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  1. 1. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   1  
  2. 2. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   2   KEY 1 : Help Yourself Right Now – The Key To Living a Good Life Are you happy? Do you think you lead an enjoyable life? Are your finances in order, your relationships intact, your friendships strong? Is everything just right? You don’t have to answer—we know some of it isn’t. If everything was just right, you wouldn’t be here. But you are here, because you have that nagging feeling, that eternal background noise in your mind, that there’s room for improvement. You’re here because you want change. You want to be healthy and happy. Everyone in the entire world wants exactly that same thing. Being healthy and happy sounds so simple, yet, oftentimes, it seems impossible. In this age of technology and social media, there’s a lot on your plate. Everything is always buzzing; your phone, your iPad, your computer… There are bills to pay; your career, your family, friends, children to think about…often you come last. Life is a drag; the daily grind is wearing you down. You can barely make it through the week, let alone plan for the next weeks, months, or years. Time is scary because it’s so scarce and the clock is always ticking. Taking a moment for yourself seems like you’re taking it away from other uses.
  3. 3. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   3   Time is the currency that plagues you—you want to be rich, but you’re poor. In the world of the currency of time, you’re living day to day. But here’s the secret: You can be happy. Consistently. You can have everything. That’s right, absolutely everything. All your wants, all your desires—they are all achievable. Sounds outrageous, right? It’s not. All it requires is self motivation, a desire to change your life and your lifestyle. Since you’re reading this, you have that already. The only thing left is to put that motivation to work. That’s what I’m here for. If you follow my seven steps for success, you can change your life! The key is to make our all the steps a habit. After doing them consistently, over a period of a few weeks, they will become second-nature to you. Your life will become more organized, less stressful, and way more manageable. Through the steps we’ll teach you, you will learn how to interact with people, make them like you, how to cut stresses into smaller pieces, how to be an honorable person, and generally how to acquire all the traits that result in a positive human being. You’re here because you want to change. Before we begin, however, I’d like to cover a few important aspects regarding attitude.
  4. 4. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   4   All of the advice offered here will be useless unless you put your mind in the right place. You need to begin this journey with a clear consciousness. It’s not just spiritual mumbo-jumbo—your mind rules your body. Do not let your mind run amok, because it will. You must learn to control your mind and use it as a tool for success. Your mind is your pencil, your plow, your knife, your paintbrush…it’s whatever you need it to be. Remember: this isn’t a quick-fix solution, or a magic formula. The steps here will take time and dedication. This is not a Band-Aid or a fast answer; this is a lifestyle change. So, on to your mind. Your past and future is created by your thoughts. Your thoughts, if you’re like the average person, are dominated by negative thoughts and worries. Your mind is filled with problems. Your mind constantly beats yourself up. But pain can only feed off of pain. What you need to realize is that your problems are not really problems. Tomorrow’s bills are not the problem. The real problem is that you are letting your mind rule. With one simple thought, you can turn a problem into a task, or an unhappy situation into a positive one. It’s all about perception. Be aware of your mind and its habit to let in negativity. Be on guard and keep your inner eyes peeled.
  5. 5. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   5   The second you realize that you’re thinking in negative terms, whether that be worrying, feeling hurt, or sad, or depressed, push that that thought away. Realize that you can just as easily feel happy, so why feel sad? Your mind can just as easily be filled with positivity, if you let it. Next, you have to come to terms with time. Now is the time for change. Now is the time to start living. You will never have more time than now. Are you ready? Bring out some paper and a pen and take notes. Actually, you’ll need a pen and paper for the first step anyway. So make sure your mind is clear, that you’re sitting in a comfortable place free of unnecessary noises and distractions, and come prepared. Class is in session.
  6. 6. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   6   KEY 2: Write it all down Writing things down is essential to success. Some of the most famous persons in history have kept consistent diaries. For example, many of Winston Churchill’s famous quips were found in his diary, which he wrote in daily. If a man as busy as Winston Churchill, who had a war on his hands, could find the time to write in a diary (as well as draft the thousands of other letters, memos, treaties, orders and the like), then you can certainly find the time to organize your life on paper. The first thing you should write down is everything you have to remember. Absolutely everything. From when you work, to dates with friends, to important holidays and birthdays, to other important things you need to attend. You might even consider blocking out times for doing chores and errands and plan them for specific days. For example, you might write down that you will go grocery shopping on Thursday, or vacuum your apartment every Monday. You might even designate a specific time for it. Certain tasks, such as walking your dog, actually benefit from having a specific time assigned to them. Or things that maybe aren’t your favorite thing to do, like going to the gym. If you write in your calendar that you need to go to the gym at precisely 5:30 on Wednesday, the chances of you skipping out on that are lessened. You are making a commitment with yourself. You might also find it useful to even plan your leisurely time. I am sure that you, like most of us, have a long list of things you want to do one day.
