Restitution In Schools
      An Introduction
Restitution
Create conditions for the person to


Fix their mistakes


Return to the group


Strengthened
Tilling the Soil
 Teaching kids to look inside
 Is this the kind of student I want to be
 Is this the kind of friend I ...
Restitution Mantra
 This is what I want
 This is what I’m doing
 Is it working
 Yes, we’re on the right road.


Share the ...
Control Theory
  What is Control Theory?
Activity to show what Control Theory
 is. (Teaches us that we are internally moti...
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
                AVOID PAIN   REWARD FROM OTHERS   RESPECTING SELF
           Punisher

             Yell...
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
                  AVOID PAIN          REWARD FROM OTHERS   RESPECTING SELF
           Punisher         G...
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
                  AVOID PAIN          REWARD FROM OTHERS   RESPECTING SELF
           Punisher         G...
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
                  AVOID PAIN          REWARD FROM OTHERS         RESPECTING SELF
           Punisher    ...
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE
                AVOID PAIN             REWARD FROM OTHERS       RESPECTING SELF
           Punisher     ...
Time for an
 inventory
Restitution is not a payback; it is a pay
forward.
Restitution restores relationships
Restitution teaches the person to lo...
Needs Inventory
Basic Needs

 Love and Belonging: Connectedness,


 Power Mastery: (cheap vs. deep)


 Freedom: Independen...
BELONGING
NEEDS LOTS OF SOCIALIZATION
THINKS ABOUT OTHERS
LOTS OF TOUCH AND PHYSICAL
AFFECTION
FOLLOWS GROUP EASILY
WANT T...
Power and Love
These two can become twinned.
  Conditional love: children get approval only for
  their performance. Creat...
POWER
OBSERVE BEFORE TRYING NEW
THINGS
DISTRESSED BY MISTAKES/NOT
A RISK TAKER.
WANT TO BE IN CONTROL
ORGANIZED
LIKE TO BE...
Types of Power
Power over one’s own body: Child: learning
to walk, bike and play sports. Adult: it may
be grooming, dietin...
FREEDOM
ENDLESS ENERGY-NEEDS TO
MOVE
ASKS LOTS OF QUESTIONS
LIKES TO EXPERIMENT
DOESN’T LIKE TO BE
MICROMANAGED
NEEDS CHOI...
FUN


UNDERSTANDS OTHERS
LOW CONFLICT
NOT BORED-MAKES THINGS
INTERESTING FOR SELF
AMUSING EVEN WHEN
MISBEHAVING
Fortune 500 List
                        Now   1970
Teamwork                1     10
Problem Solving         2     12
Inte...
First Question ???????
What need is not being meet and how
 can we meet that need???
*Start with what do you want?


Rathe...
Restitution Rethinking Plan
1. What was your mistake?
2. How did your mistake help you meet
   your needs?
3. How did you ...
Getting to the NEED
S: I hate that class. (bad feeling)
C: What’s happening?
S: I don’t like her bossing me around. (Don’t...
Restitution Tools
 RESTITUTION TRIANGLE
30 SECOND INTERVENTION

REALLY MATTER?

 YES IF…

 REALITY THERAPY QUESTIONS
...
Happy people evaluate ourselves



Unhappy people evaluate
others.

 RSD?
Success in the FUTURE

ERROR RECOVERY

OR

FAILURE AVOIDANCE
Restitution Triangle
                                                       What we believe
                     Not for n...
The three sides of the
COULD YOU HAVE DONE
            WORSE?
SELECT A BEHAVIOR OR A MISTAKE:
     Ask: Could you have done worse? (exaggerate-eg...
Reality Therapy Questions
“What do we believe?”
“Do you believe it?”
“If you believe it, do you want to fix it?”
“If you f...
How we use the NEEDS
Love & belonging, Freedom, Power,
Fun

