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  • 1. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 2. Do you have the ultimate relationship? Do you have your dream job? Do you go to bed at night and tell yourself, “Great Job”? Are you where you want to be in life? If not, what’s standing in your way? Do you beat yourself up because of fear and hesitancy, leaving yourself even weaker for the next round? Do you hate yourself every time you see or hear that someone else getting what they wanted out of life and thought, “Everything is so easy for them; it’s no wonder they have so much confidence!” You are not alone. Everyday people are struggling to have a good relationship, job or just to feel good every now and then. It’s a confidence game that sometimes feels impossible to win. The good news is you can get some base hits, a few home runs and inch-by-inch you CAN crack the confidence code! What if I told you the only thing standing between you and what you want in life is YOU –– your belief systems, your inner voice, your ability to define what you really want and take action? What if I said the hardest part is taking that first step and making the decision to do something about your struggle with confidence? Confidence might not be a magic bullet that tears through all life’s difficulty, but it’s the definitely the right place to start. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 3. Even the most confident people fail as often as they succeed, if not more. Tony Robbins is the first to tell you that at one point in his life he lost everything. Donald Trump publicly went bankrupt, not to mention countless others. Some are famous, and some are probably in your backyard. It’s a tough economy and the most important thing you can do to creating “emotional fitness” to survive all the curveballs life is throwing at you is to focus on your building your confidence. It’s not just about setting a goal; it’s about understanding the bar you set for your life. Can you leap over it? Or do you step over it? Or worse, are you a professional limbo dancer? All kidding aside, it truly is about knowing with absolute certainty how high you want to set that bar. Think about Donald Trump. When Donald was rebuilding his empire, did he set his goal to be a millionaire? No. He set his sights to be on top and be a billionaire again. Something most people never even dream about, and that’s ok—making ends meet for some of us is a great bar too! Is Donald more confident than other people? Possibly. He certainly needed confidence in himself to make it happen the first time around, not to mention the second. The truth is, he probably was shaken and did lose some confidence in himself. But because he had done it before, he believed he could do it again. He didn’t lower his bar when the chips were done. He knew what to do, learned from his mistakes and took action. Most truly confident people realize failure is an opportunity to learn and get better. They don’t use failure as a reason to deem themselves incapable or subpar. It really is the simple things that make the difference. Fight for every inch, stay focused and you can do anything you want. But it starts with YOU. By making small changes, breaking up your routine, and tapping into the passion that’s been stagnant, you can finally create the life you deserve. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 4. Just by reading this list, absorbing the tips and tricks best suited to you, and even potentially reading a couple of the recommended books* in this guide, you have taken action to start living a better, more confident life…TODAY. *From the editor of Pick The Brain: In this guide, you will notice weʼve added links to our favorite books that have made a difference in our lives. It is a powerful suggested reading list that supplements the tips. So if you need more information on a particular tip, you can either choose to click on the title, which will take you directly to amazon.com right then and there. Or, you can wait and check out the resource list at the end. As you probably noticed, we recently redesigned our site for better readability and in doing so got rid of many of the ads that cluttered the site. Since we have staff to pay and servers to maintain, we hope you donʼt mind that our links do include a special code from Amazon so that we can be receive a small percentage of any sales. (Of course you do not pay any more because of this, but if youʼd prefer to click on a “non-affiliate” link, we did include those as well on the resource list---itʼs your choice and we tried to make it easy for you.) Most importantly, please know we always appreciate your support and want to do our best to add value to you and your life. We love these books and feel great about sharing this list, but please donʼt buy a book you donʼt need, wonʼt read or share with a friend or loved one! We look forward to hearing your success stories from the tips and any comments if you do decide to check out a book. (Itʼs like our own private book club—sort of!) PickTheBrain.Com
  • 5. 1. FOCUS ON YOU. Understand most people's actions have nothing to do with you. It's easy enough to interpret the actions of other people that hurt you and waste precious time and effort agonizing on what you did wrong and how you could have done something different. Instead focus on the positive things you bring to the table, and understand that you simply canʼt make unhappy people, happy. Try reading .The Courage to Be Free: Discover Your Original Fearless Self. 2. KEEP YOUR ENGINE OPTIMIZED. Eat the best diet possible. Focus on whole, fresh foods, and avoid anything heavily processed. Always consume saturated fats and sodium in moderation. It's amazing the difference you'll experience, inside and out, when you're giving your body the fuel it needs to properly function. A terrific book to help you keep your body running at its best is, The Full Plate Diet. 3. CONNECT POSITIVE EMOTIONS TO YOUR BODY. Make a personal soundtrack that gets you pumped and moving. Play it whenever you need a quick pick-me-up or boost in confidence. If possible, take time to sing and dance along with your tunes. 4. GROUND YOURSELF THROUGH TOUCH. Don't neglect your sense of touch. Humans are more tactile than you realize, and engaging your sense of touch can spark creativity and satisfy your need for a rich sensory diet. You don't have to go out of your way to do this; simply take the time to enjoy activities such as scooping a handful of smooth pebbles, then letting them run through your fingers or dipping your feet into a cool stream. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 6. 5. FOCUS ON PURPOSEFUL PASSION. Discover your passion. What is it you love doing most? Once you discover your true passion, you can take meaningful steps to live a life with the time and energy necessary to make your passion a primary focal point in your life. If you love to write, but have no idea for a book, start a blog or take a writing class. If you love to sing, but are too old for American Idol, get a karaoke machine. A great read to help you fuel your inner fire is, Create A Life That Tickles Your Soul. 6. BUY CLOTHES THAT FIT. If you're transitioning between weights, perhaps you'll only want a few new outfits. But well-fitting, body-flattering clothes can provide an enormous boost in your natural self-esteem. Don't wait for some magic ideal weight to wear clothes that help you look your best. Though clothes don't make the person, it's hard to feel confident when your outsides are sending the wrong signal. Create your personal style that makes you feel good! A really fun read that is supported by great review is Freakin' Fabulous: How to Dress, Speak, Behave, Eat, Drink, Entertain, Decorate, and Generally Be Better than Everyone Else. 7. STREAMLINE YOUR ENVIRONMENT. Create a clean living environment for yourself. We all have individual tastes our homes should reflect. But a cluttered, messy environment saps energy. Take the time to rid your space of items serving no purpose and set an effective organization system in place. You'll feel more relaxed and better able to use your home as a place to unwind and recharge. A quick read that is extremely helpful with simple tricks and tips is 101 Ways to Clean Out the Clutter. 