. It was
this love that changed my life,
not being sh'licha or a
chairwoman. Embrace the love
girls in the chapter give you,
period. There will never be an
absence of that love because
that's what BBG is founded on;
every Menorah Pledge principle
is founded upon the love of
Judaism, helping others, and
MADE BY: Charlotte Fron
being part of a sisterhood that
hungers for acceptance and love.
So, love. Love yourself. Accept
the love of others. Love your
sisters. Keep feeding love into the
chapter because the chapter will
only continue to grow in numbers
and strength if it is ﬁlled with
loving member; love breeds
passion, and passion is the fuel
of El Al's plane. Love will truly
keep us together.
Submitted with undying love for
how much love is in this chapter,
Beatle's references, we are the
seniors, we get the wieners, and
my heart, home, and love of El
Al BBG #1863
A proud BBG madly in love with
El Al BBG #1863 from June
Hello there, I’m Maddy
Kaplan. I’m not sure if we’ve met. I’m
new to BBG, and I am really loving it so
I guess this month’s theme was love.
When I was asked to write a piece for
this column I was excited, but had exactly zero ideas. I mean, I love my
family, and my friends, and my pets as much as any person can, but it
didn’t seem right. I didn’t want to write to you about something that only I
I guess I don’t really understand love. To be honest, I’m 13 and it
doesn’t have much meaning. The love that most people my age hold should
really be called lust, and yet we still call it love.
But in the same way, I do still love things. I genuinely love my
family in a certain unconditional way, because we are connected, and they
are what I’ve grown up into. I am part of them, and just the same, they are
a part of me. One dictionary.com deﬁnition for the word love is
“affectionate concern for the well-being of others.” So yes, I do love my
family, friends, and pets.
I found a quote today that I found really interesting, and is so
blatantly obvious that I feel ashamed for not putting it into words earlier.
“even if i really like you i probably still hate you a little tbh” And yes, this
was written by just another grammar-phobic teenager like you or me, but I
think it captures something. There is room for hate in love, and I just think
that’s a really cool idea. Something you should think about, because I don’t
have too much space to write.
Now I brought up this idea at Mamma Mia Night, but for those of
you who weren’t there, here’s my point. Love is an abstract noun. It’s
something everyone feels, and it seems so real, but English still believes it is
something you cannot touch or feel. And I guess that’s true. You can’t hold
love in the palm of your hand, but it’s there and we all know that. And if
love is just a series of chemical reactions, then how is it not real?
And yes, sometimes we do use “love” to lightly, when we don’t
really love things, but I have already found myself, over the past few days,
and even in this article, using the word “love” without noticing, in places
that I maybe should not of. But that’s just how it’s been (let’s go with the
fake word) appropriatized by society. By taking this big, scary idea: Love,
and turning it into something not to be feared, I think we have made
ourselves okay with the idea of being in love.
So I guess this has really just been a rant about love and things.
I’m sorry you had to sit through this. I mean, I really have no idea what I’m
talking about. But this is what I have written. So there. Good night, or good
morning, or good afternoon, I love you. And yes, I do mean that. <3
Songs About Love
By: Samantha Alvarez
2. Your Drums, Your Love - Aluna George
This song is addicting. Listen to it three times
and you’ll be stuck. Im sure.
3. She Will Be Loved - Maroon 5
If you didn’t grow up on this song then I
don’t know what to say. Honorable mention:
4. Skinny Love - Bon Iver (or Birdy)
Both Bon Iver and Birdy do renditions of this
song that just hurt so good.
5. Love Song - Sara Bareilles
This is a throwback to 6th grade for me (aka
6 years ago). For the record you should
know all the words
6.Falling in Love At A Coffee Shop - Landon
This song may possibly be too sweet.
Actually im going to go to Philz right now,
7. Beautiful and Very Smart - Harlem
I know it doesn’t have love in the title but
just listen to it. Extra points for being by my
current favorite band.
8. I Love It - Icona Pop
I don’t think I need to comment on this.
9. Akward - San Cisco
Funny song if you listen to the word. About
unrequited love. Also Great Band.
10. Love - Daughter
This song is literally the sound of heart
Submitted by: Maddie Bennet
1. All You Need Is Love - The Beatles
A classic. A must have. Need I say more,
The Beatles got it right with this one. (Or all
of them, just saying)
By: Jordana Siegel
Impact: Boston was a fabulous way to rediscover my passion for social
action. I was privileged to be selected as the part of the group that went to
one of the worst areas in Boston, and worked with the teens in the area
through a program called Youth Force. Through this program, the teens in
the local area were employed by the program to improve the teen voice in Boston and in the
state of Massachusetts, as well as improve their area of Boston. They were responsible for
having the Massachusetts government donate over nine thousand dollars to support youth jobs
in the private sector. I met people that I would never have had a relationship with otherwise,
and got to experience walking around an area I would never normally get out of my car in.