  7. 7. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   7   Maybe you want to pick up the guitar, or take up painting, or join a basketball team. You want to finally get into shape, or master a new skill. While these are all fun activities, you won’t actually advance in them if you don’t plan for them. “Real life” will get in the way. You’ll be “too busy” or “too tired” or have “no time” for these things that fulfill and enrich your life. This contributes to your unhappiness and sense of unease. You need to plan things for yourself, write down those things, so that you can get around to them. Remember: you do have the time, you just need to dole it out appropriately. Keep a notebook on you always. Sure, technology rules the age, but sometimes, it’s easier to just pull out a small notepad or notebook and write something down. Keep a small one on you whenever you go out; you can write down directions or take down numbers at parties. You might think that your phone will suffice for these things, but what if your phone runs out of battery, or is lost? All your precious information is gone. Use this notebook to also jot down any ideas that come to you at any time of day. Often, the greatest ideas for companies or inventions have come in a split moment. Don’t let these brief moments of brilliance slip you by! Also take a notebook to work.
  8. 8. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   8   Write down your daily tasks. Break down the report your boss wants you to do into manageable items. Bring the notebook to any and all meetings and job interviews. You will look much m ore engaged if you are listening and taking notes. Even jot down bullet points or one-word entries—as long as you’re writing something, you will look like you’re paying attention. Moreover, the act of writing things down keeps you alert and is scientifically proven to help you remember better.
  9. 9. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   9   KEY 3: Preparation Being prepared is an art. It involves a lot of, well, preparation. Sounds contradictory, but it’s true. There are so many aspects of life that you should be prepared for, and many steps and methods to doing so. Being prepared starts right when you wake up. Ensure that you wake up in a non-jarring, “relaxing” way. You can do that by making sure you get a good night’s sleep the night before, so waking up in the morning isn’t such a drag. Do whatever you need to do to get full awake; splash cold water on your face, have your day’s first cup of steamin’ brew, and so forth. Eat a good breakfast. Breakfast provides the foundation to your day. Going through the day hungry will put you in a cranky mood and hinder your ability to get things done, and, ultimately, achieve your goals. Make sure you drink plenty of water throughout the day. Pack your purse, briefcase, or bag. Make sure it’s neat and organized; empty trash and old receipts out of it the night before. Plan ahead for the day; check the weather and bring a coat or umbrella if necessary. Nothing is more mood-ruining than getting caught in the cold or soaked in an unexpected shower. A big part of being prepared revolves around appearance and personal hygiene. Remember: your mind is your god, but your body is your temple.
  10. 10. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   10   Give your body the tools it needs to keep you going. Take time for yourself—say, every Sunday—for your ‘beauty’ routine. Cut your nails, shave, wash your hair, do a face scrub, have a massage— whatever you need to do to feel clean and relaxed. Make sure you are feeding your body the right foods. Enjoying a hamburger or sweets every once in a while is fine, but don’t let your body run on fumes. Load up on greens, fruit, and proteins. This will give you long-lasting energy. Keep yourself in shape. Do a sport, stretch, or go to the gym. Exercising releases endorphins and provides an outlet for stress. Get ready for the day by making yourself clean and presentable. Take a shower, scrub down, use deodorant, wash your hair, brush your pearly whites and floss, shine your shoes, don’t forget to put your nice watch on. Spritz a little perfume or cologne. If you’re looking and smelling good, you’ll feel a little extra boost all day, just like that pleasant tingling you get right after brushing your teeth. It makes you feel fresh, doesn’t it? Another important aspect to do with your appearance is your dress. Clothing may seem trivial to some people, but clothing shapes the first impressions that you give, and impressions are everything. Browse fashion magazines and street fashion blogs for fashion tips and ideas. Look to your favorite actors or celebrities for inspiration.