8. GET RID OF YOUR TO DO LIST. Do a brain dump of all the tasks hanging over your head, and then take care of them, one by one and once and for all. This doesn't mean youʼll instantly have a neat black line through every one. Taking care might mean you decide there are a few things that simply arenʼt worth doing. You'll feel a tremendous sense of relief once you have either finished these tasks or given yourself permission to finally let them go. The very best book on the planet for this is Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 7. 9. MOVE YOUR BODY. Find an exercise you enjoy and incorporate it into your daily or weekly routine. Take the stairs, go on a short walk at lunch with a co-worker or by yourself. Physical fitness is crucial for your health, and movement is an essential need for mental well being, too. You will feel much happier and more confident once your body is fit and active, and no longer sluggish. 10. PARTICIPATE IN A COMMUNITY. This can be online or offline. Get to know your neighbors. You don't have to be best friends, but take time to smile and say a few words to the people living near you. Compliment their flowerbeds or ask about their pets or kids. Feeling connected to your community and those around you fosters a greater sense of belonging to something larger than yourself. If you are shy, or even hate your neighbors, going online and connecting with family, old friends or making new ones who love what you love will empower you. Having trouble getting a conversation? Try the inspiring read, The Fine Art of Small Talk: How To Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills -- and Leave a Positive Impression! 11. LAUGH AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN. When you laugh, your brain releases endorphins that fill you with happiness and confidence, allowing your body to release some of the tension built up during the day. Make sure you include in your daily routine the people, publications and assorted media that are sure to make you laugh. Find a YouTube channel that delights you, or a snarky blogger that makes you giggle…just make it a part of your daily routine to laugh. Even if you arenʼt a practical joker, this book is worth the read just to laugh Cubicle Warfare: 101 Office Traps and Pranks. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 8. 12. BECOME A CARE GIVER. If you arenʼt married, or donʼt have kids or a parent to take care of, consider getting a pet. Caring for a pet and experiencing the unconditional love pets give back is a rewarding, enriching experience that builds trust and confidence. Pets also encourage their owners to remember their playful side and motivate them to get your bodyʼs much needed exercise. And they even keep you healthy, a well written book on the subject is a book called The Healing Power of Pets: Harnessing the Amazing Ability of Pets to Make and Keep People Happy and Healthy. 13. CHANGE YOUR STATE NATURALLY. Limit your alcohol intake. Light drinking is fine, but excessive drinking can have a detrimental effect on your health and leave you chronically short of energy. Worse, you may feel as though you can't come out of your shell without it. Affirmations are a great way to start learning how to pump up your life. Get started today with this book Affirmations--Your Passport to Happiness. 14. START SAYING NO. That moment when you first understand you don't have to say yes to every request is extremely powerful. Feeling as though you're at the beck and call of anyone who asks you for a favor is a confidence killer because you will be constantly afraid of what will happen if you say no. Once you realize things can and will go on without your involvement, you can build confidence based on doing those things that matter to you most. Make it a game and reward yourself when you set a clear boundary. If you struggle with this in your life, this book is a must read to get you back on track! When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. 15. START YOUR URGENCY JUNKIES DETOX PROGRAM. Learn to work uninterrupted. The difference in your results will amaze you when you choose to focus on doing one thing rather than constantly letting a myriad of phone calls, emails and other assorted interruptions blast your time to pieces. Remember, if the problem isnʼt yours, you shouldnʼt add it to your list. And this doesn't only apply to work. You should set aside small time blocks dedicated for relaxation and recreational activities, too. If you are an idea person but canʼt find the time or willpower to take action, read this Seth Godin favorite: Making Ideas Happen: Overcoming the Obstacles Between Vision and Reality. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 9. 16. TREAT YOUR INNER CIRCLE LIKE AN IMPORTANT CLIENT. Make time for family and friends. It's easy to assume youʼll catch up with them later, but life is too short and precious to make those who love you wait. You're also cheating yourself out of good feelings, a sense of security and a sense of deep belonging when you neglect the most important people in your life. Try reading this book to get closer to the people you love. The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care For. 17. DUMP YOUR ARTIFICIAL LOVER. Assess your relationship with food. Although it's true some foods have greater nutritional value than others, it's never helpful framing your food choices as naughty or bad. Choose a more matter-of- fact mindset about your eating and donʼt allow it to become a destroyer of your self-esteem. Eat to fuel your body, not to make you feel better. This book really gives some great ideas on how to feel better without food, 50 Ways to Soothe Yourself Without Food. 18. START BREATHING. Proper breathing is one of the core elements to feeling calm and centered. Short, shallow breaths leave you feeling constantly anxious and on edge. If you learn to control your breathing, you will have a tool to keep your cool in even the most stressful situations. The next time you are stressed or upset, take 10 deep breaths and put your hands over your head. Then take action. You might surprise yourself. A phenomenal book to read that lays this philosophy out clearly is Three Deep Breaths: Finding Power and Purpose in a Stressed-Out World. 19. Relax. Embrace quiet. Don't be eager to fill every waking moment with activity and noise. Realize you can be comfortable when alone with your thoughts and youʼll be surprised how much you enjoy the silence. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 10. 20. DO SOMETHING NICE FOR NO REASON. It might be a cliché, but practice random acts of kindness every single day. Itʼs the gift that keeps on giving! You'll not only spread joy to others, but in doing so you'll also reinforce the internal thought that you are a good and worthy person. Smile, hold a door open, get someone a glass of water. Surprise others with your generosity and see what happens. Try reading this book to get motivated Why Good Things Happen to Good People: How to Live a Longer, Healthier, Happier Life by the Simple Act of Giving. 