Tips to Help You Overcome Childhood TraumaMarch 21, 2013| Last Updated on Friday, 03 May, 2013 13:00Childhood trauma can lead to a number of problems in adulthood. It’s important that as adults, we areable to manage our past experiences in a positive way that helps us to grow rather than a way that holdsus back in life. Our experiences affect us based on our perception, so if we are able to change ourperception we can move forward and live happy and productive lives. Controlling and managing yourperception is an important aspect to living a healthy life overall and growing to your full potential as anadult.Give yourself time, don’t be hard on yourself and try to relax.However, in many cases where childhood trauma has negatively affected an individual, it may be veryhard to maintain any type of positive perspective. There are many different ways to help people whohave suffered from childhood trauma. If you have suffered from childhood trauma, here are some tipsto help you move on with your life and recover from traumatic experiences.Don’t IsolateFollowing a traumatic experience or the memory of a traumatic experience you may be tempted toisolate from the world around you. Giving in to this temptation may seem like an easy solution but itwill actually end up making you feel a lot worse than you initially did. Although you may not feel likebeing around people or being in a social situation, make sure that you push yourself to be social andengage with others. Going on social outings and reaching out to others will help you step outside ofyourself.The less time you spend “in your own head” the better you will feel and the greater chance you have atrecovering from the traumatic experiences that are holding you back. It will seem hard at first, and youwill most likely be uncomfortable, but the more often you hang out with others and be social the easierit will become. The last place you want to be while you are trying to overcome trauma is alone withyour own thoughts.Ask For SupportDon’t ever be afraid to reach out and ask for support. Talking about your feelings can be a tremendousand much needed relief. You’ll be surprised to see how much better you feel if you just take the time toshare how your thoughts with a friend, a loved one, or if you feel more comfortable, with a mentalhealth professional. It’s important to keep talking about things until you have no need to talk aboutthem anymore.Build a Comfortable EnvironmentDo whatever it takes to make yourself feel as comfortable as possible. If this means that you need tosleep with a light on or meditate frequently, do it. Establishing a comforting routine can help youachieve this goal. Listening to comforting music, yoga, meditation and even eating healthy-anythingthat you can do to relax-will help you be able to move on from past traumatic experiences. The moreyou are able to relax, the less likely you are to experience racing and harmful thought patterns.
Resume Normal ActivitiesMuch like being social and resisting isolation, resuming the normal activities of your life can preventyou from “living in” the trauma or feeling too overwhelmed by the negative experiences. If you arehaving trouble completing daily tasks of resuming your life as it initially was, take “baby steps”. It’simportant to stay at your comfort level and not rush into anything that may make you feel unneededanxiety. Taking “baby steps”, as they say, is the best way to resume doing normal activities. Resumingyour life will help you build confidence and it will increase your self-esteem.TriggersBecome aware of your emotional triggers and learn how to respond to them appropriately. Lettingyourself live in an emotional state will detach you further from reality and make it very difficult for youto move on with your life. Coming up with an appropriate strategy to cope with your emotional triggerswill help ensure that you land on your feet each time these triggers arise.It is unrealistic to think that you can go through life avoiding every and all of your emotional triggers.Therefore, having the appropriate plan in place to deal with your triggers is the best way to make surethat you don’t regress on your path of recovery. Also try to engage in positive self-talk as often aspossible. This is another way to help you boost your self-esteem.Seek Out the GoodPeople who were victimized went through a terrible ordeal that they could not control. It may seemabsurd to try to find the good lessons that came from your traumatic experience but you CAN become asurvivor. Putting things into a different context and journaling about how the experience made you feeland the possible things you could have learned from the experience can help you to move on with amore positive outlook.Journaling, talking to others, and seeking help from loved ones is a good way to start helping you seekout the good that occurred as a result of the traumatic experience. This form of thinking will eventuallyhelp you re-align your perspective on the entire event and thus, life. Remember, just because you werevictimized does not mean that you have to continue being a victim.Be PatientJust as if you were recovering from the flu or a cold, you need to rest, eat well and take good care ofyourself overall. Taking care of yourself is important to overall healing and will help you progressfaster. Give yourself time, don’t be hard on yourself and try to relax. Find comfort in knowing that theworst is behind you and you can now move on with your life. Remember to help others, too. Helpingothers will help you remember your strengths and it will also make you feel good about yourself. If youare feeling rushed by your friends or family, take a step back and try your best to communicate withthem. Letting people know where you are at is the best way to let them help you.