 Everyone learns about the basic
needs that drive our behavior...
My Dream
 Children learn to honestly self
evaluate and self restitute once adults
stop punishing, guilting, and bribing
th...
30 Second Interventions
Is what you’re doing Okay now?
                                            What can I do to help y...
More 30 Second Interventions
How would you like to be treated
                                       Is it ok to make
duri...
Does It Really Matter?
Goals:
 To identify areas in which we try to
control other people.
To select and prioritize the sta...
Does It Really Matter…
If   he sits with his feet on the floor?
If   they are talking when working?
If   he does his homew...
YES IF…
This activity requires adults to identify
and evaluate requests from children to
which they normally answer no or ...
Yes, If continued…
In order to increase the number of
  positive replies:
 Say yes as often as you can.
 If you can’t sa...
My JOB/Your JOB
This is a 4-part T-chart that is
used to outline how two jobs differ.
This chart clarifies responsibilitie...
My Job/Your Job
                             • Learn
• Teach
                             • Try
• Evaluate
• Coordinate le...
Complain To Me Baby!!
1. How would you like it to be?      (listen for the need)

  Why is it important?
  Can you control...
WEAVING

                                           Manager
             Monitor




If you don’t ____, I will _____      ...
BEHAVIOR CAR-Ask yourself does your present behavior have a
 reasonable chance of getting you what you want now and will i...
TAKE CONTROL CHART
  PR
  OB
                       What is it that I
  LE
         BAD FEELING
  M
                      ...
Starting the Year with
         Restitution
Teach the 5 NEEDS
Determine individual strength of each
need.
Quality World
Be...
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Restitution creates the conditions for the person to fix their mistakes and return to the group strengthened.