21. CREATE A KIND WORDS FILE. All those kind words and thank you emails might junk up your inbox, but start filing them in a “kind words” folder. This sounds corny but when you get a compliment, put it in a file. When you find yourself wondering if you are good enough, or if you ever do anything right, you can read it and remember all the great things you have done and the difference you've made in the lives of others. (Even an annoying chain email from a friend is a sign they were thinking of you.) 22. EXERCISE YOUR MIND. Practice guided meditation. Meditation is an awesome way to relax your mind and body. Being able to effectively deal with stress will give you the faith to try new things, and the ability to deal with whatever life throws your way. Most importantly, learning to quiet the mind actually means you can control your own thoughts and gives you control over negative. A simple 8 minute exercise can change everything according to Victor N. Davich in his book 8 Minute Meditation: Quiet Your Mind. Change Your Life. 23. BE DEMANDING. Realize you can ask for things. You'll be surprised how many people would love to help you if only they knew what you needed. Unfortunately, most of us believe our loved ones should be mind readers or anticipate our needs. But the truth is you donʼt always know what you want or need. Getting clear and asking for help can be a real confidence booster as shown in the book Help Is Not a Four Letter Word: When Doing It All is Doing You In. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 11. 24. MAKE YOUR MONEY WORK FOR YOU. Money is a tool. It's neither a measure of your worth or something inherently evil to be avoided. Money will never equal automatic happiness or erase your stress. Your dealings with money should never driven by fear. Youʼre in charge of your happiness. If you want to know how your emotions play into money, try reading The Smartest Way to Save: Why You Can't Hang on to Money and What to Do About It. 25. STOP ROLE PLAYING. How many roles do you play each day? Mother, Father. Sister, Brother, Boss, Employee, Daughter, Son…itʼs endless and can become mindless if you donʼt understand your core values. Are you passionate? Funny? Loving? Creative? Define those values and hold them tight. Then ask yourself—“how can I be a more passionate mother?” or “how can I be more creative as a sister?” A clear picture of what you value most in life makes it easier to devise a plan allowing you to live by those values and embrace the roles you have been “playing.” When we forget to honor our values, we begin to feel unmotivated, lost and frustrated. (Look for Pick The Brainʼs workbook coming soon!) 26. FEED YOUR BRAIN. Read or listen to books on a regular basis. Reading helps us understand the thoughts and views of others and provides us the skill we need to better understand the world around us. Your brain is a muscle that needs to be used, tested and engaged, just like your mind and heart. Even a casual game can do wonders for improving clarity, retention and overall learning capacity. Try reading this book explaining to you the principles on how the brain works and how we can use them to our benefit at home and work (it even explains why multi-tasking is a no- no) Brain Rules: 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home, and School. 27. START MAKING MIND MAPS. Seeing your ideas in an easy to understand visual will spark your inner creativity and allow you to see how many great ideas you can produce. 90% of the world is made up of visual learners and thinkers. Youʼd be shocked by how much better this method is for planning than a linear list of to-dos. (We will be releasing a Pick The Brain mind mapping process for building your lifeʼs blueprint—coming soon!) PickTheBrain.Com
  • 12. 28. BUILD CONFIDENCE IN OTHERS. Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” When we allow ourselves to see the good in others, we're more open to seeing the best in ourselves. The Law of Attraction is focused on positive vibrations, and many people believe the universe gives to those that give from the heart. But you must be congruent. Body language is everything—what is your body telling others? If you want to learn more about this fascinating subject read The Definitive Book of Body Language. 29. FOCUS ON ISSUES, NOT PEOPLE. Don't be quick to criticize others. Be gentle with the people in your life, and always do your best to understand their general perspective and unique set of challenges. Your kindness to others will inevitably rub off on yourself. By focusing on issues, you will be focused on how you can contribute better to the situation and focus on solutions to your problems. 30. END THE BLAME GAME. If your sentence starts with or has the word “you” in the first 3 words, youʼre guilty of the blame game. Take responsibility for your actions. It might surprise you, but the more you accept responsibility, the better your confidence will be. When you acknowledge your role, you are accepting responsibility for your actions, rather than being at the mercy of circumstance. Resolving problems with “I feel” rather than “you did” or “you make me feel” will be an instant confidence boost and helps you let go of the anger you might be holding onto. Read The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life to be a happier person and a better communicator. 31. PARENT YOURSELF. Get regular health, wellness and dental checkups. Make a commitment to take charge of your health, be determined to make it happen, and send a powerful message to both your mind and body that you matter. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 13. 32. BECOME A CFO. Learn to make a budget. Treat your personal expenses just like you would at work. Tie entertainment expenditures to a job well done in the health column. Claiming control of your finances is one of the first steps to having a healthy attitude when dealing with money. For practical ways to build your budget try reading The Budget Kit: The Common Cents Money Management Workbook. 33. STOP GOSSIPING. Indulging in rumors might make you feel good for the moment, but eventually you'll start worrying what others are saying about you, and rightly so. Always take the high road and you will never have to worry if you are part of the problem. Encourage others to address the problems head on and never be a harbor for negativity. 34. WORSHIP THE SUN. Get plenty of sunlight. Darkness and artificial light can adversely affect your moods, and send those who are most susceptible down a long and winding road of depression. Even if your job keeps you working indoors, open the curtains wide and bathe yourself in natural light. Your brain and body will both appreciate it. Use SPF and apply frequently, but realize the sun is your friend when you are prepared. Vitamin D is essential. To understand its power to transform you read Vitamin D Prescription: The Healing Power of the Sun & How It Can Save Your Life. 35. PLAY GAMES. Play board games with friends and family. Not only is playing games a great way to have fun and connect, they keep the circuits in your brain active and healthy. Besides, winning is a fun and easy way to build confidence or even a skill set. Two fun games you might not have played are Bannangrams and Qwirkie. (Check them out and let us know what you think!) PickTheBrain.Com
