The word heart appears more than 800 times in the Bible but what does it mean? The heart is the totality of who I am, body, soul and spirit. past experiences especially traumatic experiences can create wounds of the heart. Rejection is a very common wound of the heart. There are two principles ways a wound of rejection is managed by trying to be good enough to gain acceptance (perfectionism) and by rebelling against the system denying the need for love and acceptance. In Jesus we can find acceptance and healing.

1. Who I Am In Christ
Part 4
Gaining a New Heart
Psalm 51: 1-19 (Page 405)
Matthew 18:21-35 (Page 695)
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2. • “Create in me a clean heart, O God,
And renew a steadfast spirit within
me.” (Psalm 51:10, NKJV)
• “Then I will sprinkle clean water on
you, and you will be clean.Your filth
will be washed away, and you will no
longer worship idols.And I will give
you a new heart, and I will put a new
spirit in you. I will take out your
stony, stubborn heart and give you a
tender, responsive heart.” (Ezekiel
36:25–26, NLT)
• Understanding the Bible's concept of
heart is fundamental in knowing who
were are in Christ.
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3. • In Christ you are a new
creation. 2 Corinthians 5:17
• In Christ you are both a child
of God and an heir of God.
Galatians 4:6-7
• In Christ you are a saint
(holy).
Ephesians 1:1
• In Christ you are God's
workmanship created to do
His work Ephesians 2:10
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4. • We must pull down the old
strongholds in our mind, which
oppose the truth of God.
• We must build new
strongholds based on God’s
Word.
• Renewing the mind means
pulling down the old
strongholds and building new
ones founded on God's Word.
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5. • “I will praiseYou, O Lord, with my
whole heart; I will tell of allYour
marvellous works.”
(Psalm 9:1, NKJV)
• “The fool has said in his heart,
“There is no God.” They are
corrupt, They have done
abominable works, There is none
who does good.” (Psalm 14:1,
NKJV)
• “I delight to doYour will, O my
God, AndYour law is within my
heart.” (Psalm 40:8, NKJV)
The word “heart” is used over 800 times in the Bible
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6. • “Teach meYour way, O Lord, and
I will walk inYour truth; give me
an undivided heart, that I may
fearYour Name.” (Psalm 86:11,
NIV84)
• God promised to "give a new
heart." David asked God to
create a new heart within him,
They are speaking about being a
new creation.
• We now know this is possible
through the work of Christ on
the cross (forgiveness) and His
resurrection (new life).
Body
spirit
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Emotion
Mind
mind
emotion
will
The heart is
the totality of
who we are.
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7. • The Holy Spirit can heal the past so
that the past will stop influencing
our present.
• Paul tells us to throw off the "old
man," (the person you used to be)
• “Since you have heard about Jesus
and have learned the truth that
comes from Him, throw off your old
sinful nature and your former way of
life, which is corrupted by lust and
deception. Instead, let the Spirit
renew your thoughts and attitudes.
Put on your new nature, created to
be like God—truly righteous and
holy.” (Ephesians 4:20–24, NLT)
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8. "Red button" issues
• Words or actions which trigger a
strong emotional response.
• In the same way we suffer physical
injuries to the body so we can
suffer emotional and spiritual
wounds.
• The wounds of the heart are just as
real and even more painful than
physical wounds.
• These wounds of the heart are
touched by certain words, or
actions, even smells or noises.
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9. • One of the most common heart
wounds is that of rejection.
• In this fallen world we have all
experienced rejection. Severe
wounds of rejection can undermine
the whole course of our life.
• People can feel rejection in hundreds
of different ways.
• One of the most common ways
rejection happens in childhood is
through what is called Conditional
love.
• Conditional love creates a wound of
rejection that can control adult
behaviour.
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10. There are two ways people respond
to conditional love and acceptance.
• The first is “Beat the system” by
achieving and complying so as to
gain acceptance.
• The person feels that they are
unlovable if they don’t achieve or
succeed.
• Failure to achieve is associated in
the mind with rejection.
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11. • A second way people react to
conditional love is by rebellion.
• This way of manages the pain of
rejection by fighting the system and
closing themselves off from other
people so they won't get hurt.
• This often results in further
rejection and stronger acts of
rebellion.
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12. • “Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and
you will be clean.Your filth will be washed
away, and you will no longer worship idols.
And I will give you a new heart, and I will
put a new spirit in you. I will take out your
stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender,
responsive heart.” (Ezekiel 36:25–26, NLT)
• To receive a new heart we must first receive
forgiveness and cleansing from sins.
• We forgive those who we feel have rejected
us and confess the bitterness we have
stored up about those people.
• Jesus said,“If you forgive those who sin
against you, your heavenly Father will forgive
you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your
Father will not forgive your sins.”
(Matthew 6:14–15, NLT)
How are the Wounds of the Heart Healed?
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13. • Forgiveness is a process.
• For wounds of the heart
that are deep, the process
of forgiving is like peeling
away the layers of an
onion.
• You begin with the outer
layers, the immediate
hurts and pain and
gradually over time each
layer of hurt and offence
has to be dealt with until
you get the centre and
the wound is completely
healed.
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14. • Forgiveness is not forgetting that
something happened; because we
can't forget.
• Forgiveness is a decision not a
feeling.
• You may not feel like forgiving those
who have hurt you but you can
make a conscious decision to
forgive.
• Forgiving is laying aside your right
for justice or desire for revenge or
repayment.
• The people who have caused you
harm maybe unrepentant, and don't
deserve to be forgiven.
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15. • Jesus' parable of the unmerciful
servant
• The King hands the unmerciful
servant over to the torturers
until he can pay the debt. In the
time of Jesus a debtor could be
thrown into prison and
tortured until the family raised
the money to pay the debt.
• In the context of Jesus teaching
on forgiveness, it is a warning to
us that if we do not forgive
then we will will never be free
of the pain and the hurt.
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16. 1.Make a list of all those who have
offended you, hurt you or
rejected you.
2.Face the hurts. Acknowledge the
pain these people have caused
you.
3.Take hurt to Jesus. Confess to
Jesus the pain, the anger, grief,
and all the negative feelings you
have in your heart.
4.One by one aloud to Jesus in
prayer forgive each person for
what they did or failed to do.
5.Ask the Lord to heal you and
make you whole.
Steps to Forgive
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17. • In Christ you are a new creation.
Therefore, "throw off your old
sinful nature and your former
way of life, which is corrupted by
lust and deception.”
• This is done through confession
and forgiveness
• "Instead, let the Spirit renew
your thoughts and attitudes. Put
on your new nature, created to
be like God."
• Ask the Holy Spirit to heal you.
• Ask The Lord to show His
unconditional love for you.
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