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Is Googling Your Potential InternetDating Partner a Good Thing to Do?When you want to ask the Internet about anew guy, it’s usually a smart move.However, there is a time when you mustresist the temptation.If you can imagine the time before Google,you wouldn’t be able to peruse over a pastarecipe at a moment’s notice, check movie schedules, or finish your homework.Yes, it can be quite an insurmountable feat to resist doing an Internet search on a guy. If he askedyou out after striking up a conversation at a bar or met him through Internet dating, it’s onlyprudent to snoop around online and make sure he’s not a Ted Bundy clone. However, there isone instance when Googling a guy can bring harm to a potential relationship: when somebodyyou know vouches for the dude. If he’s a friend of your friend, you can be quite sure he’s not apsycho serial killer. So you’ll really want to dig some stuff about his past, which is not a reallygood idea.
Googling someone feeds your curiosity and gives you some sense of control over the harrowingexperience of going through the early stages of dating. If you have a more personal connection tothe guy, it may do more harm than good. Here are a few reasons why.You’ll have to fake itIf you’ve already read up on a dude, your conversations with him will not be authentic sinceyou’re just pretending to know stuff about him that you already know. You will have to keeptrack of the things he tells you versus the things you found out during your online investigation.In addition, you’ll be forced to pretend to be surprised. It can feel insincere and make his BSalarm go off.You’ll make wrong assumptionsSince you have very limited knowledge about your Internet dating partner, the things you knowabout him takes on an amplified degree of importance, and the opinion you have formed abouthim based on the bits of information you’ve scrounged up on the web will most likely be messedup.You’ll have a false feeling you know him, but really don’t
Finding out stuff about a dude can create a fake and somewhat â€œstalkerish impression in yourmind. It gives you a false sense of security, which can make you go further sexually than younormally would.This can also feed you fictitious dreams of having a good future together. You’ll tend to imaginegoing on a vacation to his lake house, skinny dipping and watching your favorite movie together.If things don’t work out, you’ll just be hurt instead of feeling apathetic about it.