  • 14. 36.CREATE ONE NEW HABIT EACH MONTH. Break a bad habit such as drinking, smoking or texting while driving. Changing your bad behavior will not only leave you healthier or safer, but also prove you have the power to alter your habits when given the proper tools. It takes 30 days to break a habit and the biggest roadblock is when you try to quit multiple things at once. Laser focus on doing 1 thing better per month betters your chances of making it stick. A classic read is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. 37. BE GRATEFUL. Tony Robbins says in gratitude there can be no fear. Try it. Itʼs true. Practice gratitude daily. Take note of the many wonderful things you have in your life and appreciate them for what they are. Being humble is paradoxically one of the best ways to act with confidence, as your actions donʼt tie to fear of losing an artificially high self-image. Try writing down one thing you are grateful for each night before you go to bed, it can be magical. If you want to know how to get back to the basics of being grateful, try reading The Lost Art of Gratitude (Isabel Dalhousie). 38. SPEAK SOFTLY. Learn the power of a whisper. People tune out when you are shrill, shouting or shrieking. On the other hand, whispering, or just lowering your voice, invites them to hear fully what you are trying to say. The loudest voice isn't necessarily the one people hear. Try this for fun with your family. Get their attention, speak quietly, almost make them strain to hear you and see how the level of engagement goes up. 39. GO BACK TO KINDERGARTEN. Don't leave arts and crafts back in elementary school. We might not all be skilled and talented artisans, but we can all experience the sense of accomplishment that comes alongside being creative with our hands. Painting, pottery, knitting...all of these types of handcrafts are tremendous for the mind and spirit. Get in touch with your creativity and read The Creative Edge: Exercises to Celebrate Your Creative Self. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 15. 40. RSS FEED YOUR FAVORITE BLOGS. Even if you are an introvert, find a community where you feel like you naturally belong. Everyone has a basic need to feel connected, even if your social needs are different. Even if all you do is enjoy the content and watch others engage, it still will empower you. Knowing you have a community to fall back on gives you the freedom to take the risks that give flavor to your life. 41. TAKE BABY STEPS. Sure, we all have the crazy thing on our vision board, but you must tie achievable mini goals to your dreams if you expect them to come true. Even if you want a jet, finding a way to make or save an extra $100.00 per month and knowing youʼre closer to your goal can be invigorating. The mind needs to believe you can do it to help you get it done. Your goal can be anything from running your first 5K to cleaning out your garage. The trick is finding something you really want to do and making an internal promise to follow through with your goal no matter what. A great read on minor changes making a major difference is One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way. 42. TREAT OTHERS HOW YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. Treat your family, service people and any people who have less power than you with respect and kindness. Yes, you will be doing the right thing, but you'll also discover that those people will be genuinely happy and eager to help you however they can. What we give is what we get, always. Understanding the difference between men and women in interpersonal relationships is also extremely powerful. This book, Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs explains it well. 43. WRITE WEEKLY LOVE LETTERS. Take time to write one person (even yourself) a letter each week. Let them know you're thinking of them. Perhaps you could tell them a story you think they'll find amusing. Keep your connections strong and your confidence will grow stronger. If you have no one to write to but yourself, create an imaginary friend or lover and write to them, you might be surprised at what could manifest. If you find it hard to get your heart on paper, you might really enjoy The Art of the Handwritten Note: A Guide to Reclaiming Civilized Communication. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 16. 44. PLAY HOOKY. Occasionally indulge in a bit of hooky. There is absolutely no reason why you have to live in fear of taking a day off and losing your position, prestige or whatever is most important to you. Take the rare day and revel in knowing you will continue being wanted and needed, and for that one day you are giving yourself a well-deserved break. If you have kids, drop them off at your parents or a babysitterʼs house and sneak back home and do nothing. Guilty pleasures add variety to our life. 45. MAKE RULES FOR YOU. Create routines that give structure to your day. Consistency and structure isnʼt just important for children to thrive. Although spontaneity is something to embrace, having a set routine gives you the foundation needed to create days that are less hectic, more productive, and happier overall. Want to do it quickly? This book will tell you exactly how! The Creative Edge: Exercises to Celebrate Your Creative Self. 46. HELP OTHERS. Be generous with your help. When you give others the tools they need to succeed you are never hurting yourself. If you have been holding onto the fear that more for others means less for you and you will experience abundance for all. 47. NO MORE DATE NIGHTS. If you have a romantic partner or spouse, connect with them as often as possible, not just on date night. Smiles, touches and compliments are all little ways to show them how much you love and appreciate who they are and what they do for you. A happy, healthy relationship is truly a blessing. A real eye opener to the world of happy marriages is The Exceptional Seven Percent: The Nine Secrets of the Worlds Happiest Couples. 48. BE YOUR OWN BRAND. Don't buy into status symbols. Despite what commercials tell you, you can never buy self- esteem. It is always best to avoid the endless pursuit of acquiring more and more material goods in an effort to shore up your feelings of worth. Buy things because they are useful or beautiful to you, not for how someone else may see them. (More on personal branding to let the world know who you are once and for all from Pick The Brain—stay tuned! PickTheBrain.Com
  • 17. 49. THANK YOUR BODY & YOUR BRAIN. Make peace with your body. Of course, you will still want to make improvements to stay healthy and active for years to come. But first you must first understand no matter what size or shape, or how wrinkly or short or tall you might be, you are a person deserving of love and dignified treatment from yourself and others. When youʼre run down, tell your body itʼs ok to rest. Act like you are healing and you will heal. Try doing brain exercises (theyʼre fun!). Indulge in a buffet of brainteasers to build your attention, enhance your memory, and sharpen your concentration. A highly recommended resource is Broccoli For The Brain where you will find 74 mind- bending puzzles scientifically proven to develop the skills of concentration, attention, and focus. 50. GET JIGGY WITH IT. Do things differently on occasion –– just because you can! Whether taking a different route to work or trying a different restaurant for brunch, mixing things up is an excellent way to widen your comfort zone. Crack an unexpected joke at work—see what happens. 51. CELEBRATE YOU. Understand there are ways to self-promote that arenʼt sleazy, cheesy or in any way vain. If you're genuinely proud of who you are and what you can do for yourself and others, it's up to you to make sure the word gets out. You must love yourself first and this book is a fantastic read In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want. 52. FORGIVE YOUR ENEMIES. Forgiveness is freedom. Don't carry around the leaden weight of old grudges and blame, especially when directed at your self. In fact, if you start to see the people who hurt you as your greatest teachers and thank them, you will free yourself. Make your peace, move on and live a more confident, happier life. Try reading Free Yourself to Love: The Liberating Power of Forgiveness (Faith Words). PickTheBrain.Com
