Certainly, loss of a loved one is a primary cause of grief and loss reactions. Loss of a spouse through death or divorce Loss of a parent or child through death or divorce Loss of a family member or friend Miscarriage Loss of your beloved.
Some common principles around Loss.,
loss is a constant part of life.
more than bereavement.
grief responses are individual.
grief can be communal.
People feel less confidence following a significant loss
It is best to leave grieving people alone
You never laugh if you're really grieving
Mourners feel better after the funeral
Men and women grieve differently
Children and teenagers don't show their grief like adults
Loss Being parted from someone who or something that a person values. Grief Complex emotional response to loss: including sadness, anger, helplessness, guilt, despair. Grief and loss can be said to be part of every human life although the meaning of this experience and responses to it are unique. Each of us will grieve in our own unique way for the unique loss that we have suffered. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Some of the adolescent losses Chance (more or less)
victim of crime
loss of pet
birth of sibling
missing out on team
victim of bullying
realizing you’re different
failure to live up to expectations
betrayed by friend
child abuse, poverty
lack of stability
Acceptance of reality of the loss,
Work through the pain,
Adjust to the environment when someone or something is no longer there,
Emotionally relocate what is lost and try to move on with life.,
Whatever happens LIFE would have to move on.
Responses to grief & loses Physical responses
Weakness, loss of appetite/comfort eating, feelings of choking, shortness of breath, tightness in the chest, dry mouth, gastrointestinal disturbances
Increased alcohol intake, smoking excessively
Fatigue, exhaustion and insomnia
Excessive tearfulness/not crying at all
Increased vulnerability to physical & mental illness
Preoccupation with the deceased
Having conversations with the deceased
Starting to prepare the dinner when deceased would usually come home
Picking up the telephone to tell them something
complete lapses of focus or orientation to time/person/place
Difficulty remembering (short term memory)
Seeking or longing for the lost person/object
Inability to perform basic activities of daily living
Washing & dressing
Eating and drinking
Inability to cope with children
Neglecting household chores
Not paying bills
Intense sense of isolation
Sadness, loneliness, hopelessness
Intense irritability, little tolerance
Anger at family & friends, at the deceased, God, the world, yourself
Guilt: the starring role
At what we did/didn’t do
Range of emotions are wide, everyone will experience different ones
Some common principles around grieving.,
grieving is normal.
dealing with loss is an individual, mostly private, possibly lonely process.
losses rarely exist alone.
young people are limited by experience and options.
it is a privilege to be invited into the experience of loss of an adolescent.
loss threatens our sense of safety and trust.
Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss in what dies inside us while we live. Loss is nothing else but change, and change is Nature's delight. The greatest danger, that of losing one's own self, may pass off quietly as if it were nothing; every other Loss, that of an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc., is sure to be noticed. One should never be sexually involved with anyone one genuinely cares for. A sexual relationship guarantees a Loss.
I finally understand what life is about: It is about losing everything. Losing the baby who becomes a child, the child who becomes an adult, like the trees loose their leaves. So every morning we must celebrate what we have.