Your Relationships


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Your Relationships for Cancer Survivors
The experience of cancer and it's treatment can create tensions in your personal relationships. What should you be aware of? The Christie offers advice and help.
Authors: Lorraine Wright, Anna Mann
Design & Editorial: Robert Hart-Fletcher
Produced by: KidsOKOnline,
Images licensed from Shutterstock
© Copyright 2013, Young Oncology Unit, The Christie Hospital, Manchester
Produced by KidsOKOnline
Images licensed from Shutterstock.

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Your Relationships

  1. 1. SurvivorshipYourRelationshipsLorraine WrightAnna Mann
  2. 2. RelationshipsSurvivorshipYour RelationshipsWhat is a Relationship?A relationship develops betweenany two people who communicateon a regular basis.Communication doesn’t have to beverbal – a letter, an email etc.Some people may have manyrelationships, some just a couple. Allare normal.
  3. 3. SurvivorshipYour RelationshipsYour Support NetworkInteractive exercise to gohere???Relationships
  4. 4. SurvivorshipYour RelationshipsWhat is a Relationship?Parents/GrandparentsBrothers and sistersFriendsBoyfriend/GirlfriendHusband/WifeWork ColleaguesSexual RelationshipsRelationships
  5. 5. SurvivorshipYour RelationshipsPositive Relationships can beSupportiveEnergizingChallenging – in the right way!EqualNon judgmentalRelationships
  6. 6. SurvivorshipYour RelationshipsChallenges to RelationshipsCheatingStressAngerBroken TrustPainful PastsCommunication ProblemsOverburdened SchedulesDependencyAnd that’s before acancer diagnosis!Relationships
  7. 7. A Positive orNegativeImpact?Survivorship
  8. 8. SurvivorshipWhat Impact?NegativeCreating tensions and stressesIrritable and short temperedRealize who are unreliable friendsSmothered by carersStraining others’ relationships E.g.parentsDealing with people you don’t likeTaking out your frustrations onothers, particularly those closest.Your friends move on in life whileyou have time out for treatmentFeeling guilty about family having toleave work to look after youMaking you rethink difficult ordraining relationshipsRelationships
  9. 9. SurvivorshipWhat Impact?PositiveRelationships can become closerand stronger at a difficult timeRealize who are your good friendsCreating new relationships withother young people havingtreatment and staffSelf respect ‘If I can get through thisI can get through anything’Making you rethink difficult ordraining relationshipsRelationships
  10. 10. SurvivorshipWhat Impact?“It brought my sister andI closer together.”“ Long term effects onfamily…fear of relapse.”“ I have the bestfriendships through theworst circumstances.”“ Some friends were losttemporarily.”Relationships
  11. 11. SurvivorshipWhat Impact?Ask Yourself...Would your relationships havechanged anyway?Can you do anything to improverelationships that may be difficult atthe moment?Can you foresee any other changesin the future?Relationships
  12. 12. MovingForwardSurvivorship
  13. 13. SurvivorshipMoving ForwardRelationships Change.Changes in life outside yourrelationships will impact whatyou need from your relationships.Change is inevitable, so welcomeit as an opportunity to enhancethe relationship rather than tryto keep it from happening.Relationships
  14. 14. SurvivorshipMoving ForwardSeven Steps1. Be aware of what you and yourparents/partner/sibling/friendwant for yourselves and what youwant from the relationship.2. Tell each other about your needs.3. Realize that your parents/partner/sibling/friend will not always beable to meet all your needs.4. Be willing to negotiate andcompromise on the things youwant from one another.Relationships
  15. 15. SurvivorshipMoving ForwardSeven Steps5. Do not demand that a parent/partner/sibling/friend changes tomeet all your expectations.6. See things from the others pointof view. You don’t have to agreeall the time, but understand andrespect each others differences,points of view and needs.7. If there are critical differences inyour expectations, needs oropinions, then work honestly andsincerely to negotiate. Seekprofessional help early, before thesituation becomes critical.Relationships
  16. 16. SurvivorshipMoving ForwardWhere to Get HelpYourYOU social workerYOU member of staffTeen to Twenties/Survivors groupOther young people with similarproblemsJimmyteens.tvGet referral for counseling orpsychology servicesRelationships
  17. 17. SurvivorshipYourRelationshipsLorraine WrightAnna Mann
  18. 18. Your RelationshipsAuthors: Lorraine Wright, Anna MannDesign & Editorial: Robert Hart-FletcherProduced by: KidsOKOnline, www.KidsOKOnline.comImages licensed from Shutterstock© Copyright 2013, Young Oncology Unit, The ChristieHospital, ManchesterContact: byKidsOKOnline