  • 18. 53. BE WRONG. Always choose your relationships over an idea. You don't always have to be right. Knowing when to prove your point and when to let go helps eliminate unnecessary strife, both in your life and in the lives of those closest to you. Not sure how to implement this? A good book to check out is Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing. 54. CHANGE YOUR LANGUAGE. Are your thoughts toxic? Watch your language. Is it peppered with "burden" words like should, need or must? Switch your verbiage to words such as "want to" and you'll be surprised how much easier tackling your to-dos can be. Most importantly, get rid of “donʼt doʼs” and add “will doʼs.” For example, change “I will not get upset” to “I will feel joy and be aware.” How you speak with your partner and your expectations in a relationship will make or break the union. Check out this great read Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship. 55. TURN OFF YOUR PHONE. Keep your phone in your pocket. Compulsively checking email and text messages only confirms your time belongs to others. 56. EAT. Make sure keeping yourself fed is a priority, rather than an afterthought. Eat regular meals. It is impossible to function at your optimum level if you don't give your body the nourishment needed. 57. KILL YOUR CRITICAL VOICE. Take a close look at how you treat and talk to yourself. Imagine if somebody tried to treat your child, spouse or parent in the same way? Imagine you talking to your daughter the way you talk to yourself. Would it be motivating? Start comforting yourself when you make a mistake. As long as you treat yourself with unkindness, your confidence and self-image will always rest on shaky ground. Start using internal conversations as your way to get back on track; try reading What to Say When you Talk To Yourself. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 19. 58. FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. Sounds corny, sure, but imagine what a self confident person would do and do exactly that. No self-image police are at the door checking your license to be confident. Many times the only person in your way is you. Find someone you admire and be that person for a day, a week and month. Whatever it takes. Try reading Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior. 59. BE COMFORTABLE. Wear comfortable shoes whenever possible. Distraction stemming from tired, achy feet is never a good way to project power or poise. Do you ever notice how happy you feel when you are comfortable? Many people struggle to actually stay happy. Being comfortable is a great place to start. 60. ASK QUESTIONS. Accept your limitations. You know all those things you think everyone else just knows? They donʼt. If you don't know something, there is never shame in asking for the answer. Being unafraid to admit you don't know is the first step to finding the answer. Most importantly, the best way to build your confidence is simply to ask yourself better questions. This books breaks it down into 4 basic questions Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life. 61. KNOW YOUR VALUE. Be clear on what you bring to any table. Being self-assured means you look within yourself to find the reassurance necessary in knowing you are truly worthwhile. Yes, it is always great to get compliments and love from others, yet you must also realize that when your confidence is based entirely on feedback, youʼll flounder when in the company of those who are indifferent or hostile to you. Find strength in others, but don't hang all your self- esteem on that particular hook. This book simplifies the concept and helps you get started: Rock What You've Got: Secrets to Loving Your Inner and Outer Beauty from Someone Who's Been There and Back. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 20. 62. MAKE FUN OF YOU. Laugh at yourself and delight in your own humanity. See yourself as an actor in a movie. Watch yourself. Find the beauty in the personal drama of your occasional missteps or the irony in your anger or sadness. By changing your mind, you can change your mood—and your mood is tied directly to how you feel about yourself. Try reading this great book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated. 63. BE A VIP. A VIP is a Volunteer Interested in People. Volunteer your time and talents to those in need. Not only will you be helping people in your life who need a hand, you'll see just how much you have to offer others. Get in the mood by reading this book on people who are changing the world How to Change the World: Social Entrepreneurs and the Power of New Ideas, Updated Edition. 64. SPEND PURPOSEFULLY. Control your spending. If you find yourself spending money you don't have, figure out what causes you to act in opposition to your financial wellbeing. While money can't buy happiness, feeling as though you have no control over your finances is detrimental to your self worth. Invest in your life, as you would a business. Keep your spending in line with your life purpose. Try reading I Will Teach You To Be Rich (itʼs great!). 65. FIND A MENTOR OR COACH. Never be afraid to get assistance to live the life you deserve. There is no shame in consulting with a coach or therapist to leap the hurdles standing in the way of healthy self-confidence. This applies to reading self-help books and blogs, as well. Others can offer us a fresh perspective when dealing with old problems. 66. BE A KID AGAIN. Never be ashamed to show joy or enthusiasm. Playing it cool is a good way to teach yourself to ignore honest emotions, while hammering the thought that thereʼs something shameful about your true self. Celebrate everything you can publicly. When you reach a goal, take time to rejoice before moving on. This book might look like itʼs just for kids but I assure you itʼs not! Have You Filled a Bucket Today: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 21. 67. LOVE THE CAMERA. If you see a camera aimed your way and want to duck, ask yourself why? There are very few super models out there, and even those get photo-shopped. There's nothing wrong with being un-photogenic, but the more you avoid images of yourself the bigger a problem this becomes. It's just a picture; allow people in your life the pleasure of having physical memories of you. See each photo opportunity as another example that you are important to someone. If you really want to look better in photos, try cheating and reading this book: Doug Box's Guide to Posing for Portrait Photographers (Your photo album wonʼt know what hit it!). 