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Based on the breakthrough insights of John Paul II's Theology of the Body and T.G. Morrow's Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World

Based on the breakthrough insights of John Paul II's Theology of the Body and T.G. Morrow's Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World

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    • Arriving at the Peace of Chastity: A Doable Approach to Rational Leadership of Sexual Desires Part II Based on the breakthrough insights of John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and Fr. T.G. Morrow,s Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World. Powerpoint by Dr. Raul Nidoy Version for males
    • John Paul II on the essence of chastity
      • Essence of chastity is the quickness to affirm the value of the person in every situation.
      • Answer quickly : What is the value of one person ?
      • Answer quickly : How do I affirm the value of the person when I see a beautiful woman?
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • “ This body is me ”
      • I am an embodied person :
      • an image of God’s beauty and glory
      • Respect me.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • : I am a person
      • I am someone. Not a thing .
      • I have an inner world, of experiences and thoughts. I can tell you about them.
      • I am aware of you and I can sacrifice myself out of love for you, because I am an image of God.
      • I carry within me the divine breath of life . I will last longer than the stars. I am immortal.
      • I can talk directly with God himself. I am capable of God!
      • I have a divine dignity , an infinite value.
      • I have greater value than all the 170 billion galaxies put together. They were made as a gift for me.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • Person = the Whole (vs. parts) Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II Chastity is the capacity to love the person: the whole. Her thoughts Her feelings Her soul Her relationship with friends Her film interests Her dreams Her memories Her spiritual life Her intelligence Her emotions Her loves Her community life Her work performance Her sexuality Her high school adventures Her skills Her art Her fashion sense Her sleep Her convictions Her values Her attitudes Her struggles Her sacramental life Her diet Her school life Her sports interests Her exercise Her grades Her imagination Her capacity for work Her voting preferences Her political leanings Her TV shows Her medical history Her likes Her dislikes Her temperament Her character Her favorite books Her worst nightmare Her tours Her relation with her boss Her fears Her relationship with family Her most memorable moments Her social status Her financial knowledge Her science Her technological know-how Her games Her personality
    • Personalistic norm: The only proper attitude to a person is love . - JPII
      • Love
      • To want the good of another - Aristotle
      • Benevolence (bene-volere), kindness
      • To serve another
      • To give others importance
      • To give myself to the other (self-giving)
      • Affection, Attention, Acceptance, Approval, Appreciation
      • Using people (opposite of love – JPII )
      • To treat others as objects for my enjoyment
      • To exploit others for my purposes
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • Using persons is insane. Evil. Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I Chastity is controlling the central depths within us where the utilitarian attitude is born. – John Paul II
    • Chastity: a matter of No es?
      • Chastity frees us for love. It is associated with the virtue, the power of love.
      • Only the chaste man and chaste woman are capable of true love. Chastity frees their relationship, including marital intercourse, from that tendency to use a person . – John Paul II
      • Trial sex? You can try out a bike, but not a woman. A person can only be loved with self-sacrificing love. – Jason Evert
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • Love: man finds fulfillment only in the sincere gift of self
      • Only if I own something, can I give it to someone.
      • Chastity: I control and possess myself so I can give myself as a worthy gift to God and others
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Treat women as ladies. They are persons . Women are not objects of enjoyment . They are not things . Not bodies separated from their persons. They are daughters of God . They are sacred . Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • 4. I must not treat persons as objects even in the mind , lest I become a user of persons in practice.
      • Never use a person , even in thought.
      • Love her in your mind: pray for her.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Watching porn = using people in our mind for our selfish ends Everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart - Jesus Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • I am not hurting anyone
      • I am hurting myself
        • I distort my personal values: my heart
        • I view persons as objects
        • I become selfish
        • I create an addiction similar to heroin addiction
      • I am hurting the living God
      • And then I hurt others
        • I support the porn industry: actors are severely damaged.
