How To Be a Bully Free School

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By: Susan Delahunt, LMHC and Priscilla Picardi-Haswell, LICSW, School Adjustment Counselors Waltham Public Schools

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  • There should someone to be blame due to this bullying issue, others get off to school because of being afraid about this growing issue. I could say that the impact of bullying is definitely not a joke and must be stop. I would like to inform everyone that I have found a service which can be use and beneficial to all. It is called SafeKidZone, it has an application called panic button. By simply pressing it the alert will simultaneously go to a group of safety network and can access to the nearest 911 in the area. For more information about their service check out http://safekidzone.com/
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How To Be a Bully Free School

  1. 1. How To Be a Bully Free School <ul><li>By: Susan Delahunt, LMHC and Priscilla Picardi-Haswell, LICSW, School Adjustment Counselors Waltham Public Schools </li></ul>
  2. 2. What is Bullying <ul><li>What is the definition of a bully? </li></ul><ul><li>Where does it happen? </li></ul><ul><li>Who bullies? </li></ul><ul><li>How do kids bully? </li></ul>
  3. 3. What is Bullying/Relational Aggression? <ul><li>Definition: </li></ul><ul><li>Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others, through verbal or physical threats, or manipulating relationships. </li></ul><ul><li>Bullying is not done in fun. It is mean-spirited and cruel and it’s meant to hurt. </li></ul>
  4. 4. Bullying is Not a One Time Event <ul><li>Bullying is repeated acts of verbal or physical threats. </li></ul><ul><li>Bullying is repeated acts of excluding, ignoring, non-verbal aggression. </li></ul><ul><li>Bullying is repeated acts of using the internet, texting, cell phones, etc to hurt someone’s feelings. </li></ul>
  5. 5. Three types of bullying <ul><li>Physical bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Verbal bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Relational bullying </li></ul>
  6. 6. Methods of Bullying <ul><li>Excluding </li></ul><ul><li>Ignoring </li></ul><ul><li>Spreading rumors </li></ul><ul><li>Verbal insults </li></ul><ul><li>Teasing </li></ul><ul><li>Eye rolling </li></ul><ul><li>Faking friendship </li></ul><ul><li>3 way calling, IMing </li></ul>
  7. 7. Where Does Bullying Happen? <ul><li>It can happen anywhere in school but happens most often in: </li></ul><ul><li>Recess </li></ul><ul><li>Hallways </li></ul><ul><li>Bathrooms </li></ul><ul><li>School buses </li></ul><ul><li>Changing classes </li></ul><ul><li>Cafeteria </li></ul><ul><li>During class group work </li></ul>
  8. 8. Rumors/Gossip <ul><li>What are rumors? </li></ul><ul><li>Why do kids spread rumors? </li></ul><ul><li>What is powerful about rumors? </li></ul><ul><li>What is hurtful about rumors? </li></ul><ul><li>How can you stop rumors? </li></ul>
  9. 9. Who’s A Bully? <ul><li>Bullies come in all shapes and sizes </li></ul><ul><li>Some get in trouble </li></ul><ul><li>Some are popular kids with lots of friends </li></ul><ul><li>They are good students </li></ul>
  10. 10. Why do bullies bully? <ul><li>Bullies feel insecure or bad about themselves, so they bully to make themselves feel better. </li></ul><ul><li>Causes are: </li></ul><ul><li>Problems at home or school </li></ul><ul><li>Role models who bully and get what they want by pushing others around </li></ul><ul><li>The person may be a target of bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Never learned another way to behave </li></ul><ul><li>Exposure to violence in movies, TV and video games. </li></ul><ul><li>Wanting to belong </li></ul>
  11. 11. Cyberbullying <ul><li>Using the Internet or other mobile devices to send or post harmful or cruel text or images to bully others. </li></ul><ul><li>IM’s, chat rooms, web pages,blogs,emails, texts or digital imaging sent on cell phones </li></ul>
  12. 12. Cyberbullying Facts <ul><li>18% of students in grades 6-8 report having been cyber-bullied </li></ul><ul><li>58% of cyber bullying is done through IM </li></ul><ul><li>28% is done in chat rooms </li></ul><ul><li>20% of bullying is done through websites </li></ul><ul><li>Girls are twice as likely as boys to be victims and perpetrators of cyber-bullying </li></ul>