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  • Restitution

    1. 1. Restitution In Schools An Introduction
    2. 2. Restitution Create conditions for the person to Fix their mistakes Return to the group Strengthened
    3. 3. Tilling the Soil  Teaching kids to look inside  Is this the kind of student I want to be  Is this the kind of friend I want to be  Is this the kind of soccer player I want to be NOT…What will happen to me if I do that
    4. 4. Restitution Mantra This is what I want This is what I’m doing Is it working Yes, we’re on the right road. Share the not working one.
    5. 5. Control Theory What is Control Theory? Activity to show what Control Theory is. (Teaches us that we are internally motivated by the need- satisfying pictures we have constructed in our heads.) Close your fist. All behavior is purposeful. Do you think this is true?
    6. 6. WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF Punisher Yells & Teacher Points Does Teacher If you Says don’t I’ll Rebel Legacy Blame Student I don’t Says care Student Repeat Outcomes Offense
    7. 7. WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF Punisher Guilter Yells & Preaches & Teacher Points “Shoulds” Does You know Teacher If you better Says don’t I’ll Rebel Hide Deny Legacy Blame Lie Student I don’t I’m sorry Says care Student Repeat Low Self- Outcomes Offense Esteem
    8. 8. WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF Punisher Guilter Buddy Yells & Preaches & Makes Teacher Points “Shoulds” Excuses Does for them You know Do it for Teacher If you better me Says don’t I’ll Rebel Hide Deny Legacy Dependency Blame Lie Student I thought I don’t I’m sorry Says you were care my friend Weakness Student Repeat Low Self- Outcomes Offense Esteem
    9. 9. WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF Punisher Guilter Buddy Monitor Yells & Preaches & Makes Teacher Counts & Points “Shoulds” Excuses Does Measures for them You know If you Do it for What’s the Teacher better don’t I’ll me Rule? Says Rebel Hide Deny Legacy Dependency Conformity Blame Lie Student I thought How high? I don’t I’m sorry Says you were How far? care my friend Weakness Student Repeat Low Self- Consequence Outcomes Offense Esteem Orientated
    10. 10. WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE AVOID PAIN REWARD FROM OTHERS RESPECTING SELF Punisher Guilter Buddy Monitor Manager Yells & Preaches & Makes Teacher Counts & Asks Points “Shoulds” Excuses Does Measures Questions for them You know If you Do it for What’s the What do we Teacher better don’t I’ll me Rule? believe? Says Rebel Hide Deny Legacy Dependency Strengthened Conformity Blame Lie Student I thought How high? What can I I don’t I’m sorry Says you were How far? do to fix it? care my friend Weakness Student Repeat Low Self- Consequence Self- Outcomes Offense Esteem Orientated Restitution
    11. 11. Time for an inventory
    12. 12. Restitution is not a payback; it is a pay forward. Restitution restores relationships Restitution teaches the person to look inside Restitution is looking for the basic need behind the problem. Self restitution is the most powerful tool. Restitution is about “being” not “doing”. Restitution strengthens. Restitution focuses on solutions Restitution restores one to the group
    13. 13. Needs Inventory Basic Needs Love and Belonging: Connectedness, Power Mastery: (cheap vs. deep) Freedom: Independence Fun: Generosity (clean vs. mean)
    14. 14. BELONGING NEEDS LOTS OF SOCIALIZATION THINKS ABOUT OTHERS LOTS OF TOUCH AND PHYSICAL AFFECTION FOLLOWS GROUP EASILY WANT TO BE LIKED ENJOY COOPERATIVE LEARNING
    15. 15. Power and Love These two can become twinned. Conditional love: children get approval only for their performance. Creates anxiety to perform. Unconditional love: being loved is not dependent on being polite, neat, responsible, or a good student. Parents says things like: “I missed your smile.” “You can figure things out.” Give yourself unconditional comments. Say, “I’m doing the best that I can.”
    16. 16. POWER OBSERVE BEFORE TRYING NEW THINGS DISTRESSED BY MISTAKES/NOT A RISK TAKER. WANT TO BE IN CONTROL ORGANIZED LIKE TO BE THE BEST COMPETITIVE
    17. 17. Types of Power Power over one’s own body: Child: learning to walk, bike and play sports. Adult: it may be grooming, dieting, exercising. To have power is to act on the inanimate world. Child: build a fort, grow a garden, paint a picture, complete an assignment. Power to impact other people using emotional behaviors: ie.: + Smiling, complimenting, - guilting, angering whinning. If we develop the power above we use less of the of the negative.
    18. 18. FREEDOM ENDLESS ENERGY-NEEDS TO MOVE ASKS LOTS OF QUESTIONS LIKES TO EXPERIMENT DOESN’T LIKE TO BE MICROMANAGED NEEDS CHOICES NOT SO INFLUENCED BY OTHERS
    19. 19. FUN UNDERSTANDS OTHERS LOW CONFLICT NOT BORED-MAKES THINGS INTERESTING FOR SELF AMUSING EVEN WHEN MISBEHAVING
    20. 20. Fortune 500 List Now 1970 Teamwork 1 10 Problem Solving 2 12 Interpersonal Skills 3 13 Oral Comm. 4 4 Listening 5 5 Personal Developmt. 6 6 Creative Thinking 7 7 Leadership 8 8 Goal Setting 9 9 Writing 10 1 Organizational skills 11 11 Computation 12 2 Reading 13 3
    21. 21. First Question ??????? What need is not being meet and how can we meet that need??? *Start with what do you want? Rather than…XXXXX How can I make this kid do what I want???XXXXX
    22. 22. Restitution Rethinking Plan 1. What was your mistake? 2. How did your mistake help you meet your needs? 3. How did you hurt _______’s needs? 4. What plan will help you without hurting someone else? 5. How will your plan make you stronger?
    23. 23. Getting to the NEED S: I hate that class. (bad feeling) C: What’s happening? S: I don’t like her bossing me around. (Don’t want) C: How do you think it should be? S: Her letting me work on my own. (Do want) C: How would that be better for you? S: I’d be able to breathe. (Need) C: So you would like a little more____?___. S: You bet! C: So if we could figure out a way for you to have some more independence to work in that classroom, would you be able to do your work? S: Yes. (Move to new strategies)