68. SHOOT FOR THE MOON. Embrace dreaming BIG! These are your dreams, so why not SUPER SIZE them? You might not be able to fully realize every single one, but by forcing yourself to dream of small, practical things you are strangling your spirit. The only limit to your success is your belief system. An oldie but goodie for book reading is The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams.. 69. START A GANG. Even the bad news bears had each other! Gather friends on all sides. When networking, don't just focus on the A-listers. Networking doesn't mean circling around the stars, it means making lasting and valuable connections. In addition to looking for help, look for people YOU can help and bring them into your inner circle. Look for people who enrich your life with their generosity, humor and kindness. Be a connector and confidence will feel natural. A classic read (and a must if you havenʼt already) is How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie. 70. LOSE YOURSELF. Who would have thought Eminem could be so prolific? Live in the moment and enjoy each day for what it is. You only get one shot at this life. If you are filled with guilt, you are looking backwards. Be present in the moment and take action TODAY. If you want more help with being present a great book to read is Fully Present: The Science, Art, and Practice of Mindfulness. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 22. 71. GIVE YOURSELF TIME OUTS. When things are spiraling out of control, the best step is often taking a step back. You can't see a clear path when you're in the midst of chaos. A decision made from anger or fear will not serve your higher purpose. After you have cleared your mind, try a new activity! Some great suggestions can be found in an excellent read, 104 Activities That Build: Self-Esteem, Teamwork, Communication, Anger Management, Self-Discovery, Coping Skills. 72. RESPECT OTHERS. Be respectful of other people's time and energy. If you're asking for help or advice, come prepared to do your part. Most people enjoy helping others, especially if they feel genuinely appreciated for their help. A simple thank you, and heart felt your welcome could boost everyoneʼs confidence. 73. BE PREPARED. Knowing you are prepared is the best way to fend off feelings of incompetence. Don't indulge in wishful thinking when you can instead take practical steps to ensure youʼll do the best you are capable of doing. Every meeting should have a goal with an agenda. Be focused on outcomes and donʼt take your eyes off the ball. Jack Canfield is an expert on how to do this and shares it in his book, The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. 74. BE AFRAID. Fear is not a sign of weakness. Itʼs a sign you are entering unknown territory and near growth. Acknowledge your fear and understand it's there for a reason. Then push past it to experience the inner growth that will boost your natural confidence. Fear can save your life and fear can be your leverage. Acknowledge it, but be aware of exit strategies to the situation as they come. Do they serve you? Or are you just wasting energy trying to escape something that you canʼt avoid. Overcoming any fear starts with awareness. A wonderful book on this subject is Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 23. 75. NO IFS, ANDS OR BUTS, LISTEN TO YOU GUT. If your instinct tells you something is a bad idea, always listen. Intuition is an extremely powerful force and your unconscious mind can pick up on clues well before your logical brain. It can take time separating reflexive fear of the unknown from intuitive warnings, but as you learn to trust yourself and listen to your body, you'll be able to tell the difference and act accordingly. If you would like to try and strengthen your intuition please read The Intuitive Way: The Definitive Guide to Increasing Your Awareness. 76. BUILD THINGS. Play with Legos, blocks, Tinker Toys, anything fun that uses your hands! Fiddling with traditional toys is a terrific way to unlock the open, easy relationship you once had with your creative self. Finding your creative space will give you more confidence to tackle your projects. Open your creative channels with, Six Thinking Hats. 77. BE A GOOD LISTENER. Ask people to share their stories whenever possible. You can learn so much from the experiences of others. By choosing to connect with your fellow human beings you can move your brain into a higher gear in an extremely powerful way. The more you can relate to other people and understand how much we all have in common, the more confident you'll naturally become. If you want to improve your relationships through listening, try reading the book Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone. 78. KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE BALL. Put systems in place for keeping schedules and managing lifeʼs to-dos. The exact system isnʼt important, only that you have a defined way to deal with things. Thereʼs never a need to panic. Even if your schedule requires outside assistance, you'll be relieved once you have a set way to handle your schedule and tasks. Relief leads to success. No matter how big or small, it will be light the path to building your confidence. Trying to tackle too many things at once will add stress. To leverage power of focus that will empower your life, read The Power of Focus: What the Worlds Greatest Achievers Know about The Secret of Financial Freedom and Success. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 24. 79. DEFINE YOU. Your weaknesses only define you when you let them. People are not chain link fences. You might lack strength in one area, but so what? That doesnʼt mean your inner YOU will evaporate. Working on your areas of weakness is great. Self-improvement is always a good thing. Just remember you have strengths and weaknesses just like everyone else. The trick is to know they donʼt need to define you. Still not sure who you are? To find out, read The 10Ks of Personal Branding: Create a Better You. 80. SET PERSONAL BENCHMARKS. Comparing yourself to others is a sure path to misery. Even if you stack up well now, what happens if you fall from grace? Your self-esteem and confidence must originate from the awareness that you are a good and worthy person who can tackle everything life throws your way. It should never be how well you compare with others. Doing better than you did last time can be a great feeling! 81. REMEMBER WHAT YOUR MAMA SAID. If you don't have anything nice to say, figure out why. Constant negativity puts you in a position where you are unable to see opportunity and tend to view every potential ally as unworthy. Therefore, you generally push away everyone and everything that could help you. Learn to embrace the positive and you will boost your ability to tap into the confidence inside. Read more about turning the negative into positive with The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them. 82. GET RID OF BACK UP PLANS. Beware the doom and gloom mindset. Always focusing on a “worst case scenario” will dim your ability to be confident. Focus on the plan for your ultimate success and avoid back up plans because they divert your energy. The best outcome is always possible and you do in fact deserve it. If you are a rainy day people, take the worry off your plate, by reading an interesting book called The Complete Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook (Worst Case Scenario) (Let us know if you can think of a worst-case scenario they didnʼt cover). PickTheBrain.Com