        • Research: A factor for hiring prostitutes, domestic violence, divorce, rape, incest, sexual predation.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II See: US Senate Committee Hearing on Pornography: http://www.obscenitycrimes.org/Senate-Reisman-Layden-Etc.pdf
    • Seeing a beautiful woman: quickly affirm the value of the person
      • When I see an attractive woman, I have developed the habit of saying to myself, “She’s a person, a child of God,” immediately to deflate any exploitive tendency from the start.
      • “ Here is another sign of God’s beauty. I cannot wait to be united to Him.”
      • – T. G. Morrow
      • Love is wanting the good, the best good: “Lord, make her Godly.”
      Stimulus mind response Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • On seeing provocative women: pray for their conversion
      • Lord, forgive them , save them, sanctify them.
      • Each person is worth all the blood of Christ
      • – St. Josemaria
      • We can only redeem the culture when we begin to treat porn models as if we love them more than anything on earth.
      • – Jason Evert
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Practice: praying for people, praying for help
      • Grant me purity of heart so that I might see the image of your glory in the beauty of others , and one day see you face to face. 
            • By Christopher West
            • Source: http://www.christopherwest.com/article1.asp
      • Lord, make her Godly. Make me Godly.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Beauty in. Beauty out. Ugly in. Ugly out.
      • Be reminded of God and family through their images.
      • Read about great men and saints. See wholesome films. Check out film content through web reviews, e.g. screenit.
      • Get rid of all pornographic materials.
      • Put an internet filter in your computer. A free filter is K9. See Annex for links.
    • 5. Happiness lies in my friendship with God, and unchastity destroys it.
      • Man was created for love.
      • Only love makes us happy , because we live to love and to be loved – Benedict XVI
      • To fall in love with God is the greatest of romances, to seek Him the greatest adventure, to find Him the greatest human achievement.
      • -- St. Augustine
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Friendship is the source of the greatest pleasures (Thomas Aquinas)
      • We are all called to open ourselves to this friendship with God... speaking to him as friend speaks to a Friend, the only One who can make the world both good and happy.
            • Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger on St. Josemaria’s life and message
            • Source: http://www.opusdei.org/art.php?w=32&p=4761
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Value of goods
      • Made from nothing
      • Provides fleeting delight
      • Deepest happiness
      • Supreme Goodness
      • Infinite Beauty and Joy
      • All-embracing Love
      • Satisfies all the longings of the human heart
      • Ultimate reality, sustaining all reality
      • God
      • Creatures
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II Lord, by your blood, cross and resurrection, make me choose you: Deepest Happiness, Infinite Beauty….
    • Value of Grace = God’s life of Love
      • Grace for just one man is worth more than:
        • all the 170 billion galaxies
        • all the billions of men
        • all the myriads of angels put together
      • The good of grace given to one man is greater than the good of the whole natural universe – St. Thomas Aquinas
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • God’s passionate love for us
      • Key for falling in love: Look at God’s passionate love for me.
        • God loves us more than all the mothers of the world love their children. – St. Josemaria
        • On the Cross , it is God himself who begs the love of his creature. -- Benedict XVI
        • Eucharist : shows us the truth of the love that is the essence of God. – Benedict XVI.
        • For the Son of God became man so that we might become God . – St. Athanasius (CCC 460)
        • Greater love than this no one has, than he who lays down his life for his friend. -- Jesus
    • Look at God who is Love. Love God with all your heart.
      • Do you want to accompany Jesus closely, very closely ? Take part in the different scenes of the gospel, as one more among the people present. – St. Josemaria
      • Substitute good fantasies for bad. – Fr. T.G. Morrow
      • Discover mental prayer (contemplation) and its pleasures.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • 6. Unchaste activity brings pleasure, but also the sadness of selfishness .
      • Unchastity is a choice.
      • To deliberately lose:
        • Self-mastery
        • Rational decision-making
        • Friendship with God and life of grace
        • Reverence for sacred sexuality
        • Contact with reality
      • Great loss leads to sadness
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Unchastity is desecration of the sacred .