  11. 11. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   11   Find your own style and rock it. Get a haircut that suits your face and maintain it. Look your best all the time and you will be respected and feel empowered, which brings us to our next subject of: Confidence, confidence, confidence! As they always say, confidence is key. Confidence can get you out of any situation and into anywhere you want to go. Confidence can be used to charm and schmooze. It will make you friends, get you dates, and win you jobs. Practice confidence by accomplishing the tasks above, as well as doing a few other exercises in confidence. Look in the mirror every day and praise yourself. Give yourself a little boost of vanity. Purposely put yourself into situations which make you uncomfortable. Conquering your fears helps you eliminate them. For example, if you’re terrified of heights, go skydiving. It sounds crazy, but I guarantee you, after that frightening jump, you won’t ever be frightened of heights again. And with confidence, you have the right tool to build a network around you. Seek support—whether you are an extrovert or an introvert, you need a strong social network around you. This can consist of colleagues, friends, family…all people who can help you when you’re in a crisis, or just need someone to talk to. Life is a lot more manageable when we know we have others who will help us if we need them to.
  12. 12. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   12   Contrary to popular belief, you cannot go it alone, no matter how skilled and confident you are.
  13. 13. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   13   KEY 4: Keeping Your Word There is a reason why all major religions emphasize the importance of integrity as one of their tenets. Whether or not you’re religious, keeping your word is central to your character. No matter how rich or poor you are, what social status in life you occupy, whatever your job is, your word is something is extremely valuable that you can give out. I t is something that people will either respect you (if you keep your word) or resent you (if you don’t keep your word) for. Promises are a form of currency, just like time. If you keep your word on a favor, if you follow through, that person is going to remember it. You’ll have a one-up over them, and they will owe you. It’s up to you to collect on this debt or not. But it doesn’t hurt to have a bunch of IOU’s saved up. There will inevitably be sometime in your life when you will profit from collecting on these debts. It might not necessarily be in an emergency. Put yourself in a strategic mindset. Life is to be enjoyed, but it’s also, in many ways, a game of chess. As mentioned before, it requires planning. Life can sometimes be a war. Keep an arsenal, arm your military, oil your machines. The trick to keeping promises is not making them lightly. Don’t be a yes-person.
  14. 14. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   14   It is far too tempting to say yes to everything in an attempt to please everyone. Naturally, you want people to like you. You want to perceived as a great person, nice all around, easy to get along with, and so on. But saying yes all the time is dangerous. If you turn into a yes-person, you will be stepped on. People will take advantage of you. They won’t necessarily do it maliciously. Just keep in mind Thomas Hobbes and his theory on the human character. He believed that humans are innately selfish. This is absolutely true. People will know that you’re a pushover and they’ll keep asking you to do things for them that you don’t want to do. But if you don’t know how to say no, you will get roped into situations you’d really rather not be in. You don’t really have time to babysit your sister’s baby again, or take another shift for your colleague, or go to a friend’s birthday party. Sometimes you need time to rest, time for yourself. Be firm; don’t waiver. When someone asks you if you can do something or go somewhere, don’t wiggle around. Don’t say, “Maybe” or “I’ll let you know”. Have a clear answer: “yes” or “no”. And don’t feel guilty for having to say no. You do not need an apology or an excuse.
  15. 15. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   15   You do not have to explain to people why you cannot make a commitment. Just say, “I won’t be able to do that” or “I have another engagement.” Never promise something you cannot deliver. You know your own limits and abilities. Some things cannot be helped, and some situations cannot be fixed, no matter how much you wish you could. For example, you might be able to help a homeless person by offering them some money, but you cannot really afford to take them into your home. That’s just the reality of the situation and you shouldn’t pretend otherwise. Don’t make promises just to give someone hope. This will ultimately crush them even more when they realize that you cannot deliver what you promised. It will lower you in their eyes. Not only will they have a lower opinion of you, but everyone else will, too. Don’t forget that relationships are not isolated entities. People talk, people gossip. A broken promise will be whined about and complained about to other friends and colleagues. Others will hear of you and your lack of integrity. People you might not even know that well will be reluctant to trust you. Suddenly, your reputation is tarnished. It takes years and years to build a good reputation and only a few minutes to ruin it. So to sum up, let’s review the strategies to keeping your word. Firstly, think before you speak.