When we walked around the neighborhoods, there was a sense of community and generosity
in the area that I would never have felt in a wealthier neighborhood. Besides this great
experience through Youth Force, I got to spend 2 weeks with like-minded Jewish teens who
were all focused on improving the world, all while staying on a college campus and
experiencing what it is like to be a college kid. It was an amazing experience and I would
highly recommend it to everyone in El Al!
Michal’s Top 5 Anti-Valentines Day Photos
Happy Valentines Day
Upcoming: Tahoe Trip
El al is going on it's ﬁrst trip ever!
Tahoe. June 19-22. Exciting
activities. Official letter coming soon.
Hope you can make it!
Contact Charlotte Fron if you have
- Michal Golovanevsky
Submitted by: Charlotte Fron
Heart and Home
By: Mara Greene
It all started in French Class
Freshman year, I sat next to this girl, and
everyday we would get yelled at by our
French teacher who hated us. Some how
BBYO came up and I told her I was
Jewish. She did not believe me at ﬁrst.
She told me I should come to the event.
My ﬁrst reaction was no way, but ﬁnally I
decided to come. My ﬁrst event was the
Siwi/Jem/El Al sleepover. It was very
overwhelming, I was kinda scared of how
friendly everybody was and how
everybody was so outgoing, I am a pretty
Forever and Always
By: Charlotte Fron
Love is not always forever; we
can hope it to be. But then again, what
is love? How long is forever? Love is a
simple yet really complicated concept
that we, as humans, sometimes think is
"the most important thing, like ever". I'm
not saying that love isn't important, I'm
saying that there are different kinds of
love that all have different importances.
We need passion and emotion; they
drive us in society. Just hear me out.
There is true love, a concept
that is basically only true in fairy tales
and Disney movies. Sure, we would love
to have true love, but you need conﬂict
in a relationship because that's what
makes it interesting and what keeps you
going. Even if we don't realize it, we
need ups and downs to make the
adventure stand out.
There is also the art of being in
love. Even though you cannot technically
be IN love physically, you basically can
because it is when you are so committed
to someone that every thing they do
looks perfect in your eyes and each time
you are around them, you fall even
harder for them. I guess falling is
something physical, so maybe you can
technically be IN love. This can lead to
the question of is there such thing as
perfection? But I'll let you ponder that...
Loving someone is WAY
different. I love my family, my friends,
and warm chocolate chip cookies. I
don't want to marry these things, but I
still couldn't live without them because I
feel like they shape who I am as a
person. I guess that is what love does to
someone; it shows who the real you is.
Are you following? I feel like
LOVE in general is confusing and hard to
explain and people have different
explanations and there actually should
be different deﬁnitions because we all
make it our own. We are all different. If
love were the same thing or concept or
idea that we all have or want, life would
be boring because we wouldn't have
What am I saying? Love can be
forever, like a tattoo. But, you can
technically get a tattoo removed and
you can technically love for a
constrained amount of time. Maybe
people get tattoos that have to do with
love because it is such a fantasy to have
true love that lasts forever, but having
the word love on your beautiful body
forever makes us feel conﬁdent and
loud person myself so to see that in
everyone there blew me away. As soon
as Havdalah started I knew I wanted to
join. I loved and still love, cheers. Over
the summer I came to events, at that point
I liked El Al, I thought it was a cool thing,
whatever. I had no idea what a amazing
community I was apart of. But then I
started to fall in love with it. I started to
make really close friends, and every week
I look forward to Saturday nights, being
crazy with my sisters. I went to my ﬁrst
convention and had one of the best
weekends of my life. Then, I had my ﬁrst
fundraiser as Gizborit, I was really
nervous that it would not go well or there
wouldn't be enough food. But when I got
there my sisters had my back. So many of
the girls baked food and stayed there the
whole time cheering and advertising. It
made me so happy to see all the love and
support. One of my favorite things about
El Al that is we always have each others
back, we will support each other when
we are down and root each other on
when we succeed. I have met so many
new people and my closest friends are in
El Al. I love that in El Al you can act
completely crazy and instead of being
like what the heck is wrong with her, they
are just as crazy as I am. I love all of our
Home Ofs. I love that El Al can’t spell just
like me. El Al is my home I always feel so
comfortable at a events and that I can
totally be myself. I love everyone in El Al
and I have met so many amazing people
that have become my closest friends. El Al
is my break from stress. El Al is my heart
The Joys of the
High School Dilemma
by Amelia Tiemann
This is an opinionated article and I fully respect the
opinions of anyone who has disagreeing thoughts. I wrote
this article with the intention of providing some thoughts that
will hopefully help to reassure girls in El Al and anyone you
would like to share them with that you are not alone.