      • Unchastity casts the sacred into the garbage heap.
      • Unchastity will not make me happy.
      • Recall : Scientific findings on sex
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • C. Lewis on masturbation
      • it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back, sends it back into the prison of himself , there to keep a harem of imaginary brides.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Contraceptive sex = telling a lie with your body
      • Body language expresses a meaning
        • To smile, but to curse someone inside, is a lie.
      • Contraceptive sex uses the sacred language of self-giving, but tells a lie:
        • “ I give you my whole self” [but not my sacred power to help create a person].
      • Telling a lie leads to sadness.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Unchastity Chastity Sadness of selfishness Glowing happiness Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Truths to remind ourselves of again and again
      • 1. Sex is sacred , not a plaything. It should never be trivialized.
      • 2. Created in the image of God, I can live by reason , not just by urges (as the animals do).
      • 3. Persons are to be loved, not merely used as objects of enjoyment.
      • 4. I must not treat persons as objects, even in the mind , lest I become a user of persons in practice.
      • 5. Happiness lies in my friendship with God, and unchastity destroys it.
      • 6. Unchaste activity brings pleasure, but also the sadness of selfishness .
      • Memory aid – SR-PM-HS
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Plan of Action: CFD Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • 1. Convert desires through reason
      • It’s not enough to remind oneself of these values only when tempted.
      • A person [who has unchaste habits] needs to call them to mind several times a day and really meditate on them.
      • Why is this effective? We are more attracted to truth than pleasure. – TG Morrow
      • Reflect on the words of Christopher West, T.G. Morrow, Jason Evert, John Paul II. Use this powerpoint.
      • Memory aid – SR-PM-HS
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • The truth shall set you free.
    • 2. Be a friend of Christ Without me you can do nothing – Truth
      • Talk with him – time for silent prayer
      • Receive his healing – in Confession, Jesus says “I absolve you”
      • Receive him in person – in the Eucharist, he makes us one with Infinite Love and Beauty.
      • Do what he tells you – Mary’s one advice
      • Seek his help
      • St. Augustine: No one can be continent unless you grant it . For you would surely have granted it if my inner groaning had reached your ears and I with firm faith had cast my cares on you .
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • 3. Do what He tells you
      • Follow me: practice self-discipline and mortification. Live a balanced life.
      • Avoid occasions of sin ( porn, bad influence / put a filter in your laptop)
      • Develop friendship with people who will have a good influence on you.
      • Get a spiritual director, so you can hear my voice more clearly.
      • Love God with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself ( the great breakthrough and synthesis – Joseph Ratzinger ).
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • We can be chaste!
      • Remember John Paul II’s words of wisdom:
      • For the promptings of carnal desires to disappear completely, a man must know 'why' he is containing them
      • Create the habit: Quickly affirm the value of the person in every situation : “This is a person, a child of God!” “Lord, make her Godly.”
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Theology of the Body: A new dawn in the 21 st century
      • We can reverse the sickening sexual addiction of society!
      • Take an active part in this new beginning. Help in chastity education . Pass on these truths and help unmask the lies at the root of many evils.
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • References
      • John Paul II, Theology of the Body
      • John Paul II , Familiaris Consortio
      • Karol Woytyla, Love and Responsibility
      • T.G. Morrow, Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World
      • Christopher West, Theology of the Body for Beginners
      • Peter Kreeft , Making Choices
      • George Weigel, Truth of Catholicism
      • Joseph Ratzinger, God and the World
      • Joseph Pieper, Four Cardinal Virtues
      • Catechism of the Catholic Church
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Links
      • http://www.catholiceducation.org/directory/Current_Issues/Sexuality/http://www.christopherwest.com/article1.asp
      • http://www.christopherwest.com/page.asp?ContentID=82
      • http://www.theologyofthebody.net/index.php?option=com_content&task=blogsection&id=5&Itemid=4
      • couragerc.net/PIPMasturbation.htm
      • http://www.chastity.com/
      • http://iamstrong.org/default.aspx
      • http://www.frcblog.com/
      • http://frmorrow.home.mindspring.com/
      • http://www.cfalive.org/BOOKS.HTM
      • Powerpoint by Dr. Raul Nidoy, June 2010
      • This is dedicated to the Southridge Afternoon High School
      • Memory aid – SR-PM-HS
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • You tube links
      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REj1rhc4RUk&feature=related – Roman without Regret, highly recommended
      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOKlBs9Tdjc – Why Chastity?
      • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BZajdR6Q-Lw&feature=related – What is Chastity?
    • Annex
    • Praise for Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World by Fr. Morrow
      • Dr. William May calls this book “eminently practical,” one that gives “great hope” to people struggling with sexual temptations and addictions. Fr. Benedict Groeschel, CFR said, the book “effectively brings spirituality and morality together with the best contemporary psychological thinking.”
      • Get a copy at: http://www.cfalive.org/BOOKS.HTM
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part I
    • Chastity in essence: order of reason in sexuality
      • “ The more necessary something is, the more the order of reason must be preserved in it.” (St. Thomas) For the very reason that sexual power is so noble and necessary a good, it needs the preserving and defending order of reason.
      • Chastity as a virtue, therefore, is constituted in its essence by this and nothing else, namely, that it realizes the order of reason in the province of sexuality. – Josef Pieper, commenting on St. Thomas. Four Cardinal Virtues
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • John Paul II on how we attain chastity
      • The will is “constantly confronted by a value which fully explains the necessity for containing impulses aroused by carnal desire and sensuality.
      • Only as this value takes possession of the mind and will does the will become calm and free itself from a characteristic sense of loss.”
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • T.G. Morrow on political dealings with the sexual appetite
      • It doesn't work for reason to deal with the appetite "despotically," simply saying "no" to the appetite's appeal. If it does, it will repress the appetite into the unconscious where it will await a chance to explode (Pope John Paul II, in his Love and Responsibility).
      • At a moment of weakness the appetite will indeed explode with an outburst of sexual activity. This is seen in the person who contains himself/herself for several weeks but then goes on a spree, and repeats this cycle over and over.
      • The intellect must deal "politically" with the appetite, setting forth the values which will be gained by living chastity, to make up for the value of the sexual pleasure which is sacrificed.
      • Source: http://couragerc.net/chastity.html
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Internet filters
      • Major companies put filters in their computers to help and protect their employees. All wise families and individuals should do the same.
      • Free internet filters:
        • http://www1.k9webprotection.com/ - highly rated by experts and users
        • http://www.safefamilies.org/ - has toolkits and many useful resources
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • Prayer for purity
      • O most loving Father, we need you to attain purity and the joy it brings, for without you we can do nothing. Teach us your children to reverence our bodies and the bodies of our sisters and brothers in Christ. Help us to recognize in each human body an incarnate spirit, an image of God, a sacred temple of the Holy Spirit, a person worth all the blood of Christ, a child of God to be loved with your benevolent Love. Teach us to reverence the sacredness of human sexuality, an icon of your divine self-giving and creative power. Deliver us, Father, from the evil of seeing the bodies of your daughters and sons as mere things and objects, and the evil of using them for our own selfish ends.
      • Source: http://primacyofreason.blogspot.com/2009/09/prayer-for-chastity.html
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II
    • To give love, receive love. Receive from the God who is Love.
      • Anyone who wishes to give love must also receive love as a gift .
      • One must constantly drink anew from the original source , which is Jesus Christ, from whose pierced heart flows the love of God.
      • – Benedict XVI, Deus Caritas Est
      • Prayer, Confession, Eucharist - Grace
      Arriving at the Peace of Chastity Part II