  16. 16. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   16   Sometimes, we are too emotional or in some other way distracted, and we say something without thinking it through. Before we can amend our statement, or even realize what we’ve said, the other person has taken it to heart and will rely on you to follow through. Also think about to whom you are promising. Are they in a weakened emotional state? If so, they will take your promises more to heart and will be more hurt if you break them. You must take even greater care to follow through in these cases. And before you promise anything, think about what you can and can’t do. Be sure you can fulfill the promise without struggle or great challenge—the harder the promise is to keep, the less likely you are to fulfill it. Still, make an effort with your promises. Put in that extra work to make sure you follow through on your word.
  17. 17. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   17   KEY 5: Treat others as you’d like to be treated We’ve all heard of the so-called golden rule: “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” It’s grade-school wisdom that’s been drilled into us over and over again. Yet, many of us don’t take it to heart. Because we’ve heard it so often, it seems like something we know, yet we don’t. So many situations, ranging from annoying to disastrous, could be avoided if everyone followed this simple rule of thumb. Indeed, wars and millions of deaths could have been stopped. The entire world could be at peace, and laws would be unnecessary. We all agree that this is a great rule to follow, but why don’t we do it? There are two reasons: laziness and fear. First, let’s talk about laziness. Laziness is the bane to almost everything we need or want to do. Laziness is not necessarily sloth in the traditional sense…I’m not talking about sitting on the couch and munching on chips all day, here. Laziness is letting your mind win. When your mind wins, your self-discipline loses---i.e. you lose. To treat someone the way you want to be treated, you first have to follow the old adage of putting yourself in that person’s shoes. This part takes effort. It requires you to step outside your anger, loathing, annoyance, apathy, or whatever other emotion you are experiencing, and clear yourself of your biases for a few minutes. You have to envision yourself as a third party looking at the situation from the outside.
  18. 18. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   18   If you were the moral judge, what would you instruct each party to do? Surely you would recommend a calm temperament to everyone, and emphasize that everyone be nice to each other. This can be difficult, indeed, even unpleasant, because sometimes you realize that the way you are behaving is wrong. You realize that you are being unnecessarily cruel, or uncaring, or what have you. It takes effort to accept that you’re in the wrong and alter your behavior. It feels degrading sometimes, or embarrassing, but actually, it isn’t. By being kind and treating others as you want to be treated, you are being the bigger person. Moreover, it’s better for you, in the end. Giving anyone any special treatment—that is, the negative kind—takes so much more effort than simply associating with them casually, as you would with yourself. The second thing that holds us back is fear. In our hearts, we more or less always know what the right thing to do. We can always recognize and appreciate charitable people and we admire those who keep cool heads and level temperaments, and treat others with respect. Yet we are afraid of the consequences of displaying strength and treating people equally. In group situations, for example, when all your friends are making fun of someone else, it’s difficult not to go along. You don’t want to be the party pooper. And you’re afraid that if you do step in, you’ll be caught in the crossfire and be insulted yourself.
  19. 19. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   19   And in any situation, there’s inevitably that hint of Schadenfreude which gets you thinking “better them than me.” But this is selfish and childish thinking. Moreover, it’s simply incorrect. A person who honors dignity in all human life, regardless of gender, race, identity, nationality, or social status, is rewarded with respect. As a respected person, you can easily get others to follow your lead, which can be incredibly advantageous to you in many respects. Lastly, remember this: if you’re nice to people, they’ll be nice to you. People will be much more inclined to help you if you treat them well.
  20. 20. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   20   KEY 6: Practice makes perfect It’s been repeated so many times before, but it’s true: practice does make perfect. Approximately 5% of the mastery of any activity requires talent, while the other 95% requires practice. You might have heard of child musical geniuses or sports stars and have thought, “well, they got lucky…they were born with it.” It seems like you cannot possibly compare to such people, because you were not born with a talent. This line of thinking is all wrong, because what all these musical geniuses and sports stars have in common is that they’ve all done the same thing to get them to where they are: they’ve practiced. Tons of practice. Every day, every week, over years and years. You can become a master at anything you want if you are willing to practice. All of the masters of every craft or art, in the history of time, have achieved their skills through practice. Even skills that seem innate, like singing, can be learned, and improved upon with practice. Practice is hard. It takes dedication and hard work over a long period of time. So how does one handle upkeep and force oneself to practice? The key to practicing anything is to make it a habit. There are many ways to make a habit stick. I’ll go over some tips and tricks to make the process easier, but there’s no denying the bottom line: the first bump is going to be hard.