  • 25. 83. FAIL MORE OFTEN. People, who push themselves, often fail to achieve a goal. But failure is not something to avoid; it's part of the creative or entrepreneurial process. Avoiding failure at all costs is a sure way to avoid the risks that can make you happiest. When you experience failure, you learn it's not the end of the world and can be the beginning of something better. Not sure what good could come of this? A great book on the power of failure is Celebrating Failure: The Power of Taking Risks, Making Mistakes and Thinking Big. 84. BE LUCKY. Any successful person will usually tell you that luck was a big factor to success. But the only way to be in the right place at the right time is to work hard. There's no way around it; a lot of hard work gets you what you want out of life. This doesn't mean the only thing you should do is work. Expecting things to fall into your lap and plugging away without ever enjoying anything are two extremes to always avoid. Procrastination can sometimes be the biggest barrier we face, to overcome it. If you find yourself putting off what you could do today, try reading The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play. 85. FIND YOUR TIRE KICKER. Our biggest teachers can also be our biggest critics. Learn what you can from any criticism that comes your way. The critiques you find yourself most resistant to can often teach you the most about yourself, your fears and what you truly value. Evaluate critiques carefully, choosing wisely what you should take to heart, and then choose to simply toss the rest away. A great resource is Criticism Management: How to More Effectively Give, Receive, and Seek Criticism in Our Lives. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 26. 86. BE FLEXIBLE. A rigid determination to have things the way you feel they should be is a recipe for unhappiness. Recognize that circumstances change and that all youʼve built wonʼt be destroyed if you change course accordingly. Knowing you have the strength to bend and adapt to anything will give you enormous confidence. Think of a time when you didnʼt get through a problem. Wasnʼt the biggest suffering your perception of the situation, rather than the situation itself? Change your beliefs and you change everything. Check out this book on how to become your own power tool: The Energy of Belief: Psychology's Power Tools to Focus Intention and Release Blocking Beliefs. 87. ENJOY LOVE. Live a life full of love. Love for yourself. Love for your family. Love for your friends. Love for your passions. Look at your life in terms of who and what you love and embrace the love the universe sends back. Understanding the different love languages of how you love, how you feel love and how those you love connect with you is one of the easiest things to learn. Try this breezy but excellent read, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. 88. CHANGE YOUR STATE. Itʼs easier than you think. The next time you feel yourself dipping toward a natural low, imagine something that will trigger a natural high. Remember a funny joke, or a time when you couldnʼt stop laughing. Changing your state is sometimes the simplest way to get through the day with your smile intact. 89. PAY IT FORWARD. Remember something nice that someone did for you. Then take the time to pay that kindness forward (preferably with interest). What goes around really does come around. Make sure you are treating each day as the gift it is, and spreading kindness as often as possible. 90. START A NEST EGG. Saving for your future can make you feel far more confident in your present. You donʼt need a million dollars to feel like a million bucks. Make sure you set aside a small amount for your future each and every month. Soon you will have a fund that can help you in an emergency and keep you walking taller every day. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 27. Don't think you must follow all 90 tips to succeed. Simply look at this list as a set of prompts to get you thinking about ways you can amplify your inner YOU. Don't try to implement them all at once, either. Altering too many areas of your life at once will leave you overwhelmed, frustrated and ready to quit before you even begin. Just one or two positive changes a week on a consistent basis will get you on the road to having a strong sense of inner confidence. With healthy self-esteem and a can-do attitude, you'll find things you once thought impossible are now easily within reach. Remember, having confidence means you know you can get things done, but self-esteem is the part of you that believes you actually deserve them. It can be a chicken and an egg, but our belief is that if you start building your confidence, you hold onto it by increasing your self-esteem. Once your inner YOU blooms, you will understand you had it backwards before. It is because of their high confidence that everything seems easy for others, not the other way around. PickTheBrain.Com
  • 28. As we mentioned, if you find any of the above book suggestions helpful, and would like to purchase any of the titles highly recommended by our staff, friends and family, you can choose to use the links above or in the left column on the next page in our resource area. This link means each book you buy will give a small percentage back to Pick The Brain, which we can use to continuously improve our content. Or, if you would rather not buy your book through the affiliate link, thatʼs fine too. We want to help you be the best YOU that you can be, so please feel free to choose your titles from the non-affiliate links on the right in the resource list below. Have fun growing yourself! PickTheBrain.Com
  • 29. Suggested Reading List Book Title with non-affiliate link Author PTB Custom Link* The  Courage  to  Be  Free:  Discover  Your   Original  Fearless  Self.    Guy Finley http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends001 The  Full  Plate  Diet  Stuart A. Seale http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends02 Create  A  Life  That  Tickles  Your  Soul.  Suzanne Zoglio h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends005   PickTheBrain.Com
  • 30. Freakin'  Fabulous:  How  to  Dress,  Speak,   Behave,  Eat,  Drink,  Entertain,  Decorate,   and  Generally  Be  Be?er  than  Everyone   Else  Clinton Kelly h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends006 101  Ways  to  Clean  Out  the  Clu?er.  Emilie Barnes h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends007 GeSng  Things  Done:  The  Art  of  Stress-­‐ Free  ProducUvity.  David Allen h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends008   PickTheBrain.Com
  • 31. The  Fine  Art  of  Small  Talk:  How  To  Start  a   ConversaUon,  Keep  It  Going,  Build   Networking  Skills  -­‐-­‐  and  Leave  a  PosiUve   Impression! Debra  Fine h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends010 Cubicle  Warfare:  101  Office  Traps  and   Pranks. John Austin h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends011 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 32. The  Healing  Power  of  Pets:  Harnessing   the  Amazing  Ability  of  Pets  to  Make  and   Keep  People  Happy  and  Healthy. Marty Becker h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends012   AffirmaUons-­‐-­‐Your  Passport  to  Happiness. Anne Marie Evers h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends013 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 33. When  I  Say  No,  I  Feel  Guilty. Manuel J. Smith h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends014 Making  Ideas  Happen:  Overcoming  the   Obstacles  Between  Vision  and  Reality. Scott Belsky h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends015 The  Friendship  Factor:  How  to  Get  Closer   to  the  People  You  Care  For  . Alan Loy McGinnis h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends016 50  Ways  to  Soothe  Yourself  Without   Food. Susan Albers h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends017   PickTheBrain.Com
