How would you want to find out about the transgression?
Disclosing the Transgression Unsolicited 3rd Party (friend told you) Red-Handed (caught him in the act) Interrogation (grill him till he confesses) Unsolicited Confession (he tells you) The Best Predictor of Forgiveness Yet… 43% reported that the discovery led to the termination of the relationship (higher for the opther three (Afifi, Falato, & Weiner, 2001)
Negative Responsibility Attributions Social-Cognitive Model - Relational Quality - Forgiveness + + Empathy for Transgressor (Fincham et al., 2002)
The Dark Side of Forgiveness Why might the act of forgiving be detrimental to a relationship?
The Dark Side of Forgiveness Apology = humiliation Forgiveness = weakness
Next Class Chapter 15 Final Exam May 5 12:30 Pick up a Blue Book from the book store Open Notes, not Open Book Essay style. For preparation: Know three or four theories that we have discussed in class really well. Organize your class notes. You can also refer to the slides and lectures posted. Think application!