  21. 21. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   21   You can’t really get around it. This is the trial period, which lasts anywhere from 16-30 times of doing whatever you’re trying to make a habit (people have differing opinions on the exact number). If you can commit to this number and make it over the hill, you’ll be in the clear. And once whatever you’re doing becomes a habit, you won’t even have to think about it. In fact, it might even become relaxing or enjoyable. Eventually, you’ll want to improve upon that habit and even double or triple your productivity in doing that task. Secondly, start simple. Don’t get over-motivated and take on too much. If you’re trying to learn to play the piano, start in small chunks. Play half an hour a day, not five hours. Make the habit small and easy to complete, so that it’s enjoyable, and build on it over time. If you do too much, you will burn out too quickly and give up. Another thing to do is to always remind yourself of what you’re trying to practice. After two or three weeks, your commitment can be easy to forget. Put memos in your notebooks, signs on your mirrors, notifications on your phone, or whatever else you have to do to remind yourself that you need to practice. Another trick is to stay consistent. It’s a lot easier to commit to playing the piano every other day at 3PM then it is to commit to playing piano at some undisclosed, unknown time. If it’s the same time every week, it takes much less effort.
  22. 22. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   22   You don’t have to carve out a chunk of time, which wastes time in itself, to practice. A great thing to do is to find inspiration in role models. If you want to get good at football, start watching football matches and find players you like. Watch interviews to hear what inspires them, find out how they train. Keep reminding yourself that one day you, too, can be like them, if you’re willing to put in the work! One of the best ways of making a habit stick is rewarding yourself for doing that habit. For example, after a few weeks of going to the gym, you can reward yourself with that jacket you’ve been eyeing for a while, or a nice dinner, or a weekend excursion. Do not let yourself have your reward if you do not complete the task. After a while of practicing/making your habit, you’ll come closer and closer to the reward, and you’ll want it badly enough that you won’t want to break the streak.
  23. 23. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   23   KEY 7: Talk is Cheap Actions speak louder than words. This final step ties back into the step about keeping your word. One insightful quote from Oprah reads, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Let’s take apart this quote. When people show you who they are, i.e. through actions, believe them. But believe them only when they show you through actions, not tell you through words. For example, if someone claims they’re trustworthy but repeatedly lies, are you still going to believe that they are honest? If someone says they want to spend time with you but never shows up, what does that say? If someone borrows money and keeps saying, week after week, that they’ll pay you back but never do, what does that say? Will you ever lend this person money again? The fact is, talk is cheap. Talk only gets you so far. Talk is a façade, a house of cards. One gust of wind and your protection of talk is blown away. The only thing that solidifies talk is action. If you follow through on what you say, then the value of your words will increase. People will take you seriously. But why do people say one thing and do another? Why do they make promises only to break them? The answer is simple: it’s easier. It takes a few seconds to make a claim…not much effort.
  24. 24. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   24   But to actually do what you said you’d do, that takes work. A politician can say he will build a new bridge. Saying so is easy. But getting that bridge built? That would take months of planning, designing, hiring of contractors, finding money, clearing bills through committees and so on to get accomplished. Good, respectable people will follow through on their words and build that bridge. They know that their credibility is worth every drop of sweat, every dollar, and every hour they have to put forth to maintain it. Even if their promise was made in error, or they regretted it later, they still get it done. Make sure to practice what you preach. At the end of the day, your actions will prove yourself to yourself and to everyone else. Once you start speaking in actions instead of words, you will realize that you are actually saving yourself a lot more effort in the long wrong. Instead of wasting time worrying, regretting, and spinning up lies to appease people and crafting a fake persona based off of cheap talk, and then spending a whole lot of time after that coming up with excuses for not doing what you said you were going to do, start doing right from the start. As Ben Franklin said, “well done is better than well said.” All this will become easier over time when you start making actions a habit instead of an exception. Use the tips outlined previously to practice making yourself a better person. Once you start changing things about yourself, you will change your life. You will be happier, healthier, kinder, and more respected. Good luck and happy living!
  25. 25. Success  Absolute  –  The  7  No-­‐Brainers  Keys  To  Success  That  We  Ignore  Everyday     Copyright  © SuccessAbsolute.com  and  Jonas  L.   25   Be Thrilled By What I Am Going To Share With You Here, Don’t Ever Let This Slip Through Your Fingers So Easily… http://www.successabsolute.com/thrilled

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