Whatever the obstacles, setbacks, and challenges you are
facing, I am here for you if you want to talk. I might even
give you some (lame) advice that you may consider taking.
But most importantly I would like you all to know that you
deserve only the very best from your relationships with other
people, with the world, and with yourself.
She’s stufﬁng endless amounts of information into
her brain day after day at school. She feels like her mind will
just overﬂow. But she just can’t explain the emptiness that
keeps growing deeper and deeper every day inside her
heart. Mostly she ignores it; it’s not a priority while she has
to focus on her work. She’s skipped every opportunity to
spend time with friends because she’s had to study, which
makes her feel slightly guilty until she reminds herself that she
would have felt more guilty if she had gone.
Another week passes and her parents are beginning
to notice the faint trembling of her skin as she speaks, the
slightly more accentuated lines underneath her eyes. The
mass of books and papers on her desk that continually grows
larger as if it were alive. The diminishing amount of time
when their daughter is with them at the kitchen table, talking
animately about her experiences, her dreams, her aspirations, her goals.
Because the more she tries to entertain herself with these goals, which in theory make her happy to think about, the more she
doubts herself. She tosses them aside because all everyone at school ever talks about is how much they worry that they won’t succeed rather
than how excited they are to pursue any goals. And it all feels the same, all the time. She lets herself become just like everyone else. She
wonders, how is this inspiring? How is it living? Why is all she is capable of feeling just emptiness and worry?
If you can relate to this girl, you are among the majority of high school students who live with high levels of self doubt. As teenagers
we live in a world where it always seems like the older we get, the more barriers form in between what we “should” do and what we want
to do. As if life is a constant battle with ourselves, with our desires. The subconscious awareness that it is better to oppress every impulse that
does not fall under what we “should” do comes from multiple sources that in a way counterbalance each other. We get the message from
very early on that education is our primary concern over recreational activities much like eating too much candy just breaks too many moral
laws to wrap our heads around. But one of the most confusing parts of the growing-up journey is an element of life with which everyone
continues to grapple for the rest of their lives: discovering how much we should or should not let other people dictate our decisions,
thoughts, and emotions.
Humans have the great privilege of being able to feel a vast spectrum of emotions, from the darkest depths of depression and anger to
some extreme level of hysteric elation, and all those beautifully awkward ones in between. By high school the spectrum is much more
complex than when we were really little. At this point in life we reach a dilemma because we are expected to know how to socialize
and have friends while at the same time we focus all our energies toward our own academic success. We are pushed into a race with
no ﬁnish line, a never-ending vortex of peer pressure, standards, and studying. So where do we draw the line between how much other
people inﬂuence our feelings and how much we have to resist the outside world and focus on what we are told we are supposed to do?
I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with fully embracing every positive vibe you get from other people. Rather than
feeling that you need to suppress the happiness you feel when you are around certain people, let it guide you, and let those people be
the ones you spend your time with. The more you let yourself out of feeling like you need to ﬁght off certain people because they are a
distraction to your schoolwork or for whatever other reason, the more honest you can be with yourself. Because people who make you
happy are the best type of distraction there is. Crashing at your friend’s house at 1 a.m. because you have no place to go might just
help you realize and let go of what is paining you.
The friends that are worth sticking with are the ones who will hug you on the couch while you’re crying and inarticulately
attempting to explain why you’re upset through all the slobber and tears on your face. They’re the people who give you compliments
that you don’t realize how much you deserve. But they understand how important it is for you to know what they see in you so they say
them anyway. The people who truly make you happy are always a necessity to keep in your life and are never, ever a waste of your
time. They will help you to bring out the best in yourself and elevate your attitude not only about yourself, but your faith in other people.
Build on those relationships because they help to deﬁne who you are as a person. Your spirit comes out through those who comfort you.
So don’t worry about how people will perceive you, just take as much advantage as possible of the time you can spend with
people who make you happy. Whether it’s your favorite teacher, your friends, your family, or someone you’re dating. You should never
hold yourself back just because you’re afraid of judgment. The only people who will matter at the end of the day are the ones who help
alleviate the emptiness. Channel out the negative and allow the positive to feed your heart and soul. You are a beautiful human being
with the potential to accomplish anything. The more happiness you get from others, the fuller your heart will be and the more radiantly
you will shine. They might even help to you realize that you have every right to dream, to achieve something unique without anyone
else’s pressure holding you back.
By: Samantha Alvarez
At the event pictured to the left there
were 72 people. That number is
unprecedented. Why in the world were
there so many people?
Well, because love. For one, we love El
Al, and of course the boys love SiWi.
Furthermore though, the truth is we
adore our brother chapter and they
(obviously) love us too. So even though
they can be a bit annoying and
incredibly loud and impossibly crazy
there is no possible way to deny our
love for them.
I mean just look at this picture.