    24. 24. Restitution Tools  RESTITUTION TRIANGLE 30 SECOND INTERVENTION REALLY MATTER?  YES IF…  REALITY THERAPY QUESTIONS  MY JOB/YOUR JOB  COMPLAIN TO ME BABY!  COULD YOU HAVE DONE WORSE?  WEAVING
    25. 25. Happy people evaluate ourselves Unhappy people evaluate others. RSD?
    26. 26. Success in the FUTURE ERROR RECOVERY OR FAILURE AVOIDANCE
    27. 27. Restitution Triangle What we believe Not for no W reason ed E e UL AR th OSEF Se ne E IN Social contract RP TE ek Keep that behavior, at IS PU RN add to it AL LY th lid VIOR e Person you want M Could you have e O Va BEHA to be. TI done worse? V be Restitution AT L AL ED lie Stabilize the identity f WE’RE DOING THE BEST WE CAN. Not interested Okay to make Good friend You’re not the in fault a mistake to self only one
    28. 28. The three sides of the
    29. 29. COULD YOU HAVE DONE WORSE? SELECT A BEHAVIOR OR A MISTAKE: Ask: Could you have done worse? (exaggerate-eg. If 1. aggressing, could you have been more aggressive?} Ask: What was the value you were protecting by the 2. behavior you didn’t like in yourself? (value=need) Ask: Would it be better to not hold the value-to not be 3. the person you want to be? (NO!) Give yourself credit, though it didn’t work out the way you 4. wanted it to, it was better than something else you might have done and now you can figure out a better way.
    30. 30. Reality Therapy Questions “What do we believe?” “Do you believe it?” “If you believe it, do you want to fix it?” “If you fix it, what does it say about you?” “Who are you becoming?” “How are you going to make things right?” “What’s your plan to solve the problem?” “What kind of person do you want to be?” “How can you fix it?” “How will this plan make you stronger and help the group?”
    31. 31. How we use the NEEDS Love & belonging, Freedom, Power, Fun Everyone learns about the basic needs that drive our behavior. We talk about these instead of sticking on the problem.
    32. 32. My Dream Children learn to honestly self evaluate and self restitute once adults stop punishing, guilting, and bribing them and we adults model internal power. Child will learn to do this for themselves. Restitution says to the child, “Look inside yourself and you will find the answer.”
    33. 33. 30 Second Interventions Is what you’re doing Okay now? What can I do to help you so you can… When will you be ready to start? It looks like you have a problems. What’s your job now? How could I help you solve it. Is what you’re doing now Do you want to figure out a better way? Helping or hurting our lesson? How can I help?
    34. 34. More 30 Second Interventions How would you like to be treated Is it ok to make during this activity? Can you do mistakes? We can fix it. that? Can you change what you are doing now to be helpful? Would you like to do better? These interventions encourage Are you being the kind of person you kids to think about their behavior. want to be? It looks like you have a problem. How can I help? What’s the rule? Can you do that?
    35. 35. Does It Really Matter? Goals: To identify areas in which we try to control other people. To select and prioritize the standards which reflect our values. To identify the beliefs behind limitations we want to set on others.
    36. 36. Does It Really Matter… If he sits with his feet on the floor? If they are talking when working? If he does his homework? If she fails her exam? If they want to change seats? If she writes neatly? If he understands the lesson? If she participates in a class discussion? If he wears an earring? If he shows up on time? If she has a clean desk? If he hands in an assignment on time?
    37. 37. YES IF… This activity requires adults to identify and evaluate requests from children to which they normally answer no or “No, because…” The requests are usually simple ones such as “May I sharpen my pencil? The answer my be “No, because I’m talking.” However, a better answer would be one which redirects the child, such as “Yes, when I’m finished giving instructions.”
    38. 38. Yes, If continued… In order to increase the number of positive replies:  Say yes as often as you can.  If you can’t say yes, say “Yes, if…” or “Yes, when…” and add the necessary condition.  When you say no, give the child your reason and DON’T change your mind.
    39. 39. My JOB/Your JOB This is a 4-part T-chart that is used to outline how two jobs differ. This chart clarifies responsibilities It helps people to create common pictures of who should be doing what. It can save teachers a lot of energy and preserves relationships.
    40. 40. My Job/Your Job • Learn • Teach • Try • Evaluate • Coordinate learning • Do best environment • Be prepared • Upgrade learning • Communicate with parents • Respect others • Be prepared • Clean up after self • Enforce rules • Keep records • Listen Not my JOB!! Not your JOB!! •Take or give abuse •To be my friend •Be a social coordinator •To please me
    41. 41. Complain To Me Baby!! 1. How would you like it to be? (listen for the need) Why is it important? Can you control this? 2. What have you been doing to get what you want? 3. Is it working No/partly 4. Do you want to figure out a better way? No Yes Plan or Do you just want to complain? (2 minutes)
    42. 42. WEAVING Manager Monitor If you don’t ____, I will _____ I would rather__________ (Give you a consequence-discomfort) (Fix it. We both get what we need.)
    43. 43. BEHAVIOR CAR-Ask yourself does your present behavior have a reasonable chance of getting you what you want now and will it take you in the direction you want to go? WANTS FEELING THINKING PHYSIOLOLGY DOING
    44. 44. TAKE CONTROL CHART PR OB What is it that I LE BAD FEELING M don’t want? NEED CO TH N EO Have to go here TR RY DO WANT OL because may want something they can’t sol have. uti on Strategies PLAN
    45. 45. Starting the Year with Restitution Teach the 5 NEEDS Determine individual strength of each need. Quality World Beliefs Develop a Social Contract The Restitution Triangle
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