  • 34. Three  Deep  Breaths:  Finding  Power  and   Purpose  in  a  Stressed-­‐Out  World. Thomas Crum h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends018   Why  Good  Things  Happen  to  Good   People:  How  to  Live  a  Longer,  Healthier,   Happier  Life  by  the  Simple  Act  of  Giving. Stephen Post h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends020 Victor  N.  Davich  in  his  book  8  Minute   MeditaUon:  Quiet  Your  Mind.  Change   Your  Life.   Victor Davich http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends022 Help  Is  Not  a  Four  Le?er  Word:  When   Doing  It  All  is  Doing  You  In. Peggy Collins with Deborah Saverance h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends023 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 35. The  Smartest  Way  to  Save:  Why  You  Can't   Hang  on  to  Money  and  What  to  Do  About   It. Heidi E. Clingen h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends024 Brain  Rules:  12  Principles  for  Surviving   and  Thriving  at  Work,  Home,  and  School. John Medina h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends026   The  DefiniUve  Book  of  Body  Language.   Barbara Pease h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends028 The  Anger  Trap:  Free  Yourself  from  the   FrustraUons  that  Sabotage  Your  Life Les Carter h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends030 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 36. The  Budget  Kit:  The  Common  Cents   Money  Management  Workbook. Judy Lawrence h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends032 Vitamin  D  PrescripUon:  The  Healing   Power  of  the  Sun  &  How  It  Can  Save  Your   Life. Eric Madrid h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends034 The  7  Habits  of  Highly  EffecUve  People. Stephen R. Covey h?p://amzn.to/ptbrecommends036   PickTheBrain.Com
  • 37. The  Lost  Art  of  GraUtude  (Isabel   Dalhousie). Alexander Mccall Smith http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends037 The Creative Edge: Exercises to Celebrate Your Creative Self. Mary Todd Beam http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends039  One  Small  Step  Can  Change  Your  Life:  The   Kaizen  Way. Robert Maurer  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends041 Love  &  Respect:  The  Love  She  Most   Desires;  The  Respect  He  Desperately   Needs Emerson Eggerichs  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends042 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 38. The Art of the Handwritten Note: A Guide to Reclaiming Civilized Communication. Margaret Shepherd http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends043 The  CreaUve  Edge:  Exercises  to  Celebrate   Your  CreaUve  Self. Mary Todd Beam  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends045 The  ExcepUonal  Seven  Percent:  The  Nine   Secrets  of  the  Worlds  Happiest  Couples. Gregory Msw Popcak  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends047 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 39. Broccoli For The Brain Michel Noir  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends049 In  the  MeanUme:  Finding  Yourself  and   the  Love  You  Want. Iyanla Vanzant  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends051 Free  Yourself  to  Love:  The  LiberaUng   Power  of  Forgiveness  (Faith  Words). Jackie Kendall  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends052 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 40. Everybody  Wins:  The  Chapman  Guide  to   Solving  Conflicts  without  Arguing. Gary Chapman  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends053 Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship Jeffrey Bernstein  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends054 What  to  Say  When  you  Talk  To  Yourself Shad Helmstetter  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends057 Get  Out  of  Your  Own  Way:  Overcoming   Self-­‐DefeaUng  Behavior Mark Goulston  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends058 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 41. Loving  What  Is:  Four  QuesUons  That  Can   Change  Your  Life. Byron Katie  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends060 Rock  What  You've  Got:  Secrets  to  Loving   Your  Inner  and  Outer  Beauty  from   Someone  Who's  Been  There  and  Back. Katherine Schwarzenegger  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends061 Feeling  Good:  The  New  Mood  Therapy   Revised  and  Updated. David D. Burns  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends062 How  to  Change  the  World:  Social   Entrepreneurs  and  the  Power  of  New   Ideas,  Updated  EdiUon. David Bornstein  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends063 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 42. I  Will  Teach  You  To  Be  Rich Ramit Sethi  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends064 Have You Filled a Bucket Today: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids Carol McCloud  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends066 Doug  Box's  Guide  to  Posing  for  Portrait   Photographers. Douglas Allen Box  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends067 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 43.  The  Seven  Spiritual  Laws  of  Success:  A   PracUcal  Guide  to  the  Fulfillment  of  Your   Dreams. M.D. Deepak Chopra  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends068 How  to  Win  Friends  &  Influence  People Dale Carnegie  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends069 is  Fully  Present:  The  Science,  Art,  and   PracUce  of  Mindfulness. Susan L. Smalley PhD  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends070 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 44. 104  AcUviUes  That  Build:  Self-­‐Esteem,   Teamwork,  CommunicaUon,  Anger   Management,  Self-­‐Discovery,  Coping   Skills. Alanna Jones  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends071 The  Success  Principles(TM):  How  to  Get   from  Where  You  Are  to  Where  You  Want   to  Be. Jack Canfield  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends073 PosiUve  Energy:  10  Extraordinary   PrescripUons  for  Transforming  FaUgue,   Stress,  and  Fear  into  Vibrance,  Strength,   and  Love. Judith Orloff  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends074 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 45. The  IntuiUve  Way:  The  DefiniUve  Guide  to   Increasing  Your  Awareness. Penney Peirce  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends075 Six  Thinking  Hats. Edward de Bono  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends076 Just  Listen:  Discover  the  Secret  to  GeSng   Through  to  Absolutely  Anyone. Mark Goulston M.D  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends077 The  Power  of  Focus:  What  the  Worlds   Greatest  Achievers  Know  about  The   Secret  of  Financial  Freedom  and  Success. Jack Canfield  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends078 PickTheBrain.Com
  • 46. The  10Ks  of  Personal  Branding:  Create  a   Be?er  You. Kaplan Mobray  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends079 The  Five  Things  We  Cannot  Change:  And   the  Happiness  We  Find  by  Embracing   Them. David Richo  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends081 The  Complete  Worst-­‐Case  Scenario   Survival  Handbook  (Worst  Case   Scenario).   Joshua Piven  http://amzn.to/ptbrecommends082 PickTheBrain.Com
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