  13. 13. AIM,Facebook, My Space,etc <ul><li>Some words of caution </li></ul>
  14. 14. How Can We Stop It?
  15. 15. Are you a bully? <ul><li>Does it make you feel better to hurt other people or take their things? </li></ul><ul><li>Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way? </li></ul><ul><li>Do you feel like you have to make up for having been bullied by doing the same to others? </li></ul><ul><li>Do you avoid thinking about how other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them? </li></ul>
  16. 16. How can you stop being a bully? <ul><li>Apologize to people you’ve bullied and follow-up by being friendly towards them. </li></ul><ul><li>If your having a hard time feeling good about yourself, find ways to boost your self-esteem. </li></ul><ul><li>If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling you feelings, especially anger, talk to an adult you trust. </li></ul>
  17. 17. What Can I Do to Stop Bullying? <ul><li>Refuse to be an audience for a bully </li></ul><ul><li>Do not “follow the crowd” </li></ul><ul><li>Do not laugh while someone is being picked on </li></ul><ul><li>Do not participate in gossip </li></ul><ul><li>Do not use the internet to hurt someone </li></ul><ul><li>Walk away and go get help </li></ul><ul><li>Know your own personal strength </li></ul>
  18. 18. Who is a target? <ul><li>Research shows that about 25% ( 1 out of 4 kids) of children experience bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Kids who tend to be physically different </li></ul><ul><li>Kids with disabilities </li></ul><ul><li>Kids who upset easily </li></ul><ul><li>Kids who don’t have a lot of friends </li></ul><ul><li>Kids who lack self confidence or look like they don’t have self confidence </li></ul>
  19. 19. If You Are a Target: <ul><li>Ignore the bully </li></ul><ul><li>Pretend you don’t hear him/her </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t cry, get angry or show you are upset. </li></ul><ul><li>Respond firmly. </li></ul><ul><li>If you can, turn a comment into a joke. </li></ul><ul><li>Remove yourself from the situation. </li></ul>
  20. 20. Do Not Be the Messenger <ul><li>Do not deliver messages from one person to another </li></ul><ul><li>Do not be the “go-between” between two people in an argument </li></ul>
  21. 21. Reminder: <ul><li>If you are ever threatened with physical violence, get adult help immediately. </li></ul>
  22. 22. How Bystanders Can Help <ul><li>Walk away </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t give attention to the bully </li></ul><ul><li>Privately tell the person who was bullied you are sorry it happened. </li></ul><ul><li>Ask the bully to stop. </li></ul><ul><li>Get adult help. </li></ul>
  23. 23. Hallway Heroes <ul><li>Statistics show that if just one person asks the bully to stop, they will stop 50% of the time. </li></ul>
  24. 24. Why Tell? <ul><li>Without cooperation between kids and grown-ups bullying can become a big problem that doesn’t get better. </li></ul>
  25. 25. Why Tell? <ul><li>Adults can often confront the bully without naming you. </li></ul>
  26. 26. Why Tell? <ul><li>Adults and kids working together is the best way to stop bullying. </li></ul><ul><li>Remember, you are reporting a dangerous act. You are not “tattling.” </li></ul>
  27. 27. REMEMBER: <ul><li>NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED BADLY. </li></ul><ul><li>NO ONE. </li></ul>
  28. 28. VIDEO <ul><li>Courtesy of The Spirit Desk </li></ul><ul><li>anserver08 echnology$Shared_Lesson_PlansLesson_Plansi-safe </li></ul><ul><li>Music by: Simple Plan, “Welcome to My Life” Courtesy of Atlantic Records </li></ul>
  29. 29. RESOURCES <ul><li>The statistics in this presentation come from the “Mean Girls” workbook published by Youthlight, Inc. </li></ul><ul><li>The Waltham Public Schools Website offers many websites for parents and children on bullying. One for children is: “ Kids Against Bullying ” from the National Center for Bullying Prevention. </li></ul>

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